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Welcome to today's episode of the Mind Set Mentor podcast, I'm your host, Rob Dial, and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button since you never miss another episode. And today I have a massive, massive announcements.

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As you know, we put out three episodes every single week, Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

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And one of the things that I don't talk a whole lot about is how much I coach business owners. And with that decided that it would be smart to actually start a brand new podcast and add it to this. So instead of Monday, Wednesday, Friday, we're going to Monday, Wednesday, Friday will be the mindset mentor. And then Thursday, every single Thursday will be the business edition of the mind set mentor.

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And my best friend, Dean Devries, who's helped me build multiple multimillion dollar businesses, is going to be joining me every single Thursday as we break down what it takes to grow your business.

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And this could be for people who are entrepreneurs. This could be for salespeople. This could be for people that are climbing the ladder at your company. This can be if you want to learn how to get better leadership or if you just want to start a side hustle. So if you're interested in learning about that every single Thursday on this channel, we're going to be putting out a business edition of the Mind segment or so.

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Dean, welcome to the very first episode. This is the inaugural episode of the business edition of The Mind Set Mentor.

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And so I'm excited to do with you because, you know, we've known each other for 14 years. We started our first business together, running a million dollar business when I was 21 and you were 20 years old. And we've built a couple other ones since then.

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And so I thought for everyone out there that wants to be an entrepreneur or is an entrepreneur or a business owner has a side hustle or they're trying to climb the corporate ladder, they want to be a better salesperson, we could start a podcast so we could try to impact them as much as possible.

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100 percent. Yeah. And we just love this stuff.

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I mean, we've been talking about we've been delving into business. And it's funny because, like the mindset mentor talks about, like a lot of personal growth. But really, like, if we go back to the very beginning of our journey, the reason why we decided to embark on this journey of personal growth is because we just we wanted to make more money. Right? We wanted to grow our business. And our just remember our very first mentor sharing with us that the level of our business and the level of our income will never exceed the level of our personal growth.

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And so I just remember that being at that defining moment where you and I were just we've always kind of been on the same sort of journey. We were just like, I want to continue making an impact. I want to, you know, and back then, our motivation for making money is a whole lot different now.

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You know, now we're really connected to the purpose, but it's always been something that we've been really passionate about. So I'm just honored to share in this this journey on this platform with you and with this audience. So, yeah, I think it's going to be awesome.

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So today, if you are offended by cussing, this is not the episode for you.

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You might want to turn this one off because we're going to cuss in this episode more than I probably ever have in any episode that I've done in almost nine hundred of them. And the reason why is because the title of today or what we're going to be going over today is this.

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If it's not a fuck, yes, it's a fuck. No, that's not going to be talking about today. And really what it comes down to is how to make really decisive, great decisions in your business and also in your life based off of a really simple concept in the concept is this if it's not a fuck, yes, it's automatically a fuck. No. Game, yeah. And what I love about this is that this is like the litmus test on making those decisions that are in alignment with no one what it is that you actually want.

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So often we make decisions because we feel like we need to make decisions for other people. You know, like I'm going to say yes to this because that's what they want me to do. Right.

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And this is the total litmus test for making the decisions that you really want to make. But also the decisions are going to move the needle forward in your business and make the biggest impact on the business. So I'm really looking forward to diving in on this.

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Yeah. And a lot of times, like you said, what we do is we go in and we start a business because we think other people will appreciate that business or we get a degree because we think other people will appreciate that degree, or we do something because our parents told us that that's what we should do for our lives and and we follow what other people tell us to do.

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And then one day wake up and we're like, where the hell am I? This isn't the life that I wanted. I'm not doing what I wanted with who I wanted. And I'm not making the money and the impact that I truly want.

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And if you would have known to go back to when you were in college, when you were first starting your business or when you first started a degree and go, is this one hundred percent fuck? Yes, for me.

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And if the answer is no, then you shouldn't do it right and a lot of people in the Western world, what we really struggle with is the idea of, you know, we're really great thinkers.

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We're taught to always come from the mind, but we're not really taught to go from the gut. Like, what's your gut feeling? Say, one of the things that I find with a lot of people that we coach is we say, what does your gut say? And they're like, I don't even know how to hear my gut. I don't know how to.

