Ramble, Hey, guys, welcome back to Anything Goes, I hope you all are having an amazing week. I decided to record spontaneously today because I had an idea for something that I wanted to talk about, and to be honest, I've been blank in my brain for the past few weeks. Just actually no longer than that the past few months, because to be completely honest with you guys, my life has been kind of a mess. Anxiety wise, like my anxiety has been pretty bad, but besides that, everything's going really well, which means that I don't have drama to talk about, you know what I mean?

I'm not learning any life lessons. Nobody's burning me. So it's not like I can come on here and be like don't trust anyone ever.

Like, that's I feel like what I've been doing in the beginning of this podcast, like throughout, I've just been spewing out the life lessons that I've been learning, but I feel like I haven't really been learning much except for that I did recently figure out.

The importance of communication, even when it seems unnecessary and actually, you know, I'm just going to get dig into this real quick before we get to our main topic, because, like. I used to be somebody that. Would hold on to little things that bugged me because I didn't want to create an issue. Like, one little thing would bug me. And I wouldn't bring it up because I was like, you know what, I want to seem unbothered, I want to seem chill.

Right. But recently. I've been really trying to like. Keep everything all out on the table all the time with everybody, parents, friends, et cetera, if something's bugging me. I now refuse to hold on to it and let it like. Grow resentment in my chest, I refuse, and the reason for that is. I don't want drama. I don't want to have resentment in my heart towards people. So as hard as it is, I've been really making it a priority to, like, communicate anything that I don't fuck with anything that makes me uncomfortable.

Anything that bugs me instead of holding on to it and growing this unnecessary resentment, I just bring that shit up now. And let me tell you, it's changed my life and it's changed my relationships.

I feel like my relationships with people have been so consistently good because of that. I don't let anything go unnoticed anymore.

And it's uncomfortable sometimes, but it's changed my life in my relationships, truly having that like not only does it make my relationships with people stronger, but it also makes me feel good.

Like when you get something off your chest, even if it's so small, like even if somebody just did something a little bit off or even if you think somebody is doing something behind your back or you think that somebody is mad at you, even if they're not like being like, hey, are you mad at me?

Like, did I do something wrong? Even if it's irrational and stupid, bringing it up when it's bugging you literally solves every problem. And I can guarantee that unless somebody is up to no good, they're usually going to be like, no, you're totally good. Like Y and then you just be like, oh, I don't know. I was fucking paranoid about nothing like thanks for, you know, humoring me or whatever, like things were like letting me get that off my chest and then you move on.

I used to hold on to shit for my entire relationship. I could be friends with somebody for two years and have something that they did that bugged me and never bring it up. And it would bug me for the whole two year friendship. But now I'm like, no, we're 20, 20, we are quitting on that, and so that's something that I learned this past week. But like, I just really realized that that's something I've been doing more recently that I hadn't done before because I was talking about it to my parents.

And I was like, you know, I'm just like done with, like, hiding my feelings, whatever. And they were like, Emma, that's huge growth. Like, you have never been like that prior in your life. And I was like word. So I don't know something to think about. Having an open communication and being honest with the people in your life feels really fucking good.

So try that out. But that's not what we're talking about today. We're talking about a new L.A. phenomenon, phenomena, whatever that word is. I asked you guys on the podcast Twitter if you knew what this thing was in, a lot of you guys didn't know what it was. But I think that you guys do you you just don't know that you know what it is, OK? Today, we're going to be talking about Saddle Ranch. Let me give you a little background.

Saddle Ranch is a tacky Western style bar restaurant located in Los Angeles, California, on the Sunset Strip, right in the heart of West Hollywood. It is the tackiest. Restaurant, you could possibly imagine there is a bowl that you can ride in there, the whole thing looks like a fuckin saloon that you would see in some sort of pirate movie or something. It's just like it's so beyond tacky that it's unreal, but. Recently, it started to get this crazy amount of attention from influencers and celebrities alike, and it never had in the past, like it was always fun.

And I know, like, you know, people always went there, here and there. I know.

Like, you know. There was a decent chunk of you tubers that used to go there a few times a week just because it was fun and like not a lot of people were there and it was easy to get in because it was just like it wasn't super exclusive or weird. It was just like easy to go because. It was like the tacky place, so it wasn't like going to some sort of super expensive L.A. Bujji bar. It was like the complete opposite.

