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I Have Daddy Issues ft. Violet Benson
Sofia with an F- 820 views
- 17 Dec 2020
Sofia is joined by the OG meme queen, Violet Benson aka @DADDYISSUES_! You know the meme you just tagged your BFF in saying “This is SO us”? She basically invented that. In this special episode, the girls talk about quarantine hookups, the Pencil Test, and why you should NOT let your boyfriend cum in you (he doesn’t like you). Sofia also calls Violet out on a potential business move that could’ve altered their friendship forever...
Make sure to catch Sofia on Violet’s podcast “Too Tired To Be Crazy”! Subscribe, rate, and review “Too Tired To Be Crazy” available on all platforms.
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I feel like, Violet, you've been the most requested guest. I am joined by Violet Benson. You might know her by her alter ego, Daddy Issues. Hi, Violet. How are you?
Hi. Thank you for having me on. You're welcome. It took it was like a journey to get here, but we're finally here.
By the way, Violet is one of my favorite names, really. I want to name my daughter Scarlet or Violet. What about Violet?
No. OK, so. All right.
So let's forget, that's my full name. Logistics Violet. Yeah, that's cool. Is you try.
I'm glad you have my Violet, but let me ask you to now. I'm like trying to backtrack. OK, so before we really like dive into the episode, you have the Oji Meem page. Because now there's a million, so many I know, right? And you had one I have been following daddy issues for how long have you had it? I feel like since its inception, I've had daddy issues for like six and a half years, I think now.
And it's so Oggi, that most people don't know. But I actually even have that issues trademarked. So, for example, like Demi Lovato, who's my friend now, when she when we didn't know each other, she actually had to she dedicated a song to me called Daddy Issues in order for me, to be honest, not to sue her because anyone they can use the term daddy issues. I can legally go after them. So it's that Oggi, what it's like, it's honestly kind of it's mind blowing to even to me.
OK, either you were able to get it trademarked. V So what did Demi like ask you. Can I use this for a song.
No she did. And she just like ended up going on different like new channels and dedicating it to me. I'm like, come on unit. You are like, oh I love this medium. I'm going to write the song for her. I knew wasn't the case, but I thought it was really sweet. We follow each other actually friends now, but this was a few years ago and I thought it was really cool. But that is how much it's such a brand.
They started with like a meme account to complete full on brand brand.
Well the name is fucking genius. I actually like want to talk about the name because daddy issues like do you how did you come up with that name. Do you feel like you have daddy issues or what. What's the deal. No, my God I love my dad so much.
Just kidding. I'm like I'm fucking riddled with daddy issues. So you just tell me the truth. There's no judgment.
No, I definitely have daddy issues. And I've talked about a lot in the maybe not enough, but I've talked about in the past.
But when I created daddy issues, I think the way in general, if I would give advice to women, how to start a brand now women or people in general, especially on social media, I think I think when you start something in the notion of being famous, that's usually when you can fail. But when you start, something comes from your heart or you actually genuine about it or it's always I feel like whenever I've started something that comes from a dark place, that's when it's succeeded.
But that is just for me, came from a very low, dark place in my life. I was an accountant and the women, my team were constantly making my life miserable because they were just so focused on my looks and for no reason. Like when I when I was I grew up getting bullied for my looks. I wasn't like you. And then when I got older, I grew into my looks and something.
I'm getting comments about my looks and above my brain or I work ethic like you can't win either way. Yes. And having daddy issues, I constantly had a need to be liked and loved anyway. So then am I like in high school I was like class clown, like the foreign girl in America but was still a class clown and I was nominated for that. So like in accounting, miss, trying so hard to make these women like me and they just couldn't.
They just didn't. And it broke me and I and when I say they believe me, like they were they were messing with my with my promotions, with my bonuses, like I could even grow anywhere. The company and I wanted to be a partner. Wow. Every day I would sit in my car and I would cry in my car and then I would walk in and I would like start my my my work. When I talk about being bullied, like one day I walked into the bathroom to pee really quick before my work started.
And when I sat in the stall, two of my coworkers, my managers walk in and they're talking shit about me. And I'm just sitting there listening to the stall. It was mean they finally walk out. I walk out of the bathroom in tears just like a movie. One of them had coffee in her hand. Then she actually bumped into me as I walk out of the bathroom and she spilled on me. So then I remember I had to go back into the car to change.
And then when I walked back in, she told the partner of I let us ten minutes late to work. And I was like, shut the fuck up.
When I said was defeated, it was one of my lowest moments and it takes a lot to break me. I'm Russian, right?
I fucking like that is like I. I mean, to be completely honest, I don't think I've ever dealt with bullying in that sense. And like. And you think it was just because you were a hot girl? I think it's because you are different.
No, I'm so different. No, I'm different. I'm not like other girls. No, it wasn't that. It's the way I the way I work. Sometimes I don't notice anyone else. Like, when I see a goal, it's tunnel vision. So I think I didn't acknowledge my bosses as much.
