Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. What if I told you that the answer to one question will determine where you are in the next six months? I mean, right now, as I'm talking to you, it is April, a third of the year already gone by, and time, it is going to move forward, whether you do or not. Before you know it, October is going to be here, and six months will have gone by in the blink of an eye. So are you ready to answer the one question that will determine where you are when it comes. Hey, it's your friend Mel. I'm so glad that you are here with me today because today you're going to answer one question that will determine where your life leads you in the next six months. I know you're ready to answer it because you chose to listen to this episode. The fact that you did, it tells me that you do want to create a better life and that you want to know how to make cool things happen. I'm here to help you do it because today's episode, I don't really think about it as a conversation.

I think about this episode as a free workshop. How cool is that? It's a workshop where I'm going to ask you a question that will help you become laser-focused about what you're going to make happen in the next six months. Because time is going to keep moving, whether you do or not. After today's workshop, one thing is for sure, you're not going to let that time just pass you by because you are going to make something really cool happen in the next six months. Now, I know that we have a ton of new to the Mel Robbins podcast. So first of all, I just wanted to thank you for tuning in, for spending some time with me. It's a real honor to be here with you. We also want to welcome you to the Mel Robbins podcast family. I think it's important that I give you a little bit of background if you're new, okay? I often do these free series that help you take what you're learning on the Mel Robbins podcast and apply it to your life at a deeper level. I always do one at the end of the year to help you create the best year that you can and to find your goals.

This episode that you're listening to, yeah, it's like a free workshop, but it's part of a series that I'm launching right now called Make It Happen that helps you translate what you want into action. Because I do believe that you have big dreams, and they're really important. I also believe that setting goals is critical to you creating a better life. Because dreams and goals, they do two really important things. First of all, they give you a sense of direction, and they define a game worth playing. When you define goals and when you have big dreams, it basically helps you lift yourself out of the day-to-day minutia and create more meaning and excitement in your life. As I mentioned, I do these free workshops, and there's always one that I do at the beginning of the year. If you didn't take it, no problem. The one that I did at the beginning of this year was called Best Year. I led a workshop on how you go through the process of setting goals in order to make this the best year of your life. I'm really proud to share with you that almost a million of you not only took the workshop on how to create the best year, but you also downloaded the free 29-page workbook that acted as a companion to that workshop.

I filled out the workbook with you, and I planned out my goals for an incredible 2024 to make this the best year. I'm going to come back to that in a minute. But here's the thing. That was four months ago. It seems like a long time ago. It was four months ago. As I'm taping this right now here in the United States, it's April. We're in the height of spring. And that means that four months have gone by since you and I planned out the year. Four months have gone by in your life, too. And whether you were part of the best year workshop or not, whether you You set goals for 2024 or not, I'm just wondering, how's it going? Do you even know how you're tracking against the goals you set for yourself? Or if you weren't that intentional about what you wanted to make happen this year? Are you thinking about the things that you thought you would take on this year? I'm pointing this out, not to be a jerk, not to call you out, but to say it is so easy and fun to plan, isn't But the devil is really in the details of the execution.

I wanted to use our time today to help you think about the next six months because we're a third of the way through the year. The things that you want to make happen, they're not going to happen by accident. They will happen on purpose. I've shown up here with a really big purpose, and that is to help you define a game worth playing over the next six months and to teach you how to make it happen. I've We designed our conversation today to be a workshop so that you can get very serious about the next six months of your life for real. Like, what's going to happen between now and October? Then we're going to talk about how to make it happen. Before we jump into the meat of this workshop, I want to give you a few instructions on the logistics. First of all, this episode has a free companion workbook. If you're watching me YouTube, you can see it right now. It's bright green. It says, Make it happen with Mel Robbins. If you are listening, you can hear that I've got this in my hands. I want to tell you something, you want to get your hands on this puppy, and you can download it for free at melrobbins.

