Down lattes about the champagne, please. Thank you. Thank you very much. I'm going to sing a song for, you know, I wrote it myself. I wrote it about a month ago. But the morning after remembering it.

No, I was sitting at home with not. No, of course not. But the about food. So I sat on the couch and I put on the telly, had the remote control balanced on my belly. I used the entertainment half to watch a documentary about the invention of doughnut in the parking lot. And I fancy the film about going on a farm to watch it. But this guy said in the past week, seven day retirement's coming to an end, put me my own imagination, took me round the bend so I out the money.

Yes, I'm very nonchalant, but no TV has got what I want. I don't care if I ever leave home again. Just plasma television. Me on the who don't fit me. No TV could do to me. So no TV. Thank you. Thank you very much. Welcome, everybody, to the Tell Me and Hector show with Larita Blewitt, this is interim Mullingar, let the dogs be back at the chickens until it's time to hit the Protestants.

That's my father. So soon as we were leaving the house.

It's a dirty old or dirty dank. But you were given a outside. This kind of weather is OK. Perfect for running. You go out. It's perfect.

Right here in half an hour and you drive around. Goldway drives through the motorway and come back out here and say it's not a bad morning.

So do you want to know? Do you see Tommy doesn't have to move for this podcast.

Stink, stink, stink.

Tommy doesn't see it because he's within the confines of his house and out of his house slippers, his house shoes.

So if Trump is in the house all morning, who is it? The drops the daughter to school insulted. She probably was probably literally a mile.

That's a mile and a half where after I leave the house for the school drop, I 23 minutes passed it and I got back at five past nine. OK, it's a 40 minute drive.

OK, I'm not. So I might want to dispute the fact that he went to school properly.

Larita, can you can you tell us this morning the the challenge you face on a podcast morning?

I have to say nearly I'd say nine out of ten mornings it's been raining come and go.

So just to know, here's responsibility's always raining and always my point.

And I left. Mel wasn't that wet. Come up the end seventeen rain and ran and ran and ran and got on the motorway.

You're like a no no no I that it's not me. I want to hear this. Hardly see the car in front of me with the rain.

That's what I want to hear. Where are you. Wipers on full blast.

Does your car not have the wipers. Are that the windscreen decides itself when the head when the wipers are to come out.

It does. But that's I mean, that was on full time because it was raining so heavy I could barely see the comforts me. Couldn't really go fast talking just to get here, loving your time to think.

Meanwhile, Tommy Coffee here has had his coffee. It's lovely and warm. Did it. Probably did a crossword. I am living in clericals.

Only one woman on the crossword this morning and it's you talk me.

I left the house. It's twenty past six this morning to come seven miles in to go away and I got here ten past ten honest passengers.

That silly shopping centre is it did jump up and down for bread and milk.

Remember, it's not a second. Hang on. It's just after calling one of the staple shops of the country, if where would we be? Would we would the country be without center? Thank you, SUPERVALU, for looking at the sponsorship in the future for our show.

Cargo is not about a couple of thousand saints gathered around a center. That's what it is. Run the church. It is. Tell Clark all the way. Originally was a Hanbali and the castle and the friary and the abbey. And yes, it did. It grew up around that, but now it's really grown up around Centera build a supermarket and they shall come.

I mean, where would we be? Right the center, if you think. I think the statistic is we know centers going up.

We had a spa.

Hachey, I think we would aspire to be no there was no local corner shop and was DAUn stores don't own stores was the be all and end all. And then when test scores came to Navan, there was a queue for six days and six nights later that was death in the streets, riots.

There was riots trying to get down to the shop to use a lot of the footage from the Nevine riots for the for the RTG.

For that to talk about the L.A. riots. They know that there was a truck driver who was pulled it off truck, a bed to death, bed to death.

The Trib gets released from here job for Jeff Gold Card.

And they buried him in their own terror.

And the more we didn't have that problem and not more with no bartering shop, Tony Handley's that was called in the corner shop and not Tony, only Tony.

And it's Cochrane's now, but it used to be told what to call. Couldn't take it over to the boss. Oh, happened to Tony Tony's. It's a lot of mercenaries he couldn't keep going with.

Tony was a great servant to Namor, Tony Hanley.

I don't know if we discussed tattoos, what we might get to it on the podcast at some stage. But I just remembered I was in Bali and we were shooting the Asian series and it was an absolutely magnificent place. Bali.

Have you ever been in Bali? No, Tommy, no.