You didn't go out of your way to, like, become best friends with everybody? No, it was just me, like figuring out how to work with the partners and the senior level people. And it wasn't normally people my level don't work with senior partners, but I did got it.
So they were they all felt like you were coming for their jobs or whatever else. Yes.
And unfortunately, and it was a big public accounting firm. And unfortunately, in business and big companies in general, women do we do tend to sometimes try to break each other down because it's like, well, you need to go through it the way I went through it instead of picking it up. Right, and they're not thinking like, oh, this guy is doing the same thing because women are just always comparing themselves to other women usually.
I mean, who knows? Of course, like, I'm not going to sit there and point fingers as if I was always the victim, because I do I am fully aware of my personality and how I can come off. I'm sure, like I myself can be intimidating or I can be whatever. It doesn't matter. The point is that it completely broke me. So I was just trying to give an example of how how lost I was. And I had no social media and I started daddy issues as a way to escape from my miserable life because I just I mean, I stop having friends and I would just go to work from 6am till 10:00 p.m. and then I would go home.
I would cry a wake up cry in the car and then go to work like that was my life. Right. So I created daddy issues. I came up with the name because I have daddy issues and I just figure like every girl in L.A. either has daddy issues or sugar daddy issues.
So like make sense, which, by the way, just quickly daddy issues. Everyone just always assumes they didn't have a dad. They had an absentee father like. No, even if you have a dad that's super present in your life, you can have daddy issues. Correct.
He was not present in my life. Neither was mine. I think both of us feel better. I, like, know he is in my life now, but growing up he wasn't.
That would be where it came from, right? Yeah, I have the same thing, but I think it is true. I mean, I've seen with my friends their dad is very present in their life, but there's something else going on.
Yeah, no, it took us a while. It took us a long time for my father and I to to get into a good relationship. But actually it was dad issues my brand the like saved my whole family and me too with like our closeness. But but yes, I created daddy issues and we're just like Meems because sometimes people would send me and text like the fat Jewish names. And I was like, how cool is it that people just kind of funny?
No one's judging him because he's just like it, just his personality. And like, I was like, I, I used to laugh, like I used to be funny and I lost it, but I know it's there. What if I just did it for fun because I just didn't know who I was. So I created a full on alter ego. So daddy issues. I didn't even think I was that if issues like this girl is going to be so fucking cool and she's going to be everything I ever want to be, she's going to be sexual.
She's going to tell it how it is. She's going to be party. She's going to be having fun and she's going to be everything I've ever wanted to be. This is going to be her that is fucking wild.
So you were horribly depressed, hated your life, and you were like, I'm going to create the life I want through this alter ego daddy issues. And then that became extremely successful because I put a lot of work into it back then.
I have a very modern mathematical mind because I also used to tutor math and I'm just actually very good at math. And I figured out the back end of Instagram, the algorithm. So I figured out ways to play around with Instagram to figure out when it's good time to posting. And then I start to also do research. So I've always said this before the like, I was so lost that I didn't know who I was and it's the followers. It created me that made me that created like the whole persona because I would look and I'd be like, OK, this meme is doing better.
So my dreams like this. OK, oh they said her caption, Oh they like my caption. OK, caption a little bit longer. And then I would every night before I go to sleep I told myself, oh going cuoco my competitors Instagram. So let's say the fat Jewish or fuck Jerry and I would go on their Instagram, I would go through one hundred of their followers, the new followers. And I would I would like two to three pictures of each one every night in order to gain the new followers.
And then I was like, OK, now I want a celebrity to follow me. I do research on that celebrity. I find one of their friends, a best friend that doesn't have that many followers. I write something weird on their Instagram, so to catch their attention, they finally noticed me. Then they they'll tag their celebrity friend. Then eventually the celebrity friend will start following me. It was like all these strategies.
What the fuck? OK, that is fucking mind blowing.
So, OK, you have never purchased followers ever not to act to tell you just I mean, a lot of people do, but you just figured out the algorithm which that shit changes on the daily.
Yeah, but that was back then. Like obviously if I started meme account now it wouldn't stand out like not to mention even growing a social media account now. Like I feel like I'm still hard on themselves. It wouldn't work. It's it's completely different. Back then it was like it worked and I was I was able to stand up, but being a very female oriented niche and also back then, women weren't talking about sex. So I was and not to mention I was so proud, too.
But it was your alter ego. Yeah, it empowered me. And like, the more the work, the more continue with that issues, the more became me. And I feel like you like saved my life and like it was for the first time. Well, I'm not going to take it lightly, like for real. It was for the first time in my life that I ever felt like I fit in. And I'm and I'm I'm a foreigner.
English is my third. This is my third country living in, and it was like for the first time ever, like, wow, like this is what I was meant to do. I'm home. I feel it. I feel like I'm home. Wow.
