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Yeah. But it also in all seriousness, I, you know, was like a former athlete and used to having like a big appetite and working out a ton and all that shit, whatever, and then quarantine kind of shut all that down. But I saw the same appetite. Right. So naturally I gained some weight during corns. Yeah. And also living on my own for the first time, constantly ordering out, you know, not having and you don't know how to cook all at all.

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And let's just quickly talk about it being twenty, twenty one. Twenty twenty was draining as fuck. I had a lot of firsts. And besides the obvious ones that we all know about, I started my own company. I, you know, had to build an entirely new brand. I had to do a bunch of shit, which really is small in comparison to, you know, a lot of the horrible things that happened in twenty twenty. But it was rough.

And I just want to quickly say how proud I am of everyone for making it through twenty twenty.

I needed a break, but we have some fucking exciting things for twenty, twenty one that are coming.

We are the sloots now. I feel like I can like be myself.

To be completely honest. I did not feel too hot going into twenty twenty one.

I was at a really really low towards the end of twenty twenty. I was exhausted, I, I mean there was just a bunch of shit going on and I think a lot of people can relate but I am feeling really, really positive right now. Wow.

Zofia, that's a fucking first. I'm saying I feel really positive. This might seem small, but this past week something really incredible happened to me. I was sitting at dinner and I was approached by a couple who recognized me. Oh my God. And that's what it was.

Guys, I'm a fucking celebrity. I made it. I'm kidding. But this couple recognized me and they come to me and they said, Hey, aren't you Sophia with enough? And I said, yes. And they were like, oh, my God, one 800 SLU. Like, we fucking love you. I listen to your show and I'm driving, blah, blah. And the interaction like was a huge turning point in how I was feeling, because after everything I went through last year, I really developed a lot of self-doubt and a lot of anxiety.

And it just made me feel like everything I've been working on so far has been worth it and being recognized for my work on my show and not being recognized for some petty bullshit that was said about me in the media. It it made me so fucking happy. And I think that there's a lesson in that for all of us is to just keep fucking going.

No matter how down you are, no matter how much you hate yourself in that moment, it gets better and never give up.

Wow. Oh, fucking Confucius over here. Just kidding. I would not compare myself to him. I would compare myself to Oprah just getting a sexually active Dalai Lama. OK, so I just want to say thank you so much, you guys, for helping me. And I fucking love all of you.

Anyways, I have a very, very special person sitting next to me who I'm doing the episode with. He is back for a second time. I'm joined by one of my very good friends formerly known as MILF Hunter, now known as Ghost Writer.

Say what up? Hello. Hi. Did you miss me?

Oh, my God. Not you. Oh yeah.

For the. Oh jeez. He needs no introduction for the new listeners.

There is just so much fucking shit to say about you. Long story short, he was a big part of the previous show I was on. He was one third of that show. It was a very successful show and we were both kicked to the curb.

Just kidding. Only I would you took that step yourself.

And we both kind of had to make a comeback of sorts. OK, do you guys want to hear it? The whole story. Listen back to episode two. It's all there. Speaking of episode two, there were these 11 minutes that were cut out of the episode, the infamous 11 minutes. And I think ghostwriter, we should quickly tell them what that was. Well, yeah, absolutely.

Because I had hundreds of thousands of people freaking the fuck out, being like, what were the 11 minutes?

Why were they cut out of the episode, what the 11 minutes were?

Essentially, it was you and I talking about. Why we had these super messy public. Falling out, departure from the company, yeah, very in depth, yes, and we did not end up releasing it because we were threatened. Yes, publicly, yes.

And not to get into the drama, because that's not what we're about to do on this episode.

I promise you, I'm just explaining what the fuck it was because we were threatened to the point that we were told our lives would be fucking ruined if we talked about anything. Yeah. Anything at all.

For Verbatim, which is kind of saying this out loud, is wild. Yeah.

No, our voices were literally silenced, silenced. It's completely fucked up that you cannot speak about something so traumatic.

Yeah, no.

We were put through, you know, a very life changing traumatic experience and then told don't say a fucking word unless you have a quarter million for a lawyer fees.

Right. Right. And that's basically what it was. Yeah. And maybe it will be released, you know, down the road shortly.

Quite Venmo anyways, guys. So that's a little bit about how we bonded. We have become super good friends. And let's fucking get into the episode and talk about fucking because we have the perfect guy here to talk about the.

He's making a face why he's reformed, so anyways, ghostwriter, I want you to tell a quick story for everybody, because Chris is going because we had lunch and I tried to Venmo him and he didn't have any mail.

I told you, you didn't have to Venmo me.

But you insist, OK, are you insane? You wrote down to the penny. You're like you're like you got a Diet Coke, though. You forgot that was it dollars 50.

So you want me to treat you like you want me to be a good friend to you guys, whatever.

I was trying to be a good friend and Venmo him. And then I tried to cash up him and he said, I don't have that either. And, you know, it's twenty, twenty one. And usually people have those things.

And you're a young guy, so why don't you have those things on your phone.

It's because you were fucking banned from them and on America's Most Wanted list.

Oh, because you were scamming people. Just let them know. And ladies listening. This is this is highly legal. And he obviously uses like a while ago and he did this. He's going to tell a story. But for ladies listening, if you want to be, you know, scam Joanne the scammer, this this is something you should listen to.

So this was this is a real Bonnie and Clyde story. It is. Basically, I had met this girl and she was on the phone with one of her friends, one of her guy friends, who is actually a photographer for an NBA team.

OK, so I'm sitting there like next to her. And of course, I hear the whole conversation and he's telling her about how he's making thousands of dollars, OK, by skimming, by not doing photography, though, is a little side hustle that's making him thousands and thousands of dollars a month.

So, of course, my ears perk up. I'm intrigued. He tells her that him and his girlfriend created fake Tinder, fake Bumbo, fake people, fake Snapchat and are scamming men with the promises of erotic massages and are making hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of dollars a day.

So I'm like, I don't think that this would be a difficult transition at all.

I think actually and you know, I'm whatever I think word legend, master, you think you're those things in terms of finessing men with the promises of sexual favors? Yes, I do.

He's straight, by the way. I just. I don't care. I don't care. I don't care what you say.

OK, continue.

So the girl I just started dating at the time was the one who introduced me to this. Mm hmm. And we were just on the same page on some Bonnie and Clyde on some menu. You know, let's get this money type of thing. And so we set up a profile, a bumble page with a different name, obviously, and a tender page with a different name. But her pictures and those profiles in the bios explained that she was a misuse.

It was very flirtatious, very sexual. I by and erotic massages were and favors were into that. Got it in the bottom of this bio was the name to a Snapchat.

So you added that Snapchat and sent messages and inquired on these private massages. So within 48 hours, there was over two hundred and fifty Snapchat messages of men within 50 miles inquiring about private messages. Yeah, of course you start flirting with them and Snapchat you Snapchat text and you know, they're like hyenas.

Men are disgusting, disgusting, sick.

I didn't it got to the point where I was I was naive in the beginning. I didn't realize that after, hey, you could get a dick pic.

Now you know how I can feel. You know, that shit is exhausting. It is harassment. It's full blown is consensual harassment. You guys think with your dick.

Yeah, it's it's really humbling to see that we are complete cavemen. Yeah. As an entire collective. So we had three devices in the basement, an iPad and two iPhones. Oh my gosh. And so we were constantly just like, you know, whatever friend would come over and hang out, we'd be like, hey, talk to these guys, you know, this iPhone, we'd all be sitting with glasses of wine. Whatever movie or Netflix show wasn't in the background hanging out.

You know, sexting. No timeline is was we had some great nights.

Hold on one second. So you would start talking them on Snapchat or whoever had the iPhone, talk to these men, rile them up and get them horny or whatever. Yeah. By sexting.

Yes, they would. We would tell them about the services. OK. Twenty dollars for this. One hundred and fifty dollars for this. Two hundred dollars for that. Two hundred and fifty cents for this. Yes. OK, got it.

Yes. And they were and then we would start to get descriptive about what comes with the two fifty package would come. There's so many amenities, so many.

We need to give you one example.

