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Everyone around the world. I don't know where you are. Australia, the UK, the United States, wherever you are, this information is going to blow your fucking mind, OK? One of the men that I am dating. Are you ready for this? Has a private. Instagram, you're all like, OK, and no, that's it.

Oh, yeah, that's literally the big shocking Kobu. Yeah, he has a fucking private Instagram account.

Now, when I say that, some of you may say Al Pigalle, what's the stress? Lots of us here listening to you. Chitter chatter, have a private Instagram account. No, no, no, no. Let me tell you how this has affected my life. OK, it seems so simple and yet pure chaos. Here is the timeline. Daddy gang picture this. This beautiful man and I have been talking for a few months now. It started on a whim.

You guys have heard the story. It's amazing. You guys have been part of this journey. OK, but this man is a man of privacy and integrity. It's extremely lovely. So basically, in the beginning of our relationship, we were just talking about how the show and all the things and his job, whatever. And we talked about it and we agreed that I would not follow him from my main public Instagram Alexander Instagram account. Totally fine.

He's a private person. He didn't sign up for this psychosis. Fair enough.

So with that said, if I am not following him, how do you think that makes me fucking feel out of the loop and not OK? What is he posting? I don't know. Do you guys know? I don't know. So I'm not going to lie.

It's been it's been a stressful couple of months not being able to stalk and get in and around his house home by in and around his asshole.

I mean, look at his Instagram. It's been hard. But just because I don't follow him, I decided. All right, that's fine. We'll figure that we'll figure that situation out when due time comes. But for right now, why don't I at least feel a little bit connected and just D.M. him from my main account so that we can be in each other's dorms, send each other cute little Meems, maybe I'll send him a fucking cute dog picture and say, hey, wink, wink, my birthday's coming up.

No, sorry, it just happened. But you guys get it. I've always said being able to communicate with someone that you're talking to on different platforms, it's fun. You're texting or FaceTime. You're doing each other brilliant. Yes, I know. Thank you. So it's like last week I'm like a fucking random Wednesday. I decide to put the plan into action Daoudi gang and slide the fuck in. Now, the first order of business is what is even his fucking Instagram account.

I've never asked him. I Google his name and I click on the linked Instagram account that matches his name. It's like, oh, this is his Instagram. So I had for the kill. I decide to take the sexual route for the slide in classic. Classic. What else would you expect? And what I do is I detail a time that he gloriously came inside my pussy and then I ask him to send me a dick pic so that I could touch myself later to it and think about the time that he filled me up.

A classic love story, because this man doesn't really use Instagram and he's not on it often, or at least he's told me I'm on to you. I expect it's going to take a fucking minute for him to respond.

But I'm feeling great about my in so days go by daddy getting days. And this message hasn't been opened about four days later. And and by four, I mean exactly on the dot four days later, because I was counting calendar day after calendar day waiting for this motherfucker to open it.

I wake up and I have a notification that he answered me and my heart skips a fucking beat. Oh, my God. Let the Instagram flirting begin as if we don't talk every day. I still. It's fun. So his response is, how do I explain this very not what I expected it to be. It threw me for a loop. I wasn't anticipating this response, but as you know, we're a go getter and we can shape shift and we can move and groove in whatever direction we're pulled.

So I was like, OK, here we go. What did he respond with Alex? He went the route of not knowing me. He thought it was interesting at first because I was like, OK. I mean, I guess we could maybe role play like you like, you know, I don't know. You like who are you? Like, what do you mean you want a dick pic kind of vibe.

So I'm like, all right, I'm down. I mean, the response was a little bit more dry and aggressive, but I went with it. His response was, and I quote, Excuse me, questionmark. Send the next one. Who is this question mark? And then the third one, what is going on?

At the time, I was confused by his lack of flirtation, considering on phone calls. It's much more suave in it to win it.

But who knows, maybe his damn game isn't of the same stature as his texting and FaceTime game. That's OK. So I decide to go with it and be a little bit more aggressive and I spell out his first name in all caps.

And then I proceed to say something along the lines of Do you want a picture of my pussy first, blah, blah? Let me get that dick pic like mind you guys, this is someone I've been talking to for a few months now. OK, so like this is funny. I look into the dam after I offer pussy picks and he has left me on red. Now, I am no bitch, and I refuse to let my ego take a stab like that, so naturally I pick up my fucking cell phone and I FaceTime that motherfucker and he answers looking all beautiful and tanned and luscious.

And I'm like, what the fuck? And he's like, Oh, hi, do You Tube. And I'm like, why the fuck are you leaving me on bread? Do you not want this pussy and daddy king? When I tell you this man looks at me as if I am talking gibberish, he goes, What are you fucking talking about? And I said, I admire you and you're leaving me on. Right? And he goes, Alex, I have no idea what you're talking about.

Are you just kind of the butt eyelashes bout a little bit.

And I'm like, what do you mean? And he's like, what are you talking about? I'm like, identi you when you get me back, pretend you don't know me and I'm due back again. And you left me, all right. And he's like, you never do you. Like you never deemed me Alex. Digging in that very moment, I realized I was, in fact, damning the wrong man. I was, in fact, damning a man with the same exact name as the man that I am fucking and I am dating.

However, it was not his fucking Instagram. Alexander Cooper with her verified account. I am who I am sexually I am sexually harassing this man. Send me your fucking take. And this man is genuinely like, please stop messaging me. He proceeded to block me honestly. Thank fucking God he decided to go the block as opposed to being like, Yeah, send me the pussy and I'll send you the dick. I have no idea who this man is.

I look at the man that I'm dating on FaceTime. I'm about to start. I thought it was a ball, my eyes out moment, but it was like a holy fucking shit. Why? I'm sorry. Why? Because I didn't believe him at first. I thought he was fucking with me. He looked me in the eyes of yours. Alex, I have never gotten a dime from you. So I proceed and I proceed to send him a screenshot of what I was.

I mean, this poor, poor, poor man with the same exact name as him. And I said, that is literally on Google. When I go and type in your name and Instagram, that is what is linked to your name. And he's like, that is not my fucking Instagram.

OK, OK, so that was my induction into dating a guy with a private account. I couldn't even find the real fucking account and a shout out to you, whoever you are out there, you know who you are, the man with the same name as the other man that I'm dating. Thank you. Thank you for not reporting me or as far as I know, you haven't yet. God bless you and God bless your family. And I'm so sorry you'll never be hearing from you again, although I can't contact you because you full blown blocked me.

Anyways, now that that's in the past, God bless. Then I turn to the real guy that I'm dating and I'm like, OK, you know, respectfully, can you send me a fucking link to Instagram? How will we just do that?