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And it's a feeling. And we're not really taught to feel. We're taught to think more than anything else.

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And so this question kind of makes it really simple, where if I were to sit down and say, hey, well, what do you think you should do in this situation of people like, oh, I don't know, OK, what do you feel like you should do in a situation?

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I'm not really sure what I should do.

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OK, let's make it easy. Dean, is this business a focus for Ewers or. Fuck no. And if you make it even easier, just ask the question, is it a fuck? Yes, and if you're like I feel like I'm like 75 percent there, then guess what? It's automatically a fuck. Now, that's the best part about it.

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And it makes it really easy to make decisions as quickly as possible and to line up with what you truly want to be doing and then just continue to keep going. Yeah.

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You know, and this is not just good for business, by the way. This is just good for any decision making.

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Like imagine of every decision that you made was just a fuck. Yes. Like if you said yes to something, it was a fuck.

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Yes. And if it's not a fuck. Yes. If it's a ninety nine percent. Yes, it's automatically a fuck now. So, yeah, we'll dive into on this episode how this manifests in business and some of the decisions that we make that it's oftentimes easy to make decisions that are like it's a ninety nine percent.

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Yes. So on paper I can you know, I can put some logic to this and convince myself that, yeah, you know what, I'll just go ahead and do it versus like fuck yes.

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This is what I want. This feels good.

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Right. And what it comes down to is really the life that you're trying to build. Like if we just say, OK, we're talking about Mobil's business, we're talking about relationships, all of those things.

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But if I go, Dean, would you want to live a life? That's for sure.

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Right. Right. Like, if I go, do you want to do this? You're like, yeah, sure, I could do that. Do you want to live that life of a sure. Or do you want to live a life that you're like, fuck, yes. Yeah. I mean, it makes it simple. If all of your decisions are fuck yes.

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Your life will be a fuck. Yes.

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Yeah. But if all of your decisions are I guess then your life is going to be like, yes, that doesn't sound exciting. That is not sexy to me. And I'm sure like everybody can relate to this saying yes to something that wasn't truly a fuck. Yes.

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That will in due time will eventually become a fuck. No. Right. You know, saying yes to a relationship where it's like, yeah, I'll I'll give it a try.

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I'll put my toe in the water that ends up turning into a fuck.

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Now you know how it relates to business hiring an employee. I need somebody right now and yeah, they'll they'll you know, they'll be OK.

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They're good for right now.

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That's going to turn into a fuck now. Right. Taken on a new project where it's like, yeah, I could do that.

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I need the money.

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So I'll do that, you know, for right now that's going to turn into a fuck now. Right.

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And we've coached enough people and gone through enough businesses to see how something that's not a full fuck. Yes. Will turn into something really toxic later on down the road.

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So first thing you said was relationships, right?

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How many people listening to us have had a relationship that was not a full fuck? Yes. And then they stayed there for way too long. And then what happens? It becomes toxic. They hate it. They resent the other person. They resent each other. All of those things happen. Right. That relationship was never a focus from the beginning.

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How many people listening to us right now, we're not in a relationship. Right. Like, don't send me emails about it.

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The fact that I made you get a divorce, that's not my fault, you know, but that's what I mean is like just really think about that, like the relationship that I'm currently in.

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Is it a full fuck? Yes.

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Or is it not and not? I'll tell you what you really, truly should be doing in your life. Right. If you go back to another thing where you said, you know, clients, right. I understand when you start a business, you want to make money.

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Right. At some point in time, you do have to kind of start to do things you don't want to do to get money into your business, because it is, you know, the blood of your business, the oxygen of your business. You need money for your business to survive.

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But at a certain point, you've got to learn that there's literally some jobs that you should not take.

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Right. We'll give a perfect example, Chris, who's behind the camera right now and helping us.

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She had a proposal today. Right. And she had a call today with with a project that she wanted. And she literally said before she got on the call, I want it to be paid ten thousand dollars for this project.

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Right. Good. You need to know what you're worth and not take any less than that. And then when they came and said they wanted to pay thirteen hundred, that's a full fuck. No, right.

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When you get to a point where you are not struggling anymore, you've got to have the fuck yes.