I mean for two hundred dollars you just get your you tell them, you know, you get a blowjob, but you go super descriptive on that type of blowjob they're going to get, you know what I mean?

Like how it would be like this and like that. You show them that your experience, you tell them love for you to read one.

Right now they're like you from there.

And I throw this iPhone off. A bridge into the river is filthy. You congested if you hold the conservative dick pics have come through that thing with me.

OK, but so how the fuck do you get money then. OK, are you showing up to inspect.

These guys are like once you got a building and you show up, you just have to have the right type of weave and like a car, you know, they'll do it.

You know, in all seriousness, you have to create leverage in order to get anything you want. You have to negotiate from a place of leverage. And so we created a fake child.

And this baby, this story is took a turn. So this girl who's giving them massages, who's new to the area and starting her business back up, this fake girl.

Yeah, this fake girl. She has a child, a baby girl who's two years old and the babysitter who lives in the apartment conveniently that she does is available all the time, but she has to be paid up front. So in order to book the girl, you need them for the time that she'll be gone, giving them massages at the guy's house. The babysitter needs to be booked. In order for the babysitter to be booked, you need to receive a deposit from the men.

So you inform the men, I'm sorry, I have a child. I need to pay my babysitter if I'm in a common book you for a massage to know that you're not going to flake on me. I need a deposit. A down payment. Yeah. Depending on how nice the guy is or how gullible he is, you might not even say a deposit. You might just say I need to be paid up front. You kind of see vulnerable or how fucking hard it is.

Yeah. Yeah. Depending on how filthy the erotica he's been sent is, you know, you could probably get the whole two fifty the first go, you might get the full to fifty out of two guys in a day and you've made five hundred dollars. You might get seventy five dollar deposit for a 150 dollar massage. You might get that three or four times from a day. We would excel sheets where we would create fake schedules where hey, sorry, we're booked with Steven in this area at 9:00 a.m. we can be there at eleven.

Given your distance, you know, would you like to book this time? We made it look so real. So as professional as you create a fake story about her having a baby.

Yeah, yeah. And we really got down into a system. We got into a system to the point where thousands of dollars were being made. There was a day where you might make eighteen hundred dollars and twenty four hours and you are getting that money through Venmo and cash up.

So you're sending pictures to these random dudes of your girl friend.

It wasn't your girlfriend, but. Whatever it was, it was your situation. No, that was my girl. OK, you're my God. Meaning my emotional development. Oh, my God.

Are you telling me that I'm incapable of love in a relationship?

I don't know. We're getting into that later in the episode. Stay tuned.

So you and you're using her pictures. She was a badass and you would be like be whip out a titty because this guy wants to see that.

No, absolutely not. I was there were times where I was, like, annoyed that she would make jokes like, oh, he's kind of cute. Like, why should I shut the fuck up and get his money?

But you're sending him pictures. I don't. She's sending that. She was you guys, we're a team.

Oh, you're triggering me now. I'm just you know, she was talking to them and you're out of the room when I was asleep.

No, no. To be completely honest, I got so obsessed with how fast and how much money it was that I would do this from 6:00 a.m. to 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning. Changes people. Oh, I was clocked in. I was clocking in 60 hour weeks so she would be asleep and I would wake her up with a spoon. Like, listen, he needs a selfie of you holding this.

OK, that's really I to ask because I feel like these guys at a certain point were like, how do I know this is real? And like a real picture because I would only send pictures from the camera roll like selfie she had taken in the mirror. All those that would say like sent from cameral, they're like, no, take a live picture. So then, OK, you know anything about Snapchat? I would go in and I'd be like, send this, send this, you know, like they want to see your left finger up and your your left index and your pinky, you know, and he would be like, grab a spoon.

Yes. Hold it in your left hand and please, you know, it's real. Yeah. Because a lot of them, like I've never sent money to somebody without meeting them before, like prove to me this is real, like I believe you and I.

But they would especially if you're going to do this. My biggest advice is don't ever play defense, play the aggressive. You think I'm out here lying about my business, how I support my daughter, like talk to them like they are nothing.

I live my life that way. You turn it around on them. Yes.

If you've ever cheated and they come at you with that, you're like, oh, my God, oh, my God, toxic soap.

Years ago, you know, I've done a lot of growth and I'm way healthier now, but I still have some toxic traits. OK, anyways, back to this story. That is absolutely insane. You're sending guys pictures. You are setting up these massages. Quotation marks.

Yeah, I had already had experience of like texting, you know, dudes, professional athletes or entertainers or whatever, like having whole relationships and lives with them from good morning, the good night and everything in between. That entertaining a guy for two to three hours to get him horny enough for, you know, committed enough to believe that he was going to get one on one or special treatment was very easy. I was cranking out like, say you were straight people history.

When you just randomly say that doesn't sound like you're straight.

You had a close relationship with a girl, will not say her name and you would write her sex for her to like her athletes and whatever.

Yeah, this is all documented episode fifty. This is not this is not the first time that your listener would hear this information. They would actually be familiar with the information already.

Yes, I'm just saying it for people who don't know you. So anyways, back to the story. So you were sending pictures and then getting them to send money up front for these messages that you were going to do for them? Which massages mean? Yes.

Erotic. Yeah. You know, your typical PornHub fantasy. Yeah. Erotic massages.

So these men send you the money and you.

Block them immediately after the money is sent. I blocked them that and some of them were hilarious, like, all right, I'm here comes I'm going to send it.

Please don't block me. I hope this isn't a scam. Every time I'd like to have gotten one block, it was your voice block block, though.

It was like, listen, if you're a guy this stupid and this horny, solicit the type of sex work on this way you deserve to get scammed. I'm teaching you a life lesson. Yeah.

What was shocking to me is how, you know, the quality of some of the men out there, investment bankers, private equity athletes. I mean, disgustingness has no limit. Yeah.

Your local sheriff department, all of those. Right? All of them. Everybody with a badge was soliciting sex work there. They're a top consumer. I'll tell you that right now, the boys in blue, they love them. A good erotic massage.

Okay, so you're doing this for how long? It didn't last that long. I would say six to seven weeks because you would get the money from them, block them, and then you started getting reported again based on your reporting you to Venmo Cash.

Yeah, it got to the point where I had to move. I tried to move locations because every time I would create a tinder or bumble with that location, it would get burned like fifteen minutes later. So I drive to my friend's house like fifteen minutes away and I'm like, yo, I just need to use your base, tell me the Wi-Fi password. And I walk in with like, oh, be like three chargers and the iPad and like you're sweating up like I have an appointment in fifteen minutes.

He needs to know how come I need this buddy. Because it was coming. I'm not going to lie to you. It was coming in so fast.

I was spending it full and so easy and it was so easy. So I thought it was never going to end. I thought that I had the yellow brick road for me and everybody else to get rich. Quick break.

And they I'm telling you right now, I'm not sure what people know about technology or or the Internet, but your IP address, like your location, your phone, all these things are like traceable through these apps.

They have all of your information.

OK, so explain that part of it, that Venmo and cash up when they started catching on, they they started looking into the IP address, right? Yeah.

And so I couldn't even if I went on my laptop because sometimes the phones would get banned. But if you opened it up on a laptop, on a different provider with a VPN on to like hide your proxy for your IP, you could get the money out. You know, we had sometimes I had I had multiple cash ups, multiple thenmozhi. They kept on getting banned, but my my IP wasn't banned, so I just make a new one, you know, and so they insert fake girl's name here and sometimes I would get accounts frozen with like two thousand dollars in it or like, you know, eight hundred dollars and, and I would lose that money.

Venmo would just keep that, you know, or they would fund the people whatever cash up, however you're doing it.

So then it got to the point where my entire IP was banned and it didn't matter. I couldn't even create it in the app. And then it got to the point where my, you know, my phone was being I couldn't even access the apps and create accounts to the point where even my own personal Venmo didn't work.

Did you did you ever think about creating a Craig's List that was just like in Iowa and just asked random people there to, like, create an account for you?

Oh, I have that. I was getting that. Don't forget that the Tinder's were getting banned. Also, the Tinder's and bumbles were also getting reported. So were the snapshots. In order to make a Tinder account, you have to have a phone that's never used the app before. I was texting people I hadn't talked to in years, like, yo, can you created Tinder? I got twenty dollars for you. Create this tinder for me and text me the code right now.

