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What's going on, Andy? What's going on? Nothing much, Yeah. Yeah, just doing the thing.

What's the thing today?

Actually, it wasn't much today.

No thing then? No, no thing.

We're doing this thing.

Yeah, we're doing the thing.

What's going on with you, man? Anything new? No, man. What's shaking? What's cracking?

What's crack-a-lack-in?

I was going to say something else, but we can't say it. What? We got to save it for CTI. Okay.

That means it was likely racist. Probably, maybe. No, man. Everything's good, dude. Just like we talked about with the Michael Chandler episode, I'm going hard trying to get my body finally back from this injury that I've had, and everything's going good. I'm definitely on track, and I feel good. Just everything's firing, man.

Dude, how about just such a good, genuine good, just good dude?

Yeah, he's an awesome dude.

Chad Wright is always going to be... I think he's always going to hold that number one spot for me, man. But fuck, Man, Michael Chana made it hard.

Yeah, dude. You know what's cool about that, too, is like we talked about on the podcast, he has built this. It's not this thing that he was naturally gifted at. Like he talked about, he wrestled 103 in high school. He was 411, and he's built this, like he said, brick by boring brick. And I think that's an amazing story. And I think it's a testament to what you can accomplish If you're willing to, what we call here, master the mundane. Most people lack the ability to master the mundane tasks. They get bored very easily. They don't feel like doing things. They don't understand that to build a life, it is mundane. It is the same things day in and day out, operating at a high level, holding a high standard, executing with discipline. Most people just can't do that because they don't have the endurance to do that. They don't have the fortitude to do that. They don't have the perseverance to do that, which is it's important for you to build yourself into someone who does. That way, you can follow the path to success because there is only one path. The only path there is, is day by day, by day, by day, over the course of a period of time.

Depending on how big your goals are, that could be two years, it could be five years, it could be 10 years, it could be 30 years. We don't know. But at the end of the day, it's all built the same. It's one day at a time, one win at a time for life. There is no opportunity If you're going to operate at a high level, to deviate from that, really, at any time.

I think the coolest thing, too, man, it's what you talk about. There is an equation for success. It's very, very simple. It's time, or it's input, right? But plus the time variable, right? And I think the coolest thing is being able to see people and talk to people who have practiced and actually put in that fucking equation. When you look at a guy like Mike Chandler, because He got in the UFC in what? 2020, right? And four years later, here he is, fighting the fucking biggest fighter of the fucking sport you could possibly think of, right? And it's like, that wasn't luck. That wasn't anything other than the inputs that he put in plus the time, right? 2021. 2021.

It's three years. Yeah. Three years. Yeah, and he's just beating people's asses.

You know what I'm saying? To me, I think that's the coolest thing about that, dude, man. It's like there's a real world... There's real evidence right there. It It works. It works, man. I thought that was just, man, it's crazy to think about.

Yeah, man. I feel like after doing this all these years, people get used to me saying the same things over and over and over. But that's because there's only so many things, right? But to have someone who's also done something, built it from the ground up, anytime we can bring someone on, like James Lawrence or Michael Chandler or M. Milet, these guys, they confirm what talking about. It's frustrating to look out into the internet world and see all these people trying to shortcut it, trying to hack it, trying to supersonic speed their way to success when literally every person they look up to is telling them the same way. And dude, it's just indicative of people's impatience and need for instant gratification that they can Continue to search for some shortcut. Do you not think that Michael Jordan or Kobe Bryant or any of these people that you look up to in business or life, do you not think that if there was another way, they would have found it? There is only one way. These are smart, hardworking, badass motherfuckers, bro. And I'm telling you right now, there is only one way. And it's day by day, by motherfucking day over the course of your life.

You don't get to do it for five years and then never do it again. That's the fallacy, right? I'm going to retire at 40. I'm going to sit on a beach. No, you're not, because you don't have the right mentality to get there in the first place. If that's what you're doing it for, you're never going to get to that point. You know So at 35, I'm never going to have to work again. Yeah, okay. Let's see that. Show me that. Show me that person, right? That person doesn't exist because the people who actually build things, it's in their fucking blood. These are builders. These are creators. These are contributors. These are people that have to have a mission and have to have a purpose. And that purpose is to build and create and contribute into things that materialize. And if you are trying to materialize this life against those kinds of people, when your whole goal is to get to 35 years old and sit on a fucking beach with a Corona, you're going to lose. Okay? Because these motherfuckers are doing it because they love it. They're doing it because they're competitive. They're doing it because they want to change the world.