Com/makethappen. That's melrobbins. Com/makethappen. Now, let me tell you what's going to happen when you go to melrobbins. Com/makethappen. First of all, there's going to be a welcome video for me. Secondly, you're going to be to download this workbook. And third, you will also see that I've created two brand new video trainings that you can watch on your own time that will help you go even deeper into this free workbook It will be an extension of this podcast episode, which is really kicking off this project called Make It Happen. So just go to malrobinds. Com/makeithappen. Once you download your workbook, it's right here in my hands. I can't wait Until you see this, I will send you a link to the video trainings once they're live, and you can watch them when you want. One of the reasons why I'm doing this for you, and I'm going the extra mile here, is simple. I'm humbled that your support made the Mel Robbins podcast the number five most followed podcast in the world on Apple last year. We have consistently been ranked in the top 10 podcasts on all platforms in the entire world for the past four months this year.

You did that. As you know, I'm on a mission to empower you with tools to help you create a better life. I want you to not just listen and learn and be inspired and empowered and to feel like you're not alone and that you're here with your buddy Mel Robbins. But I really, truly want you to take action and apply what you're learning to your life because it's only through the action that you will make it happen, that you will see change stick, and that you will see your life getting better. When I saw that almost a million of you downloaded the guide to creating the best year and setting goals, I was like, Okay, I got to figure out how to help you go a little further. We got to take the next step. Now that you're clear about what matters to you, about what your goals are, I want to help you bridge that gap between creating the plan and making the plan a reality, where we go from thought to action. The coaching that I do in the workshop that I do every year at the end of the year is about creating a great year.

It's about getting clear about what you want. Here's how this workshop is different. It's a check-in about what you want, but it's focused on translating that to the actions that make it happen. If you're somebody who's been working on your plan, you've been creating the best year ever, you're going to the gym, you're writing the novel, you've gotten a new job, you're getting a better mindset, you're taking the steps, fan freaking-tastic, then you're going to use this training as an important opportunity to really define for yourself even clearer targets that you're going to hit in the next six months. Maybe you're going to raise the game, maybe you're going to pivot on the game, maybe you're going to add in something entirely new because you're just kicking and taking names. Because if you've already been working on some of your goals, then you've probably learned some things in the past four months. In fact, I can give you two examples of this from my own life. At the beginning of the year, one of my goals this year was to get my hormones balanced and to take control of my health and to stop complaining about it.

I got to say something, Mel Robbins, you done good, kid, because for the past four months, I've been doing more resistance training. I've been following the expert advice. I've been putting myself through a gut reset program. I've been doing the intermittent fasting. I've been doing a lot of zone 2 cardio. You know what? It's working. Pretty cool. Kind of neat that when you take the simple advice that's backed by science and you actually do it, you see the results. However, four months in, I've learned a lot, and I'm seeing a lot of progress. I want to assess where I am and make a very intentional and strategic decision about where I'm going to go next. Let me give you another example of why a pivot is super important. Because another goal that I set at the beginning of the year when I did the workshop on creating the best year was I really wanted to make it a goal to save money. I haven't a squat about it. I mean, nada, nothing. In fact, if I had to guess, I've been so unintentional about it, that I've not only not made saving happen, I've probably spent more money than I usually do.

Now, this goal still matters to me, but if I plan on saving money and making that happen, then I got to use this workshop to give myself a reality check because I'm going to need to do something different. I got to show up differently in the next six months. I got to have a different approach. In both of these examples, whether it's the strength training, which has been working, or my goal of saving money, which I failed miserably at, I will benefit from taking a beat and using this workshop to create a strategic pivot. You refine what you're doing and clarify your goals, or you remove it to make room for something that you actually care about. And by taking the time today to go through this workshop with you, as I I'm also going to be doing it, and I assess what I really want to make happen in the next six months, it will help me with both those goals. Whether I pivot on the approach or I decide I don't care about that right now and I want to focus on something else, that idea is so important, and most of the time, you do not take the time to do that.