Can I use your your phone for a Tinder account or a bumble account for twenty dollars. Sure. What the fuck are you doing. Right. I'll explain later and I'll turn that twenty dollars into you know fifteen hundred dollars in a day or five hundred dollars in a day. So to me it was nothing like you know I was take all my old teammates, old friends, people from old apartment complexes. You know, I opened Facebook for the first time in years just to get a Tinder account.

I was seeing I was finding. So pretty much now you can't use any of those things.

I am banned on every single money sending app except for Zo. But looking back, I think the two things that stand out to me were, one, how I desperately begged to customer support to please unfreeze fifteen hundred dollars in your account that. There where you would call Venmo Customer Service, I would be on there screaming at that, that my account had been hacked, that they need to gain my money right now. Like, sometimes it would work, sometimes they would give, and sometimes they would just know, like a fucking scammer, you know, like I almost got some real, you know, ethical morality talks over customer service.

And the other thing that really sticks out to me is how I spent that money.

I was spending the money all on experiences with me and my first girlfriend. And these dates, they didn't feel like regular dates. They it was kind of like me and this girl were Bonnie and Clyde. And we're sitting here at a steakhouse eating, eating, you know, eating prime cut steaks and sipping on the expensive red wine.

My first glass of red wine was off a scam or money, you know, like big cheers to Eric the loser. Yes. I can't believe he bought the whole package for two days straight that us fucking five hundred thirty percent tonight.

It was an experience. It made us closer. It was like an adrenaline rush between doing this together. No fun. And it was in the first like few weeks of the relationship. Right. But you just went all in on each other and trusting each other.

They're not together anymore. We had a great run, though. We had a hope. She's doing great. I think she, like, took it a little too far with one of your scammer things you left with the dude.

That's the part that I'm leaving out. The guy that offered to pay for three months up front and fly her out to Sicily, she actually took that offer up.

But yeah, we had a great ride is a good run. Yeah. So, guys, if you you're something highly legal and scam horny dudes a long time ago.

I know it's fine. It's just so wild to me that guys do that because I mean, I'm sure females. No. Actually know what. Females don't do that because we are smart women.

I don't call them females anymore. Women. Excuse me. I'm going to work on that.

Women are not dumb enough to pay the money up front. OK, but this brings up a greater point. Is it used to be if a guy wanted to get off, he gets a prostitute or it is online. He goes to a website and looks at porn like Yuji's or Yuji's.

I was on I was like thirteen.

I literally just brought that up because my boyfriend in high school is use it. But whatever porn websites and do people just not do that anymore. Like is it now just only fans and Snapchat Premium and fucking Patreon like do you use that shit.

No, honestly, like you know, I'm just a regular, you know, regular PornHub guy.

Insert random porn website here, you know. Right.

There's literally millions and millions and millions of videos.

Right. So I just don't see it as something that I would pay for. I pay for other dumb stuff like that. I mean, it might not be dumb to some people. I don't think sex work is dumb. I don't think only it's genius.

Right. But like, I, I personally wouldn't pay for that. Just anyone do that.

Just because somebody won't pay for something doesn't mean that they won't get it. Think about it.

Think about a movie that you've seen.

Like you get a pirated DVD. Yeah. OK, so there are certain platforms like message boards or forums that will have entire only fans pages.

Every piece of content leaked on the forums shut the fuck up so people will go to like black holes of the Internet to find their only fan. They steal sex workers like content, like their lawsuit.

There's leaked only fans.

Yes. God, yeah. That is beyond fucked up.

I remember. Do these people charge for it or they just leak. So like here you go.

Some charge, some leak it. I've I've seen screenshots where some people are charging half the price of the monthly subscription. So if you paid that person instead of paying twenty dollars, a monthly subscribe, paid this person ten dollars and get everything, you know what I'm saying. Sent to you on a fucking Google Drive or something.

Well nothing, nothing is fucking safe on. The Internet, which actually, if you are promoting your only fans, is a fucking weird US Segway, didn't you tell me the best way is to promote it on Reddit?

I would say that's the best way to do it privately. If you didn't want to post on your Twitter, if you didn't want to post on your Instagram, if you didn't want to make it tick tock that like, you know, your username dance's or whatever the fuck it is, just using if you didn't want to use a public platform like that to grow, a low key way to go is on Reddit.

You girls do that? Yes. Is defined certain fetishes or pages just fine blogs that are hub's for horny men and and post on there and posted on their.

Wow.

So that's like if you didn't want to have you just one time one that was completely private. Right.

So girls, if you or guys, if you want to keep your only fans on the DL, just promote that shit on Reddit. Yes. Groundbreaking.

What kind of porn do you like by the way?

Are you into anything kinky to be able to live up to the title?

I mean, to be honest, I think the title kind of limits me. It's kind of I really I like what type of what type of porn do you think a male punter would like?

Of course, it's it will always be male porn. The thing is, I have an emotional attachment to a porn. Porn is not something that men typically have like an attachment to.

And you have that attachment because you fucked that MILF. That's like forever.

And I'm still in love with her. Yes. Oh, my God. So I like trying to recreate that feeling, but OK, but that's not really that kinky.

No, it's depressing and traumatic.

No, but you're you're Jocke obsession sound like there are a lot of like some dangerous ideas dripping on my dick. No, no.

But, um, honestly, I don't really like kinky porn. Like, I never really been explorative with porn, to be honest. I think not at all DPE.

That's not like kinky. It's not just like porn. OK, so, OK, let's talk about kinky porn, because I want to know if that's not kinky. I mean, the laying in egg, I think.

Keep going. I know you have to get it off your chest.

You want to talk girls eggs in their pussy.

Like what type of like like like a hard boiled egg and then push them out.

Like, are you into anything like that tentacle porn, stuck porn? That's not kinky, where the MILF acts like she's stuck in the bed of the stepsons trying to get her out and ends up drilling her like that. This is bad acting.

That's campy porn. What's party in play like when they smoke a bunch of meth and they all fuck each other? So not any of these. No. So you like I could one guy until I watched crackheads fuck outside of my old apartment buildings all the time.

It was not some kinky type of sex.

OK, well, I thought you were like actually a kinky but.

No, I mean, I like I like the threesome.

Like, that's probably the MILF porn, you guys and one girl or two girls and one guy either or either or depen. It depends a lot depends. But like that's not that kinky. No, not at all. The cell phone industry. So no, I would say it's probably 70, 30, like most porn through some porn split between that. Pretty bland, honestly. Wow.

You are very bland. Lots of troops are coming at the table. Porn.

Do you watch on the Spice Girl. On Girl for sure. Would like toys or no eating out or scissoring. I like tutorial porn. I know it sounds so fucking weird. Like walk through playing like dudes that have a girl on a table and they're like, I'm going to teach you how to make a girl square. I'm going to teach you how to, like, finger a girl correctly or eat your food correctly.

They're like talking to the camera like an infomercial, but they're fingering her. Yes.

And they do it like step by step and make her cum. And I've been into that since I was like twenty. So this is like eight years strong. Yes. And I think it's the hardest thing.

And I don't know why you have like a certain instructor that's like I go to find his name. There's too I think it's just because, you know, they're like professionals. You probably know what they're fucking do. You're comfortable with them? No, it's uncomfortable. It's like I don't want to come. But then if you were laying on a table with them, like they're going to make it happen, do you feel like you don't have a choice?

Your choice is not to you. We get deeper into lives. You don't need to.

But I do like that. I mean, I like other shit, but we're not talking about the type of porn I like. We're talking about other things.

Actually, I want to quickly ask you, because I've have so many fucking girls right in it about this. Do you care about what a vagina looks like?

Yes, of course. Really? Absolutely. Explain.

I mean, like, I just like how everybody has their. You want a hot dog in a bun or.

No, just the bun. No flaps. No, no, no.

I love I'm calling them fluff on my sex podcast. Excuse me, labia. That's what I meant to say.

No, no, curran's don't bother me. They don't know. It's more so like it's more so that it has to match the person like it's hot. It's all put together. Do you know what I'm saying.

