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Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. You and I are going to go on an extraordinary journey together. You are being called to a new adventure in your life, and you might not even realize it. If you got that little feeling inside of you that you're meant for something greater, something different, you're right. There is so much untapped potential for your life, and that's what you and I are going to talk today. I mean, just consider, there's an entire world out there that you have yet to discover and power and bravery inside of you that you have yet to tap into. You are the hero of your own life, and it's time to answer the call. Hey, it's your friend Mel, and I am so happy that you're here with me today, and I cannot wait to dig into this topic of being the hero of your own life. There's this one thing that you may not know about me. When I'm not busy creating episodes of the Mel Robbins podcast for you, you want to know what I'm doing? I do a lot of Search. My production studio is 143 Studios.

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We develop courses and custom trainings and curriculums for some of the world's most inspiring brands. In fact, we are responsible for researching and creating the single most popular course of all on LinkedIn. It's called the Science of Confidence. We've also created courses for companies like Starbucks and Alta Beauty. Right now, we're working on our seventh original audio production with our partners at Audible. One of my favorite things to do when I'm thinking about the episodes that we're going to create for you or I'm researching a new project is I love to find and teach frameworks that come from different disciplines and figure out, how can you apply this thing from engineering from neuroscience or from business strategy to your personal and your professional life? You might have experienced this thing that I love to do when you've taken one of the free trainings that I've offered. For example, the latest training that I've created for you is a thank you to you for supporting this podcast is called Make It Happen. More than half a million of you have already taken that free two-hour training. If you haven't, no worries. It's there for you for free.

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You just go to melrobinds. Com/makethappen. That free training draws on principles of physics, for example, and it teaches you how to use the domino effect and velocity and momentum to master the skill of taking action so that you can stop thinking about what you want and actually take the steps to go do it. Today, I'm really excited because you and I are going to dig into one of my all-time favorite frameworks for thinking about life. I cannot believe that we haven't talked about this on the podcast yet. It's called The Hero's Journey. If you've ever seen a Disney movie or a superhero movie, or you're a fan of The Avengers, or Lord of the Rings, or Harry Potter, or Toy Story, or books like A Court of Thorn and Roses, like I am, then you are also a fan of this framework called The Hero's Journey. Let me explain what it is. The Hero's Journey is what is called a story archetype. That's just a fancy way to say that there's this outline or this series of steps for any movie or any book that tells the story of a hero and the journey that the hero has to take in order to discover their true self and their true calling.

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What they ultimately find, whether it's Luke Skywalker or it's Nemo or it's Frodo, is that when you go on this journey to find yourself, you end up also saving the world. I love this framework, and it's something that I use in my own life. In fact, my therapist and coach, Anne Daven, she uses it all the time to help me understand where I am in the journey of my own life. When she brings up the hero's journey, what she's doing is she's pointing out, based on the steps of a hero's journey, that I'm just at a point in the struggle that every single hero goes through. When she does that, I'm like, Oh, my gosh, that makes so much sense. I don't feel so lost. I feel like the challenges that I'm experiencing have a purpose, that they're part of the path that meant to walk down. And so today, you and I are going to walk through some of the steps of the hero's journey and how you can use this story archetype as a framework to learn more about yourself than ever before. Because the hero is within you, whether you believe it or not.

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Your life is trying to pull the hero out of you. And the only way you find out more about yourself is if you go on this bigger journey, not necessarily to save the world like the Avengers do, but perhaps to save yourself. In doing so, you'll ultimately save the world around you. What exactly is the Hero's Journey framework? Well, it was created by Professor Joseph Campbell, and he was a brilliant mythologist who spent his life studying the stories of religions and myths of culture around the world. He had this huge epiphany that there is a common pattern in all of these stories that we love, that there is a narrative that goes way beyond time and culture and the geography of where the story is coming from. That in every single story about a hero, there's the exact same patterns of steps, things that are universal about the human experience. That's what he called the hero's journey. It's a narrative structure that follows the hero as they embark on an adventure, face challenges and trials, undergo personal growth and transformation, and ultimately return home to their community with newfound wisdom or a valuable new treasure.