And it's funny, a lot of Irish people would use Bali as a stop off on the way to Australia. But it's a it's a paradise island. It is tropical. It is beautiful. Does yoga retreats. There's big beaches. It's it's spectacular. Surfers, the Aussies love it.

And when you're over in a place that now do you get do you think you get a chance to relax there or when you're working, is it to.

You to focus on the work, to be able to get a real sense on us. I think we have like it would be eight, seven or eight days there, we would film four or five and then have a day off and try and relax so we can try and take in the sights and the surf and get in the water and do all that sort of stuff. But we got picked up in a van in the airport in Bali and it was absolutely cannot three Irish lads sweating and we get into the back of the house.

And it was like sitting in a lounge seat in a pub and just sticking to it. Our driver was Dada, Dada, and he kept on saying, Harmony, boys, harmony is what life is all about. So that was the whole ethos of the trip, harmony and getting into the highest for seven days.

So to finish the show, David Beckham had wore a sarong.

Oh, yes. It was around the time Beckham had come out wearing a sarong, which is a Balinese type skirt. Yes. So I said to myself, why don't I wear a Balinese type skirt? I said it to Tarasco, will bite off one of the beach vendors on the beach, and I will. Take it off naked, and Roskill can follow me into the water as the end of the show under the sunset. So Rasco said, yeah, that's cool.

So I said, OK, but even will push the Florida Keys on the beach to as low as it is Hanna tattooists.

You like Adatto, you want a tattoo? Would you like a tattoo?

So I said, why don't I get the henna tattoo, the name of the show on my bong. Amoo son oche Amazon oche one and logic sonot on the other to let go, to lose yourself to get lost in Asia. Amoo Was that the chain the series has done so I said I say that's a great idea. So we pulled into the carpark of the Hard Rock Hotel about 32 degrees centigrade and the boys went down to the beach to find a hypnotist while I was getting myself ready to get a tattoo on my ass.

So the boys right back up to the Hard Rock Cafe carpark and I'm back and there's no aircon and the doors are open and it is.

And then this little man called Freddie comes up and he said, Hello, hello, little sort of Abigroup. Is this ready? This is Hector. Freddy, you make a tattoo for us. Yeah, right. He said yes. No problem where you want it. I said, OK, Freddy, I want to my ass here's here's the writing.

So I'd written it out on a piece of paper from. So then the boy said, he said yeah no problem. This take one hour at least. So the two boys went off for a swim. Meanwhile, I'm trying to get comfortable in the back of a HIAS. How do they do that? It's a little pen, it's a pen thing with if they scrape it in and it's all right, it's not just like a no.

It stays for a while. They don't just paint. It's like it's half scraped shape.

Penny type thing stays for a few months. So. So is this a good idea? So I was there. Will I put my ass, will I lie on the passenger seat my ass out or will I get into the back and just take down my pants and like looking out the back door to the house? So I take them I take them swimming shorts and he comes in through the front of the van and then he gets in through the two seats.

And then he said he nestles himself down.

And I have the doors of the van open and I am above and I've got my ass cocked. So I they start he goes, OK, you ready?

So he starts off Amoo and then about 15 minutes later the boys come back and he's still on one side of the ass. So at this stage. Oh this is ridiculous. That's what is happening.

I can't see it. I'm sweating, I am absolutely big.

And I said, well no, no, I nearly finished.

I said don't forget the father and son or Asia, OK? And then I said, Freddy, by the way, are you married? He goes, Yes, yes, yes, eight children. I said, thanks be to God because he was down to the bottom of my ass there. He was there. It was a sacred moment. He was there for two hours.

So we finally finished the shot. Get it. Pay amount of liquid. I run over to the beach. I have the sarong on. Rascoe goes, action.

I start on this shiny Obali at Atoll and Paradise than Scott Unchosen when my John Canibus Fair Cronshaw Tanisha Glan August August to in isolation green a gorgeous slant could and Chuck and Joe Hogan Aromasin Arsh Obali My smart God am I going to pass away.

And then I dropped this. Arang Roskill pans down onto my ass and there's the name of the show and he moves at me towards the water and you can see the sun, the glistening of the water and he's panning in on my ass. And then I just the red hair and the ginger ness of me and the whiteness of me on the beach in Bali and I just dive into the water. What a beautiful thing.