And I think that's why he was appealing to some YouTube or whatever, because he was like, OK, this is like a chill place. So we can go and have like a similar experience, except there's not all the Bujji dumb shit involved. And so that's why it was popular. And then quarantine hit and then, you know, whatever. But since it reopened, it has. Turned it into something completely different. If you've ever watched a Hollywood fix interview, Hollywood fixes basically the paparazzi.

For YouTube's tech talkers, anybody but normally YouTube doesn't take talkers, it's a YouTube channel, you can go watch them. They're very entertaining. I watch them all the time, unfortunately.

And they just basically the Hollywood fix dude, it's just one dude and he just finds people and he interviews them on the spot, paparazzi vibes, whatever.

If you've watched any Hollywood fix interview, I can guarantee it was probably one outside of Saddle Ranch.

This dude waits outside his ranch. His name is Phleger, all the paparazzi guy, everybody knows him. It's this weird thing, like there's this weird. Like culture and like weird, like it's so bizarre to me, like everybody knows the Hollywood fixed dude and that's such a new thing, like I doubt.

Ten years ago. Celebrities like Brad Pitt would like know the first name of the paparazzi that harasses him all the time, you know what I mean?

But now that we're in this weird influencer. Culture phase of life, it's crazy how, like, everybody is very normal, I think, and so everything. So on a personal level, yet it has the. Impact or maybe even the views of, say, like. A paparazzi Brad Pitt interview from like a while ago, it might actually get the same amount of use, which is mind boggling. But you know what I'm saying? I don't know if that's true, but I feel like that actually might be true.

Back to Saddle Ranch. Saddle Ranch is. Basically, the influencer capital of Los Angeles right now. Every single night of the week, every single take talker that you see on your for you page is at Saddle Ranch, including a lot of you tubers, too. There's a lot of YouTube. Was there take talkers? I even saw Megan Fox and fuckin machine gun Kelly there once, like everybody is going to Saddle Ranch.

And it's the craziest thing ever. And the way that it's laid out is that there's this big outdoor seating area that is fully visible from the street. So anybody can kind of like look in like what's going on inside the ranch at any given evening. It's like a fucking zoo.

And it's like everybody is seated at the tables at Saddle Ranch are the zoo animals and everybody outside can look in and see who they can find. And you can only imagine the field day that the paparazzi are having. You know, they're zooming in on people eating. This has happened to me like they're you know, they get infinite content of seeing, like, you know, take talkers, interact with each other on YouTube, interact with whatever. And it's like a fucking zoo.

OK, and I remember when this first became a thing, I was like, this is so kind of dumb. Like, this is dumb. And that's truly what I thought. I was like, this is so dumb. Like, I don't get the point of it.

Like, it seems like just an anxiety fest for me. Everybody is being filmed hanging out and everybody that you know, is there and there's a decent chance that you're going to see some sort of fuckin ex best friend or some sort of fuckin ex-boyfriend, their ex-girlfriend, whatever the fuck. There's a very good chance you're going to see someone like that while you're there. And there's a decent chance that some sort of drama is going to ensue based on whether or not you go over and say hi to them or not.

That seems like a nightmare to me. I'm out. I don't want to be a part of this. Well, I got sucked into it for a few weeks. My friends and I got very bored. And there was something funny and appealing about the idea of just going and seeing what it's all about, because every night we just kept seeing everybody who lives around us that we relatively know going to the same restaurant. And it was like. And everybody was there at the same time, and it was like it became the thing to do here and nothing else is open and they have a nice outdoor seating area that's like, you know, regulated.

It just seemed like, OK, well, there's no harm in this. Like, let's just do it. Let's just go. We're bored. Let's just go and see what we see, see what drama ensues. Like, whatever, like let's just see what happens. So I probably went to Saddle Ranch 10 times over the course of a few weeks. And I became addicted to it. Like, I wanted to go every night and here's why. Every night there is some new drama, there was some new person that walks in that was like.