He's like, yes, he's like, yes, calm down, calm down. I'll send you my link. And here's the update on that.

I had told him, you know, maybe I'll follow you from my fake account. And he blinked a few times and looked a little concerned that I have a fake account. And I did tell him that my fake account, the name is Frank Bouchard, and now I'm realizing I'm going to go change that one. And I identify as a male on my bank account. He's like, OK, you fucking psycho.

But he knows I'm crazy. And he was like, Yeah, that's fine. Follow me on your fake account. Like, it's not like I'm trying to hide anything from you. I just like obviously we don't want I don't want people like coming and stalking my life. And I'm like, right, right. Totally, totally.

But Daddy going you're going to be shocked, shocked her up the ass. I have not followed him yet. And all of you are like, hey Alex, how come he's given you go.

I don't know. I don't know.

I literally think it's called personal growth. A year ago, I would have said, no, you're a fucking idiot. His last Instagram pictures probably with his fucking girlfriend. In all seriousness, I think I don't want to follow him yet because I'm enjoying the fact that for the first time in my life, this is the first man that I've ever dated with a private Instagram account that is a private person. And the relationship isn't so social media driven.

And I kind of fucking like it. And I feel like the minute I follow him, I know where I know where I'll be every minute of every day. And it will be inside of his Instagram stalking every single situation going on. So I think I'm just trying to be like, all right, maybe the healthy thing to do is kind of live in this non social media world for a minute with him and enjoy that.

And I'm pretty fucking sure my therapist would say that is personal growth, but that I'm going to bitch slap that bitch if if I do go finally follow him in a year. And I'm like, so is the wife and kids. OK, all right. Welcome to call her daddy this week, folks. Full blown health entering a new era. And as you can see, I mean, the bitch is on the move. Let's take a little commercial break.

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Again, that is get Roman dotcom slash daddy. So, Daddy, getting health and wellness this week. Health and wellness this week in all facets, health and wellness. Also with regard to our sex lives. This week, I'm having on a guest that I truly believe looks at sex and wants us all to succeed, wants us all to come, wants us all to have orgasms once every man to be satisfied, every woman to be satisfied. And she brings a lot of fucking big ass facts that make it happen.

Daddy gang Emily Morse is sitting before me. She's a sex therapist. She's an author. She's a media personality. She's the host of the podcast Sex With Emily, and she has her Sirius XM radio show, Sex with Emily. Welcome. So excited to be here.

You have no idea because I jokingly am like guys, I have all the answers and I am so excited to be like bitches. Listen the fuck up. I actually have a sex therapist on my show, so now you can be like, yes, you're right, Alex. Ah, no, you're wrong, Alex.

OK, I also think Daddy gang, I wanted to bring on specifically because there are some topics that are touchy feely and can kind of trigger some people. And I think it's been something I've wanted to talk about for a really long time, but I want to make sure it's done right. And Emily is sitting before me. And when I brought these topics up to her, she's like, Yeah, OK, let's go.

Oh, yeah. You're like, oh, OK. I've been doing this for years. Let's go. So let's just get right into it, because sex I mean, we're on the caller daily podcast right now. Let's get why exactly. Let's go.

So we're going to start to talk about one topic that could be triggering to people. And I'm going to put in the time codes where you can fast forward to this is a little like warning. If you've ever had any sexual trauma, if you think that you could be triggered by a topic like forced sex, totally understand. It's not for everyone. So you should fast forward to this time. Code daddies go to twenty nine minutes and forty five seconds.

I love you. OK, now, Emily, let's get into it. Forced sex, rape fantasies. Even saying that word on this podcast scares me. And I have had so many women right into me being like, can you please explain to me what is wrong with me?

Why do I have rape fantasies? Can you kind of go into, like, what that means and what it is?

OK, so forced sex fantasies or rape fantasies before sex, I think. Yeah, me too. Yeah. It doesn't mean that we want to be raped and actually in our fantasies it's consensual. If we think about it like we we actually it's not look, we want to be hurt. We don't actually want to be raped. We don't want a stranger to break in. We have a fantasy that we would like to have, like have our partner do with us or like role play it.

But we don't actually want that. So let's clarify that. So there's a few theories about why. But first, let me say this is that is one of the most common fantasies for men, for women, for non binary people. It is probably one of the most common I think it was like. Sixty eight percent of women have had it in like fifty something. Percent of men like it's common.

I didn't know whether to. Yeah. And that daddy gang, I think like that right there we can just hold because it's like so many women in my dreams are like I feel strange, like why am I thinking about these things. I feel nasty. I feel disgusting. If you guys remember when I had Savannah on my friend, she came on and I didn't end up putting it in the episode, but she said, I am one of those girls that I enjoy for sex.

And when I watch porn specifically, I don't enjoy watching porn unless the girl is like kind of not enjoying it. And it's like a forced sex situation. And she was like and then afterwards I'm I'm done masturbating and I feel fucking disgusting. And I'm like, what's wrong with me? And I'm like, wait, no. We need to somehow normalize this. We're not talking about physical abuse. No, we're talking about a fantasy that fantasy does not equal reality.

I want to absolve everybody of their guilt. OK, yeah. Shame absolve us. That was listen, there's two kinds of fantasies.

There's the fantasies we want to actually have happen. No life, and then there's the fantasies we just want to keep to ourselves. Yeah, those are all fine. Now, let's say we already established that it's really common. So just knowing that it's so common, I hope that one can just breathe a sigh of relief right now.

But like, oh, it's Jill. But the reason why let's talk about why. There's a few theories. There's a few reasons. One is that we want to absolve ourselves of any kind of sexual responsibility or sexual, because we have especially for women, we have so much shame around being sexual, like let's say we grew up in a home or in a in a religious background. And they were like, don't have sex till you're married. Masturbation is wrong to kind of say, you know what, I'm going to completely release all of my responsibility and someone else is taking the initiative.

And dominie me, I'm I'm shame free. I'm guilty because I didn't have a hand in it that is so mentally that literally makes so much sense.

And that's not even where my brain would go, because I'm assuming the next when you're going to say something about how we enjoy men being super, super aggressive and dominant. But the first when you bring up that's brilliant daddy going. It's like if you are one of the girls that there are virgins that listen to my show. If there are women that are less experienced and every time after sex, I know there are some women that are like, why do I feel this like cloud, dark cloud above me after I have sex and I feel awful and I just feel like a bad human being.

These women that make sense of their how they grew up.