So all three weeks later, we're in a hotel in Taiwan and we've a day off and I'm there the night before. I'm scratching the absolute limit during the night. Oh, that's just uncomfortable. So have a day off. I'm in the 25th floor of the Hilton in Taiwan and Taipei and I go into the toilet just for a second. I catch something and I look and I go, what? And what's that?

Let's try and turn it round.

And my whole are going into this rash, right? And I'm going, oh, Jesus Christ, I don't know. Now I'm completely naked. I'm trying to look into a mirror and have a look at my arm.

I don't know why is this just red raw infection all over? Just how come Jesus Christ really itchy and I ran and I put on a pair of jocks.

I ran into Roscoe's.

You rascal, rascal. Quick, quick, quick, quick, quick. Was well, it was almost as you make me next drop me pants because fuck. Well Jesus Christ. What's that. I said I don't know. What is it. He goes look so give an infection of the writing of your ass and then he goes, hang on, hang on, I'll take a photo of it. So he takes a photo of my ass.

My ass has no turned into affection of an henna tattoo, a moose and also raw, scabby, blistered infection. But it's in perfect writing. You can see the letters, but it's all infected. He's dead, man. That doesn't look good. I know that.

But can you read the name of the show is the name that you says you can read it.

All right. So I'm they're gone. What the fuck is this? How the fuck is going on my ass?

Next minute down to the hotel, doctor. Next May the doctor. I'm in an office and outside the reception area again. Dropping down my pants. Señor, my ass. This is this is weeks after getting a tattoo. Doctor says, no, no. I think you need to go to hospital. Fifteen minutes later, I'm in Taipei on my day off. I'm in the back of a car going to the hospital.

I went to a dermatologist and the skin area waiting in a waiting room. And next minute I'm filling out passport forms and insurance and all this. And then this lovely doctor comes out and she goes, Yes, please, Sorbent, with this tiny little room. Would it? Would it would. A curtain pulled across and she goes, Hello, my name is Dr. Kim. And actually goes, what seems to be the problem? I said, are you a dermatologist?

And she goes, Yeah, well, have a look at this.

So I stand up again. I'm dropping them the pants again.

And she goes, Oh, oh, all right. I says I said she goes, What?

What happened? Well, I got this name. This is the name of my show, by the way. It's called A Moose. And it's what T.G. Catherine.

And she's down on a honkers up my ass looking at it. And at that moment I said to myself, it's a good job. Wasn't called beyond the hall door or something.

Like, I'm trying to explain the name of the show to her and she's down looking at it and and taking samples of it.

And she goes, No, no, no, not good. Not good night. Good. Not good. I'm going home in two weeks time and that what Israel is doing is very bad, very bad infection, really bad strategy, because you need an injections, you need some steroid injections, and then we need to get some steroid cream.

So I had had two separate injections, one in each year. And then for about three weeks, I had to put the cream on it.

And finally, finally, the name of the show disappeared from your mother's.

Mothers. OK. All right, well, I go first.

I want to talk about one of the great words of our society and one of the great pillars of society and one of the great cornerstones of family.

I bring you down. A doctor will know that we might not want us. As I say, light the candle here.

I want us to talk because going into spasm again, I want us to talk about.

Openly about mothers, mothers. Well, I think it's important to say that there's a lot of pressure on women.

There's this kind of cliche in Irish society that all mommies are fantastic and that, you know, everyone loves their mother and there's no such thing as good as a mother's love.

And I just want to read that there are some women out there who do not want to be mothers and there are some women out there to whom and motherhood doesn't suit them at all.

And they they end up resenting their children and getting angry and fighting. You know, as my own mother said to me, Tom, I wish I'd never had children.

So there are so there are some women who just don't.

Yeah, I know motherhood doesn't suit them, but I think what happens is because there's no there isn't a space in the culture for that to be celebrated is the wrong word. But for that to be acknowledged, there's a pressure on to be the perfect mother.

And but and there's no there's nowhere for you to say not only am I a shit mother, but I really hate because it's not fuckin easy.

I'll tell you a story now. A woman, a woman related to me right back to back the generations.

Had she would have noticed she left school groups there, Boyland County, Roscommon. Was taken out of school when she was 12 and sent up to work up north in some kind of fancy house or in a factory or something like that. And, you know, back in them days, you had to find work for your children when they were young.

And if you got them a job someplace, it didn't matter if they didn't like the fucking job or not. You went and they're Bourdon was paid for, but they fuckin worked 12 years of age, sent off to this place. Anyway, at the age about 17 or 18, a husband was found for her and she got married.