You're doing it so you can have a couple coronas in fucking Riviera Maya. It's a different skill set. And dude, people just don't understand the competitive landscape. People talk about abundance, right? Abundance mentality. Yeah, there is abundance mentality, but the abundance is shared amongst the most competitive, most skilled, most disciplined people. It is not shared with people who do not possess those traits and skill sets. So yes, there's plenty of abundance for hard working, discipline, high skill, high drive, high work ethic people. Plenty of abundance. That abundance does not spread to you if you're not doing any of those things. And that's what people think. And while I'm on it, I want to say something else. I look all over the Internet and I see all these people writing about their journaling and their coal plunges and their fucking touching the grass and they're getting in nature and the fucking therapy and all this shit. And you know what the problem is with most of you motherfuckers? It's that you don't have a purpose. You don't have a mission. And it doesn't matter how much therapy you go to. It doesn't matter how many coal plunges you do.

It doesn't matter how much you spend grounding. It doesn't matter how many months you spend in the van. It doesn't matter any of this shit, how many journal pages you wrote. It's never going to make you feel good if you're leaving it on the table, if you're not exercising your potential, if you don't have a purpose, you don't have a mission, the reason you feel like shit is because you know that you're letting your potential die on the vine. You're letting your potential go to waste. And that is an underlying condition that's causing you this anxiety, causing you this stress, causing you this uncomfortable place that you're trying to fix with all this modern day... And by the way, the shit might work. It might help. It might make you feel a little bit better. But the reality is you need to solve the underlying problem. When the underlying problem is you're not exercising your potential, and for that reason, you fucking feel like shit. That's it. So maybe instead of journaling some more and coal-plungeing some more and touching the grass some more and fucking whatever the fuck else you guys do, maybe you should get the fucking work.

And maybe you should try to build something great. And maybe you should try to do something that fucking matters, and you won't feel like shit all the time. What? I love it. It's the truth. I'm so sick of seeing it, dude. I'm not against any of that shit. I'm not against it. But so many people are out here trying to optimize. And what are you trying to optimize? You don't do anything. So what's five times zero? Zero. Okay. So if you go out and you do five self-care things, and When you're leaving your potential on the table as a zero, that means you're going to zero. Yeah.

There's no multiplier there. Yes.

Like, fuck, bro. We're here to create. We're here to live. We're here to build. We're here to contribute. That can look a lot of different ways for a lot of different people. It doesn't mean build a business. It means doing your fucking best and leaving none of your potential on the table. And dude, if you don't do that, guess what? You're going to feel like shit. It's just reality.

It's real shit, man. That's For real. The only thing I would ask, bro, is next time, just make sure you give me a heads up in doing the math questions. Why? That shit can get me sometimes.

Yeah, well, everything times zero is zero.

That's true. I thought about that quick. I'm like, Fuck. Yeah, all right. That's sweet, man. Well, I got some good ones for you, man. Let's keep this heat moving. Guys, Andy, question number one. Hey, Andy. Just wanted to say I love your content. I came across your stuff on Facebook and TikTok. Then start listening to your podcast. My The question for you is, I want to start a business in my trade. I've been a machinist for the last 15 years, and I want to open my own shop. How does a person like me that is barely scraping by do that? I've heard many times in this trade that you have to have money to make money. I feel that's a bunch of bullshit, but I could be wrong. I don't know jack shit about opening a business and only have a little knowledge on how to run it properly. I thought a few times about just running something small out of my garage and then eventually working my way up the ladder. What are your thoughts on this? First time getting going.

Very simple. One, bring your lifestyle way down. Whatever your lifestyle is, if you're serious about starting a business and you're serious about building a business, sell your fucking house, sell your fucking nice car, sell all your luxuries, and downsize into something that you can tolerate, not that's something that is ideal. That's number one. Two, work to save as much money as you can. All that money you're paying over here, work to fucking build some capital. Three, you're on the right track. Start out small. Start in your garage. A lot of people go out and they try to borrow money, or they try to have this nice shop with their name on the door and their business. That ain't business, bro. That's called playing business. Business is actually doing work and trading a good or a service or information for people's money, okay? It doesn't matter how nice your office is. It doesn't matter how your business card is. And a lot of people get caught up in that shit. They think that's what matters. It doesn't fucking matter at all. It's a zero factor. You need to do good work, and you need to exceed customers' expectations and allow the word of mouth of your service, of your good, of your product to spread.