Listen, and this is I would love to get you know, we go six hours because let me just say this. The good news about all this shame and worry we have about sex is that it's stuff that you can change your thought patterns. It's because we grew up in an environment where most of us, especially in America, even if your parents weren't super religious or something happened, we are mostly told that women should be sexual.

If you are, then you're sluts or maybe you work every day. You were hearing that like it is wrong. And so every time we masturbate, every time we do something sexual, we have sex with someone. We feel guilt and shame. And that is a process of undoing. That's in therapy, that's in recognizing listening to where we're saying right now is like it's OK and challenging. Like if you're like, well, it's wrong. I want to offer I want everyone to take a bit and go, OK, so you think it's wrong?

Where did that come from? Yes. Does it still work? Is it still true? Like, is it true whoever does it work for you? Because we get to challenge our limiting beliefs and say, OK, I heard this from my mom or from the church or from whoever, but actually it doesn't serve me anymore and it doesn't serve you that I'm not taking that into the rest of my life. Literally so beautiful. And I think that's a huge reason why I wanted to start call her daddy because it was like the amount just all the way down to the basics of like, why is it so normal in society?

And then he was like, jacking off a guy can jack off. And it's like a joke like, oh, I meant jack off all the time. The thought of a woman masturbating like we why we never talk about it.

Oh my God. Never, ever talk about female masturbation. It's these men. It's always OK. But when we do it, I mean, did you talk to your friends about master. I was just about to say, I remember in college there was one of my college teammates, one of my friends was super open and was like, oh my God, I masturbate all the time. And she was like, you like, why are you talking about that?

And I realized there are so many women that are not open with their friends about sex. And I think that is it can really affect you in the way then you go about sex. If you don't have an open group of friends that talk about it, it can fuck you up and be that friend.

I always say sex with Emily. I'm like, be that friend in your friend group. If they're not, be the friend that says, you know what, I realize we've never talked about sex and I masturbate. Do you going back to the for sex. Other thing, though, does have to do with this desire. Part of it that we that there's something about like, you know, like the cheesy like romance novels and like erotica. But we want someone to think we're so hot and they desire us so intensely and they want it so badly that they can't help but force us into sex.

And they grab us and it's aggressive and they're dominating us.

It's so high, the idea of him being like, oh my God, I can't control my yes. Like, I can't take it. And we have to rip your clothes and throw you down.

Oh, my God. He goes, like, getting turned on. I'm like, oh my God, I love it when I tell you that's such a fantasy. So that's one of the that's the second reason. And then the third is, is when you are a dominant human. And they used to say this about men, but I hate like putting genders in this. But in a lot of our daily life, we are dominate your business. WOMAN Right.

I'm a busy I well, I'm a submissive mostly.

I'm like, take me. You have a job. But I'm talking about sex all day. Yes.

I want to be dominate. I don't want have to think about it in my day to day life. I'm on top of it. So just like dominate. Yeah.

So that's, that's so interesting because I'm thinking I remember there's a lot of girls at right in saying that they started hooking up with these businessmen that are so successful and in the bedroom they like to be dominated. And it's because when they're these big ass CEOs at these huge companies that a lot of us would know their name in an article. They want a girl to be in the bedroom because they want to pay for it.

Literally. I want to wear it.

I want to act like a baby, because these men 24/7 are the boss in every scenario.

So in the bedroom, it also shows that women who have been sexually assaulted and we do know the numbers are like three out of five women have had some kind of sexual assault.

There is some correlation that if you've had some kind of sexual trauma in your life, that our the way our brains are associating it. Maybe it was a family member. Something horrible happened. We start to like twist it and associate with the trauma like it's our way of trying to heal it. Yeah, I'm like, oh, somehow it's the way I'm getting love and acceptance. What we know it's fucked up and then we feel worse about it.

But there is some stuff and I talk about this a lot on my show, but there are some therapies like there's like somatic therapy where you get into your body or MDR in trauma therapy, that if it really is preventing you from like having a pleasurable sex life, you don't have to live with this guilt and the trauma around it. I just want to say that. But also, if you're like, I'm fine with it, fine, then embrace it and say, yeah, I was I had sexual trauma.

And like I know some women who have dealt with it, they've accepted so much of what we go through is accepting it. So they're like, oh, I accept that I had assault. And it turns me on to have a for sex fantasy. And the more I can make peace with that and say, OK, well, it was my earliest sexual association, I'm going to be OK with it. So there's like choices here.

I love that you just said that because I remember I like lightly touched on it in answering someone's question once. And I couldn't believe the amount of positive feedback I got from basically just saying like. You can have a healthy, normal sex life if you have been assaulted in the past, that does not label you like you're fucked up forever.

And don't let it let it, like, control you and don't let it be you. Like, you can work to become and enjoy your sex life. That person that did that to you, they don't get to own you for the rest of your life. You need to somehow find a way, like you said, therapy or you just coming to terms with like that happened. And I'm moving forward.

There's everyone has a different way of coping, but you deserve to live your best fucking life and deserve to not let that become who you are and your identity. I love getting choked in the bedroom. I love getting slapped around a little bit. I think I remember talking about it with Savannah, though, like there are specific situations. I would love to know if this has ever happened to you.

OK, so when you are engaging in, like, aggressive sex in the bedroom daddy gang, sometimes in the heat of the moment, it's so hot. But once you're doing it, I have literally had moments where like and it's so hard because it's not his fault, but like all of a sudden the slap is like a little too hard. And I'm the one being like, slap me choke. And then it's a little too hard. Like I literally had moments after sex where like I'm crying because it's so it's like it was so much and it's like, fuck.

And I remember Savannah telling me he choked her so hard and she liked it and she had the best orgasm. And afterwards she had blood vessels popped in her face and she was like, I liked it, but I was like, what the fuck?

And then you have this weird emotional back and forth because it was so, so intense. Yeah. And I've had moments where I'm like, it's a lot. And I think this is why communication is the most important and clarifying it. So if that happens and sometimes you're with someone just once and it happens. Yes.

But if you're in a relationship with someone, talking about sex can be hot. So it can be to be like, OK, listen, let's talk about what just happened. My advice about talking about any of this stuff is timing. This is my like three tips for target timing, turf and tone. Oh, so you don't talk. OK, let's just talk about turf, OK? Do not my best advice. Do not talk about your sex life in the bedroom.

Now we think we're in the bedroom. Of course we're going to wait here. Like if we're cooking we're going to talk about right.

Cooking the tomato. You're like where are you slicing and dicing. Right. But the problem with sex is being like, this is what was good.