She had three children and then ran away from home, so she would have been in her late 20s, the stage right and runaway oh ran to London. Now, I left them all, left the children, the husband just out the door, one moron and fuckin gone and then never seen her again.

So the husband wasn't having this. The shame of it, like back in them days, would have been the 50s for a fucking woman just to up and leave.

And great, great bravery on this woman's right to go. I can't fit in this fucking box of a house. I can't this life is not good for me. So it's just fucking went well. The husband lost the plot. Husband went to her family and said, you better bring her back here. And I don't give a fuck if it's a Rawdon and and drag drag bitch back by the fucking hair if you have to. Oh, my God.

So. They didn't. He went to London. Founder brought her back. And for more or less, you know, well, the door to the fuckin house and she had two other children and was the most kind of dynamically unhappy. Rage in is the wrong word, but kind of complicated, hurt a wounded creature, you know what I mean?

And that's the fascinating story to me that isn't it? Just of course, could anybody make fun of, you know, so just some women just aren't. That's why I'm born to be mommies.

You know the thing, mother, motherhood and mothers. It can't all be rosy in the garden. No, no, no. And it's an incredibly hard job. I know fatherhood is hard, but motherhood and mother's. I you know, that's fatherhood is difficult, but there's a there's a cultural if a if a dad fucks off. It's happened before. Mm hmm. You know, he's you know, and he that bastard. He fucking what, he just disappeared on your door and he left you here with the four kids and you've no idea who has what are Ofakim you're better off with, you're better off without him.

His bad fucking blood is bad news to you. And does he send any money? He what the fuck? Fuck. I'm Susan. You're better off without him. Fuck them. OK, that's the story that the culture is for her.

Yeah.

Her boss, the mother, she did what she left them.

She just wasn't that fascinating that he was able to find her in London as well. Like I suppose in the fifties people it was only certain places you'd probably go and you stay. And what do you think of mothers, Lurita?

Mothers, what's mother what does mother mean to you? What mothers? How would you describe mothers and mother? Any stories?

Oh, I had a mother for what was a positive start. Yeah, well, yeah, I know I lost my mother at Christmas so it was a it's still very hard to get your head around it. You know, you, you think that and because she was sick, I got into a routine of taking her to the hospital once a month and to go away and taken her to here and there. And so you got into that routine. It was just going to go on like that, you know?

But I think, like we're all lucky to have had we had our mothers for a long time.

You know, growing up, I always feel sorry for kids that are denied that by maybe sickness or whatever, when they're when they're young, when they miss out on that.

Like, my little I had a little neighbor who lost his mom when he was only three, you know, when, like, he has no memory of her, you know, when the mind of a human you know, they always find, you know, a friend of mine said one time bothersome because he's never had it.

And I'm sure when he was at school and he used to say that when he was in school, all his friends were you know, he just didn't have that, you know.

So a friend of mine said in his mid to late sixties and he said the thing about being a parent is you're about getting ill and dying, he said was that if you have the feeling that your kids will survive your death, then you can go, oh, you know, if you're if you're of an age and your children are treat treated as if I died now, they would be fucking destroyed. So that's very difficult. But if yeah, if you have a sense of it, be hard them.

But they'll be fine actually when I die. Yeah, it's much easier.

Yeah I them I lost, I've lost my mom and my dad. So the feeling of losing my dad is a completely it is, it is a totally different feeling from losing my mother.

Yeah. Like I lost them you know, when you're older. Yeah. Well my mother passed away only a couple of years ago. I felt that loneliness. Yeah. That I didn't feel when my dad had passed away.

But at that you had when your mum died, lonely, you'd become an orphan and people don't adults. That's always a shock to an adult where they go when both parents are dead. What the fuck?

Yeah. Yeah. It's a stark reality that it's just me and my brothers left, but I felt a loneliness that my mother, my mother was gone from this world.

And I feel there's an emptiness in the form, isn't there? Like it was a total void there and there was more I don't know. Was it love? I don't know what it was. It was a boy thing as well.

It was a son, my mother, my Irish mother, my mother, the mother of the house, the mom, my mom, who did all for us. Everything everything she did was for the boys and that she was gone now. And I felt a totally different level of feeling and loss than I did when I lost my dad, which was totally out of circumstances.

But I felt for an Irishman and an Irish boy and that son that I am to my mother is totally different. I felt lonely that she was gone and that we were on our own. Yeah, no, no. I do feel like I haven't.

