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Today, we are talking about body confessions.
Sometimes you do hit that Instagram photo and you're like, how she got such a beautiful body. And then you think to yourself, what if I had that body? And then you're like, What? I don't.
A lot of people have been asking about why I've been wearing turbans. Well, I haven't talked about it.
It's not easy to talk about, but I am going to talk about it.
When it comes to something. Yeah, that's fine, whatever you need to do is fine.
OK, are you might OK and let's do this and blah the main floor of up these players up.
So we are here at the table. Yeah. And I thought we could talk about the things about ourselves that we might not like that we have to accept. I don't care how beautiful of a woman. We all have stuff that we sell that we're unhappy.
For older women, youth is everything. So everything that you see on television, everything that you see everywhere is everything about staying young.
And so it really becomes challenging as you become older to try to not get obsessed with trying to stay with trying to stay young.
Because sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and I don't like what I see. The worst part of my body for me are my legs, my thighs like I'm thin and people think is ridiculous. But I have men's cellulite, OK? And I hate it. So I hate my legs and all that stuff about, well, muscle will take it over. That's a bunch of crap, right. And I love that you've gained weight, I know, so does Rodney, but I put on some extra pounds, but in my mind I feel fat.
I know that that's not true. I know I'm that fat, but I certainly am bigger than I used to be, but not a problem, but it feels like a problem herself.
I used to swim myself a certain way.
The rest of me looks pretty good. At.
Let me tell you, you put me to shame on the beach. So give me that straight.
OK, and honestly, what's one part of your body that you dislike the most? Well, I'm going to tell you what, I've been getting a lot of questions about why I've been wearing this turban. Yeah, well, I've been having issues with hair loss.
And let me tell you, it was terrifying when it when it first started, you know, I was in the shower one day and then just handfuls of hair just in my hands. And I was just like, oh, my God, am I going bald?
It was one of those times in my life where I was literally shaking with fear.
That's a really scary experience. Yeah, that's what I cut my hair. Yeah.
And why continue to just to keep it. I just had like another like, OK, I think we're going to do another layer of cutting, you know, and my hair has been a big part of me. Taking care of my hair has been a beautiful ritual, you know, and having the choice to have hair or not. And then one day I'd be like, oh my God, I might not have that choice anymore.
Yeah, because you had a lot a lot of hair, really thick black hair to the point that people always thought I had weaves like that's not her hair. I'm like, yes, it is. Right. Yeah. And I've gotten every kind of test there is to have.
Yeah. So they don't really I don't know why people are stressed. People say, oh you, you have you know, you do have alopecia. Even in my terror and even in my fear and in a moment of just going, oh, my God, like, why are you so terrified that you might lose your hair? Right. I really had to put it in a spiritual perspective of like.
The higher power takes so much from people, people are out here who have cancer, people who have sick children, I watch the higher power take things every day. And by golly, if the higher power wants to take your hair.
That's it. God, you want my hair when I looked at it from that perspective, it really did settle me there, like as if when I had to think about, well, what else would you what else would you lose? What else would you put on the table for God to take?
Take the hair, you know, take it. My hair is wrapped, I feel like a queen, and I love having a rafted, you can teach me a thing or two because I don't know how to wrap internment at all.
This is one of my favorites than not.
It looks so tight that you get a headache. You have to be really careful not to do it too tight.
Yeah, I love that right front and I always look so chic to me. I really love it. And then you can do this one. Yeah. This is the one I usually know how to do. I just like sometimes just have it hang so I can pretend like I have hair for ten hair.
That looks amazing. Yeah. With locks is like oh yeah.
Now that's cute because it's like a little button.
Yeah. So there you go. Yeah.
That's cute to give a little these three different ways. It you have the bad hair.
I love it too. Coming up you always get on me for my underarm. You get me always like want me to trim it for you. We could break it. No it's getting a lot. It's getting a lot.
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We're feeling I in my own life struggled with curvier women and curvier girls have always gotten more attention from the boys that I've liked and have ended up dating the boys that I've liked and that constantly happening and me being their friend, but not really like seeing them look at me in a certain way. They always see you as like the little sister. Exactly.
They did the same to me. And then you start to wonder, like, dang like am I just not desirable?
Like is my body just like not what society like. So it does just get. Really hard for for a lot of girls. Yeah, I tell Willow all the time she's beautiful, like all the time.
But you always get on me for my underarm here. Yeah.
Yeah, me always, like, want me to trim it for you. Yeah. I just think that they could trim me because at this point, no, it's getting too much like we could braid it. No it's getting a lot. It's getting a little. Yeah.
We get it a lot when you put pictures of yourself on your Instagram with your arm hair. How do people feel.
I used to look through my comments and be like, oh my God, everyone's saying I'm a lesbian. And now you've learned to just ignore that.
So why did you make the decision not to shave? Yeah, I mean, I didn't really make the decision not to shave. I just kind of didn't shave. This takes too much time. I just want to get in the shower and then get out of the shower. I get it was slow.
The upkeep is just so you know, the game is over here and I'm like squinted up my face and not understanding at all any of this.
I'm going to be like my ancestors and just do what I need to do. And my whole thing is she has the choice. It's her body. It is. But, you know, there's some people that are going to be accepting of it and some people that are honest. And at the end of the day, you have to be comfortable in your own skin. That's why I always tell people I'm like, we all experience self-hatred to a certain degree.