Not bad in the bedroom. Is that what we're in a raw state? We're in an altered state essentially. And so if we just and we want to have a constructive conversation, we might not hear it as an orgasm. We're like, no. So turf is like outside the bedroom. And the best time is when you're you're just like chillin. You're on a walk. And if it's uncomfortable for you, which for most people it's so painful, they'd rather be choked and have blood vessels to talk about sex.

What are we good?

I'm going to stop breathing, but like, I'd rather do that than tell him how uncomfortable I am. And it's like, no, if I loved her.

So outside the bedroom, you're going to walk and then you've got your timing. So just make sure you're not, like, hungry. I would say hot, hungry, angry, lonely, tired. Like, if you're just doing it like fuck you and you never go down to me, you know? And then the other thing is tone. It is not when you choked me, were you trying to kill me?

Why don't you ever go down? I always hear that, like, you never do this or you never initiate. You have to be. Your tone is check this. It is curious. It's open, it is collaborative. It's like, hey, babe. So let's first you OK? My favorite compliment. Say what you're like. Hey, so that sex was so hot the other night, like the way we were like you're passive and you're touching me.

Like that was really hot. And I think like next time sometimes it got so hot and it was like it felt great. But I didn't want in the moment it was hard to stop. So from now on, if I pull away, that doesn't necessarily mean I want to stop sex altogether. It just means it's not wienies. And that might seem super obvious, but what happens is if you pull away what we were afraid of, which happens, let's say you don't have a conversation and you pull away, he's like, oh, you say, no, I want to keep fucking I want to keep going.

But the road is ruin and he's soft. And you're like, fuck, I ruined all things right? Again, I don't wanna start again. And then you realize that once you take all the weirdness and awkwardness, it actually becomes so much harder because you're getting your needs met.

So I think we can kind of close out before sex fantasy of just explaining to everyone. Like, you do not have to have shame of yourself and you should honestly embrace that part of what you're into. Like, I'm sitting on this podcast openly being like I like a man to dominate me. There are some women that are like I like to be dominant in the bedroom, that everyone has their death. Why don't we clear that like you're like Oshri Italian tonight or should we gay Mexican?

I want to be like I'm adamant. What do you like. Yeah, but the reason why you know why they don't Alex. Because most people don't actually some people don't know what they want. They haven't really thought about it or maybe they have enough experience yet. So what I would say to those people is if you still actually don't know, you could say I'm curious to like explore things and just look at what you do like and then you start to like when you're with.

You actually can talk to then you can kind of figure it out. That's so interesting because I for the first time in a while, I was actually super turned on. So I'm like hooking up with this guy in L.A. right now. It's how early on do you tell a man that you are into being dominated because you don't want to be too aggressive with it? So it was really hot to me and men listening. This is something that I would encourage you to do.

But we were hooking up and just like making out and I forget how it got started. But he basically said, like, I want you to tell me what turns you on and what you like because I want to be anything for you. And he he did it in a way of being like I felt so open sexually with him to finally be like, I love to be dominated. And when I said that to him, he was like, that's so fucking hot.

Like, yes. And I was like, I don't think I've had a lot of men that have looked at me and been like, What are you like? And for a woman that to me, men listening like that made me want to be ten times kinkier ten times for you, because I'm like, oh, this guy is down. He a lot of women safe and a lot of women can get insecure. I don't know if I want to do that.

Yeah. Is he going to judge me? This guy was like, I want all of you and whatever you're into, I'm into. Let's go for it. And not every man is going to be like that. So I say the men who do say to you, oh, you must be super sexual. How do you know that I'm not into it? I say walk. That's a sign to say he's not your guy.

And if we can teach men to realize that once you give in, once you're open sexually to give, it's going to come back to you as well. You're more likely to get your needs met when you get curious about what your partner's into commercial.

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We are transitioning to orgasms.

Yes, because I'm like Emily's on the show. Ladies, there are so many girls that are just so defeated. I have literally them running down. Why can't I ever finish during sex? I've been to the OBGYN. There's nothing wrong with my vagina. Let's talk about how to come. Why can I come. Why can I orgasm with my vibrator but not with the man. Like let's get into it.

We share DBMS I swear to God literally to forever. It makes me sad. Listen ok, most women are good. At some point I have a problem with orgasm. But let me just say this. You are responsible for your own orgasm. It's not about anyone giving you an orgasm. It's not about them figuring out your body. Like I used to believe that someday my prince will come and so will I always am only the only good one.

I knew I was like, oh, my God, he's going to ride up a horse and he's going to fucking know my body and know what I mean. Because I didn't know. I wasn't told. I knew sex education. I was like and then I kept not having orgasms. I used to always fake orgasms before this became like my career because I was like, this has got to be part of this.

So if I tell you that that you are responsible, so and then watch your mind fuck, like, I think a lot of people are like about they don't know, they don't know how and how would they know.

If you don't know, why do they know.

Right. How do you literally. Nobody knows. You don't know. How does he know.

And if you put a hundred women in a room right now and they were all organs, let's say they were all masturbating, OK, hundred women, they would all be doing something a little bit different. It doesn't look the same in their vulvas.

Don't look the same. And we all want something different. And so my heart goes out to men who feel like the way they have to make the moves if initiative to go take responsibility for your orgasm.

First and foremost, if anyone's going to do it, you can do it yourself. And I'm used. Make jokes about be like take a mirror and go put it down on your vagina and take care of it yourself. Do you even know what your vagina looks like? Did you pick it out of a lineup? If I put your vagina on a wall that, you know, would you know? If you can't, then you are like failing. Like, come on, girls, you got to get.

That's your best friend. Your be adviser. Yeah. And so, girls, it's like learn your own body and like, oh, I know how to make myself calm when I'm in my room, then then we transition to the bedroom with a man so much easier, so much easier. And then he's going to be psyched to be like, oh, great, you're going to show me awesome. And we think that they're not because we want to give them all the power and not just the patriarchy.

That's how we were raised. But that is not the reality of great sex. Now, for some women, they just can't. And you attaboys awesome lube is important. I'm telling you, you know, I could rant and live forever.

Yes, you always do. But every night stand is my dream. Like, leave it out. Take it from one of the gods. So people so awkward about lube on here. Why?

Because. Because we are told. Because. Why is your passenger not you're not wet and if you're pussies that wet my dicks not big enough if you're pussy. If I did so then you're not turned on.

Don't know you're not turned on and has nothing to do with that. So a women's wetness level like I could be super wet and not turned on. I could be so fucking turned on and dry as the Sahara and it's like what the fuck. I swear I'm turned off.