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The fuck no. And the reason why is because there's too many people there on too many businesses that are doing shit that they don't want to do. And they actually resent their business because they said yes to too many things that were fucked up from the beginning. Yeah.

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And I can also I mean, through through this journey, you'll get to know a little bit more about my story. But in my real estate business, when I was becoming a brand new realtor and taking on the clients that I just knew were going to be a pain in the ass. Right. But at the at the beginning, I was like, I just need the experience. I just need the money. I just need, you know, I need I need the need.

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Right. Coming from that place of scarcity. Right. And I learned really quickly that in those moments I'm like, I didn't trust my gut to just say this is a fuck.

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Now, I just I, I. I convinced myself that I should do it because I was new, because I was just starting out and it never panned out, so learning that that lesson and hopefully this could be like that lesson for you, if you're listening to this, it's never worth it when you take on that client or when you take on that project, because ultimately it's not a fuck.

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Yes, you're going to deliver. And not only are you going to be unsatisfied, but probably your client or whoever you're you're working with on the project is going to be unsatisfied as well, 100 percent.

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And and that not only makes the relationship bad, but it also makes your quality of work bad, which she wants to go out and do any bad work. That's that's not something somebody wants to do. Right. So you've got to think about it that way. Another another way that works in business as well as business partners. We're speaking about this a little while ago before the cameras turned on. But one of the things that's great about you and I is as similar as we are, we're also really different.

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You bring different skill sets to the table. Then I bring in I bring different skill sets table than you bring, and that works for us. But a lot of people go into business for hour with a business partner for a couple of reasons. Number one is because they don't feel like they're good enough to do it on their own.

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So they have to bring somebody else and then that turns toxic. Or number two, they do it with someone who's very, very similar to them. They bring the exact same skill set to the table and then they're like, well, we're not going anywhere.

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And the reason why is because you have to have a business partner that's good at what you're terrible at and you have to be good at what your business partner is terrible at as well.

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And so if you look at it that way and you go, OK, all right, we're good at this, he's good at this, I'm good at this, he's going to do some good does. There's too many similarities. I get this feeling that this might not work. One hundred percent.

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Is this a fake? Yes. And if it's not a fake, yes. It's automatically a fake. No.

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And that can really take a business and run it into the ground. If you have two people that are not full successes in the business in there, what they do and their traits.

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But then also, as well as if your business partner has to be a full into your business as well, not twenty five percent into the business, right?

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Yeah. Yeah. And you know, what you're talking about is like bringing that level of intention, like, is this going to be a relationship? That is a fuck. Yes, not just for me. Like am I going to be excited to work with this person every single day for the next 10, 15, 20 years? I mean, a partnership in a business is like a marriage, right? Like you're basically getting married. It's the same, you know, type of responsibility to the relationship versus like I know a lot of people, they want to get into business partnerships because they don't either they don't want to do it alone or they don't have enough confidence that they could do it alone.

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Right. So, yeah, I love I love that aspect of it.

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And and going back to clients, one of the things that's really important as well is the prices that you're charging as well.

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So you and I have coached hundreds of business owners.

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And one of the things that we say to almost everybody is raise the prices. Yeah, and the reason why is because most people undervalue themselves.

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And so if you're going out and realize this, if we're diving into this mindset in general, obviously most people in the world have some lack of self worth in some area of their life.

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And with that lack of self-worth, then when they go in, they make a proposal and they don't charge what they truly want to charge.

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It's usually because of like, I don't know if I'm worth it. Right.

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And so, like an example is we've coached a lot of coaches or coaches how to how to make money.

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And a lot of times the first thing I say to them, your prices. And they're like, there's there's there's no way I could double my prices. I'm like, no, prices don't go into your next phone call and not have your prices doubled. And I don't know if I could do it. I don't care if you don't think you can do it. You can say or if you say it's 500 bucks a month only now say a thousand bucks a month, you don't have to think that they're going to say yes in order to just go out and actually do it.

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Here's what's interesting about it, though.

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Most of the time the person says yes.

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And what happens? The real interesting thing about it is that sometimes we need people to say yes to us, for us to actually get confidence in ourselves.

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But if we're not going out there and asking the price that we truly want, then we're never going to feel like we're worth the prices.