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It's what you see in every single movie that you love. In fact, when Star Wars came out in 1977, it was unlike anything any of us had ever seen before. The story of Luke Skywalker blew the world rolled away. Here's a very interesting fact that you may not know. Can you guess who George Lucas considered his inspiration and his mentor? That's right. Professor Joseph Campbell. See, the hero's journey isn't just a pattern that happens to pop up in all your favorite movies. The hero's journey is the reason why the movies and stories and myths that you love become popular in the first place. You and I absolutely love the hero's journey because it always begins with striking out from the safety of your home and searching for your true calling and your larger power. And today, you will realize that this is the story of your life, too, because you and I are going to break down the framework of the Hero's Journey to help you understand exactly where you are right now as you are living it. And by the end of our conversation today, my mission is not only to get you to really embrace the simple truth that, yes, just like Luke Skywalker and Milan and Frodo, you are the hero of your own life, and there is a bigger calling for you.

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But I also am on a mission to make you think about what that calling might be for you. Because the hero's journey isn't just about storytelling or mythology. It's a metaphor for the human experience, for your experience. For your experience, and it mirrors the journey of discovery and growth that you undertake in your life, whether you realize it or not. It's a guide to understanding change and transformation, and it gives you the insights that you need to overcome any challenge that comes your way. It is the path to reaching your true potential. We're going to talk about the stages of the hero's journey and how you apply them to your life, both to provide deeper meaning to your past, but also, and this is where it gets real fun, to provide a roadmap for your future. Let's start at the beginning. In Joseph Campbell's research and scholarship, there are 17 levels to the Hero's Journey. But today, you and I are going to focus on the four most important ones: the ordinary world, the call to adventure, crossing the threshold, and the midpoint. Let's start with the very first phase of the hero's journey, and that's called the ordinary world.

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Let's think about some of our heroes and our favorite movies and stories, because when you first meet the hero of a story, where are they? They're living a normal, boring, irritating life, right? I mean, you may not remember this from Star Wars, but when you first met Luke Skywalker, do you remember where he was living? He was living on the desert planet, Tatooine. He has no idea who he really is or what the potential of his life is. He's just living a boring life on some desert planet. He's completely unaware of the enormous world that is out there and his role in it. Same thing with Milan. She's living in China, and her sole duty, remember this, was to bring honor to her family by getting married. She has no idea who she really is or what the potential of her life is or what lies beyond the little town that she lives in. Or what about Lord of of the Rings? Same thing, right? Frodo. Where does he live at the beginning of the movie? Oh, my gosh, he's there with his big feet in the beautiful Shire. He has no desire to leave it.

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He's completely unaware of the world that's out there. He's never left the Shire. Are you kidding? He doesn't know he's the person that's going to save the world. Neither do you. So how does the ordinary world, this first step of the hero's journey, apply to you? Simple. You have no idea who you really are and what the potential for your life is. I mean, how could you? You only know what you know based on the life that you're living right now. Same with me. The life you're living in this tiny little part of the big, wide world. And that's okay. That's okay. I hope our conversation today makes you open your eyes a little wider, makes you look around and consider there's an entire world that you have yet to discover, and there is power and bravery inside of you that you have yet to tap into. Let's think about the next part that happens in every movie. This is the call to adventure. It's the moment when ordinary life is suddenly disrupted by the call to something greater. Now, in the Lord of the Rings, you remember when this happened, right? Frodo. He's sitting there in the Shire.