I swear if you have a lube on your nightstand just sitting there and you take a pump and before any before masturbation, I hand up a blowjob, oral sex, a few drops of lube and you rub it into your clitoris, you can rub it on penis.

Yeah.

There's no shame in the game at all. You know, about Emily coming with the facts today, Drew.

True. I love the institute. Did a study that showed when lube was out and this was like five years ago, women were eighty percent more likely to orgasm, just jobs week on their clitoris.

Is everyone listening? Are you guys listening? And press pause and take a fat no, that's go by yourself.

Lube So then you got to think about if you've tried this, you've tried your fingers, your hands. Women try the showerhead. They are toys and so does it work does a few factors. It could be in your head. There could be like shame we already covered. Like it could be really. It could be. You think it's wrong? Anxiety, stress. You're worried about it. You're obsessing about it and it won't happen. It could be medication.

If you're taking antidepressants, antidepressants have a huge impact on your libido, even birth control pill. So, like, check all those boxes is here's the other thing is it's not all about orgasm, but the majority of women do not orgasm with penetration. Only twenty percent do think that is, in fact, a serious.

And twenty percent of women have an orgasm with a penis. And you're like, why didn't I know that? Because everything we see in movies and in the sticks at it and she's like, oh, I just had an orgasm.

It doesn't happen. Even watching her clit, when I say I'm like, you're nowhere near anything that's not feel good. Exactly. So I just know that we're not set up for success sexually as women. It's like we constantly feel like I remember like even guys going down to me or like during sex, I'm like staring at the clock. I'm like, OK, he's going down to me. It's been eight minutes and I'm right. It coming at us like it takes.

There's an orgasm gap too, because guys come between six and ten minutes. Women are like between 20 and 40 minutes.

So know that time. That's amazing. Yeah. It's true that on the fucking put it out in your notes, women do not feel shame that it takes no longer. And that is why men have to understand you need foreplay. We need some t yeah. We need some kissing. We need some looking. You need to be put in work on her time before she can even get close to having an orgasm. It's not about pounding away. No, I'm not pound away.

We do not need the pound pound. I mean the jackhammer. Don't know how my vagina I don't seem like oh OK. Now I've got to oh like just remember that like women are like a slow cooker, right.

Like if you warm her up in a men's like a frying pan you Roxy Music. Alex, you're so hot. I've got this erection. Thirty seconds.

Like OK, thanks. Did you walk in. Right. Glad you're here. That's just how it works. And that's actually such a good analogy.

Like we are the oven, they are frying pan and it is we're on two different timetables. So men need to understand that. And women, you need to understand that and not be stressed to try to be a guy trying to find that you're forever be a frying pan.

So this is the oh, this is going back to the vulva versus the vagina is that they're not equal. So we're told, oh, sexual organ, vagina, penis. But really, it should be penis vulva, because if I'm telling you that twenty percent of women are not going to orgasm that way, but it's going to happen externally. The vulva is the exterior part of the vagina. It's everything that you see. And that is where the magic happens.

Magic Glitter says 8000 nerve endings.

A penis has four thousand. Let's only four thousand have. So the clitoris is eight. And let me tell you this, ready? The clitoris is not just the little bulb. The clitoris has legs and those legs extend into the labia. So the labia, the labia are.

So when we're talking about masturbation us, you want to not just go right for the clitoris, you want to, like, stroke your labia, inner outer labia, that there's clitoral nerves internally that are behind, like you can't see them, but it's about teasing it and stroke. And playing with, like, different hat tapping, circular motion, and then you can move your fingers inside, but for a lot of women, it's just external and that's fine, too.

That felt like an inferior orgasm.

That is so brilliant, too, because I think so many girls are like, OK, yes, you said the clip. So I'm going to go over the cliff and you just put the vibration on your clients like girls.

No, you need to for me to open literally foreplay yourself before you get to the clit like the clit is the castle and you're going up to the castle.

And first you're focusing on the what do you call it, the just know that there's a lot of erectile tissue that goes inside and outside and it's all connected and just find where your eyes are. But first, if you want to go in like what we're talking about masturbation, like you're saying, like the best things get curious, like how does everything feel? Because you might find that, like teasing yourself, like you're saying before you get to the castle.

What's the moat like? Like, oh, let's go over the bridge. Let's look at the animals. There's a dragon like we're going to look and like you realize like you're teasing your inner thighs, like you're going up there slowly. And then that part of it is a kind of like an edging for women who are building towards the orgasm. That might be the part that turns you on. So when you go right for the clit, it's painful.

And so you can explore. I love the mere thing because here's the other cool thing about a mirror. If you touch yourself and you look, you'll be like, oh, when I start to get aroused, the blood starts like it gets ignored. Like your uterus, the federal hood moves back. You're like, oh, it's hot. Like, look at my body.

I can see what's happening. Like, and then I've been telling that to a boyfriend. It's like, do you see that? He's like, oh, that's really hot. And then he got into making that happen. They can only wait. That is role that I enroll the date.

So you start him into your like be like, look babe, my clitoris, when you touch it, like it gets swelled and this happens. That's because of you. Like this is how you do it.

Oh yeah. Wait, that is so hot. So would you start to like, touch yourself first. Yeah.

Show him you're like, look, this is what I need. Yeah.

Because I know he doesn't know how and how should they, how should I know. Scary to a man and he's like that. Look the Rubik's Cube of like I don't fucking know what it's like.

I want to do everything to it. I want to make it feel great. I don't know where to start. I know there's a hole and I'm just like going to try to get in there. It's not about the hole. It's about the vulva. Exactly.

No commercial break for an opportunity to look down at your fucking pants and let me know. Let me fucking know who's wearing khakis. Who the fuck is wearing khakis today? Take them off, Alex. I'm in public. Don't care. Take them the fuck off, guys. We don't wear khakis here. Don't call her daddy if you have to for your work, fine. But out of the fucking workplace, there is no exception. Guys, stitch, fix.

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OK, this is the next big question. The advice on the varying sex drives in a relationship, one person is constantly probably going to have a higher sex drive than the other.

Exactly why desire their desire? So in every relationship there is a high desire partner and a low desire partner. So as long as we accept that, like, OK, at the beginning, the honeymoon phase, everyone wants sex all the time. Right? But eventually it sort itself out. And typically it's not always a man people. I used to think that too.

I went before I had, you know, career. It was like women are frigid. Men want sex all the time right now.

Well, true. It's women as men. You hear all of it. Yeah. So knowing that you just got to work with it because there's always going to be somewhere in the low desire partner has the power because they're the gatekeeper to the sex. So they're deciding if it's going to happen or not.