You know, oh, my God, like, I can't believe they're here. And it became like a literal nighttime activity that I looked forward to where it was like, who am I going to see? And it was almost like going to Saddle Ranch was like scratching an itch in my armpit, like, you know, and you just have, like, a really bad itch in it. Like, you know, that if you age it, it's just going to make it worse.

But like. You want to change it? That's what going to South Orange was for my friends and I. We we hated it. We hated the fuckin stigma around it. We hated the drama that came with it.

But we kept going because there was something so satisfying about it. And I mean, one night sticks out to me in particular.

It was this night where we all went and we were sitting at this table. This was the the thing that set me over the edge. We all were sitting at a table and we were eating. And the entire dinner, the entire hour and a half, two hours that we were there. You know, we were filmed the whole time. The entire time through the little window thing, the little like divider from the outside, straight into the inside, it's see through.

And we were being filmed the whole time. And that was the thing that, like, sent me over the edge. I was like, I can't do this anymore, because then I had to, like, go home. And then I had to go to bed and wake up the next morning and watch the dinner that I had had the night before. And I hated it. And I was like, what if I looked bad?

Would if, like, I had a burger in my nose, like, what if, what if, what if, what if I did something bad on accident? Like what if I fucking pitched picked a wedgie or something like what if I like what if they actually caught me slapping my friend in the face on camera.

I didn't do that, but you know what I mean.

Like what did they catch. Like even though I know it's like I know I'm being filmed. So I'm like and also I'm not doing anything fucking weird anyway. But like, it's just it makes you think. Right, like what's going on. That was what sent me over the edge. And so I stopped going and once I stopped going, I was kind of able to reflect on my time at Saddle Ranch and. Just see the immaturity that I was.

It was an immature thing for me to do, and I'll explain why in the moment it seemed fun and harmless, but looking back, it was very immature of me and here's why.

Every time I would go, I would go home with this crippling feeling of anxiety.

Number one, because, you know, the paparazzi situation was crazy. Number two, because there was a bunch of people that I like half.

No, not like fully know them on a personal level, but like people that I've dappled with, you know, people that I've hung out with a few times, people that I've talked to for a little bit like shit like that. And that's all there. And you don't know who's going to show up. But like the fact that those people were around me, I wouldn't anticipate them being there. But I also deep down knew that that was a possibility.

And yet I would choose to go there multiple times a week knowing that I was going to see people that I would be uncomfortable around. Yet I chose to do that because there was something exciting about it. But then I would be anxious for the next 48 hours until we would just go again and it would all start over again. I would say that a decent part of my anxiety came from me going to Saddle Ranch religiously and seeing people that I didn't want to see and then I had no reason to see.

I have no reason to be seeing these people. It's not necessary. They're not in my life anymore. I don't know these people very well. I don't want to have a weird, awkward conversation with someone that, like I've hung out with four times a year ago. Like, I don't want to have those conversations yet. I was making the conscious decision to go to Saddle Ranch with my friends instead of just hanging out and ordering food into my fucking house.

Instead of doing that, we're like, no, let's go to this restaurant that every tick tock here goes to and every fucking influencer goes to. Let's do that instead. Why? When I knew that that would make me uncomfortable, yet I was doing it anyway because it was like. Scratching an itch, for some reason, there's something so satisfying and fun about it, even though it was bad for me and even though it would harm me and I knew that.

And I wonder if all the other, you know, kids that are going that are. I wonder if they're all thinking the same thing like this sucks, but yet I can't not go because there's something so fun about it. And I think it's also like because it's like a fucking lunchroom. It's like, you know, everybody and it's fun to, like, see everybody. There's something fun about that, you know what I mean? Knowing that there's going to be 20 people that, you know, there.

There's something interesting about it. And even inviting, I'd argue, and so, you know. I don't know, it's just I stopped. I'm glad I stopped going, it was harming me literally in my head, like it was starting to make me feel like. The Internet was my real life because my one interaction with people outside of my two friends. Being at this restaurant where I'd see people from, you know, however many feet away, like me looking around the room at Saddle Ranch and seeing my entire Instagram explore page for like multiple weeks on end, ruined my mental health.

It ruined me. So I'm glad that I stopped. But I wonder when Saddle Ranch will die, like, is this going to die and everybody's going to stop going? Or is this just going to be something that, you know?