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He has no intention to leave. Who shows up? Gandalf. And next thing you know, he's hearing all about the One Ring and Modor and all the world that is about to be destroyed. Holy cow. Talk about a call to adventure or Milan. Milan is told she's not worthy of a husband. Remember that? And so she wants to find a way to make her parents proud. And she thinks, Oh, wow. I know how I'm going to make my parents proud. That could be going to war in my dad's place. In Star Wars, Luke discovers a message that's hidden in the droid. Remember that little projected message? Which leads him on the path to becoming a Jedi. Now, let's talk about you and step two of the hero's journey, the call to adventure. Now, Luke and Frodo, they were both lucky enough to have someone actually give them these calls. But your life probably isn't going to work that way. That said, the call to adventure is all around you right now. There are four things you must know in order to recognize it. Before we get to those four things that help you recognize the call to adventure that's right there right now, I want to take a quick pause to call upon our amazing sponsors who bring this podcast to you at zero cost.

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And while you listen to our sponsors, share this episode with someone who you think is ready for their hero's journey. And don't go anywhere because I'll be waiting for you when we come back. Waterford is the home of firsts. In 914, it became the first ever city in Ireland when Viking settlers saw it as the perfect place to settle and grow, and they were right. Waterford was named by the Irish Times as the best place to live in Ireland, by the New York Times as one of the 52 places to go, and by Condé Nass Traveler as the best place to visit in Ireland and the UK in 2024. From museums and mountains, gardens, and the sea, think Waterford first. Visit waterford2040. Com to see why. Welcome back. It's your friend Mel, and we're talking about Joseph Campbell's The Hero's Journey, and we're focusing on four specific steps of it. You just learned the first one, which is the ordinary world. Now we're about to jump into the second one, the call to adventure. To adventure. The call to adventure is all around you, and there are four things you must know in order to recognize it in your own life.

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Here's the first thing. Number one, the call to adventure will not likely come from someone else. I mean, a robot isn't going to come and project a message to you. A wizard is not going to show up at your front door and be like, Come on now, we got to go save the world. This isn't someone coming to you with your future on a silver platter saying, You You're the chosen one. That's not how it works in the real world. It works that way in the movies, and we love it. But this call to adventure is something you have to be open to and be willing to see for yourself. Here's one way you can start to open your mind up to this. Ask yourself this question, what is your life trying to tell you? I'm going to ask you that question again. What is your life trying to tell you? If you really sit with that question, you'll notice that your life is trying to nudge you in a certain direction. There's something you can't stop thinking about. There's some sign that keeps showing up. There's something that you've wanted to do, but you haven't done it.

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I need you to realize that you've got to be willing to start to look for this call to adventure, because if you don't pay attention, you're going to miss it. Now, the second thing you need to know about the call to adventure in your life is it can come as a very positive signal, or it could be a negative one. Here's an example that you might be able to relate to of a negative thing that represents a call to adventure. One of my best friends, Jody, she and I have been literally friends since the fourth grade. Well, she has lived in Santa Barbara for years, and all of a sudden, her rent started going up. She recently left a job she didn't like, and she has just felt like something's been off about where she lives. Then both of her parents ended up in the hospital at the same time. Talk about a wake-up call. She had this instinct, this pull, I should really move back home to Michigan. I mean, I don't know how much longer my parents are going to be around. I'm so far away. I really feel like I should move back home to Michigan.

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That right there is her call to adventure. Rent going up, leaving a job you don't like, all of a sudden, something changing with her family. That's an example of what I'm talking about. How much more positive do you feel if you look at that situation and you frame it as a call to adventure? Very different than feeling like life is breaking apart. Let me give you now a positive example of what could be a call to adventure. This is a small thing. My husband Chris and our daughter Sawyer, when it's snowing outside and it's the winter months, They go to this mountain nearby and they do what's called skinning up the mountain, which is you take these skis and you put these sticky things on the bottom of them, and you basically hike up a mountain, a snow mountain, with your skis on it. Then when you get to the top, you take the sticky things off, and now you can ski down. Chris has organized this whole group of people that meet in the parking lot, and they now do it twice a week during the winter. I feel pulled to do it, but I'm scared of it.