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And the worst things you could do is to charge less than you feel like you are worth, because then you're going to resent that person.

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You're going to resent the work that you're doing. And it's never going to be a full focus for you. So then you start to resent your business because you're working really hard. You're not making the money you truly want to make.

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And so what I was helping was just double your prices. Just tell the next person that walks in your door, whether it's a physical door, whether it's an online door, it's double what you get, what you are charging.

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If you charge five hundred bucks, just say a thousand said a couple of times one person is going to say yes and you're going to go O'Shay.

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I've been undercharging for years, yeah, and to figure out what that fuck yes, prices don't look at it in terms of like, you know, what's the fuck. Yes. Of what I want to charge, because then that little imposter syndrome in the background is going to say, oh, you're not worthy enough. We are not good enough that you're not worth that. That amount of money instead focus on like. Is that a fuck? Yes.

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For me to earn. Right. Don't worry about anything else. But like, if I was earning that thousand dollars a month versus 500 dollars a month, is that a fuck. Yes. And if that's the fuck. Yes. Like that's, that's what to charge. Yeah. And we'll talk in other episodes about the price down the rabbit hole.

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And there's there's a lot of pricing, pricing details of how to ask for better pricing.

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But here's the thing that you need to know. When you charge more, you show up better for your clients, which means that you get more out of it and they also get more out of it. And that's the important thing.

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So when you sit down and you look at a proposal that you're coming up for somebody, whether you're a coach, whether you're somebody that's doing, you know, air conditioning ducts and you're putting them into somebody's house, whatever it is that you do, or you're a plumber and you're coming up with something that you have to come up with and you have to put a price down on it. Ask yourself, is this price a fake? Yes. And if it's not your undercharging and go, what is the forecast price?

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And then just put it down there and they're going to start seeing people that are going to buy from you, which is going to make no one you more profitable. You make more money. Number two, it's going to actually make you start to believe in yourself more. And number three, you're going to show up deeper for your clients as well, which is what's important. Yeah. Yeah, I love that.

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Another thing, too, is kind of along the same frame as the business business partners is employees, you know, I mean, we look at our employees as business partners because ultimately they have a huge role in our in our business.

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And we want them to also have that level of that level of commitment to the business. And so when it comes to hiring employees, you know, we talked a little bit about it already. But, you know, does the employee bring life to your business and does it bring does that person bring life to you? Like, you know, and we've we've experienced this before. And the businesses that we've run, like, you know, we've had to let people go because it's just like I don't like the feeling that I get when I walk into a room with this person like that.

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That's a fact.

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Now, they're not a bad person. Right. But they're just not a culture fit. Yeah, right.

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So they can be a great person, but for some reason they just don't fit with the culture. And what happens with a lot of people is that people people are in desperation.

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A lot of times they get to a point of desperation in their business where they're like, I need somebody. Now, first off, I'm not going to talk about this episode. You should always be always be interviewing people so that when you do need somebody, you can immediately bring them on. When you don't need people, you should be interviewing people all the time. But most people get themselves in a scarcity situation. I need somebody right this moment.

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And what happens? They try to hire somebody quick. It's not the right person. And they end up losing a ton of money because no one, that person didn't do their job the way that they could or should have if you were to put the right person in place. And number two, you have, what, six months a year, two years of wasted time that you could have had somebody that was a focus in there.

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And so, you know, when you're looking at somebody and they might not have the skill set that somebody else does. Right. We've hired people, you and I, that don't have the skill set of other people. But when we talk to him, we get off the phone and we go there. Reforecast. Yeah, right. Because we can give somebody the skill set that they need.

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But there's an attitude and there's a feeling that somebody has to have when they're part of our business.

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That's the way it should be for every business. Does this person fit into my business and how do I feel?

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Am I 85 percent sure on them? Am I 90 percent sure on them or am I 100 percent sure on them? Only when it's a full hundred percent fuck, yes. Am I going to bring somebody on to the team? It's like they say hire slow, fire fast. Yeah, that's the way it should be. But most people the exact opposite. What they do, what do they do?

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They hire fast and then they're like, oh, I can't really give over this person because I need them on my team. And then it takes them a long time to get rid of the person.