We all waste our time with forever, and that's the question I have, I don't plan on going again any time soon, but then again, I haven't been in probably a month or two, maybe a month. Maybe three weeks, I don't know, I've been in a while, I don't plan on going anytime soon. I really think that. It was super toxic for me and it was so. It just wasn't like it was so it was not a positive thing and I don't regret going because it was like kind of funny and there was like some funny memories from it.

And like, I think my friends and I had fun with it for a few weeks until it just got we all were just anxious masses from it. And so we stopped. And I've been a lot happier since. But it's just interesting how. Everyone congregates to like one area and like 90 percent of the people sitting in the Saddle Ranch fuckin at the Saddle Ranch table's 90 percent of them, the ones that all know each other from social media and shared all hate each other.

I hate talking about it like this because it's like. It's just such a weird community, and I don't like talking about it as a whole because it's like just seems so dumb, right.

But at the same time, like, it is this weird L.A. community of like influencer tech talker, you tubers that like. And it's so interesting how everybody. Knows each other and like even when they don't seem like they know each other because nobody, like, follows each other above, everyone knows each other and it's so bizarre to me and I will never get over it.

And that's why the whole Saddle Ranch thing is just even more toxic, because it's just like everybody knows each other. But half the time, some people don't even want to admit it.

And it's just. It's just not it's very, very. It's a very avoidable. Thing that, like, you could have a lot of fun without. Someone said, is tolerance full every night or there's a pause or is there a specific day in which everyone goes? Literally everyone goes every day, like you can go any day and you're going to see. Everyone. And like now, it's hard to get in, it used to be something where you could just get it was so not exclusive at all.

Now you have to wait in like a five hour line to get in unless you have a reservation or you have some sort of like or, you know, someone or something. And it's like, y'all are we this is a fuckin there is a mechanical bull inside and it looks like something from the wild wild west. Why are we waiting in line for this, although they do have the most amazing tater tots. So like, I would wait for those, but.

Oh, people are now talking about BOA. OK, so. Somebody said, who wins the Saddle Ranch or BOA, who wins the battle Saddle Ranch or BOA? So let me tell you about Boa. I don't go to Boa. Boa is like the other place. So there's two Saddle Ranch is like. The lighthearted, fun. Place that everyone goes to, like see everybody that they don't like and to get paparazzi, that Saddle Ranch BOA is like the exact same thing, except it's a steakhouse, it's down the street.

It's close. It's a steakhouse. Where you have a little bit more privacy, but it's very overpriced. And the food is like, fine, but it's like not that great, like it's good, but it's like. OK, you could definitely go somewhere else or you're not going to get. Harassed. By the Hollywood folks outside, like, you know what I mean? It's you're not I don't think people are going there because they like the food.

That's what I'm saying. And it's the same thing with Saddle Ranch. They're going for the drama. You don't go to Saddle Ranch or BOA. To, like, eat the food. When you're on social media, I'm being straight up about it, you just don't you're going for either the drama in to see people you know and to see what's going on and to see, like, you know, to kind of like experience the.

The fuckin culture of it, or you're going to get paparazzi and there's no in between. Personally, I don't like getting paparazzi. I'm more there for, like, the drama of it all just to, like, see kind of what's going on. And it's just like fun to people. Watch. It's for me, it's fun to people. Watch. I don't know if that's what everybody else is doing for it. I doubt it. I think for everybody else, it's more of a lunchroom situation.

I agree with that. But I tend to kind of keep to myself in the missile range. And I'd just like to watch, like, you know, when you go to Disneyland and you sit down for a second with your churro and you just like to watch like moms do embarrassing shit with their kids, like they're just like, you know, talking baby talk super loud to their baby. Right. And that's fun to watch at Disneyland. Or you're seeing like some sort of, you know, 15 year old couple that's like all over each other.

And it's like weirdly entertaining, even though you don't know who they are and you're never going to see them again. It's the same thing at Saddle Ranch. There's this people watching aliment that's priceless. There's nothing better than seeing. Everybody on your for you page interact, there's something very interesting about it, that's why the fucking Hollywood fix interviews do so well and there's nothing negative about it for anyone else, I would say. I think it's fun. You know what, if you like seeing.