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I'm not in great shape. I'm not as good as they are at this, especially thinking about pulling into a parking lot where Chris has organized this group, and there's 30 or 40 people there that do this all the time. But here's the thing. As I think about this, I feel the pull. I could see myself as somebody that gets up super early to do that, as somebody that has that level of adventure, of somebody that's doing something that's that cool. I'm using the word pulled because that's an example of a call to adventure. For you, you might feel pushed or you might feel pulled. Could be positive, could be negative. Both are a call to adventure. The third thing I want you to be aware of is that it can be big or it can be small. I am so moved by the number of you who listen to this podcast around the world and write to me and say that simply taking on something new or bringing back something that I used to do, that it's made you so happy. It's made a part of you come alive. It's made you tap into something deeper, like taking a painting class or writing reading every day in your journal again, or just the instinct that you have that you want to make your life a little bit better.

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These are all examples of small things that are calls to adventure for you. Number four, and this is super important, it is so easy to refuse it. So easy to refuse it. And I think this is why we identify with characters in our favorite movies who are the reluctant hero. You are the reluctant hero in your own life, just like Luke. I mean, do you remember what happens at the beginning of the movie? He's bending over this robot as he's trying to fix it, and all of a sudden this message pops out, You are my only hope. You are my only hope. You remember his response? His response was not like, Where's the first flight out of here? His response was, I don't think that I can do this. I hate the Empire, but there's nothing I can do about this right now. I got stuff I to do on my desert planet. I don't think this is meant for me. Isn't that what you say, too? That there's nothing I can do about this right now. See, whenever you find yourself in a place where you feel stuck, or you feel like you have to stay where you are for the betterment of the people around you, even though you don't want to, that's a sign of this tension between the call to adventure and staying where you are.

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Luke always felt different from who he actually is. He always had this inner turmoil between who he is on the desert planet and who he knows he's being asked to be. I think that's so relatable because it is the human experience, right? That you don't know what you're meant for, so you stay stuck in this tension, and you never leave the comfort of your ordinary world because you don't know where to set out to. I'm going to keep coming back to this question that I asked you just a few minutes ago. What is your life trying to tell you right now? This may be exactly where you are in your life right now, the reluctant hero, resisting the call, refusing to acknowledge that there is something more, maybe because you're afraid or you're not sure what more is. Will that tension, That right there is evidence that the call to adventure exists right now in your life. Because whenever you say, I'm stuck, that's a way for your soul to say, Can you answer the call to adventure? Get me out of this neighborhood. Get me off this planet. Get me out of this little village.

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We got something to do. There is a hero inside you, and ding, ding, ding, ding, ding You. Here's how you are going to use Joseph Campbell's framework, The Hero's Journey. Start labeling these moments of tension as a call to adventure. That breakup, that heartbreak you feel, guess what that is? Call to adventure. That layoff you didn't see coming? Call to adventure. The jealousy that you feel as you watch your friends move forward with their lives, whether they're moving across country or they're going to graduate school or they're moving in with a significant other or moving out for that matter? Call to adventure. If you're like me, I am looking ahead at my life, and Chris and I are going to be empty nesters this fall. Now, I can sit around and worry about what I am going to feel like as an empty nester when Oakley heads off to college, or I can see this as an amazing call to adventure. A whole new journey is about to begin. A journey journey where I will only discover what's possible by going through it. I mean, how cool is that? To think of changes in your life as an opportunity, to see changes in your life as a moment and the ability to find yourself, to become the hero that you need, to discover some power inside you that you didn't know existed.

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And by the way, you can only find by going through this journey. And you know what's interesting about the hero's journey is that if you look backwards at your life, especially in moments of challenge, you can see many heroes journeys. You can see how going through something brought out the hero inside you. It offered up this opportunity for growth and discover some treasure that you didn't realize was there. What's so cool about using this as a framework, because my therapist does this all the time, I'm constantly writing down the notes that she tells me as we're having these conversations, is that you can use this framework moving forward. You can stand where you are right now and say, Okay, my life is great, but I'm in an ordinary world, right? There's a call to adventure. When you open your eyes and you see tension or feeling stuck or you feel the pull or the push and you frame it as a call to adventure, now you're ready for stage three in the hero's journey, and that is crossing the threshold. Now, this is the moment where the hero leaves behind the safety of the ordinary world and ventures into the unknown, fully committing to their journey of transformation.