So whether you've set goals for this year or not, whether you're making progress on your goals or not, this workshop and the episode you're listening to, the perfect thing for you to spend time on today because it will leave you with a big game for the next six months. So go to malrobinds. Com/makethaben. Get your workbook. Get it. And please share this episode and then share the workbook sign up with absolutely everyone you know. What was so cool about the one that we did at the end of the year is so many of you filled out the year-end planning guide with your family. Oh, my God. And it made a huge difference. You actually got together. You did it in person, and it improved the dynamic and the energy and the relationships in your family. I also saw so many of you online posting about it with your teams and your roommates and your friends. It was so cool. Well, guess what? This workshop, exact same power and possibility. Share it, share it, share it, because it's going to translate the clarity that you will have into action. The truth is, there's no reason why you can't make these next six months amazing.

There's no reason why you can't make big things happen. And that's exactly what this workshop is going to do. So please share it. All right. Got it? Good. Let's jump into it. So that one question that will determine where you are in six months is this, what do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? I'm going to ask that question again. What do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? I want you to really consider that. As I mentioned, I'm recording this in April. We're almost a third of the way through the year already. Just wrap your brain around that because six months is going to pass like that. What do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? I'm going to ask you to just truly think about it. I'm going to invite our sponsors to tell you a little bit about what they do because they allow me to bring you this free workshop at zero cost. As you listen to our sponsors, I want you to think about where you want your life to be six months from now.

What do you want to make happen? And I'm going to be waiting for you after a short break to continue digging into your answer. Stay with me. Welcome back. It's your friend Mel Robbins. And today Today, I'm asking you a question that will determine where you are in the next six months of your life. It's a powerful question. I want to remind you, if you have not downloaded the free workbook right here that goes with this workshop we're doing today, I want you to go to melrobbins. Com/makethappen. Get your hands on this workbook because we are going to dig deep into this question. What do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life. I keep saying that time is going to pass. We're a third of the way through the year already. I want you to truly just think about how much time has gone by so fast. It just seems like yesterday that it was New Year's. The fact is, six months, it is going to just pass in the blink of an eye. When I think about the next six months, holy cow, my son, he's going to graduate from high school.

Do you know how fast that time is going to go? We're going to fly through the spring. Graduation is going to be here, and then we're going to be into the summer. And next thing you know, I'm going to look up and it's going to be fall, and we're going to be dropping him off at college. And wherever it is that you're watching this right now or you're listening to my words, just take a minute and think about the next six months. In fact, close your eyes if you can, and time travel with me six months from now. And imagine what you want your life to look like. For me, when I time travel ahead six months from right now, it's October. I'm turning 56. Chris and I will be empty nesters. One of our daughters will have moved to New York. The other Our son will be out in Los Angeles. Our son will be off at college. Where will you be? Six months from now, what's it feel like in your day-to-day life? What's happening in your career? How have your relationships or your friendships changed? Are you making more money? Has your health changed?

Are you happier? Where are you? Did you move? I really want you to stop and visualize it. What do you want to make happen in the next six months of your What do you want it to feel like? And as you really start to turn that over in your mind, I'm going to share with you some of the things that come to mind for me. As I'm sharing the things that I see when I time travel forward and I allow myself to imagine life six months from now and I think about, What do I want to make happen? I want you to continue to be in your own life six months from now. In the workbook, which helps you dive deep into this question, you're going to see that there are five Five Categories that define your life that will help you consider what do you want to make happen in your life in the next six months. These, by the way, are the same five categories that you used when we did the best year planning workshop, because these are the categories that make up your whole life. Those categories are health and wellness.

What do you want to make happen as it relates to your health and wellness in the next six months? Second category, career, money, school. What do you want to make happen? You may be starting a new school. You may be starting a new career. Has your business taken off? Third category, relationships, love, friendship. What's going on in that area of your life six months from now? Happiness. I love this category because it's like hobbies and how you feel and your daily habits and what it's like at your home. Are you happier? God, I hope you're happier. The final category, as you really sit and contemplate that question, What do I What do you want to make happen in the next six months of my life? Purpose, spirituality meaning. Just really allow yourself to travel ahead. Here's a couple of things that jump out for me when I think about six months from now and it's October, and I'm 56, and Chris and I are empty nesters. In the area of happiness, that one jumped out first. For me, when I go ahead six I immediately started to think about my home, probably because I said the word empty nester, right?