That I mean, first of all, that makes me so fucking happy to hear, I don't know from experience, but I know just from my family, they're all foreigners. They have always told me, like, you never feel like you're at home, like you never like you're always you belong in two different places, all of those different things. And that's fucking crazy. This main page. And you were just doing it for fun. And then now it's a fucking business.
Yeah, exactly. The thing is, like when I'm talking about this, I'm not trying to this isn't a pity story. I'll tell you that. There's like nobody, no little violin playing in the background. I feel sorry for you.
It doesn't sound like a pity story at all. It sounds like a bad ass story to me. Thank you.
Because it ended up like, you know, but sometimes I think you have to go through these bad trials and you have to, like, keep breaking a little more and more just to see how strong you really are. I'd like to get on the path they're supposed to go on. And by the way, I feel like I'm sounding all inspirational and motivational speaker.
Yeah, I told Sophia before we got on the call today, I was just like in a weird mood and I was like crying all morning getting through my emotions. And I was like, really excited for this interview. So I had to, like, train my brain this morning and change my perspective to be more positive. So this is where it's coming from, like which is extremely fucking hard to do.
Viler told me that she was feeling low this morning and she had to just completely change the mindset so we could do this, recording the mental strength that that shit takes. I can't do it half the time. I'm like, I was going to record side.
No, usually I'm really good at picking myself back up really fast. This time it's been like a few days where I wasn't able to till my sister was like, you have to cry.
And I was like, no, actually you have to know. And I'm like, shaking like, no, she's like, you have to cry.
And I was like, oh, you're like, I'm not going to make you cry. Sometimes you do just need a good cry.
Oh, it felt amazing how often I mean, I do this all the time. I catch myself holding it back, being like be a fucking adult. And it's like, no, maybe I need to be an adult and cry my eyes out.
Yeah, no, I cried and that's all right. Now, when I'm giving this advice or talking, I sound so inspirational because I'm genuinely inspiring myself and I'm having this conversation. I'm falling in love with myself, which is what I needed.
OK, see, it's like therapy. You're welcome. I'm going to charge you after. OK, so tell me this happens to you as a woman if you do anything that is considered to someone else slutty. And I'm saying that in quotation marks, you post a bikini picture, you talk about sex, whatever the fuck it is, people always feel a need to comment daddy issues. Oh, that girl's being a slut. She has daddy issues. Have you ran into that?
I mean, I guess you would run into that, considering it was fucking called I'm literally daddy issues.
Yeah. Yeah. All the time I feel like I could be breathing like a star when it's like, oh, that girl's daddy issues are like guys would be like, I love girls with daddy issues. And you're like, first of all, what the fuck does that mean? Like, oh, you think of sucking your dick. That's so crazy because I love guys with money.
So I guess that's like eventa or mommy issues. Do you have any men fucking mommy issues. That's a whole different conversation.
Such a turnoff. I don't like guys with mommy issues, but yeah, I would say mommy issues are worse.
But you know what? We're not going to compare what issues are worse. We're not going to go down that rabbit hole.
But no, I agree. We've talked about it like my daddy issues didn't come from me wanting to be more promiscuous with men like that be too hard for me. I get to attach like I have abandonment issues because my daddy issues. So it's more like I have a need to be loved. And then I was constantly seeking and dating when I was younger men who are emotionally unavailable and I was constantly trying to prove myself to be good enough for them, which is explains also why my accounting firm, why I needed to be like like for these women so badly.
Right.
OK, so that is such a good fucking point because I never became hypersexual because of my daddy issues at all. I, I just have the abandonment issues exactly like what you're talking about. There is no like hypersexuality that stemmed from that. So everyone that comments that shit knock it off because like it's not real. It's like not the truth at all. Yeah. Right. OK, what would you say. Your favorite meme.
But it's like what is the most popular meme on your page.
OK, I feel like the OG means that I feel like what made that issue so popular. Like yes, it was a lot of the dating stuff that people would love because it'd be like, oh my God, I'm not crazy. Like I'm not alone. But I would say the OG means a really like blew up. Consoli is obviously like the best means are everything. Because first of all, like also not to mention now we're in quarantine. It's VLF means it's all we have.
Period. Right. Oh, yeah, because no one's fucking dating right now, literally, so just like it would be like, for example, like one of my favorite means was this one me, where when your best friend finally gets a boyfriend and then it's like the three of you constantly and like they're your best friend and her boyfriend holding hands and then you put your hand over it. So it's like the three of you and it's like, sorry, you don't only get to date my best friend, you now get to date me too.
Like I'm part of this package.
A package deal. Yes, I fucking love that. So like that you are like another one of my favorite memes is basically just like our stalking skills are like next level literally like I've done this before. And so and this meme is like literally it's a way where your best friend goes on a date and you just want to be so you want to support her. So you show up on her date. But like from like somewhere really far away, just like watching the day, like trying to cheer on like that is what best friends do.