My mother used to do my mother used to do all my ironing for me because I wasn't really go to school. I haven't had anything ironed since the twenty seventh of December. So that's the problem. But like there is a huge gap in our life since my mother died, like, oh my dad's there and it's home and everything. But I find.

There's a coldness around home when she's not when your mother's not there, isn't there because she creates what your home, what your home is.

You know, the break in the case now, the that you know, and I smell for four out for a girl or for a daughter losing their mother, I start feeling like because it's it's awful. I hate it.

Yeah. Would you be able to empathize with those words that I got from a boy losing their mother? Is it the same for a girl losing their mother, you know?

Yeah. I mean, I don't know what it is awful. And I see my sisters have kids and they miss her. You know, they miss her so much, you know, just from for getting advice on their kids and, you know, all that sort of stuff. But I would both.

If you have a warped sense of your mommies, would she have in what way?

In the sense that they're they're dead. So what sense of them now do you have of your mother's presence or.

Well, is there different? Are you able to differentiate between your the memory of your mother and an ongoing presence of your mother in your lives? Oh, I think there's my mother and Tommy, you know, my mom. My mom. Well, but Krisha was a strong woman, a west violent woman. And I might feel silly, but I see bloody Robin redbreast popped up and come up to the bloody window in my house. I don't you know, that silly thing that people say that that you have.

Did you ever think I don't get that and I wish I did.

I wish I had that feeling that, like, I, I generally feel guilty saying, like I don't and I wish that it was there, you know, I don't I feel like she's gone and I, I miss her, but I, I don't feel like if I talk to her, she's going to give me some sign back or you know, I don't feel that I wish I did, but I just feel like there's complete emptiness there. And I miss her and she's gone and there's not I of course I've got great memories of her and she's left a great legacy with me.

And she brought us up so well and having respect for others and all of that and have all of that. And I have all the memories and stuff. What I know there's just a void there.

The celebrities, the early days.

Tell me, can I ask you then and I know you. I didn't meet your mom too often.

No, I never I don't think I yeah.

I think I my experience be very different from the previous experience in that my my mother committed suicide.

So from my mother, it was a thing of it wasn't so much I wouldn't say it was a relief, but it was it was it was expected. It wasn't.

It was expected. It was that at some stage. This was a possibility because she was in such kind of torment so far. There are lots of people out there who's who, and it's so strange when you hear of people who commit suicide. In there from day one, mother was 64 when a mother does this. Yeah, but there's a group that age.

But you can't you kind of think that you've you've made your peace with life, you know, and got to grips with that, you know, had to deal with it. Yeah. And that dark, dynamic struggle isn't there anymore.

So it's always a surprise to hear or you know, John, fully age 71, and he killed himself thinking, what the fuck is that anyway?

So my mother, that process of suicide is can be the culmination of a process of estrangement. So you spend all of your life pushing people away, you know, so you're kind of you're retreating into an isolation that that. That doesn't include other people, you know. And so when my mother killed herself, it was almost like. It wasn't a shock in the sense of someone that you're getting on great with and then they do, it's it's like this is a woman who struggled from the moment I knew her.

And it was all the time kind of with with great heart and great warmth in her, but just unable, unable to cope with stuff, you know, well treated like.

Oh, yeah.

And so would you would have used different things as a coping mechanism, different kind of substances and stuff like that, and just kind of pushing her and her sister, my mother, my Antonia, also committed suicide.

So there's a kind of a you and they talk about remember talking to someone younger when she did it or my aunt.

I knew that was about 20 years ago and my mother was about 10 years ago.

So and it's just a bit what I have noticed is that your relationship with people still goes on even after their deaths. So or when someone has died, even when they're alive, possibly.

Part of your relationship with them is Memoria.

So you're remembering things and so say all you can call to mind are memories from your childhood that would be dark but not dark in the sense of brutally violent or something that just dark, intense, maybe cold, or you noticed the way other fellas go with their mothers and you think, Jesus.

And it's only till you see it as a possibility that you realize that you're missing it.

Yeah. You know. And, uh, but I've noticed that so I would have a particular memory of being my mother's son, you know. But I find that that that relationship is changing, so the older I guess I feel as if the more compassion I'm getting for her. All right.

So the older I am, I'm kind of thinking, Jase, whereas if you talked to me 20 years ago when she was alive, I could have a lot of anger there. If you talk to me. I mean, this is an awful thing, but I remember when she died, I remember noticing this feeling inside me. I'm not going to give her the satisfaction of crying. Due to that, that was building up a new for many, many years.