As I'm walking around my home with Chris, and it's just us and the two dogs, something funny popped into my mind. This is one of the categories that you will be led through in your workbook to go deeper and journal on. But here's what jumped out for me with happiness. I live in Southern Vermont, and we have lived in this house that we have renovated, and I just love this place, and now we've lived here full-time for two years. Do you know There is not a single framed photo of anyone in my family on any wall of this house. If I'm being perfectly honest, if I float through and I think about countertops or those nice side tables that people have or shelves, I don't have any photos there either. I mean, we've been living in this house for two years, and there's this one wall that is over a bench that we have in this breakfast area off the kitchen. When we designed the house, you know what I always imagined? I imagined one of those beautiful picture walls. I don't know if you've ever been in somebody's house, or maybe this is your house where you have one of those walls that is just so beautiful where it's matching frames and everything's lined up and it's great photos of the family.

I have always wanted a photo wall of the family. When we design the house, I'm like, I am going to hang photos there. Well, guess what? I've been thinking about that for two years. It hasn't happened. Why? Because things don't happen by accident. They happen because you make them happen. One thing I really do want to wake up and see that I have done in the next six months because it's going to make me happier, especially when Chris and I are empty nesters, is to walk into the breakfast area of the kitchen in October and see that that wall is done. That would make me happier, for real. Let me give you another example of something that comes to mind for me in the area of relationship, love, and friendship. When I time travel ahead six months, what do I want to make happen in that area of my life. This is very, very clear for me. I want to look back on these last six months and see that I spent a ton of time with our son, Oakley, because I feel that I am in that moment. It's like a melting ice cube.

It is disappearing. The time that I have with him is disappearing before my eyes. It is super important to me when I think about that area of my life that in the next six months, I spend as much time with Oakley as I can, and I got to make that happen. You know what that's like. You set this intention, and then you mean to do it, and then you don't do it. Why? Because life is busy. That's why you have to get serious about turning this into a project that you're going to make happen. I think about my parents. In the next six months, I want to spend more time with my parents. In fact, my dad has just gone through this situation where three of his friends have had these catastrophic things happen. Two have died suddenly, and one of them fell downstairs and broke just about every single bone. We know that that is a horrible thing to have happen. My dad is turning 80 this year, and I want to spend more time with my parents in the next six months. I have to make that happen. It's not going to happen by accident.

It happens on purpose. The next category, if I travel ahead six months, is career, money, or school. I've got so much I want to do there. But what I got to do first is take a short break so we can hear a word from our amazing sponsors. But here's what's going to happen. I'm going to be waiting for you after the break. I want you to continue to think about that question. What do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? When we return, I'm going to share what I want to see happen in my life, what I'm going to make happen, I should say, in my career, because it's some pretty big stuff, and I know it's going to inspire you to think big, too. So stay with me. We'll be right back. Welcome back. It's your friend Mel Robbins, and I'm so thrilled that you're here. You're listening to workshop about how you can make some amazing things happen in the next six months. That by October, when you look up, you will see things that you've done that make you so proud. I've been asking you over and over this one question that's going to determine what happens in your life over the next six months.

What do you want to make happen? Imagine that it's October, and I want you to think about your career and think about money or think about school and allow yourself to drift to October and look up, what have you done that you're proud of? For me, when I think about where I am in October, holy smokes, I am going to publish my next book, The Let Them Theory. Yup, I'm writing a book about the Let Them Theory, and it's coming out in mid-September, which means six months from now, I am going to be in the middle of a massive book launch. And that doesn't happen by accident. I got to plan for success, just like you need to plan for success. So that's going to have to be something I'm journaling about in this workbook. I got to get going on that. That's going to It's going to take a lot of work. And if you want more success in your career or in school, it's going to take work. And so let's start today in making that happen. Here's another thing I think about. I don't know if I've talked about this on the podcast or not with you guys, but I have this desire to launch a product company in the women's health space.