I mean, I don't actually do that, but that just brought up something. I have done that before. It was a version of that. And what it was is what am I really good friends? I was dating a super famous baseball player and they were on on again, off again. And she wanted me to not join the day and watch from afar. She wanted me to straight up take pictures of them. And I was so fucking naive at this point in my life.
This is like before the podcast or maybe was like around when the podcast was launching. When I asked her what she knew the pictures for, she said, I just need them in case, like his mom tries to come at me again and I can send them to his mom or something. And I believed her because I was so fucking stupid. Regardless, I went to the dinner. I got super drunk because I was so nervous. I was pretty much eating dinner with them.
That's how close I got to them. With my iPhone camera, the flash was on. I have seventy pictures of them eating dinner. And at one point the guy, the baseball player turned around and was like, what the fuck is going on behind me? Like, I don't understand. And then my friend, like, gave me a look and I had to go sit somewhere else. They call security on you guys. And the funny thing is, is the table I was sitting at was nowhere near their table.
The server was like, excuse me, ma'am, what the fuck are you doing? Like, why do you keep coming into this back room? He was famous, sitting in a back room and I keep walking back there.
So that is like kind of an example, which I did end up sending her the pictures so she can create a shrine over her bed so she could send them in to paparazzi, which, like I did not realize was the plan, which how fucking stupid am I?
I don't even think they picked it up. I don't hear it. I think it was like I think they, like, posted on some random ass website that no one's heard of.
But that's like my only experience.
The paparazzi stuff, by the way, like it's like what you were describing. I mean, I don't know where this happened, but it's like very L.A., like in L.A. and I've talked about it before. I'm with Christine Quinn on my podcast. She's from selling Sunset. She literally talks about this like people in L.A. will call them the paparazzi on themselves. Like no one like I'm sorry, unless you Leonardo DiCaprio, which even by then paparazzi has no fucking clue where Leo likes to go for breakfast.
It's this PR team is going to call is the same thing. Like it's nothing personal. Like the paparazzi doesn't know where all these people hang out unless you purposely call them or you have your best friend set in a different table taking pictures with the flash on looking like a stalker.
If anybody wants to hire me, I feel like at this podcast it doesn't work out.
Like maybe I could be paparazzi because I fucking did an amazing job I would have loved the story would have ended with, like, you getting escorted out by the police and you being arrested for being a stalker. But for that baseball player and your friend, be like, sorry, babe will bail you out. Like, I'm probably going to suck his dick really quick. So bail you up tomorrow, OK? Babies are good. And then you just like in jail.
Fucked up. Thing is, I know if I would have gotten caught, she would have been like, I have no idea who this crazy person is like take her away.
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We were on FaceTime for almost two hours the other night, and you brought up something that at first kind of pissed me off and hurt my feelings, but then right away I was like, I actually totally understand. I think it's so interesting. You were actually going to sign on with my former employer, is that correct? Yes. Yes. Where the main part comes in is for those of you who don't know, I had a very public falling out with my former employer and they did like a smear campaign on me for months and months and months.
And Vialet let me know that she thought their marketing and their spin on this story was so fucking good in the beginning, in the beginning that she was like, oh, my God, maybe I should sign with them. This is correct.
Oh, my God, I understand. OK, but I but I agree with you, by the way, like, they did an amazing job in the beginning. Did you believe everything they were saying about me in the beginning?
I thought it was just a marketing ploy. So just like, oh, wow. In the beginning I thought it had something had to do with the money stuff. So I thought you guys were just trying to make more money or it was just about really like blowing up the Sparkasse. And I thought Dave, who was behind that was a very smart with the marketing strategy. Like in the beginning I was like, oh, I don't think it's real.
So I was really intrigued by it because it was really blowing up. Not to mention it was a perfect timing because quarantine everyone's so bored and people were just driving because quarantine, everyone's life was kind of miserable.
So it was kind of nice to watch someone else's misery for a second. And your own. I'm not going to lie. So I when I saw that to me, it wasn't like me wanting to be a part of the drama.
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Right. Which, by the way, now that I'm thinking back on it, it was just a whole marketing ploy. How genius. So fucking genius. I wish that were the case. It wasn't. But that's so fucking smart.
Know the beginning and then continued and then it was like, see you fuckers once. Then I was like, oh, Sophia's really not here. I did start getting on a call with barstool sports, but it's also because I've already had somewhat of a relationship with Garcelle Sports. I've done some interviews with them a couple of years ago and I remember a few years ago they asked me about doing a podcast. I just wasn't ready for one. So it just made sense that, like, why wouldn't daddy issues be with barstool sports?
It seems like they're really for women. I mean, they're look at look at the marketing around women right now.
And then I and the people I reached out to were also the men that work there.
And of course, they're saying really nice things about it. But then then the drama continued as I'm in the middle of calls and three times or whatever, Zoome calls with barstool considering signing up because I left my my network. So I was looking for a new one. And the drama, when the drama continued, I was like, wait, hold up. This is a little too much.