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And then eventually it becomes a huge fuck. No, huge fuck, no. So what do you think about like like business planning and business decisions, like, you know, marketing campaigns and and, you know, setting goals and stuff like that. What are your thoughts on that and how it relates to the sales?

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If anybody knows anything about me on the Internet, I'm big into marketing and I don't really do any paid advertising.

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There's nothing wrong with that. I think that it's great for some people. For me, it's all about making true, authentic content that connects. And this could be for me as a coach, this could be for me as a content creator. This could be for anybody out there that's listening. That's a coach, or they run that company or they do flooring, whatever it is, it's got to be true and authentic to them.

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One of the biggest things that I see where people make the most mistakes is they try to duplicate somebody else. That's not then and it's not authentic. And whether you realize it or not, people can sniff out an authenticity.

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I've done it before. I've I've created Instagram posts because other people create an Instagram post.

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And we were just literally right before the cameras turned on, I was like, yeah, we're going to do this whole new Instagram post because I don't know anybody else in the world that's doing this right. Because that's a full thought.

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Yes, because it's quotes directly from me from the podcast for all of that stuff, which we're literally just talking about literally right before I hit record because.

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I understand looking at other people's stuff and going, oh, I like that, I like that, but to copy somebody directly will never be fully authentic. But if you go to other Instagram's, which I recommend to people go to three or four or five Instagram that you really love and say, what do I love about these? Don't just copy it because they did it right. One of the things that I do is I hold up cue cards and you know, if anybody follows my Instagram, you'll see me where it's a picture of me.

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I'm holding a card and it just says a quote in front of it.

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It's interesting how many of those have popped up recently. And like I say, I'm the only person that that in the world that does that. But a lot of people who start to start tagging me in things because I get tagged on them, they start tagging me and I'm busy doing the exact same thing I'm not mad about. I don't care. But my question to them is it is a truly authentic to you.

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Don't just do it because I'm doing it or don't do it because some other person is doing it because some marketing guru that has a course out there tells you to do it.

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Go. What is about this is fully authentic to me. Is this fully authentic?

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If it's not, how can I change some pieces around to make it fully authentic?

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Because, you know, I think that that that there's energy to all of the things that we create. And if it's not a full. Yes. Energy that I'm putting into it, people aren't going to dig it as much.

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And that's the way that I feel about it. Hmm. Yeah.

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One thing that's just coming into my awareness as we're talking about this is, you know, just the way that we see that happen all the time where people are like, oh, that person is is killing it with this marketing campaign.

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So I'm just going to rip off and duplicate that, even though it doesn't, you know, even if it might not fit with me or it might not be exactly what it's like coming from my heart, I'm just going to do that coming from that place of scarcity and that that idea of like I don't trust myself to give that that decision a full fuck. Yes. Right. Right.

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So I think a big part of this, too, is like getting clear on who you are, what you stand for, what your vision is, which is a whole other episode.

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But for sure and I think, you know, it comes back to, you know, also another thing that pops into, as you're talking about is like the goals and commitments that people have towards something. So if I'm doing a marketing campaign, obviously need goals behind it, I have commitment towards that as well.

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A lot of people don't even have full focuses on their actual goals, like their goals or only their goals, because somebody else told them they should do it or their goals are only their goals, because the fact that they're competing against someone else or because, you know, they feel like they're I got to get to one hundred thousand a year or two million dollars a year, five million dollars or whatever it is. And the problem with that is if your goals or commitments are not yours.

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Really, like you're not going to put anywhere near as much effort as you need to. Yeah, and so think about it this way. Let's say someone wants to make you know, they want to go. You know what? I saw someone on Instagram that's making two million dollars my industry per year. They're like, I'm going to make that my goal when in reality, if they would have asked themself before, is that my focus? And it wasn't.

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And they go out there and they start and they get excited about it two months down the road, they're not as excited about it. A month down the road. The not even as excited about it. They don't put as much time, effort, energy into it. And they do like seventy five grand that year because it wasn't true to what they wanted to do.

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But what was true to them maybe was true.

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Five hundred thousand dollars for the year. And then they can look at that 500 and it's a fuck yes to them and they can go. This is what I connect to. This is what I truly want to do. But instead of only going hard at it for a month or two because it's their goal, what do they do? They go hard for 12 months. And when you go hard for 12 months, you can make a lot more. Right.