Like matches their personality that to go back to like you could y no I'm telling you they're pussy has to match their personality.

I'm just saying like the whole aura of a person I can't think of, like I kind of think of it's like how it's put together overall, like it's really like an outfit, like it might look kind of weird laying on your bed, but when you put that on, it matches your figure like it's, you know, I mean, like it looks right on you. Does that make sense? It my crazy on another girl, but like on you like it's perfect.

OK, I briefly talked about last episode of Friends who had one labia longer than the other.

And what one lívia, one flop. Can I call them flops.

I have one you can call on longer than the other.

And a guy called it a wizard sleeve and then he asked her to get it cut so you could match the other one, which is different. Yes. Which is disgusting and fucked up. OK, anyways, that's besides the point. I said I did not have a vagina that looked like that and a lot of people took that offensively like I was shaming the vagina. I have a Arby's double meat sandwich situation. OK, so anyone that thought I was shaming her.

No, like I really am not done. Don't we have the meat? It's not the Army's commercial. So I think it's a we have the beef.

These you know, I'm sure they are sure I heard some of them were closing up, I'm sure you could get an ad for ARV's house or that you could be your Fed base to resuscitate that Fritschi trillion tag ARV's and tag Sophea Franklin roast beef. Anyways, I just wanted to see that the the way your pussy looks grows. It doesn't fucking matter. Does it matter? It really does. He's fucked couch cushions before. Yes. I promise you, you're the most beautiful thing in the world that he's ever seen.

Yes. Thank you.

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But the name of Hunter, well, you were a huge womanizer, hypersexual.

That's what you used to. That's what you were knownas. And I think we should just talk about it for a sec. Get. OK, so what led you to be this milk hunter persona, which is essentially an extremely hypersexual person? Yeah. Where did that stem from?

Well, I think that any person can see that that persona, that character, those views are on incredibly unhealthy. Well, they're fucked. Yes. And I think. I think like that hypersexuality, to be completely honest, I know that it stems from like my childhood and like my early and first sexual experience experiences, without a doubt.

That's like therapy 101. I don't know if you need therapy. It's just like everything from your childhood.

OK, so that's really interesting.

What specifically you have a dad bastard who got us. We best we bonded over guys.

I was making a joke because I didn't have one either.

No, we bonded over the, you know, single the strong. Yeah. Spanish single women.

Totally. But but I love how he's asked you and I about to take this shit over. So the reason I'm here, I am. But it's just interesting. I want to point out quickly, we both were raised with single moms and we did not have like a father figure in our life where we had, like, very similar lives and like complete opposite spectrum of the world, though.

Yeah, totally.

But mine did not manifest in hypersexuality. Yeah, but yours did. So, I mean, tell us about that a little.

Well, I think I was raised around nothing, but like passionate Puerto Rican women, I'm like, love me to death.

But I had I was like, you know, a little soft and spoiled with all the attention and love from like a house full of women that I really, really was like desperate for, like, male approval. And I didn't even know it. It was like involuntarily I was like enamored by this. Oh, no. The alpha male persona. I didn't understand it.

Right. I mean, you were a kid, so like. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I think that, like. I don't know, I was not sheltered because I was I was always outside, you know, I was very active, but like it was impossible for my mom to, like, control you, control and shield me.

She had her own issues, like we're living in government funded housing, Section eight, you know, welfare. Like there's she's got two kids.

We all sit in the same room. You know, you can only protect you. So, yeah, like, I'm I go outside every single day and I got bullied, you know, like my mom being a Muslim hijab like Puerto Rican. And I am the only white kid. We're constantly moving in these low income neighborhoods. Every new apartment complex like I go outside, I'm the easiest target to bully, you know, like kind of created this aggressiveness.

Right.

And did it. And you moved all the time.

How many times did you say, you know, I think like seven times before I, like, went to high school. I went to my first high school. And so I realized very quickly, like nine years old, that the only way to stop the bullying at this new you know, the first time I'd go outside the basketball court or whatever new place I lived was to just punch the first person in the face. Like if you just start a fight with the first person and you just set the tone early that, like, this is not what we're about to do.

And it created this like uber aggressive, like and when I first did that, I and I first tasted like respect from other men. I would I like, wow, this is it was a different type of high. Even as a kid like nine years old, I remember that feeling like, wow, you know, like that like, wow, this is this this adrenaline.

OK, so how did that lead to you being hypersexual?

OK, so like I said, I was like craving male approval and men like respect other men for, you know, hooking up with a bunch of girls. Of course, that's how it works. And punching kids in the face. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. The punching kids in the face and sports. So like so at a young age I realized that if I made plays in sports and if I hooked up with girls, that I would get the respect of all the guys around me, older guys, maybe some guys, uncle or some ice cousin, all my teammates, all my peers.

So these are very tasmin like things. And at a very young age, I'm just soaking all this in because these are what other men are telling me. This is what they respect.

I'm watching, you know, the food chain and this is like this is what I think is right. So I would say my first sexual experience, losing my virginity was like really unhealthy when I look back on it.

So you don't talk about it. Yeah. Yeah. There's definitely a trigger warning here, though.

OK, everybody trigger warning. This is a form of sexual trauma. So just that's the trigger warning for sexual trauma. Um. My first sexual experience was literally like right next door to my apartment. I was 13 years old. She was 16 to him.

Yeah, I was sitting outside and I feel like I sounded crazy. You know, 13 is extremely young, but continue.

Yeah. So I'm sitting outside with two of my neighbors. They're 14, 15 years old, you know, like they're on varsity football, you know, like they're the cool kids are complex, OK? And so you look up to them. I was really happy to be around them.

Like, I was really happy that these were my neighbors. I thought that we lucked out at this place. Wow. That's the cool people. Yeah.

So there was this girl who had a certain reputation in the apartment complex. I'd only been there a few weeks and they had put me on or they had let me know whatever reputation she had had and she got around. Yeah, OK, so she's walking into she live like two, three doors down from where I did.

And they're all connected and she's walking by and she's like, oh, like the new kids, cute white kids, cute type of thing. And they're like, you know, and she like is smiling and like she goes in, walks by and goes into her apartment and they're like, yo, like go in there.

Like we would all like leave our doors open. Right. It was like very accustomed. Like if you're friends with somebody you're like you might be in their house. Like you say, my friend might make a sandwich at my house.

It was just we're very comfortable in each other's space. So they're like coercing me to go in there. I'm like, OK, like, I didn't know what was, you know, going to happen walking in there. Oh, really? I wasn't, like, timid or, like, scared. I was just like I didn't know, you know, I was just going in there like, OK, but it was nothing to just, you know.

Yeah.

You were thinking in your head, like, I'm just going to go in there and just kind of like flirt with this girl and just like talk to her.

Yeah. Mean talk to her like, you know.

So we get in there and, you know, not to be too detailed, we're hanging out, start kissing and she completely initiate sex, OK? And like I'm talking to the point where, like, I didn't put the first condom on myself, it was put on for me.

Got it. So, you know, I'm like, you know, like what anamur, you know?

I mean, I know this is a very peculiar sexual experience at 13 and and we end up having sex and, you know, like there's no, like, really talking or communication after, you know.

How did you feel? Like after I would I just like I got dressed me put my clothes on, walked outside and both of my boys were out there, like gassing me. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, I didn't know how I felt.

I thought that it felt good because they praised. Right. What I'm saying, like, I wasn't really like, you know what I'm saying. And I wasn't in control during the sex. Like, I didn't know what to do. Yeah. So, yeah, you know, she was kind of in control and leading the whole thing. So I was just like along for the ride, you know what I'm saying? And then I was like treated like this and she was demeaned.

Do you know what I'm saying? I'm like she was like, oh my God, this is like she's such a little slut in the church. And I'm like, oh, my God, the new cool kid now who lives right here.

I mean, and and and it just after that we so OK.

When you say that and she was demeaned, it's kind of like she took advantage of you. Yes, she did. Yeah. Yeah. And to go outside and then have them like praising you, it was almost like you felt like you were like regaining control of the situation because you were kind of being like we fucked and like that's like a little slut, whatever.

