On My Divorce: Chapter 1
Just B Divorced with Bethenny Frankel- 891 views
- 11 Apr 2024
Introducing Just B Divorced. Just B Divorced is the deconstruction of a decade long divorce. Ten years after her divorce nightmare began, Bethenny Frankel is ready to tell her story. Bethenny is an unintentional expert on divorce. The time has finally come for her to share her story, her wisdom (heartache and pain) about this topic that most of us know all too well. The only thing that got her through the worst time of her life was the thought of helping people to never have to endure what she has.This series is a cautionary tale for anyone who has been, is or will ever be in a relationship. This is a must listen for anyone and everyone going through it. If you’re on the verge of divorce or a breakup, or on the path to love, the wisdom you will gain could prevent years of grief and suffering. If 50% of us will get divorced, let’s arm ourselves with this knowledge now to thrive when it happens or avoid it if at all possible.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Imagine you're a fly on the wall at a dinner between the Mafia, the CIA, and the KGB. That's where my new podcast begins. This is Neil Strauss, host of To Live and Die in LA. I wanted to quickly tell you about an intense new series about a dangerous a spy, taught to seduce men for their secrets and sometimes, their lives. From Tenderfoot TV, this is To Die For. To Die For is available now. Listen for free on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
My whole life, I've been told this one story about my family, about how my great great grandmother was killed by the Mafia back in Sicily. I was never sure if it was true, so I decided to find out. Even though my uncle Jimmy told me I'd only be making the vendetta worse, I'm going to Sicily anyway. Come to Italy with me to solve this 100-year-old murder mystery. Listen to the Sicilian Inheritance on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
So I am going to talk about something that I've never talked about and that nobody knows about. My 10-year divorce on a two-year marriage. Now, have I discussed my divorce in little pieces and have I discussed divorce in general? And have there been breadcrumbs? Yes. Has the media written about my divorce ad nauseam? Yes. Have excerpts from the multiple years that I was in court? Have you ever come out, out of context in different publications and been analyzed and attempted to be interpreted? Yes. But have I ever really spoken about my divorce from my perspective and how it all went down, no. There are many reasons for that. One was that I was on a gag order. I felt stifled by certain things that I had to sign at certain periods to get things done and to stop the bleeding. I later felt fraudulent in not sharing certain experiences. I also felt conflicted because I felt like I have a daughter, and I don't want to put her at risk in any way emotionally. I wanted to keep certain things private. And that's my primary concern is being a mother and my daughter. That being said, being a woman who speaks out about things that happen that other women are going through, is really important.
I mean, women experience abuse and torture and divorce and confusion and financial despair and discrimination and a lot of things. A lot of bad things happen during breakups and divorce. I mean, we've heard crazy stories from different celebrities, and you read the headlines. But divorce, there was a debate on the housewives about divorce versus death, and them being compared, and I've experienced both. Divorce, for me, was more torturous, was a worse experience. That's a big statement because I experienced someone very close to me dying, and it was really horrific. But nothing will ever be in my entire life as torturous as my divorce. I grew up in a... I mean, I've experienced drugs and gambling, and guns, and abuse, and watching people get beaten the shit out of and hospitalized. I've seen people try to take their own life. I've seen pretty bad shit. I mean, I've seen really bad shit. There's nothing that will ever compare to my divorce and what it was like. It was by far the worst experience of my life. I thought I would never survive it. I did not see a way out. It was suffocating. I thought I was going to be miserable for the rest of my life.
I thought I was going to have a terrible life. I could not see out of it. I literally could not see out of it. I, at the time that I could not see out of it, was a well-known, wealthy, powerful, successful, attractive, smart woman with a whole big career ahead of her. Imagine what a person who doesn't have all those things going for them goes through and feels like. The power struggle, the manipulation. There's so many things that go on. And while the world really, really focuses so much on the fairytale and the dress and the get the ring, and get the guy, and get the married, and get the partner, and all of these things, and watches celebrities promote their relationships and show us all the good and never show us the bad and show us the rise to romance and never, and then it's respect our privacy during this challenging time. I feel that there's a responsibility to tell the story of what the fuck went down because it's not that common to have a 10-year divorce on any length of marriage, much less a two-year marriage. And I certainly didn't walk into this thinking that this was going to happen.
And I had a therapist in the beginning say to me, This is a divorce. It's a garden variety divorce. You're getting divorced. And then I had the same therapist, multiple therapists and lawyers, say that they have never, ever in their entire careers seen anything like what went down in divorce. It was anything but garden variety. They said that this was mental and emotional torture, what I went through. I'm discussing it from my perspective, and I'm not here to trash anybody because it does no good. This is not an anger train. If I was so angry, it would have been years ago when I actually had the anger and was so helpless. It's not that. It's more like this was an experience that I've hidden because I felt that I couldn't speak out because of a gag order for a certain period of time. And then I felt that I shouldn't speak out because of my daughter. My daughter knows all about this, and we talk about it a lot, and I'm not doing anything that is even remotely damaging to my daughter. I don't have to explain why I know that and why I vetted that, but I can tell you with great certainty, and you know I'm a pretty thorough and methodical person, that I am speaking about this thoughtfully and carefully, but responsibly.
And the story needs to be told.
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Thank you for taking the light, and you're going to shine it all over the world, and it makes me really happy.
I never imagined that I would get the chance to carry this honor and help be a part of this I can see.