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Let's say that person makes three hundred grand. Well, they did make seventy five grand.

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They want to go for two million, but it wasn't truly their goal. But then they made 300 when they were going for five hundred. Or maybe they hit that 500. Right. Right. Why?

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Because it was their goal and that somebody else was going what they felt like they were supposed to do. They didn't burn themselves out trying to get to two million. Yeah, well, it can also go on the opposite end to where it's like, oh, well, the average person in my industry only makes one hundred grand, so I'm just going to go for 100 grand. Right. Versus like it could have been the Phuket's could have been like I can do a million bucks.

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Right. If they're really tapped into their fuck. Yes.

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That could be seeing what other people are doing and creating a decision based on that versus what comes through us and what comes like authentically from the heart, like, fuck, I believe I can do a million dollars. I know. I mean, that's really true, man.

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If you think about it, like the average person in the coaching industry makes like fourteen thousand a year. Yeah, right. Our goal for next year is ten million. Yeah. Right. So what if we were just like well average is only this amount.

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Right. That actually might make you more poor. So maybe it's like OK, the average person only makes one hundred grand like you're saying, you know what, I'm going to go for a quarter million dollars.

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Yeah. That might make you more excited than a hundred thousand one hundred percent agree to anything about how it's both ways.

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Yeah. And the big key here is like what feels right like that. That's why I love the idea of fuck. Yes. You know, and it's like, again, if you're offended by the profanity, then I'm offended that you're offended.

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But like, the reason the the essence of the full fuck.

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Yes. Like that comes from within. There's something that something about like just saying, fuck. Yes.

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Like that is that's not manufactured. Right. That comes from an energy that feels like totally pure like fuck. Yes.

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Yeah. And so yeah, I think, you know, going back to the the purpose of all this is like find what just makes you come alive and allow that to be your fucked. Yes. Yeah.

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And like imagine what your life would be like, like the full fuck. Yes. Gives you energy like you're saying. Like it. I want to wake up.

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And immediately start brushing my teeth. Go fuck, yes, I get to go into today, I get to go into my business, I get to go into what it is that I truly want to do.

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Versus. Yeah, I guess I could like what would your life be like if you had that much energy going do everything if you went into the marketplace like that, if you created content from that passion or that excitement? Right.

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Another thing that we were talking about, and we keep bringing up Chris behind the camera, but she said something when we were talking about planning a video, she's like, I want you to get that pissed off passion.

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Like, I have a pissed off passion that kind of comes out. But it wouldn't come out if I wasn't fucking excited by what I'm talking about. Right. Right. Like, that's another thing I think about. Like, I'm waking up and I'm like, all right, well, I'm just going to make a podcast about, you know, lizards.

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You know, I'm not into lizards. Right. But if I'm making a podcast about businesses, about mindset, about passion, about finding about who who you truly are, then I'm going to get that pissed off passion that she's speaking about. And imagine if you had that passion going into everything that you do.

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You know, it makes your business decisions a lot easier, right? It makes your business decisions way more simple as well. And you don't have to spend time second guessing.

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Right. Like it's really like decisions done don't need to think about anymore. Yeah, it was it wasn't a fuck. Yes. I don't need to worry about it.

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And how how much time that people spend on just being paralyzed by the analysis of all of all their work, what could they do?

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And then the second guessing it's like, oh, but if I don't do this, this might happen. Don't worry about that shit.

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Just be a fuck. Yes. And whatever it is that you do. And so it's like, you know, I mean, we talk to people all the time that come in to like one of our programs. It's like, yeah, I'm I'm going to be this type of coach.

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I'm going to be this type of business owner, because I heard that people out there are killing and doing this and then they realize, like, shit, this is going to be a fuck. No for me if I end up going on this journey. But let me just tap into my fuck. Yes. And when they do that, that's when just everything changes for them. Yeah.

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And even going back to that, think of how many people in exactly the same way, as you said at the business, think of how many people go into college that way.

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I know so many lawyers that aren't lawyers anymore because they heard you can make a lot of money being a lawyer. Right. But if they would have taken that, I don't know how long it takes to become a lawyer. Probably too long. Let's say it's eight years, maybe eight years, whatever. Just eight, ten years.