It's so interesting that you say that because you're 100 percent right. You're 100 percent right. I in fact, I was so desperate to regain control and so uncomfortable with not having control that it changed the way that I had sex. I didn't have sex with girls on top of me for years about, you know, because I did it more like, you know, certain positions, like I had to be in complete control all the time. So that's very interesting.

You say that like, look.

Yes. One hundred percent. Yeah, that makes sense. So, I mean, I don't want to like, take over for you, but like, that's your first sexual experience.

No, technically no. So like the trigger warning is not over triggering again. Yes.

This is a childhood sexual experience. So I was, I think, seven or eight years old and I had had like a consensual sexual experience with like a kid a little bit older than me.

And it was nothing like. This is this is not like I don't really know how to word it there. This is not as as bad. There's no what you're saying.

There's definitely cases that are way worse than I understand compared to compared to other, you know, sexual experiences that kids have at a young age. This was you know, I'm one of the lucky ones.

Right. The stories that I've heard. Yeah.

It's all horrific, but there's different intensities. Yeah. Yeah, yes.

That's a perfect way to put it. Yeah.

So the interesting part about this sexual experience is that it wasn't really like for me personally and what had happened, it was how my mother and family reacted so that really I remember being like young and paying full attention to, like, recognizing it immediately.

So so my mom, when you like, live in poverty, that's like pressure, you know, that's like anxiety and stuff. And you grow up every day. Yeah. In that you grow up as a kid with that in your household. And my mother never like cracked or folded. I'm saying like I might hear her crying in the other room or I might know. I know money's tight.

I know not to ask for things, but she keeps it together. She kept it together, you know what I mean?

But.

I remember after that she was so like kind of not frantic, but like so after the abuse happened, after it happened and I told her and you told her which that is very interesting that you told her.

Yeah. Because a lot of kids don't ever tell anyone. So you left that sexual experience, the sexual abuse feeling like. I'm not saying different because that's absolutely not what it was. But you left it probably maybe confused or just not knowing exactly how to feel when you told your mom.

Yeah, I think that she it was her reaction. Yes.

She had not only was I could I tell in her mannerisms, like she was like more frantic and like her facial expressions and stuff, it was a different type of like. Yeah. But also she was trying to keep it together. But also it was the level of attention and the the longevity of how committed she was to teaching me about consent and my body and like, do you know what I mean?

Like I'm talking about book after book after book, like video after video after video, like conversations, lecture, normalise, talking about, you know, sexual experiences at a really young age and and beyond, being able to speak fluidly about it.

Yeah.

That's that is just so fucking interesting because I'm having a flashback that I had an experience when I was younger and the exact same thing. My mom would have books and she would point and be like, what is this called, a vagina? OK, like next page, teaching me every single thing at such a young age. Yeah, I have no idea. Do you know, I mean, like, once again, because we don't talk about these things, we don't talk about them with your friends.

What a powerful thing that we're fucking talking about right now.

Yeah. Yeah, honestly. And so I left that first experience at like seven, eight years old, like, wow, that's how they react to that type of if you do that with somebody, everybody's going to react like that.

They're going to do, you know, I mean, I was like, huh, intrigued. And then I had that experience at thirteen. And I'm like, wow, this is you don't I mean, like, this is how you get everybody to, like, look like you. These are guys are going to like you. And it wasn't more so about being liked or loved or whatever.

It was more so about the respect. Right.

Because if you have respects. Yeah. The praise of course for the ego. The respect is when it's organic, it's different. OK, it feels different. Yeah, you can tell.

So I once again then I grew into like, you know, a star athlete at these private boarding schools where kids are paying fifty thousand dollars a year to go.

And I'm being respected because I hook up with girls and I make plays like in whatever sport that I was playing. So I'm all of the the unhealthy sexual like routes that I grow get reaffirmed. They get watered by like these this like false reassurance, reaffirmation, this toxic masculinity.

Right. Well, and you being part of a sports team, I'm assuming the toxic masculinity there in itself is fucking oozes out of the locker room.

And I've been in every type of locker room. I've been in a football locker room. I've been in a basketball locker room. I've been a lacrosse locker room. I've been at ones where the kids dads on the largest share, Verizon. I've been in the locker room where it's the one of the worst public schools in the state, like I've been in in every type of locker room and every type of demographic, toxic masculinity as many shapes and sizes.

You know, the art major is not any less toxic than, you know, like the the S.E.C. Vineyard Vines kid. It's just different types. There's. Yeah. You know, flavors to it.

I would say you can't you kind of understand the double standard that exists. What do you mean by that?

I'll tell you right now.

I've walked and I've been in locker rooms where they gossip more than any group of girls that you would ever that the stigma would ever lead you to the, you know, everything about everyone, because as soon as he walks in the locker room, he can't wait to stand on the bench and, you know, hold a meeting to let everybody know somebody's business, you know, like some real groupie.

Like I've said, I know men that are way bigger hos than any girls that they scream like it's really I wish I when you say gossip, you're talking about like them talking about like their sexual experiences or anything and even matter, like, did you see so and so's back today. Like I think it might be fake to like this man squats six hundred and fifty pounds like it's funny, it is funny but like if you pair those sexual experiences along with like years and years and years, literally nine months out of 12, I'm in a locker room.

Right. And no, dad, I was God about that cause I hope it's easy to forget about him because they weren't there.

Oh, my God, I'm so happy. I have my friends here to rip off every scab.

I'm just kidding.

No, but like, that's your fucking case study for female Hyperscore, literally. No. Yeah, 100 percent. But if I came in, I was like two months premature and they had to born two months premature and they had to, like, raise me in an incubator bubble. So my mom always used to make jokes that like I'm like a test baby. You I'm saying really are like underdeveloped.

That's not funny. I wonder if your brain ever fully developed. Unidad Probably not. OK, we need to stop.

I do want to be serious for two seconds. We fuck around with each other a lot. We have a dark humor with each other, we have a dark humor and we always mess around.

But I want to say truthfully, thank you so much for sharing that child sexual abuse people, if I can talk about it. And it just like creates this cycle where people feel more ashamed because no one talks about it.

And I think it's important that we do. And I just want to say thank you so much for sharing that. Yeah.

I mean, thank you for, like, being my friend and creating an environment where I feel comfortable doing what I'm saying. Like, I'm really appreciative of that. Yeah.

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That's Sofia. Wo SLU University. Here we go, guys, it's time. Welcome back. It's a new semester, bitches. We have the dean. Hi. Thank you. The president.

I just want everyone in attendance to be aware that this is a one off one Sloot University seminar. Yes. We might never do another university together again. So we're going to take this very seriously beyond. And I want straight A's.

Yeah, this is this this is this is your new start. Yes. This is not twenty. Twenty no new semester. New Year. New student, OK, straight A's student slutting. That's exactly what it is.

All right. I want to talk about sex toys in the bedroom. And to me, this topic kind of feels a little bit basic, but it's really not. And it's really not because I get hundreds of questions about this constantly.

And I want to hear from you, the dean of students, the Dean students.

What you think about that?

I think well, there's two aspects of it. OK, I think a very interesting one, the misconceptions of it from men specifically.

And what do you mean by that? Men are intimidated and insecure about toys. Usually they look at them as like a rival instead of, you know, a comrade. I think men couldn't be that you guys couldn't be missing more.

You guys look at him as, you know, a villain like Joker, right? I mean, I look at it as Batman and Robin, you know, like it's you don't understand. Well, and once again, there's two aspects how you actually physically use them and your relationship with the person you're using them with, because that matters what type of toys you use, how you use them. So often you use them. Yeah. And then there's also the aspect of it is like what people are comfortable with.

And and and, you know, if somebody has familiarity with sex toys, if you're the first person you're using them with. Right. If you use them with everyone, you have to be careful with these boundaries in a relationship also like how you introduce it.

Well, yeah, absolutely. But I mean, what you were saying, a lot of men feel insecure and feel like they're dicks were cut off in their manhood is gone.

If you asked to bring a vibrator in one hundred or something.

Like what? Like I can do that. I can do that. No, you literally cannot do this thing is like a fucking R to D to have sex like this thing is battery powered.