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This is Neil Strauss, host of the Tenderfoot TV True Crime podcast, To Live and Die in LA. I'm here to tell you about the new podcast I've been undercover investigating for the last year and a half. It's called To Die For. Here's a clip.
All these girls were sent out into the world and they were told, Try When you meet important men, try to attach yourself to important men.
The voice you're hearing is a Russian model agent telling me about spies sent out to seduce men with political power.
The war in Ukraine is also being fought by all these girls that are all over important cities.
For the first time, a military-trained seduction spy reveals how the Russian government turned sex and love into a deadly weapon. If you want to kill your target, it's easy. You just seduce him, take him somewhere, start having sex, and then he's very vulnerable, so you can kill him easily. To Die For is available now. Listen for free on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
I never thought I'd take my three young kids to Sicily to solve a century-old mystery, but that's what I'm doing in my new podcast, The Sicilian Inheritance. Since. Join us as we travel thousands of miles on the beautiful and crazy island of Sicily as I trace my roots back through a mystery for the ages and untangle clues within my family's origin story, which has morphed like a game of telephone through the generations. Was our family matriarch killed in a land deal gone wrong? Or was it by the Sicilian Mafia? A lovers quarrel? Or was she, as my father believed, a witch? Listen to the Sicilian Inheritance on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
When I've talked about divorce in just little snippets, whether it's on TikTok or Instagram or on here, about the 15 notebooks that I have right now in a storage facility that were the reason that I ended up getting primary custody of my child and ending a 10-year harrowing, torturous situation, the downloads and the views were astronomical, and people are desperate for help, and people can't afford the legal help that I had. You got to understand, I had the resources, and I was a powerless, tortured individual. I cannot imagine what someone who has no money or power or resources goes through. It used to be the only thing that kept me going during this divorce to say, One day, I will hopefully get out of this and be able to help somebody else. So it took a long time before I was ready to do that, and it's years after it. Ironically, it's not that many years after it was finalized, but it's years after it started, and now I'm finally ready, and this is the place I'm going to do it. So I don't know how many parts this will be off the top of my head.
I think maybe 10 parts on 10 years. It could It could be 25 parts. It could be years. There's so many things that happened. I can't explain. I went through forensic psychologist. I went through financial forensic analysis. I went through parenting coordinators, lawyers, multiple trials. I dealt with fraud. I dealt with forgery. I dealt with being followed. I dealt with being allegedly being hacked. I'm saying words in a certain way, but I dealt with court appeals. I dealt with my apartment, which I believed was my own, to one day finding out that There was documentation that was not properly and legally executed that led people to believe that my apartment was not my own for several years until I became my own detective and figured out how to clarify that. I mean, I've spent months and years in court. I've dealt with my daughter having her own lawyer. It's called a Guardian Adlitum. I've dealt with multiple trials on custody to eventually get decision making and then finally get primary custody. I have been through a fucking war, a war. I have questioned myself as a human, as a parent, because I was told so many times otherwise how terrible I was and disgusting and old and irrelevant and so abused because I had no power to get out of it.
I have had my child withheld. I have had every single fucking thing except for physical abuse done to me. I am an expert on this topic. An expert on this topic. You can call Alan Maievsky and Roni Schindell and Heidi and ask them if I am an expert on this topic, if I could not be a divorce lawyer. Ask them. Insane. So I am ready to talk about something that has been impossible to talk about and that cannot be talked about in bite-sized pieces. It has to live and breathe, and it has to be explained how I arrived in that situation. And how a person who is so smart and so successful could make such poor judgment calls and decisions or just not know or just have a bad hand. But it's been a journey, so I'm ready to discuss it. I'm ready to help some people educate. You do not know what it's like until you go through it. Somehow I have to find the way to convey to people so they don't go through it. I just think I can do that. I think that I was born to do that in a way that people will not, from the very beginning of a relationship, that people will not get to where I've gotten to.
And it's why I have not gotten married again, or I'm not sure if I would ever get married again, or ever be legally bound to someone for anything other than a business contract. It just is insane to me in many ways. So I've been burned. I have massive trust issues, and I have post-traumatic stress disorder. It was literally the most traumatizing thing that I will hopefully ever go through in my life.
Bring a little optimism into your life with The Bright Side, a new daily podcast from Hello Sunshine, hosted by me, Danielle Robé, and Me, Simone Voice.
Every weekday, we're bringing you conversations about culture, the latest trends, inspiration, and so much more.
I am so excited about this podcast, The Bright Side. You guys are giving people a chance to shine a light on their lives, shine a light on a little advice that they want to share.
Listen to The Bright Side on America's number one podcast network, iHeart. Open your free iHeart app and search The Bright Side.
Imagine you're a fly on the wall at a dinner between the Mafia, the CIA, and the KGB. That's where my new podcast begins. This is Neil Strauss, host of To Live and Die in LA. I wanted to quickly tell you about an intense new series about a dangerous spy taught to seduce men for their secrets and sometimes, their lives. From Tenderfoot TV, this is To Die For. To Die For is available now. Listen for free on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
My whole life, I've been told this one story about my family, about how my great-great-grandmother was killed by the Mafia back in Sicily. I was never sure if it was true, so I decided to find out. Even though my uncle Jimmy told me I'd only be making the vendetta worse, I'm going to Sicily anyway. Come to Italy mystery. Listen to the Sicilian Inheritance on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.