Yes, but that's that's how kind of what you were angry, dynamic, the relationship which you have struggled more then afterwards than, say, your siblings would only have had no relationship.

We all felt the same.

The only difference was that the girls shared something with my mother, which was every now and again she'd cook with them. Mm hmm.

But none of the four of us can really think of many warm memories of motherly memory.

Yes. And that was just the nature of it. And we didn't miss it, you know. Yeah. So there was a lot of work and we were the four of us find it very difficult to understand why we were so angry, because we can't remember something specific. But remember tiny little incidences, you know, but not a struggle.

What was it for your mom to run a normal household and to do the normal things? And did she was she was she able to run a household and run a family like mothers are the multitasking of idea of teenagers coming from school.

Dinner ready, clothes washed. Where's my football gear? What's this? Can you give me a lift down here? Was she that type of mother?

My sense of it was that she managed that up until I was about 16. And then then it just became so.

So my my brother, who's nine years younger than me, he'd have vastly different experiences.

Yeah, that's what I was wondering.

Would he have a mother kind of into a bit of a freefall? Okay. So he would have seen it more.

He got the dirtier.

I was gone and I was I was sent to boarding school. I was 16. I was Fokin until six. That was like a week. I was just gone. You know, that's not my business anymore, you know?

But I've always had a phenomenal amount of love for my mother.

And I suppose, as you said, as you get older, then you're it's kind of you learn to be more compassionate towards people and God, the creator, like the douche, that she would have suffered that much and that her sister died that way.

And for her to die the same way, the power of the mind for her to decide that this was the option because there's not suicide, which is pandemic at the moment, there's a million questions to be asked and the families that are asking them questions will never get an answer.

I remember my friend's mom committed suicide as well, and she said like the mother was buried before. They actually, you know, were not annoyed with her and not angry with her for doing it. And it was only afterwards that they thought and how old she she would have been in her late 50s.

So I sure I wanted to I like suicide.

Doesn't care if you're 21. I understand for black, white, tall, thin, rich, poor, suicide is that little switch. Yes, Don.

But like she she said, like the whole funeral, they were just so enraged with her for doing it, you know.

And was it a shock to them. Yeah, well she hadn't she hadn't been. Well, yeah. Great line in Ireland isn't it. The nerves. Yeah. She hadn't been well and uh.

Yeah I suppose it's still a shock when it happens because it's the reality of something so brutal happening in front of you really like.

And to the thing is that the finality of it, nothing more will happen in that person's life. So you imagine them.

Yeah. That you think you're having a bad day. Somebody can always turn around and it gets better. Like a friend of mine did it when we were eighteen, you know, and he just thank God we brought we all had bad times when you're eighteen and you've got stresses in your life that you think will never lift. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you know, when I think about them all four now, what he would be like and where he would be and he was always such a happy soul, you know, and you just thank God it's such a shame.

Like if I'm only saying this now because I've seen it on the television, if anybody is affected by what we're talking about.

Yeah, I think there are plenty of organizations out there and we can get help. Yeah. Lust for Life is a good one. Braises thing. But Peter House, I think you're aware all of that.

Yes. Just to talk to someone I suppose. Yeah. Yeah.

And you know, my dad, obviously, I wanted to bring up this topic on the podcast and maybe I thought in the back of my head, you know, because we have the stereo image of of the brilliant mothers and happy families and all. You have your situation where your mom was sick and you are bringing her to the hospital. And Tommy, you spoke openly there about your situation. I spoke to my mother on a Sunday night and she was perfect.

Oh, well, she was she had a chest infection and then she didn't answer the phone the next day when I was on their phone after because she'd always answer the phone, said that was a good show. I was filled in front on Savage. No answer. No answer at one o'clock, no answer at two o'clock.

I spoke to on the Sunday night from Camden Court Hotel, where I stand for a week filling in on Today FM. And then I drove to Nashville and I walked in and found her.

Isn't that hard? And that's a shocker. Today I'm much of a shell shock and she wasn't there.

And I'm on the. Because I don't know if you remember, you probably even remember this, but you walked into the room, you found your man.

And about five minutes after that, I phoned you and I was phoning you from some sort of on some kind of crack level. Right. And this is an amazing thing how in the world where people are in shock and what they do.

Right. So I phoned up and I can't we must be doing some sort of work at the time. We're about to do some sort of work.