Yeah. OK, but for you, you love doing it.

Bring them in. Yeah. I think one it is great for foreplay. Mm. It's not. Oh not every time I have sex and I like super excited in a static to like go through foreplay and do it the right way for like you know, fifteen minutes men don't they think that oh I'm just going to shove my dick in her and she's going to love it like. No, no. You know you have to go through foreplay to like build her up to a certain place where you know, it's going to be enjoyable for both parties and oh my goodness, the toys can't just, like, do that work for you.

You know, like you can you can literally tell her I want to watch you use it. And then all of a sudden she's doing your job for you. That's fucking amazing.

Yeah, I imagine a dog walking itself. Oh, my gosh. Oh, my goodness.

No, no, I never thought about that before.

Yeah, I go into foreplay sometimes and I'm like, do I really have to put his dick in my mouth?

Why do I do I I mean, OK, foreplay.

If you're in a relationship, sometimes you just don't want if I can do it, sometimes you're tired, but if you're fucking someone, you're not that into you and you have to give them fifteen minutes licking their pussy and fingering them, etcetera, etcetera, tagging like whatever.

I mean this is when the sex toy is your savior. Yeah. Batman and Robin, there were times when Bruce Wayne sat in the Batcave and sent Robin out to do a whole mission. He acted like he was teaching him, hey, come on now.

You sat there, just watched the whole thing that I'm telling you, it's a great way to save your ass when you don't want to do shit.

I would just look at it as, you know, something that is helpful for, you know, also, I genuinely, really think that men undervalue the worth of and the versatility of sex toys. Like, yeah, you could she could be using it and you could be talking to her and still engaged. And it's way less effort, but it feel it's a way different dynamic for her. Yeah, I'm saying it's a different you're talking to her.

You're stimulating different senses for her while she's using the. Toy or your using the toy on her and you're making her talk to you, you know, there's just it doesn't have to be 15 minutes. The toy makes it like three sex toys are like microwaves for like orgasms.

I'm telling you, like, they really speed up the whole process. And for people who listen to the podcasts, like on a faster speed, that's what I would relate it to. Like, it just gets you to where you want to go faster.

And trust me, you feel that way using it on a girl. Women feel the same.

I believe I've had plenty of times where I'm like I just like this. I really only care about me.

I just want to come. I don't want to, you know, go into the other room and masturbate. I want to do with my partner, but I don't have twenty, twenty five minutes right now. Yeah. So bring on the vibrator, know what I mean.

It's also interesting sometimes, you know, we have sex with somebody who you might be dating or in relationship with and it's OK to have that 10, 15 minute great sex with a toy that's like in and out quick and efficient, you know, and you just get your nut and shower or whatever. And then there's also, you know, people use toys with that. You might link up with them or hang out with them strictly to have crazy sex toy filled in our the side.

Yeah. Yeah. With wild toys that might look like an arsenal to someone else, you know, like a real weapons chest or so you do.

You find a turn on if a girl either has toys or like uses them I think.

Are you here either way.

I kind of think that she's I feel like girls that use toys to generally know how to come, generally know how to come and know themselves better sexually and maybe be more comfortable with it because they enable themselves to have orgasms and enjoy, you know, like their sexuality.

I don't know. I'm you know, you would know better than me, to be honest. It's just that's just my perspective, how it may be or whatnot. Yeah. Yeah.

No, I completely agree with that. I think so. But I'm just wondering, there are some men that, you know, are Little Beach Boys and they get intimidated by a girl pulling out a sex toy.

But I feel like it's probably hot to feel like a different group of men.

Yeah. I mean, the hot men who aren't riddled with insecurity. Right. Like, you know, who don't have crippling insecurity to the point where they sabotage the quality of sex they're having because they can't get out of their own head. Right. You know, that's not the girl's problem right there. I promise you, you can replace a guy. You hey, you could Snapchat some guy or text some guy like, hey, I'm literally holding my vibrator, like, where are you?

Like, come over.

You can replace the guy who is riddled with insecurity in probably twenty five minutes. Yeah. On average, yes. I'm just please don't ever forget that. Do not let him ruin your sexual experience. Never ever. I think that one of the great parts about university is how interactive and hands on the president and the dean of students is. Mm hmm. We're speaking from personal experiences.

We're talking about sex toys is you know, is it for some experts or whatever. But there was a point for the vast majority of my sexual experiences I did not use or had ever used toys. What about you?

I mean, I would.

But in this case, they've heard stories about me penetrating an asshole.

Yes. What? And sex toys falling all over the floor everywhere. Oh, being littered in the room like mines, guys.

Episode four, check it out. A guy dumps all of our sex toys that we had on the floor in front of me.

So go listen to that one. My first experience, I would use them when I was younger, just if I can use them, you know, I'm saying I don't it it wasn't helping me get off.

OK, cock rings OK, I feel like that's usually the number one toy people start with when they're younger, OK.

And it wasn't good for him, it wasn't good for me, but it was just me being, you know, in high school being like, oh my God, this is a savage shit.

But throw that on there. Let's go. You know what I mean?

Oh my God. Honestly, I look at my ring. I don't know. I look at, like, those high school ones especially that everybody would buy like dispensers, ones that look at them like like ring pops. Honestly, I like sex toys, like, so embarrassing. Do you like those at all? No, I don't. No, no.

But I mean, I did have an amazing, insane experience with a sex toy when the guy was going down on me and fingering me. But he was putting this. It was a vibrator.

Next to like on his tongue, so his tongue was like hot, that vibration thing going he was eating now.

Yeah, it was kind of like a half and half like you were getting half of the tongue, half the vibrator. Like a mix of the two.

Yeah. Like different sensations. And it was it was like incredible.

And it was probably the first time that I had been what was the first time had been done to you also. It came out of nowhere. Absolutely. He just surprised you with that.

He got you right off guard.

Absolutely. Toys also are kind of like usually men's tutorial for how to make women squirt, like on command. Like, I know it's the first time the girls squirt. I was like seventeen thinking that I should be ramming every girl, you know, with a jackhammer dick and stuff. And and it just reaffirmed, like all these terrible sex habits that I thought were like these amazing porn or whatever.

I would say. Another thing that men don't know is how much you can learn about a girl's body from using a toy like a toy is usually how a lot of guys get a girl to squirt for the first time.

It's just easier.

It's easier because, like you said, it's different sensations. OK, can you explain it?

OK, what do you do? I mean I mean, like you said, the move that you just said like that is and the element of surprise is, I think, crucial with something like that. Yeah. You know what I mean. Like, it's a little bit different when you just get caught off guard by multiple sensations. That alone surprise is a sensation. Yes. You know, and it's like and it it kind of accelerates the physical sensations that you're feeling.

Absolutely. So I think that is a great one.

I think there's also, you know, multiple Holte, like you could be fingering her and using the toy in her ass. You feel me or. Exactly. Using it on her clit.

See see, that's the thing where people I don't sometimes they don't. They think about a sex toy and they think, OK, so I just hold it on a girl's vagina.

Yeah, that's not.

No, you got to use that motherfucker like it's the put in your mouth. Yeah. You got to use it like it's the Disney wand. Do you know what I'm saying. Like that's Harry Potter.

Like you really have to have a good relationship. Like I said, guys like I picked I pick out the sex toys that I will use on a girl like that is my weapon of choice. That's, you know what I mean? Like, yes, that's what I'm arming myself with Batman and Robin. Like, that is really an accessory.

OK, but absolutely. I mean, girls putting a dildo or a butt plug or what have you in your eyes and then having an orgasm vaginally, it feels so fucking good.

Like it really, really does.

No. Yeah. And you can and here's the thing. You don't have to just use one toy. You get a butt plug. That's like a vibrator. You get a vibrator. That's for her clit. You could really fuck her up like under. So you could really have her feeling things she's never felt for talking her through the whole thing. And she will never forget you because you made her feel like that. Yes. Like ever. The sexual experiences that you will have with her will never be the same because you made her feel like that.

I mean, a guy did it to me and I'm still in love with her. Yeah. You were so encouraged to do everything else to him. So much better.

If I was a whore, I was a whore. I was.