Those are the three first steps. After you start the cash flow, after you start to make more money from doing this small in your garage, which you've already figured out, then you're going to start to make investments. You're going to continue to save money. You're going to continue to take the money that you make, and you're going to invest it into more equipment. You're going to invest it into more resources to produce more goods. You're going to invest in all the things that make a business run. This is totally doable. Lots of people do this, but most people do not have the dedication to actually execute it because they refuse to make the cuts in their lifestyle. So they would rather live a slightly above mediocre lifestyle and not have a business, then they are to take a step back, humble themselves, maybe look a little silly to their friends and family, and just start the business. But you're going to get the last laugh because in 10 years, you're going to have a machine shop that's kicking ass. And by the way, you're going to be doing what you want. You're going to be building things.

You're going to be creating things. I imagine you like to work with your hands. So this is how you do these things. You take a step backwards. And by the way, you might not be able to sell your house. But my point is, downsize your life. Downsize your financial commitments. Take that money, invest it into what you're doing. As you make more money, continue to live as small as you can for as long as you can. As long as you can, okay? Don't be the fucking internet dumbass who goes out and tries to buy a fucking Lamborghini after two years so he could show off on the internet, okay? Be the guy who, like me, lives well below his means for the first 10 years in business. Okay? Does everything at the lowest possible denominator of cost, all right? Which will allow you to scale your business. A lot of people, when they hear my story, and I talk about how the first three years we made no money, the next seven years we made 695 dollars a month for a grand total of 58,000 dollars for 10 years, right? Combined. They hear that and they say, Holy shit, dude, how did you endure that?

How did you get... Because, man, I wanted to scale and I didn't have any financial resources. And now here we are, a company that does hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of millions of dollars in sales, and we don't have any debt. You know why we don't have any debt? Because I learned to operate on our own cash flow long ago. And the way that we got to this was we were able to... When we started making money, see people here, oh, 10 years. But what they don't realize is that six years in, we were making money, and we just kept all that money in the business and continued to live below our means over the course of the next four years, right? Until we got to be a little bit older and we were making quite a bit more money. And then we started doing some things. And then when we started doing really well, our lifestyle increased. And you'll know when that point is. But the point is, you should be This is how you know these entrepreneurs on the internet are fucking dumbasses, because they start a business, and the next thing you know, you see them driving a Lamborghini Urus SUV, which is the biggest fucking poser car on the fucking planet.

If you have one, you should fucking sell it because you look like a fucking clown, okay? So the reality is they go out and buy this shit so they can pretend to be successful, and they're cutting their fucking nose off to spite their face. They want people to think they're successful, but their business isn't actually growing at the that it should be. And they think that fake it till you make it means look the part of success. Fake it till you make it doesn't have anything to do with other people. It has to do with this. Pretend you're already that successful person, and then How do they emulate their behaviors. How does the 100 Millionaire, how does the billionaire live their life for real? How do they do it? What do they do? What's their systems of operation? How do they run their life?

How do they treat people?

You fake that, right? That's not you. You behave that way, and then it becomes you. That's what people don't get. When you want to change your life, bro, you can change it today. You can become a different person today by changing your behaviors today. Now, the results of those behavioral changes take time to materialize in reality for everybody to recognize. But as long as you're not behaving like that fat piece of shit from fucking the last six years, you're a different motherfucker today. You see what I'm saying? So it's adopt the behavior, not adopt the lifestyle. And when we talk about fake it till you make it, so many people misunderstand what that means. That doesn't mean what people think it means. And sell your fucking Urus. Holy shit.

Was it Apple or Microsoft that also started in the garage? Was it Apple?

Yeah, lots of companies did, bro.

Lots of company. And I think people just... They will hear that or they see that, and they don't understand. That's That's what the real sacrifice looks like. That's what real success- Bro, first four started in my garage.