And I says, hey, how are you guys going? Do everything. And you told me what happened. And he said, I'm after walking in at the end of it, she's there in the bed. Tell me. And yeah, she's there. She's up. And you kept kind of repeating it overnight. She's in the bed, Tommy, and she's. Yep. Myself and Freddy. I just after walking in. Yep. Yep. And then I'll never forget you said this line because you were kind to you were in shock and part of being in shock is not really coping with what's happening.

You kind of said, well, you better go now.

Yeah, I know. Because you don't know what to say, don't you? But look, I should be talking to. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She's dead. Look, I was talking to you. Good luck.

Well, there's a side of it that's a practical then you know that you have to kick in to kill one in fifteen minutes.

I had Patty Fitzsimmons and the parish priest and then the appetizer, the fucking lasagna and sandwiches and everything.

And it was just mud. And I just think that in this life that we're live in and whether you are whatever your relationship is, your fucking neck is killing me.

But whatever your relationship with your mother is tilted over to the side.

We just want to say to the mothers of Ireland out there and to all mothers all over the world, we love you, Tawara, to remind your mother you want to go find yourselves, mind yourselves, mind your mother, because you've only got one beautiful song.

Gentle mothers. Mind your mother. She wants to know if you know the song I love. The Voice is in. Father said when all Macklowe sings about my lovely male.

Oh. This podcast is part of the cast creator network. It's seven o'clock in the evening, the soft rain coming in from the west seems down for the night. There's a Golden Globe when the bodies, the Amber Street lights reflected in the water, a seagull flies into the back of a strong. You see a child setting fire to a school like. A young woman squeezes into a red leather skirt, you walk into your favorite bar and it is full of your favorite people, you catch the barman's eye and say, powers, please pass.

And you think to yourself, what a wonderful world powers, bold character bottled. Drink responsibly, visit, drink away or dirty. And what's your favorite day, the week, would you say no? Definitely Friday evening from seven o'clock onwards. What goes on?

That's pretty. That's pretty definite because it's it's the weekend and the next morning. You know what I'm doing all week.

What do you do? Called your week anyway. Well, why would you be tired of a Friday used to like it.

So now I just continue on with that Friday evening. Seven o'clock. Get out from nationwide.

Yeah, get ready. I love going out on a Friday and I absolutely love it because you can have the worst hangover and it's Saturday. Fine. I hate Sundays. Hit them. Yeah. OK, again, not that I do a whole pile on a Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday or Thursday, but.

But I, but I don't like it. That's ingrained in us. Since there are kids on a Sunday evening at half eight Glenroe would come on and you would be fucked because you either didn't have your homework or the next morning was school. And it wasn't a pleasant, pleasant experience. No.

So at seven thirty seven a.m. Friday. Yeah. All your, your carefree evenings at seven o'clock specifically seven. Because if your work in your home by six. Good woman. What's your.

It depends on what era you're talking about now. What age you see even a six o'clock, seven o'clock for a six year old or 21 year old or a 50 year old. They're all different dynamics there.

Yeah, but they're still it's still a very carefree time of the week. Like they could be going to a football match. You could be just putting on the fire to watch telly for the night. You could be going out. You could have people around. I'm very fond of a tuzman, really? Yeah, is that because of the because, you know, we're coming and you're like us coming to visit? No, it's because it's very definite.

I just like this a kind of a Monday. You'd have the weight of the week on your back of a Monday, but on Tuesday, it's like, you know, you decide what's happening.

Like Monday, the days are in charge. Tuesday you take control of the week. Mm hmm. I as you know, I get up at four thirty every morning.

Yes, we're aware of that. Let the Dow go to let the dog out. Yes. And tell us. But I just love that. I love I love getting up that are the more the moon this morning at half past six was phenomenal. It was like the garden was floodlit. It was one of those. The Irish moon is because that was the brightness, the brightness that the moon has been spectacular the last couple of nights.

Full moon, the brightness and the green the what that is. No, there's no other meaning to green. But I think the galaxy is the brightness. It's fucking gorgeous. And the moon this morning was light out of it.

It was phenomenal.

It was like it was a spaceship hovering above the garden, not meant to be abducted. And Fed is doing experiments on me, which has happened before. But we'll get to that another day.

But it was so beautiful and it was it wasn't rain in this morning here and it was just beautiful, warm morning.

And I was out in the garden for about an hour. Just the stars were out. It was beautiful black.

I knew no one in the house was getting up for another hour or two. I could go up like a wonder Onodera just.