Yeah, it started I went from being like, oh, this is funny or interesting to like, wow, what a good marketing ploy to kind of be like, oh wow, OK. Like I was genuinely thinking like, is Sofia going to be OK? Like what's her mental health right now. Like that was my thought process.
So I was just thinking about earlier, I said I've never been bullied actually. Fuck yes. I've been like horribly by millions of people.
Yeah. That's like, that's like yeah I had a few whatever Debbie's like.
Karen tell me am I my work. They'll like change my shirt that I'm late or whatever. But you had like millions of people telling me that you're like you suck.
Yeah, I did. It was yes. So yes, I actually in fact have been fucking bullied big time in your workplace. I mean. Yes, yes. I mean by, you know, people that I trusted, you know, at one point. But we don't need to get into that. I just found that so fucking interesting. You had my back.
No, I do. I do. I mean, I had your back from the beginning because I am very all about like the the underdog. But we decide we decide not to pursue it, like I was thinking about it. And then I'm like, so relieved because afterwards I also talked with some other women who worked a barstool sports out the truth, and they were not when they told me what's been going on, they were not excited about they were not as happy there.
So I did feel really relieved, like, wow, I cannot believe I almost took my full on, like female empowerment brand in Vassos, like, thank God. I just think everything happens for a reason.
So I'm happy that I didn't I'm happy that I was able to be publicly harassed. So you could say too much. Thank you so much for taking the extra money. Thank you.
You're welcome. Let's move into sex, OK? That's what everyone really wants to fucking hear. What is I mean, I don't want to sexualize you, first of all, but like you do have amazing, huge tits facts. Can I say that fat. OK, we'll talk about that tonight in a second. What is one of the hottest things a guy has ever done in bed with you?
Allow me to come out.
You know, did the the normal standard what a guy should allow you to do in bed, guess the foreplay.
Know where my G spot is? No, where my clit is. Make me come. Yeah. That is so hot when they can do that. I fucking love when they can do that. Yeah. We talked Sophie and I talked before about how when I the reason I can't like I'm not so sexually promiscuous, I can't go around fucking everyone is because I get emotionally attached and like if I have sex with the guy and don't even get me started, like if a guy made me come, I would literally just fall in love with them.
But I said, thankfully, no guy, I never will come across that risk because I was never happy in my whole life where a guy actually made me come the first time. So I'm safe from falling in love with anyone. So we're good there.
I actually have never had an orgasm on the first time either. Yeah. Ever I, I've had on this second time of the first time. Fuck no. Like you have to be comfortable. But also have you ever had sex with a guy like you weren't that attracted to. One of my friends told me she was having sex like she was how to fuck buddy situation with this dude. She wasn't that attracted to him. She was like he would never be my boyfriend.
I just wanted to have sex. And she said because of that reason, she was able to come every single time because there was no pressure. I think that's really smart.
That's why if you do have a fuck, buddy, you should be somebody the like. No, I'm not saying like such low standards, literally homeless and he lives outside your house and you're like, come over whenever you want to take a shine.
If the dick is right, though, I thought, you know, he has to be so below your standards that there's completely no way you can fall in love with him. So then fuck him and you just don't care. Like, you don't care if you don't shave, you're like Petunia or your legs because who cares?
Yes, that's I mean, let's just put it out there right now. Do not start a fuck buddy thing with a guy you know you're going to fall for and a guy that, you know for a fact is not going to reciprocate.
I feel like all my friends who have tried that the guy can look, I said can literally be homeless. And his parents are related like his friends are brother and sister, and they'll still be alive. And he's like unemploy and all that. And because it's so lonely right now, they're going to be like, I don't know, like, yeah, he looks a little all these aren't making excuses. They're like, I know he's a child from incest, but I feel like the chromosomes will be final balance.
Yeah. And our kids will be fucked up.
And I'm like, no, you weren't supposed to fall. And she's like, no, I love them.
Like, where are you right now? Is is house party like I'm going to stop taking my birth control. This could be it. And it's like, no stop is not going to have a child.
I love when girls are like, I'm going to save this by having their kid. Are people really, like, not dating the same because of covid? Because I feel like a lot of people just don't fucking care and they're still fucking and running around as if it was pre covid.
Yeah I think, I think so. I feel like I mean for me I haven't really gotten that much dick this year at all to be honest.
But I guess it's OK because of covid or just like the entire time. Well I've been like really working on myself and I didn't want to be interrupted by like a penis. And they're great like I love them, you know, I'm not going to lie. Like, yes, you love penis.
OK, this is something I feel like this is a PSA to all women. OK, OK. When you're fucking a guy, whether it's just a fuck buddy, a guy you have a crush on, you're not sure where you guys are, even your boyfriend that you just your new boyfriend. If he comes inside of you, it doesn't mean anything is becoming this weird epidemic. I swear to God, I've even been victimized by this. It's happened to me.