I believe it that way. You were excited. You were you were encouraged yourself a self-motivated whore of self-motivated SLU.

Yes, I really, really was. I love it. And I think the sex toys during sex. Great. But your point, foreplay using them during foreplay. Yes. She's going to think that your dick is better than it is because you worked her up with this toy.

I was actually talking to a dude and he told me this kind of sounds fucked up, but it's really not. He loves to do foreplay for the woman, obviously. And the other reason he likes to do it is because if she comes, which a lot of women can only come from foreplay and not sex, you just keep that in mind.

Yeah. And men think that it's an issue with them. It's not. Know just what turns her on. No.

Well, it's just it's just her sexual preference.

But he said once a girl comes and has an orgasm. When he goes to fuck her, her pussy is tighter because she just came really? Yes. I didn't know that.

You didn't know? I had no idea. So fucking foreplay.

It's beautiful. It's you get her off and it's to give yourself a tighter pussy.

Yeah. Yeah. I swear to God, if all of you don't ace this course, I'd be so disappointed.

I straight-A students. That's all. That's all I'm teaching. All right, my favorite segment and guys, I apologize if I have a panic attack on this microphone because my friend here ghostwriter decided to lay a joint and I don't handle weed well.

And I've done a lot of drugs in my day and a lot shut the fuck up.

Nothing is crazier than weed. Weed is crazier than PCP. I'm telling you, you're going to go study.

Yo, this is terrible information to be spreading to. This is a horrible reason to be spreading. No, not all drugs are bad.

I'm just saying, if you could please stop blowing that in my face. All right. Questions and advice. This is truly my favorite part of the show. Question number one. Hi, Sophia. Love the podcast.

And I'm so glad you're back. Yeah, I want your opinion on the situation I'm in.

I just moved to a new city where I don't know anyone for a job. I started talking to this guy from work, but neither one of us wanted anything serious. And a week after we got fucked up and had sex, he texted me and says he actually has a girlfriend.

Are you ready for this one? Oh, my goodness.

But she's in prison, and according to him, they're in an open relationship. This city I'm in is really small and almost all the guys are ugly. So out of desperation, we catch hooking up. But sometimes I feel guilty because he's probably lying about the open relationship thing. Should I keep hooking up with him until his girlfriend is out in a few months or should I just stop now? Thanks, girl. Have you ever dated a girl that's been in jail?

No, never.

Really low income housing.

Why did you play with your hair like that? You don't really ever flip your hair. No, I think.

Is it fucked up that I kind of want to say it's OK. It's completely OK.

It is. Yeah. She's in jail. All right. If you if you go to jail and you think the person you're with, if you're that naive, then you should just live in that bubble and enjoy that life fallacy.

You know what? Can we just I want you to put yourself in those shoes. You're sitting in a jail cell and your girl comes to visit you week after week after week. Are you chill that she's out there getting drunk while you're fucking rotting in there?

It's it's OK because when I come out the that I'm going to have what I could. I'm fucking something new to think that we could go back into being us, say, but I'm definitely, you know, enjoying this night.

You're coming to my just kind of jail party, right?

I think so.

It depends what you're in there for. God damn, I don't judge you. Oh, my fucking for my underage drinking ticket.

Shut the fuck up for what you got caught for. I didn't judge you for what you got caught for I.

I'm going to give you know what in this show I am more. Whoa, OK. I'm so sorry you said that word. I'm sorry, but I really am. And I'm trying to give more healthy advice, but like, I'm still a toxic bitch at heart. And I think it's fine. I really do.

I mean, yeah, it's like it's helping her deal with the stress of the anxiety you put her through by getting yourself in jail. This you could do.

This is mind your business, what's going on in the outside world.

Focus on your shit and why you're in there in the first place. Get your mind right. I yeah.

Do some push ups. If you go to jail, you've lost all your fucking rights. It's pretty much what we're saying.

Oh, I didn't mean that. I did not need that. Do you from the police.

I bet that if you're if you think that your significant other is not fucking somebody while you're in jail, you're delusional. That's all I meant. That's true. And just accept it. And it's better when you have some self-awareness and some realism with yourself.

You know what it really comes down to? I actually know the answer. I know the exact answer for this question. How long is the bitch in jail? That's what it is. I know I'm not going to lie there.

She goes in for two weeks. I've got to those two weeks hypersexual. It's humor. I know, but humor. But I think it really comes. You know what?

You just leaned in closer like hypersonics.

You know, I just revealed my deepest secrets is. No, for real, if this girl is in there for six months, the guy needs to keep it in his pants and then six months shut up and the mistress is conjugal visits. I want to ask that. No, I feel I don't know how that works. Whoa.

They're getting conjugal visits and he's still cheating them like he's living the best of both worlds, because after all, she's got the idea of the world, the free world of you live it life. If they're in there for a really toxic it's just humor. Like you are never cheated. I never will cheat. I've had one relationship. I did not cheat.

OK, well, that's fine. But I'm being honest when I say I have to just say I think it's OK if you're still fucking him. If his girlfriend is in there for six years, it's like, you know, OK, so whatever you say, it depends how long she's in there.

All right. Not cheating on a free man. So it's just funny. Oh, yeah.

I have I do have a past with cheating your habitual cheater. Yes. You've cheat every single relationship that you've been and you cheat on the guy. What? Yes. You're one hundred for one hundred.

Mm hmm. Yeah. Wow. But I mean, you are by definition a cheater, once a cheater, always a cheater.

All right. Next one. Here we go. I have been talking to this guy for a while. We have a friends with benefits situation and the sex is awesome. The issue is he recently asked if I would be comfortable fucking him with a strap on I and fear his ass. And we see what I eat and finger his ass and would be cool if he wanted to use a butt plug.

But I don't know about wrapping a dick around me and literally fucking him. I don't really know how to respond. And I was wondering if you ever did this or if you think it's a little weird. I'm totally cool with a gay and by individual doing it. I'm just wondering, and this is something a straight male would ask for. That's a good question. I don't know. I'm conflicted because the sex is great, but it seems odd to me and I'm really nervous to do this.

Please let me know what you think.

Oh, well, first off, have you ever been pegged? No. OK, never.

Not if you go down. I'm not there, but like maybe I, I'm going to go ahead and say no, really. Yeah.

But like never say never.

I mean to anything ever in life. I'm not saying like. Yeah. Oh just say so. You've never done it.

No I it's I'm sure you have. What. Oh just kidding.

I did it one time as a joke. So only one time. Only one time it was a dare kind of thing. And I know it sounds very strange to everybody listening to you.

It wasn't that long, something like four years ago or something. Anyways, I did it. And even though it was like kind of in this humorous manner, I got a feel for what it would be like.

And I have to say, not for me, not for me.

So you had a strap on, huh? That's what hugging is.

And one really you can't just use like a toy.

That's how, you know, you strap on a dildo and penetrate is asshole.

And he did a harder than you thought. It's hard. I had to give it to you guys you because I thought that's what I knew. I'm not into it is I was doing like the humping thrusting thing and so disgusted with yourself. If you if you took those jokes, you're like, what the fuck is this?

Well, it made me feel very manly. And when I have sex, like, that's not usually the role.

I do enjoy that feeling. What, like the manly. Like the power? Yeah, not really. I like to be more submissive in the bedroom, to be honest. OK, you know, but I don't know. I don't know obviously.

But I'm also very flexible, like I could like try to be like the dominant bitch. But I yes, I have tried it before. It was in a serious manner, but regardless of size, asshole. So it happened and.

No, I said somebody dared you to. Yes. So were there spectators? Maybe. So you did this in front of a crowd?

Maybe. So you performed before. So why don't you say yes or no? What about you?

I have never paid. Have you ever had a girl ask you what, yes, you have double digit times. Well, like you're like, please, Yansi.

Oh, you're all talk. I don't know. All right. You know what? We just started talking about ourselves the entire time. Let's help this girl. I think if she is not cool with it and doesn't feel comfortable with it, don't fucking do it.

Yeah, I would say don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable doing. And he shouldn't. If you express that you're not comfortable with it, he shouldn't try to continue and coerce you until you say yes. Right. And then I think her question also is she finds it weird that a straight male would want that. I'm not I can't judge if you say we've identified as being straight and like, you know, I'm saying I believe him.