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Now, in Star Wars, Luke leaves his planet, and he goes on this new quest, Mulan. She leaves her home. Remember in the middle of the night, she even disguised herself as a man to sneak into the army's training camp to take the place of her father in the war? Lord of the Rings, crossing the threshold. Frodo leaves the safety of the Shire. I even remember that moment where they stop and turn to one another and say, We've never been this far. And then they set out on their journey and cross the threshold. It's the moment that you move from thinking about the bigger picture for your life to actually taking action. Now, my friend that I mentioned, Jody, she crossed the threshold. She packed up her house in Santa Barbara. She loaded up her car. She got her Bulldog into the passenger seat next to her, drove across country, and moved home to Michigan. She's going to live with her parents. She texted me last night, I just arrived for my next adventure. She moved back home, and she's turning the upstairs of her parents house into an apartment. Why? Because she felt pulled to to take care of them.

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Now, they never asked her to do that. I'm sure now that she's crossed the threshold, she's probably going, Oh, my God, what the hell have I done? Here's the thing. It's not just the physical act of leaving a place. If you say to yourself out loud, I want something different, that can be its own commitment. That can be its own threshold that you cross. You could submit an application. You could step into the gym for the first time. You could throw out all the alcohol in your house. You could make the doctor's appointment. In fact, just sitting down in a calm and mature way and expressing a boundary about something that needs to change, that's a way that you cross a threshold in a relationship. Yeah, it is hard, as I mentioned, to see the call to adventure, but you want to know what's actually more difficult than recognizing that you're called to do something more, it's actually committing to it. Crossing this threshold is the most powerful step, in my opinion, because it's a huge turning point in the hero's journey. And once you do it, there's no turning back. It's a declaration of intent.

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It is a bold and courageous act. And this is why you hear me talk about taking the first step or getting started or signing up or saying what you need to say out loud all the time. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Take the action because it's bigger than just that first step. If you look at the courage that it takes for you to answer the call to change, to be greater, to do something that scares you, this stage of crossing the threshold is no joke because you can live for years with that tension, knowing that you're meant for something greater and never do anything about it. This is the part of the hero's journey where most people fail because there is no journey until you take this step and you answer the call and you cross the threshold. It's when you commit to yourself and to the journey that you're officially on the journey, not by thinking about it. I mean, think there would be no Star Wars if Luke just stayed on the planet and thought about it. There'd be no Lord of the Rings if Frodo was still just laying around and eating good food in the Shire.

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There'd be no Milan if she was like, Okay, I guess I'm not marriage material. I guess I'll just die single in my parents house. No, at some point, you have to not only answer the call, but you have to begin it. That's what it means to be on the journey. And speaking of a journey, I want to make a hero's call out to our amazing sponsors who bring you the Mel Robbins podcast at zero cost. So take a quick listen, and when we come back, do not go anywhere because we're just starting this journey now. And the next and most pivotal stage is one that you cannot afford to miss. Stay with me. And you want to know one of my favorite sponsors? It's me. That's right. I'm coming in right now with my own ad. If you're loving the hero's journey, you're probably thinking, But Mel, I want allies. I mean, Frodo had Gandalf and Sam, and Luke had Han Solo and Princess Leia, and Milan had Michou and Crikey. I mean, come on now. What about me? If you're nodding your head, first of all, consider the Mel Robbins podcast your ally. But second, once a year, I gather amazing people from around the world together, and we spend six months going through our own hero's journey.