Started in my garage. I used to drive. So we had a deal with a manufacturer to consult. And then when we consulted with them, then they That deal fell through. We had made an agreement for them to make product. They allowed us to make small little runs. I used to pick it up with Scott Hulsey in the back of our fucking pickup trucks. We didn't have a warehouse. All we had was we had 10 or 11 stores at the time. And we'd go put it in my garage, and then as the stores need it, we would distribute it. I would distribute it. Scott would distribute it. He would take half the stores. I would take half the stores. We'd put the shit in the back of the pickup truck. We'd drive it to the stores as needed, right? And when we started doing that, bro, each store, we need two cases, which is fucking six bottles of protein, or it's twelve, right? Yeah. So a lot of people start like this. And dude, it's a very simple equation. Downgrade your lifestyle, increase your available cash, make the investments that you need to make to start small, do a great job, make a great product, overserve the customer to the point where they're talking about it and they're spreading the word, and then scale up as you go and you make more money.

And that's how you do it. And then live small for as long as you can.

I love it. I love that, man. Guys, Andy, question number two. Hey, Andy and DJ. I'm 23 years old. And I am number nine of 12 kids in my family.

Damn.

Yeah, that shit.

That's a big family. My dad like to do it.

I'm also married to my- That dude is planting some fucking seeds. He's a farmer. I'm also married to my perfect girl. The whole time we dated in high school, she liked me because I was sweet, forgiving, and patient. I think growing up as number nine, I was often overlooked and forgotten, so I was never very confident and thus became sweet and easy to forgive because I was afraid to speak my mind. That being said, I've been listening to your podcast for a little over a year, and I loved it instantly. I've been trying to develop the fuck you mentality for the past six months or so. Looking back the last six months as I've been more assertive and stern in saying what I mean, I've noticed myself being much more pissed off, easily annoyed, and honestly being a dick to everyone around me. Unfortunately, that has unconsciously included my sweet wife who loved me and married me for being sweet, loving, and non-judgmental. I took a deep look at myself this past Sunday and realized I really want to be that alpha guy who speaks his mind whenever I enter a room, but I can't find the right way to do it without ruining relationships around me.

After realizing this, I talked to my wife and she started crying, saying that she has missed the real me, and she still loves me, but I'm not the same man she married, and not in a good way. So my question is, how can I remain patient, loving, forgiving, and kind, while still speaking my mind in a stern manner? I want to be that alpha guy, but still be gentle to my loved ones.

First of all, congratulations on your wife, and it sounds like you have a great family. It sounds like you're a really good dude. There's nothing wrong with that. No. If it ain't broke, don't fix it, bro. And just because you have an idea of what alpha is, alpha is not running around. Just because I have an aggressive disposition does not mean that you have to adopt that. That's just who I am. That's my authentic self. And by the way, I think if you ask the people around me how I am, most of the time, most of the time, I'm pretty fucking nice.

You got the biggest heart I've ever known. Yeah.

So Dude, you have to retrain what you think alpha is. There's a lot of fake alpha fucks on the internet who call them... First of all, if anybody calls themselves alpha, they're not alpha. Second of all- That's rule one. Yeah, it's true. You got to understand, alpha is not about being a dick. Alpha is not about being mean. It's not about saying curse words. It's not about any of that, dude. Alpha is about being a man, standing up for what's right, telling the truth, protecting the people around you, providing for the people around you, and being kind and being caring, and then having some boundaries. When people step on your toes, you might have to stomp on somebody's throat. So that part of it is A little 1% of your life, right? And you have to understand. We're fed, especially someone who feels like, Hey, man, I'm trying to figure this out, right? We're fed this idea of alpha male that isn't real, right? Alpha male is like my brother, okay? Who treats his family really good, who handles his business, who takes care of everybody around him. And yeah, sometimes he'll fucking let you know when you're fucking up.

But isn't that real love? Isn't real kindness telling someone when they're stepping in the wrong hole or they're fucking their life up and being honest about it? Because being kind and loving doesn't mean letting people mess up their lives. It means, Hey, man, this ain't cool. That's not good. It's holding a standard. When you think of what alpha means, brother, that doesn't mean you got to change your whole personality, dude. In fact, it sounds like you got a great personality, and it sounds like you got a great wife. Let's keep in mind here, what What true alpha is, is being your authentic self, man. And then it sounds like what you're struggling with is that you don't have a boundary. Okay? And so what you need to work on is, and the only change you need to make here, I wouldn't change my personality. You don't have to be a dick. You don't have to just go out of your way to let people know that you're an alpha. That's not what we're talking about. What we're talking about is being prepared when someone steps on your toes. What does that look like for you?