I do, too. I do, too. I think I think he's just into that. Yeah, I agree. Enjoyer.

So I don't I don't think wanting that necessarily means gay or by at all.

And I hope he handles the rejection of you not wanting to pay him well and maintains his interest in his sexuality.

Maybe you could just hold a dildo with your hand and do it because having it wrapped around have you around your heels are better than yours.

Maybe maybe she wants to stroke him or she'd be better at it than you.

That I think that was what kind of really threw it off for me is having an actual swinging dildo there.

Like, I felt as if I had a dick, an eight inch dick, which I would if I was a do. And for sure I had that type of eating.

I wish you guys kadence bad bitch energy.

I wish you could see her playing with her hair, looking so confident while she say girl girlfriend, good luck.

You'll be you'll be fine. You'll be fine. You got this. All right. This next one I love. So get ready. Hi.

I need some advice. I've been seeing this guy for about a year now and I do see a future with him. And recently we've been talking about moving in together. However, we've been having big disagreements on money. I've worked really hard to get where I'm at and I'm a homeowner. Congrats, girl. Congrats. He rents Dompierre. Want to say it like that? No, I don't seem to forget. I'm kidding. I'm so naturally he would be the one moving in with me.

The issue is that we cannot agree on how to split expenses. He wants to split it fifty fifty. But he wants his name on the title I am pushing for. He pays significantly less than me owning the strata, but I won't put his name on the title. He thinks I'm not treating him as a partner, but to me I don't want his name on something that I worked so hard to build, especially so early. He's six years older than me.

Did it it it might be six years older.

Is a huge aspect of this too, right? Yes. Yes. And then she says, I guess my question is, how do you navigate the money talk when you, the woman, make more money? Is him requesting his name on the title a red flag? I don't want to make him feel like he is less of a man or less of a partner, but also it's my property. Not sure how to articulate this to him and would appreciate any advice.

Criticism. Love the pod, babe.

What an amazing question. Wow, wait, that is that is a high quality question. It is. There's multiple aspects of it.

There are. There are.

Where do you want to start? So I want to start by saying just flat out, I think that you absolutely put your foot down and you do not put him on the title because you don't want to and it's your fucking house and he can pay significantly less. I don't think you cave in to his, like, 50 50 thing.

I hear all that. But even before I would think about the splits or the money or whatever, I would, it really comes down to her for me, her saying so soon?

Oh, yeah. Yeah. One year and somebody wants their name on a title.

What we actually that's the that's the to me that's the reach. That's, that's the red flag. Yeah. Yeah. You're older OK.

And then and then you're and you make more money moving in with you. It seems like I don't want to say he's taking advantage of you, but like if you put that on paper and just looked at a person, a you know what I mean when you're saying it looks bad. Yeah.

I don't that's not a good I mean I mean, I don't think it looks bad because, I mean, he is going 50 50 and all of that. And I don't necessarily think he's like trying to pull some shit. I don't. But I think you're right. The fact that it's early on in the relationship like that and is enough to say, yo, we're not we're not doing the 50 50, your name is not going on the title.

Yeah, but it is very interesting. This is similar to a prenup because I had an extremely serious relationship with a guy and he actually made more money than me. And we were talking about marriage and I was like one hundred percent prenup. And he looked at me as if I was a fucking monster. And he was like, why the fuck would we do that? We will be together forever.

Remember, he's making more money than me. And it's a thing like it's so wholesome. He does. But I just I will always get a prenup. I mean, we've all heard those stories from women that marry a guy that is way more successful and they didn't get a prenup. And then he loses all his money and she fucking finds a hundred million dollar company and it has to end up giving him 50 percent because she didn't protect herself.

Yeah, yeah. No, I hear you.

I just, like, went off on a tangent. Express yourself, express yours. Let that. Oh, I wish you guys could see like the body language.

But I think girlfriend, I think that it does not make him less of a man. And I understand what you're saying. He might feel emasculated, but that's on him. That's his insecurities. Explain to him how you feel and you love him to death, but lay down the law. Yeah.

And and maybe if you want to wait longer to have that conversation, like I'm saying, also, we don't we don't know every detail either. He might he might want to put money into the house and improve it or you know what I mean? Like, we don't have a ton of information here, but.

Right. Talking about finances in a relationship is a very tricky thing. It's exhausting. It's it is. It is. And it's hard to navigate for sure. Definitely. All right. Next question.

The other day, I found out via Facebook that my ex-boyfriend has cancer. It's lymphoma, stage unknown. I feel really weird. I don't miss him or have feelings for him. But we were great friends, not just lovers. I really have no idea how to feel. It makes me incredibly sad and worried, but not in that way, if that makes sense. I told my boyfriend that he has cancer and he was empathetic, but I feel weird telling my boyfriend that I'm actually worried about my ex.

The fuck do I even do or how should I even feel? Am I weird for caring? Does it make me a shitty girlfriend for caring about my ex having cancer?

Send help? You want to take this one? Yeah, go don't mind. Oh, why do not feel bad about caring that somebody's caring about somebody who used to love, right. Has a potentially life ending disease.

Absolutely. I feel bad for people I don't know about. Yeah. You might feel bad or something you see on Twitter. Well what do you love and invested. You, you like grew from them and learn from them regardless of how it ended or what the experience was, even if it wasn't a positive relationship, it's still OK to feel bad. Like that's just how you feel. You don't have to apologize for your emotions and if your boyfriend is insecure, yet you're your ex with cancer is not allowed to get any, you know, sympathy from you, then.

I mean, that's a red flag in and of itself that you should definitely be aware of.

Yep, I completely agree with that. I think that you do not need to feel guilty about this at all.

At all. Do whatever you feel like you want to do. So, yeah.

She asked, you know, what do I do or how should I feel? You can feel however you want. And this goes for anything in life. Your feelings are always warranted.

One hundred percent. That's number one. Number two, what do you do if you want to reach out to him? Absolutely.

Do it. And your boyfriend needs to feel confident enough in the relationship to be OK with it.

Yeah, he should be supportive. Absolutely, yeah.

And thank you so much for writing that in. Yeah. Thank you for sharing that with me.

All right. I think this is our last question, so it better be a singer. Hi, I love you, but please but please address on your podcast, Charcuterie Boards. Why the fuck are they popular? They just fucking sit at the party and no one touches it. No one wants to just get a bag of Cheetos and put it in a bowl. Idk it's not cool or q what the fuck.

I love when these questions come along.

There are few and far between.

Yeah. Yeah. Well it sounds like you have a lot to say about them. I think they're like why the fuck are you talking about Charcuterie Board.

No, I think that she's just upset that some Instagram influencer made it trendy right now to post the meat and cheese. And like we know you're not eating that. You just want it for the, you know, aesthetic. Right. Fucking hate you. That's kind of like what the question was.

No, I thought you were going to say she is hating on it because they did a better charcuterie board than her. That's the thing. It's like people do competition.

Said your question was riddled from insecurities.

OK, I understand what she's talking about because on Instagram, I don't know if you've noticed because you probably follow a bunch of, like, thoughts that oh, my post.

Why I reform I.

Oh, my God, a man is never reformed. Please charcuterie. Poor thing. It's a trend. And people are posting that shit left and right like it's a personality trait. It's not. It's not.

I'm also not eating out of a bowl of Cheetos at a group gathering grill free covid those Cheetos.

Yeah, I think absolutely that someone needs to let these people posting this shit that they're like not following CDC regulations on us. They're like promoting fucking bad covid regulations.

So I guess it wasn't really a question. She's just venting. We're just totally fine with me.

It's OK to always be that ear to listen. They don't bother me.

I like pictures of food and I like charcuterie boards, except I recently cut out pork because I'm trying to eat less meat.

That's the best thing to cut out. Yeah. For Good Wife work. I never heard that.

Anyways, guys, thank you so much for listening. Ghostwriter I almost called you MILF Hunter, Ghost Writer. Thank you so much for being here.

We we cover a lot. We cover a lot and I'm exhausted.

It's also just something to eat. Let's have a drink.

Dry January.

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