If your party wants it every day and you don't, then you literally have to negotiate, OK, three and half times a week and then maybe but maybe some other days it's not it's mutual masturbation. So you both get off or it's just a massage or it's nothing but like that's OK. But it's setting expectations because if someone wants it every day and you know you don't, that's OK. But we don't talk about it, then it becomes so tense that men and it's like what happened to them.

That can be a really odd dynamic, because if you're the one who's always wanting going after it and your partner's like, no, and then you feel rejected and then it's gets really, really, really bad.

Have any advice for women that, like I have a lot of women writing and being like, why am I just like never horny? I'm like, how do we even tell?

You know, OK, OK, so listen here, girl. It's seriously because we don't understand what turns arousal because we are still equating our arousal to the frying pan. The frying pan walks in, sees hot Alexander computer and he's got an erection that's like enormous in your lab.

I was just finishing up an email.

I didn't see you walk in like high level men are more spontaneous arousal when they see you. They're not the majority of women. Hear this. Write this down. The majority of women are not going to spontaneously be turned aroused our job, then again, going back to our self understanding, well, what does get me in the mood? What's for some women?

They're like, well, when he told me I was really hot or he did the dishes, he did this favor for me. He bought me this really cool gift. We were on vacation, like, figure out all the things that need to happen. What watching porn together, exchanging fantasies. If you have not been having orgasms in your entire sex life, has been based on pleasing your partner. I wouldn't want sex either. Yeah, what the hell are you getting out of it?

Right. So once you take a course and yeah. Once you're like, I'm going to wear that thing that makes me feel sexy.

I'm going to masturbate before I'm going to have my toy charged. I'm going to set the environment that makes me like have a few glasses of wine or one glass.

Whatever makes you get hammered, don't get hammered. That doesn't we think it does, but it's inhibitions are gone. And then we try. We black out.

But I also like sex. But sometimes a glass of wine does help. Glass of wine.

I like your mom, whatever. Like a hit or whatever. Yes. And I'm not I'm just saying what works for you, but mostly it's in our heads and you don't need any substance. You just need to do a little work to figure out what is that.

And it's so true. Men are so visual. He can walk in the room like, oh my God, Alex, you're wearing those leggings. I have the biggest boner.

And I'm like, what is like hot? So I'm like, wait, what? And women you. That's such an amazing way to look at it. It's like what turns you on? And I've said on my show before, like, I literally get turned on when I'm taking nudes. When you're taking pictures of yourself and you are looking at angles of your body and you're like putting on lingerie or a cute little outfit like you start to feel hot.

Yeah. And then naturally, if you are someone that has figured their self out, you're masturbating and you know what you like and you're taking pictures, all of a sudden maybe you get on your bed, maybe you start masturbating. So if that turns you on, then transitioning that to your sex life. OK, well, if you know he's going to come home soon, why don't you start taking pictures or maybe you send him one and then maybe you start masturbating before he gets home.

And like, you need to learn what you like and you build up to it.

And role-Play, too, you can even be like, let's let's do something. Let's recreate our first date. Let's meet a bar and change names like there's so many little things you could do.

I want to ask you about role play, how so many women are in their heads. They're like, I'm sorry. I feel like a fucking weirdo to be like, babe, like I'm going to pretend to be like your little yeah. Slave, whatever.

And it's like, how do you even initiate turning on that, like, different part of yourself and having the guy engage in like what do we say, what do we do? Like how do you even go about kind of get out?

Well, first again, it's all talking about it like these are the fun things to be outside the bedroom, be like, I thought this would be hot. And then you just think like, let's go shopping for costumes or let's just pull something out of the closet, like what would be hot and then it could be awkward at first. It's weird every time we try something you but then you realize something really interesting happens. Once you get past the giggling or it's weird and you keep going, then you're like, I actually am a French maid and you actually did just get into your room.

And what would the French may do. Yeah. Schoolgirl's And then you can just sort of leave yourself and be someone else and there's someone else. And then that becomes interesting. Yes. Rather then I'm fucking the same person staring at the same ceiling, boring thing. So you just kind of realize that sex is funny, messy, weird, all the things.

This is my favorite question. And Emily, I'm ready to hear what you have to say cause OK, everyone in the Jodi gang listening.

Here we go. No one, can you teach yourself to squirt? Number two, what the fuck is the liquid that comes out when you were what is it? What is going on?

OK. Pretty much you could you could teach yourself to squirt, but I'm not proud of that you up for failure, but it's all internal stimulation, internal control, nerves you could do with a finger, a toy or a penis. I have to say that it's probably best with the toy or penis or your partner's fingers. Things like Langerhans went wrong, right? First off, it helps to again, like I said, like, have that be aroused, be turned on already, have a little orgasm empty.

Your bladder will address that part after your bladder, girls. So so then it is like a it's a continued penetration into your vagina and it's in one spot and it's not a it's sort of a going in and out. Phaedo thrusting and sort of hitting a one spot. And it's also like a little bit slower though. It's not even a fast it's sort of like a hitting a spot, hitting a spot slower. And and then eventually you can start to speed it up.

But it's like a particular area, not a spot. And once you do that, it also helps to be your pubic mound is the area right above the Mons pubis, right above your clitoris.

I wish I had my vulva puppet, this little puppet I had a little bit of. Oh, my God, I love that.

I have to get you one right above your. So this area. Right. We were like pubic hair was or is or whatever you pressing on that. And here's what happens when you press on that area. In addition to the internal stimulation, you are stimulating the internal like clitoral nerves, which is what's the G spot will just say is responsible for that kind of release, because some people can use like a wand vibrator, like a magic wand, and they can squirt that way.

Right. And that's because you're stimulating it from the outside. OK, but for most of us, it's just a practice. It's, again, not going to happen the first time.

And I don't ever want to say that. Yes, everyone can squirt. But it's also another thing that helps is doing your kegel exercises strong pelvic floor. Yes. And men can do them to just say yes, same way as women.

It's those stopping muscles. And they're great for men, too, who have P.E. premature ejaculation. Have you last longer?

Your pelvic floor muscles are the muscles that are responsible for the contractions in the orgasm.

So if you strengthen them, they're more you're more likely to have an orgasm. And I found when those muscles are strong, it can help have stronger what was it, a stronger second release the muscles moving in the right response, I guess, for squirting. And so that's how it can happen. And if your muscles are the reason why, say, your pelvic floor strong, because think about like that's the releasing so you could have stronger muscles to kind of push it out.

What are we pushing out that we want to know?

Yeah. What is the. So everyone wants to know if it's urine. And first I have to say who the fuck cares.