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They were taking that eight to ten years and put it into, you know, a horse training business because that's what they truly want to do. They can make more money. And that horse trainer business that they could as a lawyer. Yeah.

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And then they stop being a lawyer and they go and they do something else, you know, like I want to live a life that is a full fuck. Yes. Like my relationships, my job, my friendships, my employees, my people that are around me, my mindset, the stuff that I'm reading, the house that I live in, the car that I'm driving, I want every single aspect of my life to be a full fuck.

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Yes. Because that's what's going to give me energy and passion to go into every single day and accomplish more impact, more people. And in turn, if you're accomplishing more and you're impacting more people in whatever the businesses that you have, what are you going to do?

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You're going to make more money, 100 percent. Yeah. And the other thing, too, I just came up for me is you don't have to wait to be a full fuck. Yes, right. You don't have to wait for the decision to come to you at the perfect time, at the perfect moment when you have the perfect skill set to be ready to embark on your fuck. Yes. No, the fuck yes is actually what will get you to that place of the skill set of the ability to create.

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All of that will become clear when you are clear on your fuck. Yes. And you step into that fuck. Yes, 100 percent.

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And so I think to wrap it up, it really makes it simple. It's this is the thing I love. That is it is so simple when you get into a situation where you have to make it a tough decision or even just a decision. Right. Today, everybody listening. Just just do that. Whatever it is you're doing today, do I do I want to eat this or do I want to eat this?

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OK, I'm thinking about this thing. Does it feel like a fuck? Yes, it does. OK, well then go for it. Right. Or if you're like, should I workout today? I don't really feel like working out, but I know that I should. I know. Oh yeah. It's a fuck. Yes. I need to do it. Yeah.

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Right. Whatever you get to any decision, go with your answer and don't second guess it. If it's not a fake, yes, it's automatically. Mm hmm. So this episode has been a total fuck.

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Yes. So that is what we have for you on the very first episode of the Mind Set Mentor Business Edition. Once again, everybody, this is going to be happening every single Thursday from now on with Dean and I. And if you're out there in your coach or consultant and we're looking to grow your coaching or consulting business, or maybe it's an idea that you want to grow a coaching and consulting business and you want to schedule time with Dean. Absolutely free to go over your business and see how we can help you grow your business.

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Go ahead and go to book with Dean Dotcom right now. Once again, go to book with Dean Dotcom. He's only got a few open slots every single week. You'll book your time. Just make sure that that time works for you 100 percent and he'll be able to help impact you and your business and show you how we can help you grow. So once again, if you're a coach or consultant or looking to build a coaching consulting business and you want to hop on the phone with Dean for a consultation call, that's absolutely free to see how we can help you go to book with Dean Dotcom.

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And with that, I'm going to leave you the same way. I leave you every single episode, make it your mission, make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.

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Hey, everybody. Marianne Williamson here. Guess what is going to be a big shock to you?

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I'm going to be the one million seven hundred sixty seven thousand person to start a podcast, and this one is going to be really good.

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My guest today is Andrew Yang. What I appreciate about my relationship with you, Andrew, is I feel that you and I, on a personal level, can share both perspectives. And I always appreciate the opportunity to have a public conversation with you, because that back and forth that you and I have, I believe, really does embody a back and forth that exists in the hearts and minds of a lot of people.

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I am both uplifted by you and learn from you every time we talk. And you're just a very elevated person and truth teller and spending even this time with you. Like, I feel like it sharpens my thinking. It sharpens my perception of the need.

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I agree with everything you say tax policy should be just education policy should be just health policy should be just there should be criminal justice. There should be economic justice. But if, you know, if you don't learn the Bill of Rights as a child, you don't know as an adult to be horrified when it's under an assault. Exactly right.

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So I think what you're getting at is something I think about all the time, which is, I think, one of the great challenges of this moment. And it's an exciting challenge, but very difficult is we are now called to find a way to both love our country and tell the truth about it at the same time.

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So now we need to show the evidence of love. You know, when hatred and bigotry are harnessed for political purposes, we need to now match that with love and decency and dignity. Resubscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and join me.

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I can't wait.