They're coming inside of you. And girls are thinking that I mean, something that he wants to have your baby. No, baby, you're going to be such an amazing single mother.
Like literally you will be a single mom. I think that. Why do you guys feel like they can be doing that now? This is all women are on birth control. All women are OK with abortions. I don't know. They are being reckless about it. So reckless.
And it's happening so often with this one girl. We were sitting and talking and she's my friend's friend. And she was just like, yeah. And basically the guy she's dating now, his ex girlfriend is my friend. So I think maybe that's where it came from when they were together for ten years. And then this girl, she got a new girlfriend. They've been together for like a couple of months, two months. And then she's just like, and you never want to have a baby with her.
I mean, it was so obvious, like he never came in her, but he comes to meet all the time. And I was like, sweetheart, no, no, no.
Just cheated on her. First of all, he just cheat on you, second of all, like he literally did.
I'm like, this is why we're having this conversation.
Like, second of all, him coming up.
That doesn't mean anything, guys. Yes. I'm so happy you fucking brought up that PSA. A guy coming inside of you is not an engagement ring. It's no work. It feels good for them to squirt up in your vagina and that's it.
That's their favorite way to come because it's like scientifically, it's like in your hormones, in your genes, you feel closer to that person is true.
Yeah.
I mean, for the woman, I guess the man does maybe for two seconds, but I feel like they don't as much men get not clarity right after they have sex with you and they're just like, OK, so what should I do next. I guess I'll swipe on Tinder. Right? Like that's with a guy and with a woman as you're like walking to the bathroom with the cum dripping down on your thighs and you're like, oh my God, he could be the one who already forgot to hang it up and getting ready to, like, put it in again when you got to the bathroom.
You guys know, squirting no squirting men, no squirty in a girl's vagina. Let's just stop it because you're like giving women the wrong idea or make it very clear if you're going to do that like this does not mean I want to have a baby with you. He comes inside of her and then he's like, hey, by the way, I'm not looking for anything. I just called you. And you're like, wow, could you just have waited like two seconds literally?
Or he's going to be like, get the fucking plan B, OK? This is something that I do find very strange are the men that will come inside a girl and you know, for a fact, which is ninety nine percent of the time, they do not want to have a baby with you, but they don't say anything. They don't ask you your own birth control. They don't ask if you going to get plan B, they don't ask what the plan is or they just go afterwards like you're on birth control.
Right.
And the girls like, yeah, so but even that is better than I've had this situation where dudes like, don't give a fuck if he's going to come in you. And, you know, he does have feelings for you. Just make sure he has a bank account. But I'll tell you this. I have this one friend from years ago that she actually did that. Like I don't know if she did the turkey baster, what it was, like, really young.
I, I, I see pretty well when I was younger.
So a lot of my friends are wild. When you were younger I was literally like nineteen twenty when this happened.
OK, so I'm thirty two now. I just turned thirty two so thirty to thirty fucking two.
But she kept going back with her ex, was always cheating on our. But she, she didn't know she was going to be, she didn't know that in the future she would be thriving, she would have a career so back that were twenty she decides to do like the turkey baster thing or whatever where she figured she like begged him to come see her and she had fucking him, even though she knew he didn't want to be with her ex. Right.
He's cheating on her, right? Yeah.
She somehow figured out how to fall and, like, put his cum, like, all the way up in her and really get pregnant. The girl, she gets pregnant and she starts off as baby because she's like, this is how we're going to be together. So we're going to be together forever. Mind you, a few years later, she creates an insane business. She becomes she starts becoming super rich and now she has to pay child support to him.
No fucking way. She thought she didn't realize that. She was she was she was using her brain for the wrong thing. She was using her smarts and her brain to do turkey baster. She didn't realize that she also had a brain for business.
Oh, my fucking God, that is insane. She was driving a Bentley, a Rolls Royce business ass woman had to pay child support to that guy. She could not get rid of him fast enough.
Oh, my God. I have not even thought about that. I went to my mom's really good friends, married a guy who was super rich, loaded their engagement. They met each other and they got married. Three months later, he had bought in her all of these super expensive things. She found out afterwards he was full of shit and he was in a ton of debt. And then they didn't sign a prenup because she was like, this guy is rich as fuck.
And now fifty percent of her shit has to go to him. Ladies, do not underestimate how fucking smart you are and how successful you will be. A and B, make a guy show you his tax forms before you marry him. He could be full of shit. I've actually had to I've actually made a guy show me before.
OK, and did you break up with him? So no, it was true.
I was like, OK, thanks for the confirmation. I know you think I'm psycho, but whatever.
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You're going to get completely naked. I dare you do it. OK, biologies flashed me her tits, what the fuck? Like, how do you have tits like that? Thank you so much for asking. I think of the American milk. I would say when I moved to America, my tits grew like when I was 14. My tits, like I was just such an awkward kid that I feel like God was like, OK, your personality is so terrible, you're going to need a few years to work on that.