Yeah, Monday. The pressure of the week is ahead of you on a Monday.

I mean, to be honest with you, Monday, eleven o'clock is an awful time like. No, but and to be honest, Monday started Sunday. That's when Wonderstone Monday started.

About twenty past eight on a Sunday. Yeah. Oh yeah. And then. And it goes on until. Near near the end of Monday know that feeling at a Monday at about a quarter past half ten, and you feel as if you're up about eight hours and and you're flicking through the radio and you said, well, I have a copy of the first copy of the day. It drags on, doesn't it?

Oh, it's a killer of Monday. And if it's raining, I like it to be.

What about Wednesday? What about when's it? About four o'clock Wednesday in the afternoon. Yes.

No, you know what you're having for dinner, which is a lovely thing. You never know what I would do.

I know we know what we're having for dinner. We don't know. We don't we don't know who the van goes round and drops the bag with the music hall.

It's got a surprise every day this woman comes and more money in the van and she doesn't drop off readymade dinners six days a week.

She's called Meals on Wheels. Yeah, they they you pay for that. I don't know what it is. And I forgot what I order.

I don't know whether you're serious or tell me. Please tell me you don't order ready to make meals.

There's a woman down the road who said that she would love to make dinner for me any time I want it. So I said, look, I said there's there's five of us in the house. Can you do it? Could you do six days a week? And she gulped. And then I know that it was that done at a generosity. And it's probably it's went on her a little bit now, just the effort of us because the kids to be pernickety, free, the kids do it for free.

She said, yeah. And six meals a day. Six days a week. Five meals a day. Yeah.

Out of generosity. Yes. That's a lot of Tupperware.

It's like when someone gives you an apple tart and he said, OK, can I have another one of them?

Every day somebody comes to my house, an apple that I fired into the bin. The minute are gone. We can't eat it. Get rid of it then.

I hate this. Or put it in the fridge for a while, put it in the fridge, get rid of it.

Why do I like it hurts because we'll have a little bit of it and then it's always there. Get rid of it.

So. So you're not going to eat it because you eat a little bit of it. Yeah. Because then you Big Apple tortillas in our house. Oh my gosh.

And you don't. And I hate these people pushing the price that later one four days later it's there. Get rid of it out.

Nobody puts appetite's in the press or the fridge.

Where are you supposed to put them on the worktop. Yeah. Besides, we haven't eaten yet more anyway when they've been doing this for six months since the start of Lockton.

Tommy, you're only joking. You're telling me that you don't cook meals. None of us in the house cooked meals on a Sunday. We eat out.

I'm on a about during the week. So she brings more stays. She says we eat out on Sundays. She does Monday to Saturday. She doesn't tell me there's no way.

You're only like you're the only one. How the this not knowing doesn't have any plans. So is what she does is she comes. No way I'm going to check this which I misses.

No way her date her. You have last night we had some kind of chicken with lots of garlic.

He's off in the middle of it. I didn't like it.

And does she get those potatoes. Oh yeah. The whole lot. Yeah. Everton And does she bring it on plates or does she. She brings on plates and then she does she takes place up from the previous day.

So we just we, we've always said it's extra. Yeah.

But the boys don't is one of the kids only eat white food. White colored food. Yeah, so it's a chicken and potatoes and we won't eat chicken turnips, so we just is just as kind of spuds and cheese made some pasta.

And what do they really look forward to from what she does? Amazing shepherd's pie. She was a phenomenal amount of salt into it, which I love. Now, Yvonne has got my wife has got the hump because it's so tasty, you know, but that's six days a week.

Can I just get this clarify this for Newton as well.

And do you feel bad now after six months that she's she's bringing it and you're not giving her?

And I don't feel bad, but I do know her husband kind of is getting annoyed to say Meterology train and he's not it doesn't to talk to any old. I think she's run ragged with it.

That's what she probably has about six kids at home. I don't know anything about her, really.

OK, I just don't know so much about any kindness coming down. We're 30 miles away. That's 120 more 740 meals every six months for free to your house.

I'm dying over here, guys. I tell you, I 740 around a head now and said that we were saying today for the dinner, which was an extra two in which I could do it for tomorrow, but not for today.

When is the last time you cooked? On a Wednesday or a Tuesday at seven o'clock before Lockton February. I have tears in. It's not really I like more. I wouldn't mind if there's any neighbors of mine listening to the podcast. They want to make dinner for me.

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