And I bet for your most of your life, you just said, Oh, that's no big deal, and you brushed it off. And I bet because you know it's wrong and it's violating your own integrity with yourself, it's lowered your self-esteem, and it's lowered your confidence. And the reason you're struggling with confidence is because you know that there are things that happen to you that you are not okay with, that you pretend to be okay with. And you have to understand that it is 100 % okay to let people know when you are not okay with things. That's just called communication. And when you have a boundary and you do all the other stuff I talked about, that's what makes you an alpha, dude. Alpha is not one of these dudes. And it fucks me up because I know a lot of you guys, you hear me talk, and I got a beard, and I got scars, and I got tattoos, and you're like, Oh. Fucking yoked. Bro, that has nothing to do with it. That's just handling my business. You know what I'm saying? That's just being me. I'm an authentic human being. Dude, I think being authentic and just having boundaries and being kind and being respectful, having manner...

Bro, there's nothing more alpha than having manners. You know what I'm saying? And treating people right. There's nothing more alpha than that. So dude, look, man, I feel what you're saying, but don't try to emulate someone else. Just identify the little problem that you have, which it sounds like it's just boundaries. Start holding that boundary when necessary. Even when you hold the boundary, it doesn't mean you have to be an asshole. Now, if they escalate it, you can be, but you don't have to be. In fact, some of the ways to enforce boundaries are very simple, very calm, very simple. Hey, I don't like that, man. You're supposed to be my friend. Friends don't do that. You see what I'm saying? Very easy. Yeah, and that sticks with people a lot more than screaming at them. Bro, it sounds like you're doing good, man, and it sounds I think you're just reading too much into it. I think your wife is right. You need to pull back a little bit and just realize your problem is letting people do things that you don't agree with and then pretending like you agree with them. That's what's hurting your confidence.

And if you just fix that little aspect of it, you're going to feel a lot better and you won't feel so guilty about the way that you're behaving.

I love that, man. I think Jordan Peterson also said something on this. Somebody asked me, Being a man, that means you have to be violent. He's like, No, you have to be capable of violence. That's all it is. You're not have to walk around ready to fucking kill everybody. No. But you have to be capable of it for sure. I think that's ultimately what it comes down to, man. That's a big deal. There's so much... I see these reels and shit on Instagram of Bro, get the fuck out of here. Like, dude, let me get my man bun. I'm going to fucking grow my beard. Come on, man.

I saw this one last night. I see this one all the time, and it just irritates the shit out of me. I'm going to make moves in silence. Real bosses make moves in silence. You realize that you're putting this on the internet, which makes it not silent. It's not silent at all. And by the way, if you were actually making moves, the results would tell the story. But you're not making any moves. You're just trying to tell people you're going to make moves so you could feel good right now. When in reality, what you need to do is let your results do the talking. Stop talking about all these moves you're not making, and stop Stop embarrassing yourself, saying, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do that, I'm going to make these moves. You'll never see what's coming. I got a... And nothing ever happens. You look like a fucking idiot. Okay? So stop making yourself look like an idiot. Shut the fuck up and go build something, and then come back and say, All right.

I made some moves in silence.

Yeah. God, dude, I get so tired of these young kids saying this dumb shit. You're fucking 20 years old. You don't know shit about life. You shouldn't be life coaching anybody. Fucking 22-year-old course fuckers. I'm life coach. I'm going to teach you how to make moves in silence. I'm going to fuck up. I'm going to fucking build something. Dude, and what they don't understand is they're going to ruin their reputation, and then they're not going to be able to build anything real. But what the fuck do I know? I'm just a podcaster and a YouTuber.

I love it, man. Guys, Andy, our third and final question, question number three, Andy. Andy.

In the last- My fucking 22 years old dude will fucking make seven million dollars in fucking every week from my basement. He'll just fucking drive a Lamborghini Urus. Moves in silence. Yeah, do it all in silence. Fuck out of here. So fucking sick of these fucking clowns, dude.

I do it all the time. Oh, man. All right. Guys, Andy, question number three. Andy. Andy, in the last four years, I've lost my dad, my sister, and cousin to suicide. I'm no stranger to depression, and I'm having struggles of my own. I feel like depression might get me unless I find the strength to get back on track. I have a wife, four amazing kids, and a high-paying job, and I still find myself in dark mental struggles from time to time. My question is, do you still have times of mental darkness, even though you have amazing things in your life? How do you get yourself back on track when you're not in a good place mentally?