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You can think about it as a way to do a six-month quest with people around the world and discover the power within you and go create something amazing. If you want to learn more about this program and how to participate in this quest in 2024, just go to melrobinds. Com/launch. If it's not available, you can just hop on the waitlist for when I open up the quest in 2025. Melrobinds. Com/launch. It's time to become the hero of your own life. Welcome back. It's your friend Mel, and you and I are talking about Joseph Campbell's The Hero's Journey. We just about the powerful step of crossing the threshold. Now, you have come to the midpoint. This is where you've left the ordinary world, you have answered the call, you've crossed the threshold. This is where the work begins. This, by the way, is also where the magic happens. It's also where you tend to find your mentors and your allies, because once you set off on this journey, if you ever notice that all kinds of people start to show up to help. It's pretty cool, right? But here's the thing about the midpoint. It's also where there are so many challenges along the way, and it's also not the end of the journey yet.

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See, this point signifies the second half of the movie, right? You're probably going to spend the second half of your life on this part of the journey, too. I mean, this happens in all the stories that we love, right? In Star Wars, along the journey, Luke faces challenge after challenge after challenge after challenge, and one ally after another shows up. And same thing happens to Milan, including a huge battle that she thinks is the final stand, but it isn't. And in the Lord of the Rings, Holy smokes. I mean, just think of how it twists and it turns. And Frodo and his companions also are facing challenge after challenge and increasing dangers. And just when you think it's about to all end, boom, something unbelievable happens. And in the movie world, this second act is so long. It just keeps going. I mean, how many battles are there? How many challenges? How many times are they going to fall down? Well, it's testing your strength and your resilience experience. And you also get glimpses of success, little wins that keep you going. And here's the thing about the midpoint. Don't you dare turn back. Do not do it.

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And in your life, the midpoint in your journey could show up in so many different ways. It could be a series of challenges or setback. It's the moment that you may question yourself. I think of my friend Jody, who just moved back, and I imagine her pulling into the driveway, moving in with her parents who were both recently hospitalized. Can you imagine how she's going to face the challenges? I mean, you can imagine how she's going to question, Is this the right decision? What the heck am I doing here in the middle of Michigan? What is going on? This is not what I thought was going to happen. She's going to have this long time where it feels like she's not making progress or she's not going to break through and she's not going to understand where is this all leading. But it's always leading somewhere, isn't it? And that's the hero's journey. And the same is true for you. To trust that it's leading you somewhere, to trust that when you answer the call, you will be rewarded at some point. That's the midpoint. If you're sitting there holding yourself back and you're telling yourself, It's too late, or My life is so busy, I couldn't possibly fit in this thing that I want to do, you're wrong.

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You're absolutely wrong. You can go to grad school. You can move across country. You can start that business. You do have the time, and you can fit it in. I want to share a personal story with you. My husband Chris, for example, he was in this stage for a long time. When we first got married, he decided that he wanted to get his MBA. He answered the call. He crossed the threshold. And then the midpoint? Holy smokes. Do you know he earned his MBA from Babson by taking one class at a time? It took the man seven years to complete his degree. Do you know how many times he thought about quitting? He would come home from class at night after working all day and be like, I am literally twice as old as everybody in the class. In fact, it took so long that all three of our children were born while he was in the MBA program. He thought about giving up all the time. This stage, the midpoint, this is a slog. You want to know what? We all face it. It's part of the hero's journey. I'm in the middle of a slog right now.

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I am writing a book. I am so excited about the book. I answered the call. I crossed the threshold. I've been putting pen to paper. I'm also not done with the manuscript. I am spending every single weekend, all weekend, and every single evening just slogging away. In fact, this past week, I sat in a chair for Three days straight, I could not write a single word. I felt like I was at that point in the Lord of the Rings where Frodo is at that weird, disgusting pond at the base of Modor, or Modor, or however the hell you say that scary mountain that he's going toward. Can't It's just, it's not working. Why am I here? This is the part of the writing and releasing of a book. It's not sexy. I don't feel like a hero. I feel like quitting. This is the midpoint, and I'm experiencing everything that heroes experience in the movies that we love for literally 50% of the movie, the ups, the downs, the questioning of your ability, the unexpected challenges. Here's what the midpoint does. It requires something of you. It requires you to keep showing up, to keep digging deeper and deeper and deeper within yourself, to keep surprising yourself, and to keep going continuing.