I mentioned that I'm in this super confusing supplement routine for my hormone balance. It's working, but it's so confusing that it has lit this fire inside me that I'm like, I got to do something about this. I got to simplify this. I got to figure out something in this space to help everybody translate this confusing expert advice and all this supplement stuff. I got to do something. Six months from now, if I really get quiet and I time travel, and I go, What do I want to make happen? Here's what I see. I see that I have done the research on the space, that I've got a business plan sketched out, that I know where the funding is coming from, whether I'm going to fund it or I'm raising money, and I also I don't know who I'm going to recruit to be the CEO of this thing. That's a lot, but that's what I see. I can wish for it, I can want it, but that doesn't make it happen. If I truly want to make it happen, I got to convert that wanting and wishing into a plan of action. What I'm realizing as I say is something else because those two things have come up in my career, this massive book launch for The Let Them Theory, which is coming out in mid-September.

This desire to spin off and launch this incredible company is that, you know how I said I had that goal of saving money? That that was part of the goal setting that I did for best year? Here's what I'm realizing. I don't really care about saving money right now because I have too much going on. The fact is, I have been saving money for years. I'm like a squirrel hoarding my nuts. I have been squirreling away money because I'll tell you something, if you've ever faced bankruptcy like I have. If you have ever been in such financial distress that you can't pay for groceries like I have, you get to a point where you never let yourself do that again. I have been saving for I'm extremely risk averse. I've lost so much money in the past that I am not going to let that happen again. But here's what I realize in this moment as I'm talking to you, is that I don't care about making that a project right now. I don't care about making that happen because I already do that anyway. Just being able to say that this isn't a priority, this is so liberating.

Is there something that you created as a goal at the beginning of the year that you're realizing now that it's April? You're like, I actually don't I don't really care about that. I just said that, and I cared about it then. But the truth is, life has changed, or I realized the work that it's going to take, and I'm being honest with myself. Why have something on your list that you have no desire to make happen? Here's another takeaway. Your friend Mel Robbins, I'm giving you permission right now. As you go through your workbook, melrobbins. Com/makethappen, as you go through this workbook, there is a page in here where you can list out the things That were once a priority that are just not a priority anymore. That is a moment of honesty that you need to have with yourself. Clear away the guilt. Seriously, clear it off your to-do list. Take it out of the best year goals and create room for something that you care about that you actually will make happen. Let me tell you why this matters. It matters because it's so easy to find yourself lulled into this robotic autopilot in your life, where one day blends into the next.

It's basically, get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, clean the kitchen, go to bed, get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, clean the kitchen, go to bed. It's just like, what the hell? You've already forgotten what it is that you cared about because you're so exhausted. Next thing you know, you're like, wait, four months have gone by. It's October already and I didn't even do anything. Not happening to you. Defining a game worth playing over the next six months will create meaning and excitement in your life. Sometimes the only thing that's missing from your life is a project that's worth getting out of bed for. I mean, think about it. When you have a kid that's playing a sport, right? And they're driving towards the championship and a winning season, you're driving towards something. And the fact that they're playing that big game of having a winning season, that creates excitement and meaning. When you're planning a wedding, when you're looking for a new apartment, when you're training for a marathon, when you're taking a class, it creates excitement and meaning. And don't look at these things that you want to make happen as a chore.

That's not what the next six months of your life is about. You get to choose. This is an opportunity to infuse the next six months of your life with something better, something worth getting out of bed for, something worth not getting lulled into that, Oh, get up, I got to work, or I just did the same old shit all the time. Look, you want to know what's so cool is that I've only covered the first few pages of the workbook for real. As I've asked you to time travel, as I've asked you to consider this question over and over and over again, what do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? Think about these categories, and the workbook is going to take you even deeper. This is such a gift to give to yourself. Look, I could keep going, but here's what I can feel. I can already feel your desire to download the workbook. I can feel your desire to start imagining some project that you can take on and design for yourself, something that is going to make the next six months just awesome, something that you want to make happen.