Other social media people around and if you like getting paparazzi, I don't see a negative thing about it. I don't think it's hurting anyone. It just hurts me because my brain doesn't like this shit. So that's why it's not good for me. And it makes me anxious. And I was just scratching an itch and people watching and like but I didn't enjoy the elements of it that I was literally walking straight into. It's almost like I was better off watching just the Hollywood fix, but I knew that I could just drive 10 minutes and I could be there.

And I wanted that because I was like, this is fun because I like watching these Hollywood fix interviews.

I'm just going to go live it.

But it really ended up ruining my life and there it is. So he said, Is the food actually good at Saddle Ranch? It's not bad, but it's like you could eat good food anywhere.

That's not what it's about. And I think that that's what, you know, I kind of wanted to talk about today is like almost I wanted to have a confession moment and be like I've never gone to Saddle Ranch for the food. I go to this, I go to Saddle Ranch for every other element. And I had a few weeks where I was guilty of it. And listen, I might go back again. Don't if you see me if you see me at Saddle Ranch someday, again, don't yell at me because there's a decent chance that one night my friends and I are going to be like.

This kind of sounds fun right now, like let's do this like this kind of sounds like it'd be an interesting thing. It's an interesting activity, you know what I mean to do? It's like interesting. But I can tell you, it's not for the food. Somebody said, do you go to get paparazzi?

Personally, I don't because I don't like it and usually it makes me very uncomfortable. But at the same time, when I go, I know that it's a potential and sometimes it doesn't happen. But a lot of the times, especially towards the end of me going there, it started happening almost every time.

And that's when I was like, you know, I don't like this. There was many, many times where I went and it never happened. It was more just people watching experience. It was fun. It was entertaining.

You know, it's lighthearted there. You're always going to see someone.

You know, you're always going to run into somebody who was fun. It was like entertaining, whatever. And there was no paparazzi element, but it started to get really bad towards the end of me going there.

And so then I stopped going because of it, because I was like, this is just like I don't. No one. I don't. I don't like it, I don't like walking into it and like, I also don't. I mean, I was like. I like it, doesn't make me feel good, it gives me crippling anxiety to watch it the next day. So, like, I want to avoid that at all costs.

And yeah, so no, not me, but I do know some people probably do, and that's totally fine because it's kind of some people enjoy it and I totally get that too. And I think that a year or two ago, if I would have gotten paparazzi, I would have enjoyed it. But now I don't anymore.

And so, I mean, I don't know if I ever enjoyed it, but I think. It never used to happen to me, so if this would have happened to me like a year or two ago, I probably would've thought it was that I would have, like, enjoyed it or whatever, wouldn't have created anxiety for me. But now it does. And so, no, I no longer want to participate. All right, we're going to move on from questions about Saddle Ranch, I'm done talking about Saddle Ranch.

I just needed to like. I needed to get that off my chest, like I feel like nobody's talking about the truth about Saddle Ranch and I just wanted to be the one to do it.

And, you know, I hope it was relatively interesting, but for some people who don't know about it, go watch the Hollywood fix interviews, go check it out, go see, like, how crazy it is there. It's just so weird. Actually, somebody just asked me a good question about, you know what, maybe we'll just keep on the fucking salad ranch topic, OK? Maybe we'll just make this a saddle. The Saddle Ranch episode.

Somebody said, does a Hollywood fix just hang out in the same spots because the take talkers don't get creative and just chill around the same three blocks? Or does he actually go find where you guys are going? OK, here's my conspiracy, because I don't know the truth.

I think that there's a few spots that he knows that he can wait and he'll succeed.

This is just with paparazzi for influencers in general because it's very different. It's like the paparazzi for like actual like, you know, actors or like models and stuff like that. I don't know how that shit works. That's a totally different world. I don't know shit about that.

But when it comes to like the weird new paparazzi on YouTube for influencers and tech talkers, it's a very I feel like it's a different game. It's like a different thing. And it's so interesting to me that it even exists because when I started YouTube, it didn't exist.

So the whole thing is just crazy to me. But I feel like he waits, he goes to Boa, he goes to Saddle Ranch and he goes to. Those are the main two, I feel like. Then he waits outside of knowing that tick talkers in YouTube or in any type of influencer is going to go there because it's almost like this mutually agreed thing subconsciously that everybody knows that he's going to be there and he knows that everybody's going to be there.