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It would be so easy to quit. But don't you dare. The movie would be over. The journey would be done. I mean, it is called The Hero's Journey, not the Hero's Finish Line. So you're not finished. In fact, you're never finished. I mean, that's the point of your life, right? And that's my big message to you right now. You are not finished. You have so much more strength and resilience and ability that you haven't even tapped into yet. And you won't unless you keep going. Because as you keep facing these challenges in your life, in this midpoint, yeah, you'll have lots of little wins, but it's through facing the challenges that you discover what you're meant to discover about yourself, whether it's Luke defeating the Empire or Frodo destroying the Ring and saving the world, or you finishing the manuscript, or getting your masters, or settling into that new stage of life and creating it to be extraordinary. You'll figure it out. Every single movie that you love ends with the hero of the movie, figuring it out. So let me stop and ask you, what did they actually figure out? What did Luke figure out?

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What did Frodo figure out? What did Milan figure out? If you look back at your own life and you think about the most challenging things that you have ever faced and lived through, what did you figure out? You Figure it out who you are and what you're capable of. You may not think you're changing the world when you go back to school or when you pack up your stuff and leave your job and move across country and back in with your parents. You may not think you're changing the world when you answer the call for adventure that's calling to you. But what you are doing is changing yourself. See, the hero at the end of the story always comes home, home to themselves. And what's interesting when you go back home to where you began, if you've ever experienced this, of going back to your childhood home. What's so fascinating, if you've ever gone back to your childhood home, isn't it interesting how small it feels? The reason why it feels so small is because you realize when you go back, that you've outgrown it. That when you left, you changed, you grew, you learned something about yourself, that life tested you, that you discovered something by facing this challenge, by answering the call, and you surprised yourself with your ability to face new things in a new place that you never thought you'd be capable of doing.

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So whenever you come back to where you came from, you will be confronted with the fact that It stayed the same, but you haven't. Maybe what you're recognizing as you listen to this is that there have been many, many heroes journeys that you've already learned from in your life. When you left home for college, When you discovered your strength after a relationship ended, when you overcame a health challenge or handled an unexpected setback or layoff, you pushed through grief and learned how to live with it, you moved to a new place and found a new community, or maybe you look back and you see that you're a totally different person today because of the habits and the changes that you committed to and started over a year ago. Look, you and I might not be fighting the empire or truly saving the world, but every single day when you wake up, you're facing your own battles. You're in the trenches. You're doing the work, you're in the midpoint of some journey that you're on, and you are stronger and braver and more resilient than you know. That's what makes you the hero in your own life.

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So if you're sitting there feeling like, Yeah, things are a little ordinary. I am a little bored. Or maybe you're realizing that tension isn't tension at all. It's telling you something bigger, and you need to stop ignoring it. You need to see it for what it is. It's a call to adventure, and it's time for you to answer the call and begin the journey. I can promise you this, you already got me as your ally. I may not be as good-looking as Gandoff, but I'm going to be there right by your side on your hero's journey. And in case no one else tells you, let me be the one to tell you. I love you, and I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to create a better life. And when you commit to doing that, you not only discover the hero inside yourself, but you create a better world. I'll talk to you in a few days. Today, I'm going to... Hold on a second. That was good. Let me go. He was living on the desert planet Tattooin. Is that how you say it, Tattooin? You only know what you know based on the life that you're living.

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Same with me. And the dogs that are barking. I might not be as good-looking as Gandoff, but I'll be there by your side. Okay, you ready? I'm so into this. Excellent. Oh, and one more thing. No, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers write and what I need to read to you. This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I'll see you in the next episode. Stitcher.