Look, it could be something that is simple and crafty, like my photo wall. Do you know how happy I'm going to be that I actually made that happen? It's going to take a lot more work than you would think. I got to pick the photos, I got to figure out the measurement, I got to figure out the size. It actually will take time. It sounds stupid, but It doesn't matter if it sounds stupid to you. This is something that matters to me, and this is really important. If you want the next six months of your life to be awesome, you got to pick something that is personally important to you. That if you were to work on it and see yourself chip away at it, it would give your life a sense of purpose. It would create some momentum. It would really infuse you with this energy and this enthusiasm. That's why this matters. Yes, we're going to talk all about how you translate this project into action. But first, I got to get you to start dreaming a little bit. I got to get you to define what would really help you come alive.

Here's how this is going to work. The second you go to melrobbins. Com/makethappend, you will see a little video from me welcoming you. You will get a copy of the workbook right there. I've even taken the steps with my amazing team. You can download it. You can print it. We even have a low ink format. This is bright green and really colorful. You can do one in black and white, or we've created an electronic format for you, too. All for free. That's all you have to do to be for this free workshop. Just go to melrobbins. Com/makithappen. Then what's going to happen is there are two in-depth video trainings, and those video trainings will help you translate this into action. I'm going to walk you through all the remaining exercises in the workbook in those videos, and I'm going to teach you a bunch of principles, some that are strategies that business consultants use with some of the top companies in the world. We're going to talk about a principle from physics called the domino effect that will teach you how to take action, how to get started, how to leverage momentum and fight inertia.

For everyone in your life who is graduating right now, this is an incredibly important thing for you to give them because it will help you define what you want to make happen in the next six months. Because think about graduation. Holy cow. You know what happens when graduation hits? Holy smokes. It's like a tidal wave, and it sweeps you right into summer. And the next thing you know, you look up and six months is gone. This is also exactly what anyone in your life needs if they've been laid off or if they're looking for a better job or they're thinking about applying to graduate school or they're launching a business, this workshop gives you the structure to define it, and then it will give you the tools and the teaching that you need to translate it to action. The difference between time moving forward without you and you moving forward with it is taking a minute right now to figure out what you want to make happen during that time. Just imagine how different you will feel if you look up and it's October. You aren't thinking about that side hustle, but it's actually up and running, and it's making money.

You know how proud you're going to be of yourself? Just as proud as I'm going to be when I walk into my kitchen and I sit down for a cup of coffee and I look up at the beautiful photo wall that I've been thinking about for the last two years, and I finally got off my rear end and I stopped thinking about it and I made it happen. That is what's available to you, to stop talking and to start doing, to stop wishing and wanting, and to start creating. That's what we're doing here. All you need to do is go to melrobinds. Com/makethappen and get yourself set up. I'm going to be there to support you with the two video trainings and this free workbook where we are going to help you master going from thought to action. That's how you do it. I want you to make the next six months absolutely amazing because there's nobody like you. Nobody. That's why I'm here, because I'm not going to let all that incredible impact and momentum and energy and ideas and heart and spirit and the difference that you can make for yourself, for your family, for the community, and for the world around you go to waste.

Why not take this opportunity to make something incredible happen in the next six months? Download the workbook, do the exercises, be honest with yourself, and let's make something amazing happen by October. In case no else tells you, I wanted to make sure that I tell you that I love you and I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to create a better life. Now go use these free tools, define it, and let me help you make it happen. All righty, I'll talk to you in a few days. Welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. Oh, my God,. In my gut. Here we go. Deep breath. Where are we going? Sorry, for one second. I'll pump your didn't get off. Oh, sorry. No problem. I got my hand on my shirt for a good cut for Jessie. I'm not moving. Doing my statue mode. I don't know. Let's see. All right, here's the new... This is going to the top, the new one I'm giving Jessie the wave signal hand thing. Okay, great. Okay, great. Let's do it. Let's try it one more time. Great, great, great. Okay, here we go. Hold on a second.

Does this make sense? Yes. Oh, it does? Okay, great. What's the difference? Okay. Oh, I got it. I got it. Okay, you ready? I don't think so. I think we did it, boom, boom, boom. Great job, everybody. Great. Oh, and one more thing. No, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers write and what I need to read to you. This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I'll see you in the next episode. Stitcher.