So here are some tips. He cleared my skin. I'd like so much acne on my face and back. I came to the US. He cleared my all my skin and just I went like, yeah, I went from A to B to like a triple D in school. And unfortunately, I still don't know how to talk to boys. But yeah, I was like super tall big ass too. Didn't need to talk. You didn't need to talk.
They just like saw your tits and they're like, oh my fucking God. Yeah.
But I didn't understand the like. That's what people like. So I was just like, I don't understand, I don't speak English.
I think of my daughter Kate. Well, she's wearing her top on the irony of you moving to L.A. and then all of a sudden your tits grow three sizes. It's like the Grinch. And my heart grew two sizes that day. That's how I know God is a man.
Oh, my God, for real. And the skin clears up like so fucking L.A.. OK, tell us about the pencil test.
We what was the point of me showing you my teacher just to show you would be cool anyway.
So what are we now. I love I you're you're putting it on me. You're like Sophie. I just wanted to see them so bad but low key. You just flashed me. I didn't even ask for it. I'm kidding. I did ask are we together now? Yes, we're dating. We're fuck buddies. We might be official. Maybe if I make you come, we'll see if you make me come again. OK, amazing. That tells of the pencil test because you were fucking explaining this to me and I was sure.
OK, so the pencil test is basically it's it's a pencil test or you can also use a what does this call you to IQ test.
And it just basically you strain your back or you are trebeck, whatever you if you're trying to cheat a little and then you just take the Q tip or the pencil under titty and if it falls then it means like your tits are so perky, if it stays for one or two seconds, it just depends on how long it stays underneath your test, which by the way, all babies are beautiful like. Yeah, they, they sag a little or not.
They're all beautiful, like natural fake ones. It doesn't matter.
The reason we're talking about my tits is because that's like a miracle.
Yeah. It's like a super natural occurrence that they're as big as they are and it passes the pencil type. Yeah.
But don't hate on me because I'm talking about having perfect tits because I was born with a birth defect. My teeth were really fucked up and ugly for my whole life. So God just gave me nice heads but he gave me a terrible mouth personality took me forever to work on that daddy issues for days.
So just let us ugly toes my toes don't don't speak to each other. All my toes go to different directions. They took him months ago.
You are allowed to see. You have amazing too. I know but I really it I feel bad complimenting my you're like my tits are amazing but I'm fucking hideous otherwise my personality is a two out of ten that is always I do the same thing. It's the same thing. When someone gives me a compliment I'm like OK but I'm so fucking disgusting in this way. And it's like it's fine. You're right. Take it.
Especially when a man compliments you. That is No one rule that I always saw women. When a man compliments you, though, you don't say, oh my God, no, I'm not. You're like, thank you. I know. Thank you. Thank you so much. Yes.
Oh, my God. Especially with a man. That is such a good point. Have you ever had a guy ask you to suck your own nipple? Because I had a guy ask me to do that. And it was super embarrassing because, like it when it reached, I was like trying so hard.
But I feel like you could OK, I do that like in my free time all the time. But no no one has ever asked me that because I mean, because I just do it myself.
But I feel like you could pull it out in the bedroom and I would think it's really hot. I just don't see that you if you're trying to, like, impress them, which we're not trying to do, we're trying to get our nut.
Oh, my God, look at you. But hey, guys, you want to just right in front of me, you're 100 hundred percent good. OK, let's move on to listener questions and advice. And Violet, I want you to answer these with me. So this girl wrote in and she said that she went to this very high end club in Miami and a couple went up to her and her friend and asked them if they would be in a porn video and offered them like a shit ton of money.
She didn't say how much she's at her and her friend were barely twenty two. They turned it down. But now that she's broke, she Lokey wishes she did it.
My question for you, would you if it was the right price, would you do a porn film?
I wouldn't at this age. And having like a successful business, I personally just wouldn't. But I agree. Everyone does have a price. When I was younger, somebody and I just saw daddy issues. I got this email of somebody asking me if a fetish guy about my toes and asking me if I would be down to be to be in a video where they can put a mask on my face and they tie me up and tickle my feet for forty thousand dollars.
And I said, no, I'm so sorry, that's not my thing. And he said, how about sixty thousand? And I just didn't respond in my head.
I was like, fuck. Like I could really use the money. And I was like, you can't forty thousand and then sixty thousand.
And I said, No, Violet, I know you said you're very business oriented, but I don't know, I think you should have taken that offer.
Well because I'm just a greedy bitch. Excuse me for me.
I personally I just like I've created my whole brat and now there's anything wrong with like sexualizing your body. Like I'm all for like a lot of my friends, the only fans, all that. But like my whole brand was created based on my thoughts and what I had to say. And I just want to continue that. Like for me, like I it's like I don't know what it is. It's just this thing about making men happy. I just can't do it.
Like the thought of like having all these men, like, jerk off, making them happy because I show them my tits. Look, I just can't do it like no.
