God made just one more person just for you, but these days, every two years, he keeps making one more push.

If two happy people meet, then there can be something wonderful happening between them. If you just become laugh, not love somebody, then you will know the nature of love. Now, you know that the person you are representing. Oh, popularized it once happened. Sankaran believers at the family dinner. And when everybody settle down for dinner. He stood up at the table and announced, I am going to marry Lucy, who is just across the street.

I hope that's not the name of Christ, then the father said, what, you want to marry Lucy?

She has nothing. She's like a tramp. You're going to marry that Lucy. Motherson, what you're going to marry that Lucy, the uncle, uncles, always pitching in this kind of matters.

And Uncle Sam, what you could to marry that Lucy? Have you seen her hand? It looks fake. What are you going to marry Lucy? She's she's always painted. You're going to marry the painted woman.

The little boy. The nephew can't be left out. You said you were married, Lucy. She doesn't even know what is cricket. How can you marry her? Sankaran stood his ground and said, yes, I'm going to marry Lucy, everybody asked in one voice, Why? Is it because she has no family? There are no many opinions to battle with, so who is the right person?

I don't want to take away all the romance from your life.

But let me tell you this. There is no right person on this planet.

If you get into that kind of unrealistic mindset, I have found the right person or you will be soon disappointed.

You must understand there is no right person.

First thing is to see whether I am the right person. Yes, am I the right person? And there are no right people on this planet. If you understand, you have your nonsense. They have the nonsense. We cannot just nonsense. Nonsense.

One first and foremost thing is you bring yourself to your place where your experience of life is just pleasant by yourself. You're wonderful. Now let us see what gets drawn to this one. If you're really wonderful, things will happen in every way.

I'm saying and this whole thing is an American thing, that there is a soulmate somewhere. God made just one more person just for you. But these days, every two years, he keeps making one more push.

Obviously, God is making too many mistakes with you. Body needs to meet, understandable. Maybe psychologically, also, you need a mate, understandable, emotionally, you need a mate, a soul cannot need a mate, so soul doesn't need a mate, nor was some person made perfectly for you, OK?

If you invest a deep sense of involvement, something wonderful may happen.

Because of your involvement, not because the other person is fantastic, not even if you choose a fool, actually it's easy that way.

If they are not stupid, why would they come to you, first of all? No, no, I'm just being nasty. So even if you choose a fool, it doesn't matter if you involve yourself, it can turn out very beautiful. You chose the smartest person in the universe. It could be a disaster.

So do not think in terms of, you know, whatever this made for each other nonsense.

No, you choose the opposite, actually. But after some time, after a little bit of time, you slowly start expecting that, just like you.

This is a serious mistake because if one more person becomes just like you, you won't be able to bear with them for two days. Nobody's like you. And that's good. Don't look for sameness. Not necessarily because the difference you tango, not otherwise.

Our mothers have set amazing benchmark the moment you say mothers, they're giving a sound Ambiens of babies crying, Oh, look, there's the halo effect, I think.

Yeah. So they've set up quite a big benchmark of being an ideal life, however.

I are girls of my generation feel that we cannot be as good as wife.

Our mothers have been so should I feel that I am falling short in my personal life or should I feel that I'm not giving enough justice to my marriage once I'm married? How should I feel about this?

You know, our center in the United States is in Tennessee. Tennessee is one kind of state. Mary Makowski, that's not Romanian, right?

So Mary Makowski got married and after their honeymoon, they came home and she threatened him that she's going to make a dinner all by herself.

And so she she said she'll make dinner for the new husband and husband, came home from work and she served the dinner and he put it in his mouth.

And slowly he was chewing on it and went into profound talk. Then she was very excited about this dinner and she said the only two things my mother taught me how to cook the meatloaf and the apple pie.

Then he looked at her and said, Darling, which one is this? So your mother, your grandmother, how they made good wives, largely, it was believed the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

Today, your husband will call Obreht son, whatever, quick fix and this and that and Twiggy's and whatever. All right.

So you can make a good wife based on how your grandmother became a good wife. You can become a good wife based on how your mother became a good wife. Situations have changed.

Expectations have changed. It's not in the stomach anymore. For some, it's gone up into the head. For some is gone for the salt.

Yes, so you don't do that essentially what a husband and wife means is because you are not good.