So it's like this. Perfect. Thing right, where everybody wins, they know where to find him and he knows where to find everybody, so that's that.

As for like day to day stuff, like if he finds somebody at, like, a restaurant during the day at lunch or something.

I feel like that's more something where people are calling it on themselves. Because I don't know how he would just know that someone's coming out of their. You know, fuckin doctor's appointments, like, you know, at 11:00 a.m. in Beverly Hills, like it's so random, I just have a hard time believing that he just knew that. So I think that there's a decent chance that when it's not at the main locations that everyone knows are like. Established Hollywood fixed spots like.

I feel like that's planned. I've actually always wondered, like I I've always wondered, like how that works. Maybe I'll call the Hollywood fix on myself one time and like, preplan it and just see how that process goes just so that we can all kind of like know the how that shit even works, because I've never called it on myself. Ever, although one time he found me at my I kid you not, he found me at my apartment once.

And I'm convinced that someone gave him my address. I'm like, how the fuck did you find me there? Because I did not call it and you can fucking see it in my face too, I was like, there is no way you just found me here. But I also think he might have followed me home because I was at a popular location right before. I don't know. I don't know. I always wonder that.

But I want to know, like, how that works, like DMM when I don't know, kind of fun. Maybe I'll try it just for a social experiment for all of us.

Somebody said, do you think Ella's overrated?

It's crazy because I feel like recently L.A. has gotten a little bit it's changed a lot since I first moved here, especially over the past few months with quarantine.

Like a lot of things have changed about it. I feel like, you know, a lot of stores have closed a lot of like permanently. A lot of people have moved out of here. A lot of people have moved here in the past. I mean, so it's been like both like a lot of people are moving out, but a lot of people are moving in. And it definitely has a different feeling than it did when I first moved here.

And I miss the old feeling that it had when, you know, when everything was bustling. And, you know, there's like so many people here and there's still a lot of people here.

But I feel like so many people are leaving and a lot of people are over it. And I get it because I'm kind of there, too. It just feels kind of like sad and dreary and dead right now to me.

And I don't know if that's just because of the fact that we're, you know, in a pandemic or whatever, or if it's just because maybe Coronavirus kind of killed L.A. a little bit, because there's so many there's been so many close closings. A lot of things have closed. Like a lot of stores, like you go to Melrose, which is one of the main cool shopping streets in L.A. and like so many things are closing permanently. And it's so sad to see.

And it just feels kind of empty now. Somebody said, what's one influencer that you really want to collab with, I guess we're doing kind of an influencer influencer, Saddle Ranch, truth of it all. Episode The truth about collaborating with other influencers is that I think that you assume that you're going to get along with somebody because they do the same thing as you.

But the truth of the matter is that's usually not the case.

And it's usually I mean, it can be a very pleasant experience. It can be fun even I mean, for sure. But I've found that, like, it just doesn't always click.

And that's why I don't like to collab, because I feel like when you structure a video and you collab in a way that's super structured with somebody who you don't genuinely feel like you get along with, it just it makes the whole experience miserable and it's fake. And personally, I just don't want to be fake on any front. If I've ever collab to somebody, I'm I'm friends with them. At least at the time, right, and so it's not like I'm collapsing with people that I don't know on a relatively personal level, like it's usually somebody that like I've at least gotten a chance to get to know and.

I don't know, like I just have a hard time with collabs because I feel like I also don't want. There to be some sort of toxicity in the fact that, you know, when you collab with somebody who could benefit one party or both and with, you know, growth. Right. Like I think a lot of people don't realize it. Like a big part of blabbing is for I think a lot of the times it can be because it's fun.

And I don't think that it's always for the no element.

But I've seen so many people in this space collab just for the numbers of it all, not because they actually genuinely like the person or not because they genuinely think that it would be fun to collab with this person. It's more of just like a business move. And I've never done that because I don't believe in that. But I also don't bash people that do it because this is something that's it's entertainment. Right. Like a lot of people are doing this stuff for entertainment purposes.

And so sometimes it makes sense to do maybe a surface level collab because like, you know. That might be what makes sense for their business and their, you know, the business side of their YouTube, whatever. For me, I just don't like looking at it like that. And so that's why I've avoided that at almost all costs.