Right. I totally get that. I feel like for me. If they offered me the kind of money where I would be sat and my family and my extended family and all of my friends and we would all be filthy rich for the rest of our lives and like a private island, which they wouldn't do, then then maybe I can do OK.
I was living that I didn't know. I was like, yeah, OK. Yeah, I would be OK with making men happy for that price. Yes. Right.
OK, perfect. That's the only way. OK, this girl wrote in. Is it cheating if my boyfriend buys nudes from girls through Snapchat. Yes or no? What do you think? I think yes, I think OK, it's OK. You can disagree. No, I know what I feel like. It's a gray area because of how extreme social media has gone. I genuinely just feel like it's a boundary thing because I think some couples now are OK with things like that.
For example, one of my exes used to get happy endings all the time and I didn't realize it was cheating until years later.
So, like, I've been in a relationship like that, too.
Isn't it crazy how after you break up and years later you're like, OK, so that was extremely fucked up. That was also not OK?
Yeah. So I think it depends on your boundaries. So when you enter a relationship and when you continue the relationship, you have to continue to discuss boundaries. So I think you have to discuss that. Yes, it's weird that he is paying for it, but like there's only fans now sent the way to him. You may look at it all as porn. So how is it different weighing on you porn or Yuji's, which is the one I go on versus like buying paying for news because he could have also got it for free from somewhere.
I mean the reason I said yes, it is cheating is because to me that's just too intimate of an exchange, you know, like talking to the girl, having her pay for it. Also only fans is like a very it's not it is kind of more intimate than going on to PornHub or Belshazzar or whatever and just watching a porn. Yeah. So is it cheating? I don't know, but it makes me uncomfortable to be honest.
My boyfriend is doing that. I just feel weird, like I feel like I wouldn't want to know because I just like his porn stuff because if I did find out then it would make me uncomfortable and I wouldn't like it.
I totally agree. I totally agree. OK, this is our last question. Vialet This is a really good one. Do you believe in the right person but the wrong time? And she talks about how she had a boyfriend through college then after college, but it just didn't work out. They still mention how they love each other, blah, blah, blah. They have some growing up to do, but they want to get back together later on.
How do you feel about wrong person, wrong time or right person? Wrong time?
That's actually a great question. Thank you for asking me this. I feel like I'm an interview. Let me tell you, I feel actually just recently so I have this on my podcast. You start to be crazy. I do the series called Dommage Bootcamp, which also I'm changing it now. Too bad bitch boot camp, but it's basically helping women with their confidence and all that. But I talk about right person, wrong time, and I say that it's not a thing.
I totally agree with you, I think. I mean, I think it's probably usually, though, the wrong time around college.
No, let me tell you right now, it's not the wrong time.
All the people that you meet, you meant to meet at that exact time. And it was supposed to happen exactly what happened. So when you're like, oh, wow, if you were just different. No, nothing. You met this person exactly when you were meant to meet them.
You were supposed to learn. You were supposed to take something away. Yes. You have beautiful moments and that's it. Stop you. Sometimes I feel like we hold on to things for a little bit longer than we should instead of letting it go. And then we we ruin some of the most beautiful moments you could have just had as a memory. It was supposed to be as a memory. You're supposed to learn from something. And you were supposed to then let it go and keep going with your life.
And I've recently talked about it on Dumb Bitch book of number three.
And I said, when you meet the right person, it will always feel like the right time because the right people are timeless. And with the right person, you will want to suddenly have more time for them. Even if you're really busy with your work, it won't feel because you wouldn't want to lose them. So I think sometimes we hold on to those people from our past because it feels convenient and it feels nice and they get you. But that's not your person.
Your next love is going to be so much more amazing and so much bigger than anything you felt with any of those people in the past. And then you'll be like, wow, this is what it's supposed to feel like. This is out. I know.
I think that's a fucking perfect answer and an amazing answer to end on. Yeah. I think it's like maybe you guys will meet, maybe you guys will start dating in the future, but you've got to let it go for now because you might be inhibiting some other amazing relationships you could have, which is exactly. You decide, yeah, bad bitch boot camp.
So. OK, Violet, that's it. Go check out Bad Bitch boot camp on her podcast. Too tired to be crazy. I'm also going to be on her episode. And thank you so much, Violet. I want to do this again. Violet, where can people find you guys?
You guys can find me Imbil events and on Instagram also a daddy issues underscore. That's my main page, my podcast. You tried to be crazy on every Thursday and then I have my dumb bitch book and that's turning into bad bitch camp. But check it out. It's the soul episodes. They're amazing. They're like my favorite. And also make sure to tune into the episode right now that's out with Sophia Recollapse. So hopefully you guys are listening to both episodes today and let us know what you guys think.
And you can find me, Sophia Franklin, Sophia with an F. Franklyn with a Y on Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. As I say, only fans as a joke, but I don't have that yet. Thank you guys so much. I will see you next week on Thursday as well. Talk to you soon.