Yeah. Like who really cares about you. Get down, put a towel down. It doesn't matter.

There are traces of urine and it's from the para urethral glands.

It's carrying Perrier, which we have never uses big words. I call her daddy. I am loving that. It's so funny that I actually feel like a meital.

I use the basic I funny, but I like pee on him and everyone's like, Alex, stop and talk to me.

I don't give a fuck, I don't give her a thing. I don't care either. It's people like Oh but it is. It has traces of it. It's like fluids in there and they've done studies, they've done there is urine, it's commingled. But I'm kind of like if it feels good and it's a release, right.

And it can be hot, throw a towel down like you do it in the shower. Yeah. Although still tripped up on it because that's when we're like, oh it's gross.

And I get it, it can be messy but again to the floor, take it to shower.

I love the pushing down on the pubic region that is helps with orgasm too.

That's a nice wording. So because I just found stuff because that's what I used to do to orgasm, I was like pressing on even before the whole squirting thing with porn and everything. No one asked about squirting like ten years ago, but it's porn. So again, if you can't squirt, it doesn't matter. Yeah, you're fine. There's nothing wrong with you. And when you squirt, it's not always an orgasm necessarily.

You can orgasm that squirt squirt, not orgasm.

So when you're pressing on this, it's still you're still reaching all these clitoral nerves that are internal. You're like, so yeah, try pressing on it next time. And also, like having a finger on it and then pressing down can also help you.

I feel like we just covered the sex marathon. We just went through a sex marathon. Emily was like, I feel smarter, I feel more confident, I feel horny, I'm ready to go have sex. I'm like, let's go. But thank you so much for coming on. Plug yourself. Tell us where we can find you.

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Mike track juancho my truck truck truck driver, all work truck one to trucks. Oh, fuck. Do not ever desire me that you don't like this motherfucker. Secondly, because you know what it does to me, you know what it fucking does to me. It makes me want to go ten times fuckin harder than I used to do.

Do you? GOOLIES. Oh, oh, oh, it's just like bye bye.

Oh, quite. One mother and like, bye bye, huh. Let's get right into it. We've got a Daddy King question right in front of my face, and I'm going to read it for you. Are you guys ready? Great. OK. Father Cooper, bless my fucking soul and help me. I live with three other women on my college campus in our dorm. We're all freshmen and all these bitches have boyfriends except me. I feel low key fucking pressure to have a boyfriend, but I'm talking to four guys and they don't know that.

But these pussy ass men aren't really engaging for my liking. Like maybe two are up to par, but none of them fully stepping up to bat yet. Do I even need a boyfriend? Am I doing something wrong? I don't fucking know. Please help.

OK, you know, you do not need a boyfriend. Freshman year of college. If you have a boyfriend, you're a fucking loser. No, I'm just kidding. Well, it's questionable.

I think that every girl I knew that had a boyfriend their freshman year of college, they didn't have that boyfriend very soon after, like no one with a boyfriend their freshman year of fucking college. They're not even having fucking fun. You have the opportunity. If anything, they're jealous. Fuck of you for like having fun and going around. If I was you, though, I would start to venture out and try to find more girlfriends that don't have boyfriends because I could see if all three of them have boyfriends.

You're going to start to just be like, what am I doing? But the minute that you open your eyes to like girls that are also single in college, all of a sudden you're like, I genuinely feel bad for my roommates and like I want to help them escape the life of fucking whore. That's like straight up. Like I remember two of my girlfriends in college started freshman year with boyfriends, and they always talk about how they look back freshman year and they're so jealous of how we all went.

Even if you're not hooking up with guys, just going to parties and having fun, you got to venture out and find people that don't have boyfriends and then your poor fucking friends. One day one of them is going to crack and be like, I need to end my relationship. I'm so jealous of your life, like, please help me. And then the other two will follow suit and then all of a sudden they're going to want to be fucking single.

That's just how college goes. But no freshman year.

Fuck that. Oh, this is interesting. Hey, Alex, I love the podcast. Recently I hooked up with a guy and I am 99 percent positive that he took a video without my permission while I was sucking his dick. I want the video gone, but I don't want to see him again. How do I ask him to delete the video and make sure it's really gone? Love you.

Oh, child. Whoa, oh, whoa. This is. Oh fuck. Do you guys remember. Oh, that was so fucking long ago. I will never forget. I had a guy that I was seeing and I was super, super fucking close with and I was we were both fucked up giving him head and I was just so drunk, you know, when like I wasn't doing the whole eye contact shit that I preach, like I was fucking black out of my mind.

I was just trying to focus on one thing and one thing only the fucking dick. Finally I finished giving him head and like not an ounce of eye contact, like literally I and it's almost like I didn't even notice I wasn't even given full eye contact until we're like both passing out. But we ordered Uber eats and it's taking so long. So he gives me his phone call, really phone basically like dating.

He gives me his phone because he's like, babe, I mean like fall asleep and I take his phone to go get the Uber eats and I don't know why, but I just opened his camera roll probably to seeing this was years ago, I think it was I was literally looking for old girls nudes and I found I found I the last thing in his fucking camera roll was a picture of me sucking his dick. And I was mortified. And I, like, walked in the fucking room and threw the phone at him.

And I was like, what the fuck is this? And he started crying.

And he was like, I'm sorry. Like, I just don't see you that often. And, like, I just wanted to, like, remember it, drug or whatever. And it was a really it was a really violating experience.

However, I obviously deleted it from his phone and like he was like, of course, of course you're in a weird predicament. Sorry, that was fucking lengthy, but you're in a weird predicament because this asshole you're saying you don't want to fucking see him again. So it's like, how do you go about this? A part of me almost feels as though I would suck it up and fake. Want to see him one more times. You can get that motherfucker in person and sit in the room with him and literally get his fucking phone and be like, I am literally calling the police, open your fucking phone and show me you're deleting this video.

And I'm not fucking around with you and I'm that fucking crazy. I am a fucking crazy psycho bitch. And if you don't give me your fucking phone and I want to see you delete it not only from your fucking camera roll, but then we need to go into your deleted and let's delete it from the deleted app. Let's fucking go. I think you go ape shit on his fucking face. But first you got to be endearing and cute and sweet.

Get him in person and then out of your fucking mind. So my girlfriend of three years just suddenly broke up with me and the excuse was that we were living too far away. Fifty miles L'Oréal.

And I recently found out that she was soliciting nudes to her ex and talking to him a bunch while we were still dating. I also remember her passwords to her Snapchat and Instagram. So, like, should I go deeper on this topic, by the way? I haven't logged into either. I'm not that crazy yet. Or should I ghost block an eraser from every social media platform and delete all photos of us or just keep her on social media and try to make her jealous for revenge?