Man, this is a tough question to answer because everybody's so different in what they struggle and how they struggle and what their internal dialog is. While I believe that therapy has become very predatory, I believe In certain cases, there is a need to talk to someone and work through what the root cause is with the understanding that you're not going to talk to them for fucking ever. If they start trying to get you there for the next seven years, they're just milking you for money. There's a lot of predatory Don't worry shit about therapy, all right? They try to get you to talk about and focus on your problem so hard that your problems actually just stay at the forefront of your mind, which makes you more miserable than what you would actually be, okay? So there's that, too. Stop focusing so hard on how bad you feel and start focusing on what your mission is in life. What's your purpose? What are you trying to build? What are you trying to create? Who are you trying to become? And when you take that focus off of all your problems and you start focusing on moving forward, Lord, this turns the noise down on how bad this seems to be.

When you look at a problem and you stare at a problem and you get obsessed with the problem, and this is what a lot of these people do with the self-care, they're trying to eliminate all problems from their life. They call it optimization. They're trying to eliminate all anxiety from their life. Let me tell you something and save you years and years and years and years, because I went through this myself. You cannot eliminate all the anxiety from your life. Anxiety serves a purpose in your life, and that purpose is to remind you when something needs to be addressed that you're not addressing. Now, can anxiety become overwhelming? Sure, it can. But guess what cures anxiety? Action towards the thing that you know needs to be done. So my question to you would be, what is it that you think needs to be done? What is it that you are putting off? What is it that you are afraid of? What is it that you are thinking about doing that you're not doing? What do you know you should be doing that you're not doing? That's where you're going to find the answer of the direction that you need to go to move away from this place of constant focus and constant dwelling on your depression so that you could turn the volume down on that.

That's the first thing. The second thing is, bro, there are medications for this. I think that these things are way overprescribed. I think they're overprescribed by 95%, but their situation where they're appropriate, and you need to talk to someone who's got a reasonable mind who uses common sense to decide if that's an option for you. I don't like to recommend that. You guys all know how I feel about those things, but there's still a purpose for these things in some cases. But my opinion on this, with all that being said, is that we live in this culture right now of victimhood. We live in this culture where everywhere we turn and everywhere we look on the internet, We see people talking about mental health. We see people talking about their depression, their anxiety, their frustration, their stress, their negativity, etc. Bro, when you surround yourself with that, it's like swimming in a swimming pool full of negativity, all right? And when you look around and all you can see is people that are talking about how fucked up they are, your natural reaction is to start looking at yourself and say, well, fuck, what's fucked up about me, right?

Which is okay if you look at it and you say, All right, I could improve here. I could get in a little better shape. I could treat people a little nicer. I could do more productive things. I could read a little more. I could do a better job at my career. That's okay. But when you start analyzing yourself so deep and looking for problems, guess what's going to happen? You're going to fucking find them, because every single one of us has a past. Every single one of us has things that we regret. Every single one of us has situations that have happened to us. Every A single one of us has things that bother us from our past. And when we constantly dwell, and we constantly focus, and we get obsessed with those things, and we start telling ourselves this story, Well, I can't feel good because this happened to me, or I can't feel good because of that happened to me. Well, that happened to you, bro. How the fuck can you change that? Guess what? You can't. So what you have to do is you have to come to terms with the reality of what has happened.

You have to give yourself some grace. You have to forgive yourself. You have to let yourself understand. That thing that happened to me, while it wasn't ideal and it wasn't great and it was very painful and I might have handled it wrong, I learned a lesson from it. And by the way, then after you learn your lesson, you move forward and don't do the same shit again. All right? And if it's something that happened to you, what did you learn? If it was something out of your control, what did you learn? I got stabbed the fucking face, bro. My whole face is fucked up. Okay? I got one here, here, all All the way across here and in my back. I could have lived my whole life saying, Fuck, dude, I got stabbed in the fucking face. I can't do anything. Everybody looks at me weird. To this day, people come up to me. They're like, Fuck, dude, what happened to you? It's been 20 years, 21 years since it happened. I've lived most of my life with that in my life. It would have been very easy for me to say, That traumatic event happened to me, but I couldn't do anything.