Most people are not yet very few people in this world are geared to make this journey in life all by themselves. They're organized enough within themselves totally. They never feel anything missing in their life because they've made themselves like that.

But most people need somebody else to lean on either emotionally, psychologically. There are needs in a human being, physical needs, psychological needs, emotional need, maybe social needs, economic needs, variety of needs to fulfill these needs.

You want to find one person that you can depend on because it's very difficult.

You want to find one person who with whom you can share everything that you have, your body, mind, emotion and what works. So this is the idea, formalizing it is so that every time you get some little friction, you don't fall apart, so little tying up so that things don't fall apart very easily.

All right. Nothing else. The biggest mistake humanity made was they started saying marriages are made in heaven. That's why it's such a mess. Aren't you done here? If you see marriages that made between us and we took responsibility for who we are are we could have made it work.

But the damn thing is made in heaven, not suitable here. It's because it's alien stuff.

Everything is a mess because you think it's made elsewhere by somebody else.

If you understand it's made by you for your well-being to fulfill your needs and your purposes so that you can go through this journey of life with the least amount of trouble and friction, then you would handle it more responsibly, isn't it?

And according to contemporary needs, not how your grandmother did her marriage, you can't do it that way because the expectations and situations have completely altered themselves.

So if you hold somebody who is your friend and who is your need, you must understand you are in this relationship because you need maybe the other person also needs, but that's from their side. As far as you're concerned, you made this relationship because you need it badly, isn't it?

If you understand and you're always grateful for this, that somebody is fulfilling all your need, you would handle it well, you wouldn't make a misery out of it, but now you would think somebody else needs you.

Then you will make a mess out of it. You understand. You need it when the other person also needs to understand he needs it. Now, there is a question if you think, oh, you need me.

So I'm going to exploit you know, this is not about you squeezing happiness out of somebody or they're squeezing happiness out of you. If two happy people meet, then there can be something wonderful happening between them. But you are a misery and you think somebody else should be the source of your happiness. Well, it'll multiply. In this materialistic age, the real feeling of love is disappearing from my life, most of the love we receive from others and express to others is superficial.

How can we reinforce the real feeling of love in our own life and in others? Forget about others. If you if you learn to be loving by your own nature, not because of somebody else or something else. I know the question is coming from Facebook. There's an enormous possibility you can even allow those people who don't even exist. So I'm saying it's a tremendous possibility.

So if you just become love, not love somebody, then you will know the nature of life. If you love somebody, it's a fickle happening because no human being will happen 100 percent the way you want them. Every human being on this planet is going to disappoint you, believe me, not because they'll do something wrong, because nobody can fulfill the unrealistic expectations you have of them.

It's simply not possible. Have you been able to fulfill anybody's expectations? I'm asking you entirely.

Partially, but never entirely, isn't it?

Believe me, whoever comes, I want you to know the ideal people whom you worship when Christian knows that his wife's complained or that love is not a relationship.

A relationship is a different thing. Love is a certain sweetness of your emotion.

Whether you look at a tree or a dog or a man or a woman or a child or just in the sky, why can't you look at it lovingly?

Because it's not about loving the sky. It's about the sweetness of your emotion. If your emotions are sweet, whatever you look at, you look at it in a certain way. Right now, you have nasty emotions or whatever you look at, you look at it in a different way. So you have always associated with somebody. No, no, no. This is not about somebody. Love is not something that you do. It is something that you can become if you are willing.

You can become love. You can make good emotion into your very sweet space. You if you make if you make your body very pleasant, it becomes a pleasure. If you sit here, it can be a great pleasure just sitting here and breathing. If your mind becomes pleasant, we say this is joy. If your emotions become pleasant, we say this is love. If you very life energies become pleasant. We say this is blissful. This is ecstasy.

If your surroundings become pleasant, we call that success. Now you're calling your success with somebody as love that a mystic. You have a success story with somebody you calling that loud. Not that is actually success because that needs lots of management. But for you to be loving, there is no management. If you just make your emotions, treat your emotions are sweet and it's beautiful will be like this. It's not about anybody. If somebody comes, we can share it.

If nobody comes, you can sit here with your eyes closed and still be loving. What's the problem? It is not about somebody. It's not an action. It is not something that you do. It is something that you can become.