Also side a side note. The relationship wasn't toxic at all. That is until I found out about the news. And now I realize she's worthless to me and she's going to a big party college. So I don't have any intentions of getting back with her.

OK, let's just for a minute, let's say her name is Josh. Josh, Josh, let's just kind of reel it in for a minute. If you are saying this girl's worthless to you and you didn't even see a future, I do not think it is necessary to put yourself through any more of going through her Instagram and her Snapchat. You just found out about the news. What more do you have to see, if anything, that's just going to be twisting the knife harder and you're just going to be like, oh, fuck, and you're going to feel ten times more shitty, especially because you're saying at the time it wasn't an unhealthy relationship.

So if I were, you assume yes, there's probably a shit, a shit ton more on the Snapchat, on the Instagram accounts. But for what? Why are you going to go look at that shit and it's just going to hurt you more? Anyone listening to this, if you're like, but I didn't even see a future with them, then end it in your mind. You got to just walk away from it. Why keep the pain going?

And I don't even think I would like block her. Like, I think you can follow her on social media because you don't want to see her everyday shit. But to block someone is a calculated point to make. And I almost think it's like she's not even worth it. She's fucking around on you and she's sending nudes to her ex, like let them be together. Also, what does that say about her? Because if it is her ex, it was an ex for a reason.

Now she's going back. So like, good luck to them. But like, I think you just you walk away because it's also kind of this ties into another question. Someone was like, I just got out of a three year relationship and I unfollowed him on Instagram because I have no desire to see his face again. But should I block him or is it good for him to see me? Still unsure. See, this is a shit. I think it's more painful to the other person if you don't block them, like unfollow obviously the person, but like if you don't have to block them, like if he wasn't crazy or she wasn't crazy and she's trying to like, ruin your life, obviously, then you're going to block them.

But for the most part, I got to think, like, let them let him or her, let them like, look you up occasionally, like let them be in pain while you move on. Like, I think it's better to sometimes not block them because it's like no, what. Look at my face. Look at this smile that I just posted on my fucking Instagram. I'm happy. Hey, Daddy. Last year I got out of super toxic relationship and I met someone new.

He was hot, older and everything I didn't have in my last relationship after six months, although it could it couldn't have been better. I didn't make time for him. Two months later, he got a girlfriend and was texting me, telling me how he's not over me. I told him to figure his shit out, but eventually I started entertaining him, sending him nudes. We got to talking about getting back together. He hasn't left her, but I think he would.

It's just because he doesn't know if I would make time for him again, what would daddy do? All right, here's the thing. I think you need to figure out what you want. You're like and I told him to figure it out. No, I think you need to figure out what you want. You guys have this great connection. But he scared because you just never make time for him. You don't make enough for. Well, are you going to do it now?

Think about it, what is the point of entertaining this guy? Do you just want him because you can't have him right now? Trust me, I'm not being judged. I have had a lot of guys where I like them way more when all of a sudden I see that they've kind of moved on. And then I'm like, oh, I want you again. But I've gotten mature enough, as with age, that I've learned, like, OK, now walk yourself through the situation.

And that's what my favorite thing to do. Let's all walk through it together. Hold hands, Daddy gang. Hello. Let's walk through this. OK, he has a new girlfriend.

OK, so now let's pretend he's single. What is going to be different than the last time when you didn't make time for him? Do you really like this guy or is it more of a game to you? And it's fun because not that listen, you can do whatever you want, but to not be an asshole. My advice would be like, don't make him break up with his girl. And then all of a sudden it's like round two and you're doing pulling the same shit because that's not fucking you.

If he leaves her, are you going to be happy or are you going to be like, fuck we fuck, get back with her? I don't even have time. I just like texting you when you have a girlfriend.

All right, let's do one more. I know this has been a little bit of a long episode, but hopefully you guys don't hate me for it.

You're like Alex, were so sick of your voice, please, please exit stage left. No one more. OK, this girl says high single father. Thank you for all you've done for my sex life. Hope you can help me out again. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and I want to try something new. I want to surprise him by waking him up with head for a middle of the night. Fuck. Normally I just ask if he's into it, but I want to completely catch him off guard.

Creepy. Questionmark, hot, questionmark. Do I start sucking his dick while he's asleep? Questionmark. Thank you for all that you do for the daddy. I love you lot. OK, this is just honestly a question that fills my soul with joy.

In the past I have said that the surprise blowjob is the one that will truly take a man from being even if he's not in love to in love. If he's in love, he's like, baby, let's get married tonight. There's nothing better. Here's the thing. Also, though, I don't want people coming. For me, being like that is literally sexual assault. And you can't just go ahead and just start sucking a man's dick. If it is your boyfriend, fucking do it.

Here's what you fucking do. Yes, you start sucking his dick. But I think what you can do is when a man is asleep, you can kind of put your hand down there and just start rubbing his dick like I know it's going to be soft and it feels maybe weird for like two seconds, but usually when they're asleep, they don't even subconsciously know it. But all of a sudden their penis will go from six to midnight and it will be an amazing opportunity.

And then you literally put your head down there and you start sucking. Have I sucked a soft penis hard? Yes. Is it the most rewarding, fulfilling feeling in the world when you be like I did that like he didn't even fully do? I did that from start to fucking finish. It's an amazing feeling. So, Dad, if I were you and you're a two year relationship and you are like this with your boyfriend where you want to spice shit up, perhaps a fucking mutely duck under the fucking covers, put the little soft lean in your fucking mouth, pop it in there like it's a fucking gumball and go to town.

Sweetheart, there is no shame in the fucking dick game inside of your mouth and you sucking the soul out of it.

All right, Daddy fucking king. That is it for this week, folks. I mean, the personal growth. I hope you guys learn something. I hope you guys feel a little healthier. Emily was amazing to just have on. I think we were able to hit some topics that I personally, you know, sometimes you're all like Alex, we don't really kind of listen more for the comedic aspect of it than the actual advice. Totally fair. Totally fair.

I can respect that, too. I agree, but I respect it. Daddy saying I love you guys. Go follow me on Instagram. It's Alexandra Cooper. Go all call her daddy and Instagram. And I hope you guys have a great fucking Wednesday. It's always a great day when it's Wednesday. Also, let me know what you guys want for comedy content. You know, you slide in, you let me know what you big dogs want and I will fucking try to make it happen.

You guys know the motherfucking drill. I will see you fuckers next.