Instead, I said, Hey, that traumatic event happened to me. And because of that, people remember me. I'm memorable, and I'm going to leverage that into building the life that I want. And here the fuck I am. So we have the power to change the perspective about the events that have happened to us, and either use them for us or against us. There's a famous story about a man who was an alcoholic, and he had two sons. One son grew up to be an alcoholic. They asked him, Why are you an alcoholic? And he said, Well, that's what I learned because my dad was an alcoholic. The other son never drank a drink in his whole life. And they said, How come you never drank? And he said, Because my dad was an alcoholic. Okay? And that's what we get to choose when hard things happen to us when they were out of our control. Now, if it's you that did the hard thing, you have to learn a lesson, you have to forgive yourself, and you have to move forward. How do you forgive yourself? It's very simple, okay? How would you talk to your friend?

If your best friend came to you and I said, Hey, DJ, fuck, man. I fucking did this. I did that. I fucked this up. What would you say to your friend? You would say something like this, Bro, come on, dude. Everybody fucks up, right? Yeah, that's not good. You shouldn't do that again. But everybody has something like that, dude. So just don't- You made me the end of the fucking world. Yeah, just don't do it again and move forward, bro. And that helps you get rid of the shame, get rid of the guilt. And get rid of the weight that you're carrying, which causes all of this negative feeling, right? And then on top of it, dude, you need to get yourself in the best mental shape possible. So doing something like Live Hard or 75 Hard is a great idea for you because it's going to get your mind right, it's going to get your body right, it's going to get you feeling great about yourself, it's going to build trust with yourself, it's going to build confidence, grit, fortitude, self-belief, self-esteem, the ability to endure. And when you can follow through on the things that you set out to do, when you say, Hey, I'm going to do this, and then you can go do it without any hesitation, bro, you believe in yourself, you trust yourself.

You start to love yourself, and you say, Damn, dude, I'm a bad motherfucker, okay? And guess what happens to your confidence? It goes up, all right? So yeah, dude, I do struggle with these things, but I've also learned how to manage them and how to move through them. And how to manage them and move through them is by getting everything else in order and by focusing on what my mission is, what my purpose is, executing against that, and then making sure that I'm doing all the things that I know I need to do to move me forward. And by the way, if you're doing all those things and you're focused on your mission, and you're focused on your health, and you're focused on improving, and you're focused on moving forward, and you're focused on moving your body and all these things, bro, you don't got time to worry about your fucking past. Okay? Yeah, that's what I would say, bro. I think it's a normal thing that people struggle with. I think it's way overblown and way over-exaggerated because of the culture that we live in. In the fucking 1990s, bro, nobody was talking about this.

Nobody came out and said, Oh, I need a mental health day. You know what I'm saying? Dude, it's way overblown. And the reason that it's way overblown now has a lot to do with how society is. In the '90s, there was no Internet. You know what people had They had to go fucking work, or they starved. Now we have a situation where people can stay home, they can scroll all day, they can get a check from the government, they could fuck. And bro, that removes their entire mission, their entire purpose in life. And just like I was talking earlier, if you don't exercise or draw out the potential in yourself, you are going to feel depressed. You're going to feel anxious because you know in your heart that you're You are leaving everything that you could potentially do and potentially become on the table. And that is going to bother you. That is going to fucking make you feel depressed. That is going to make you feel dark. So what is it you're trying to do? What is your mission? What What paper are you in? How do you eat? How do you train? What are you reading?

What's your environment like? Are you spending all this time scrolling? Or are you spending time moving forward? All right? Those are the things that you can do to manage it. And by the way, if we're getting down to brass tax here, I think it's as simple, and people are going to hate that I say this, but I think it's as simple as this. Look around at all these soft motherfuckers crying about their lives and realize that you don't want to be one of them. You know what I'm saying? When I look around at all these people crying about their fucking sad story when honestly, they haven't had shit happen to them, right? You never hear the people who've had real shit complaining about their lives. You never had the burn victim complaining. You never heard the physically deformed person complaining. You never heard the guy who lost an arm or leg complaining. All you hear is a bunch of fucking pussies complaining about basic shit that's called life. And when I look around and I see all that shit, bro, it just makes me not want to be like them. So I'm like, Fuck that.

I'm not doing that. I'm not a victim. I'm not a bitch. I'm not a pussy. I'm going to go fucking do this no matter how I feel. And that fixes the problem for me. That's real shit, man.

I love it. I fucking love it. Well, guys, Andy, that was three.

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