And I told Willo, I've had every shape of body there is to have from being super muscular to being thin but curvy, thin and straight up and down, like I've done it all, you know, because she asked me if she was like, Mom, will you work me out? And you're an amazing trainer. Thank you, Bay.
And she was getting her little booty. I am.
And I'm still doing it. I remember you having a conversation with Dad that I think really stuck with you in regards to your body. What did what did he what was that conversation? What did he say to you?
He was just saying that he was so happy that I wasn't curvy because guys look at girls. Guys objectify women so much.
So he's glad that you didn't have it for everybody because he was like, guys will look at your brain more if you're not curvier. And that kind of just solidified all of my experiences. But, you know, it's just so funny that you would be sad because there's so many people who would die with that body for that body.
But, you know, I had the same struggle. Oh, we.
Yeah, because weird little people. So little people. And when we were both of us, when we were really young, we were like streamy. Yeah. When I was young. This thing about wearing two pairs of socks, did you go through that.
Oh so your legs look fab at or. Yeah. Oh that was so foolish. That was so stupid. Yeah we did. We were two pairs of socks.
Well I used to hate. Wearing shorts, I used to think my legs were so skinny, I remember you going, Jada, you have beautiful legs. And then I see I hear myself telling Willow the same thing. Well, you've got beautiful eyes.
You know, my friends that are curvy, they are telling me it's so great that you can just like where some shorts and a tank top and not feel, like, overexposed or feel like people are looking at you differently or feel like people are looking at you in a sexual manner.
Exactly. Even more than they usually would.
Right. You know, everyone wants what they don't have. Yeah. We want what we don't have. Right. Absolutely no. If that will ever change, though, I really don't I don't know.
I don't think it will change. It's always been like that. Well, we've got some Facebook questions from our Facebook family. Everybody pick a question. No, no, no.
Why are girls so mean about looks?
No, because they wish they had what the other person has or something, you know, and it's all about envy. Envy, honestly, whenever another girl tells you something about your body or your looks like. She's really just talking to herself. I remember a girl telling me if you have them light eyes, you wouldn't be.
Wow. Yeah, damn. When that young lady said that to me, I was like, man, is she right? Because people only ever talk about my eyes.
Yeah. OK, next question.
Sexiest part of a woman's body.
It's her between the waist and the hip is oh, is the sexiest part. God, I think a whole body of a woman is just. Yes. Is just gorgeous. I don't know if there's like one part. What was your question?
Name three things you love about the way you look. Oh, runit.
I would start out with my hair because my hair can be long, short, bald, any color. And I've worn it all those different ways. I like experimenting with my hair, with my hair color and other people add things.
Yeah, I love your lips, my lips. It's pretty lips and I also love have a really nice bottom. Yeah. I like your shape. Yeah.
Yeah. And it's interesting they ask what are the three things that you can say you love about yourself. Because it was much easier for me to name three things that I didn't like like so.
Yeah that's sad. Yeah. Yeah.
Because they came to mind like that I had to really really think about that to think about what do I love.
You know what I mean.
Maybe we should do that as a ritual. You wake up in the morning and you give yourself three things that you love about yourself.
You look in the mirror first thing to start your day off and do a full week and see if there's a change, you know, like, oh, I love that more and ten extra pounds or, you know, like, I love this going for it.
I remember how it happened and I almost passed out when it did, when Willow was about three or four years old, she was going off to karate and she ran into the bedroom to give Will a hug and then she cracked her head.
And I remember literally falling to my knees in blood. I can't. And Will was like, Jada, she's like, I need for you. Come on, we got to take it to the hospital. And I remember having Willow in the backseat with me. And she looked up at me and she said, Mommy, can you fix me? You never forget that. And I was just like, it was terrifying. Like even to this day to think about it.
It was terrifying. But yeah, that scar is has history. It was history. Yeah. Have you ever wondered if Will Ferrell likes to wear his I voted sticker, I'll even wear it until the next day just to mess with people who are what makes Stephanie Rule so passionate about voting? It's super important. It's about what kind of country, what kind of world you want to live in. Hi, I'm Holly Fahri and I'm hosting a new podcast called Why I'm Voting.
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And you can't deny there's too much emphasis put on love, which you've grown into that Willow, because when you were little, you didn't feel that way, we were constantly talking about your hair.
You really get where you decide where you come.
Jaden. Yeah. James that hair. Yeah. And I was always said you wanted your hair and you wanted your hair to be long. You wanted like mommy, you have beautiful hair, beautiful hair. You just wasn't like my hair. But you went through such a time in embracing that that was, that was rough.
Yeah, that was. And it's painful.
Are you learning to embrace your cute little body? I mean, I slowly but surely it's a process, but more so. I'm learning to just appreciate myself as a whole.
And that's a process. It's a constant process. It's a constant process. Wow.
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And we were out. There you go. I about. Thank you. OK, thank you. We can't be bad for 17 years. We have not really spoken. You don't even know what you're mad about.
We don't walk on over here to the table.
You were walking up and there was that moment of like, do I have to there's some girlfriends who want to squash you to watch you be miserable. They had to just apologize and just think to myself, damn, Jada, that was some pedia. Want to try to do something online and try to do a turban on me, that looks like material. This is like a soft cotton.
I don't want any material that's going to pull your hair. Exactly. M.S., like the new stuff, that's a fast wrap it in, I just raster I didn't know you had. Oh, I showed them how many different little reps and it kind of takes the pressure off. I'm so happy I showed Willow how to wrap her hair today. She looks so great. And I hope it makes her feel like a queen, too. All right. Yes.
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