And that's why you don't see me colliding with a lot of people or even having guests on this podcast, because I'm like I just get anxious about, you know.

Making sure that that's an authentic choice. To. Somebody said, oh, this is interesting, someone said, what's the most romantic things anyone has ever done for you? OK, this is so off topic and has nothing to do with. Like anything that we just talked about, but I have an opinion that I want to share like this has been something that's been on my mind.

I don't like romantic things.

Like I was just talking about this with my friend, who's a lot older than me and like she's been in a relationship for a really long time and, you know, I was talking to her about like, how do you keep things interesting in a relationship when you've been dating somebody for, like, you know, five, seven years?

Like, does it get boring, like, whatever? And, you know, she's like, no, like, it doesn't it doesn't get boring because you you know, there's obviously ruts in the while. You're dating someone for a long time.

But like, you know, when you if you still like if the relationship feelings don't fizzle, then it is always exciting in a weird way.

And I get that. I get that. And but it also made me think like because I was kind of asking, like, do you have to start doing like fluffiest shit, like start doing breakfast in bed?

And she after seven years because you need to keep things romantic and exciting. I was kind of asking that.

And, you know, her answer was kind of no.

And I think that that's really interesting because. I don't really think that romantic, super romantic, traditionally romantic things are like for me, I just don't care about that.

It's just so not my love language. And part of me wonders, you know, are super romantic actions. Are they? Overcompensating. For a lack of something in the relationship, does that make sense, like, don't get me wrong, I think it's really nice when somebody does something heartfelt for you, surprises you with, like a gift or something like that. That means something, right? Like, that means something when it's like heartfelt in thought, out in spontaneous and random, whereas like when somebody is just like buying you flowers just because to me that kind of makes me feel like it's because.

There's a missing part of the relationship that needs to be filled with some sort of like. Meaningless gift, like a flower or like a fuckin breakfast in bed or like, you know, some sort of like, meaningless gift, like I feel like that's filling a gap in a relationship.

And that's always how I felt because like for me, like, I don't like that stuff. I don't need that stuff. Like, it could be like my 10 year anniversary with somebody I feel like that I am with.

And literally I'd be fine with just having a normal day, I feel like every day. You know, you do little things like that and like. Making some big romantic episode like about. An anniversary or about whatever, I wonder. If that's just maybe some people's love language or if that's genuinely just overcompensation for a lack of maybe even connection.

I don't know. I don't know, maybe it's just that that's just simply not my love language, you know, who knows? Because I just feel like that stuff doesn't work for me like that. Just I, I, I would be happy just sitting with a guy that I'm with. In talking about nothing for hours, I'd rather do that than. Like, be surprised with flowers, though, like. I've been with a guy and they got me, they were shopping.

And they found something for me that, like related to something that I care about, like they they got me, they found they thriftily and they found something that they knew that I would like because it had a personal connection to me and they gave that to me. I literally cried about it. Because they were just out doing their own thing and then they thought of me and they found something for me that they thought I would like, and then they brought it to me and then.

It was so personal like that to me is so much more meaningful than like a fuck, like my girlfriend's mad at me, I'm just going to go bring her flowers, I guess, to make her happy because, like, blah, blah, blah, or like I feel like I've been a bad boyfriend recently. I'm just going to bring my girlfriend flowers or like, whatever.

I mean, maybe it can be cute. Like, if it's like they had a bad day and you just want to do something, I don't know, maybe I just have a jaded view on like I think that sometimes I associate like. A large romantic effort with like overcompensation for like bad behavior. So maybe I'm just jaded. I think that romantic things for me are more like the kind of small, mundane things, like that's the stuff that I like will shed a tear over.

Not like. Some sort of picture perfect. Shit, do you know what I mean? I don't know, I don't know.

Anyway, I have a hair appointment, so.

I'm going to go do that. I'm gonna go get my hair dyed blonde again. It's going to take probably three hours and I'm going to have a lot of back pain and it's going to be shitty. But thank you guys for listening to my little Saddle Ranch rant.

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On the Hollywood well, I don't even shave and be fucking promoting that, I don't know, it's very interesting.

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