One thing that I appreciate is that you guys were always good sports about following me on my serious health journey.

Look, I can't say don't don't look you, my friend, you've been looking so weary. Say, if I'm not clearly want to bring a little bit with me. I don't know what's going on, but I know something's wrong. I want to put a little faith in me.

Hi, I'm Michelle Obama and this is the Michelle Obama podcast, and in this episode, we're going to be talking about friendship. Well, hey you all.

Hey, girl. Hey, for this conversation, I thought it might make sense to bring in some of my closest girlfriends.

Every one of them is turning my phone over there. What crazy making crazy.

You'll probably recognize one of them. And that's Sharon Malone, who I'm so glad to have back on the podcast. We are also joined by our good friends, Danielle Pemberton Hurd and Kelly Dibbell. Hi, I'm Danielle. Hi, I'm Kelly. Hello. And this is Sharon.

Now, these three have all got great careers in medicine, business and public affairs. And I met each of them at various points of my life.

We got into all that during the episode, so I won't spoil it here, as it always does when we're together. The conversation ends up in a number of different places. It's a pretty good window into what I love about my girlfriends. We can reminisce, we can talk and laugh with each other at each other's stories.

But most of all we can talk about the important stuff, what's going on in the world and our families.

Whatever we're thinking about, really, we're just there for each other when it counts, for a laugh, for a hug, for whatever we need.

Now, the four of us recorded this conversation not long after the police killing of George Floyd. And so all those feelings, grief, anger, outrage were top of mind. We're in the midst of not only a pandemic, but, you know, we have just we just witnessed a murder of a black man in public. And I know that we talk about race as a group of friends all the time.

There's a level of pain and frustration, you know, just fatigue with being black in America. How are you all thinking about these things we share?

And now we're talking about this on the way over about. We just witnessed a murder by suffocation and and they're like black people. Are you OK? Yeah.

Keep doing what you're doing. Right.

And oh, by the way, continue working and. Yeah.

Can you now drop of diversity and inclusion and it's just real.

You kind of get tired of being the fixer. You know, everyone looks to you. I mean you can relate to that. Everyone looks to you in the party to fix it. What what is Michelle doing? What is she saying? What is she going to do? Can she fix it and bring people together? And people are looking to us in our respective roles to do the same thing. And you're just tired. You're trying to, you know, maintain your sense of self.

You're trying to hold up your family. You've got kids that are frankly traumatized because, as Kelly said, they've watched on live television, someone suffocate someone with their hand in their pocket looking at a camera and knowing in their heart that nothing's going to happen to them. And that's a very scary thing for these kids to process. And you're trying to be there for them, but also be there for the young people that you work with, the people you lead.

A lot of people look to us has now seen your people in our lives, not just mothers, but as mentors and everybody like it feels like everybody lays this at sort of the feet of of of I now say black women, you know, it's like, make us feel better, help us understand.

You know, it's almost as if, you know, these concerns that we have and knowing what goes on in the community with young black men, young black women, for that matter, we've all known it and you feel it and we process it when we send our children out there in the world. But then there's been this.

People don't believe you.

You know, they think, oh, you're just being overly sensitive or, you know, it's not really like that. That was.

And when you say people, you mean white people. I do.

Are white friends are white. Well, you know, I do. I do.

Because people who don't experience this in their lives and even when you see it, there's still an asterisk. Well, it wasn't really what you saw me.

Don't believe don't believe your lineis. You know, that's kind of the story of black America being lit for forever, just simply because. No, no, no. That didn't happen that way. He was resisting. She was or they were imperfect.

And therefore, they they deserve what happened to them or somehow it diminishes the horror of what happened to them.

Well, and the other thing, too, is, you know, this is working in a corporate setting and where everyone's well-educated and they think, well, this is something that doesn't happen within, you know, our purview.

I mentioned on a call that I had last week with my legal group about an incident in Central Park where a woman who was walking her dog, dog was on a leash.

She was a University of Chicago booth graduate. The smart woman felt threatened by a black man who said, this is the bird.

This is the baby. The bird watching. Yes. Who was a Harvard grad and he was a bird watcher.

So you're talking about two people who are both very well educated.

So it's not an issue around ignorance. You know, we're prejudice is just limited to the ignorant. These are two well-educated people. But her perception of him was a black man who was attacking her, and she knew that she could call the police knowing that anything could happen afterwards. Right.

But she was willing to bring that on because he says something to her about what she thought was she weaponized.

So she weaponized that she knew that she could do it. Yeah. So it's almost we're going back to I don't know.

I mean, you can look at them until, you know, knowing that you those you call foul, right, with a black man and introduce the police, anything can happen to even the worse. But it was just is not as dramatic as seeing a murder, but the fact that she knew that she could bring harm to him and that and that the police wouldn't question her.

That incident in Central Park, which infuriated all of us as we watched it, it was not an. Familiar. I mean, this is what the white community doesn't understand about being a person of color in this nation, is that there are daily slights, you know, in our workplaces where people talk over you or people don't even see you. I know, Danielle, you talked about being in meetings with people who can see you as a professional, but then you step out into the street and those same people don't even see you.

Yeah, I've had it several times where I've presented to members of my team, people that I've worked with, peers go downstairs in the elevator, go out to lunch, and they walk right by you on the street. You're standing in line next to them at Sweet Green. And they look right through you. They assume they don't know you, they have no use for you, and yet you just help solve their legal problem or help make them some money or save them some money.

But then when you're out in the world, you're just an invisible person.

Danielle and I, when the girls were little, this is when I was first lady. I am Michelle Obama, the first lady of the United States of America, of America. And we had just finished taking the girls to a soccer game. We were stopping to get ice cream. And I had told the Secret Service to stand back because we were trying to be normal, trying to go in.

It was Haagen-Dazs wasn't exactly hugging and there was a line.

And once again, when I'm just a black woman, I notice that white people don't even see me. They're not even looking at me. So I'm standing there with two little black girls, another black female adult. They're in soccer uniforms and a white woman cuts right in front of us to order like she didn't even see us. And the girl behind the counter almost took her order. And I had to stand up because I know Danielle was like, well, I'm not going to cause a scene with Michelle Obama.

That's exactly right.

I was like, oh, but not so.

I stepped up and I said, excuse me. As a you don't see us for people standing right here. You just jumped in line. She didn't apologize.

She never looked me in my eye. She didn't know it was me.

All she saw was a black person or a group of black people, or maybe she didn't even see that because we were that invisible. I can tell you a number of stories like that when I've been completely incognito during the eight years in the White House walking the dogs on the canal, people will come up and pet my dogs, but will not look me in the eye.

They don't know it's me and it's, you know, white folks don't understand. It's like that that is so telling of how white America views people who are not like them. You know, we don't exist. And when we do exist, we exist as a threat.

And that that's exhausting.

You know, I live, you know, a rather diverse life, I think, you know, and I have white friends and I have my old friends that I've known, but very few of my white friends have black friends, like I'm your only black friend.

And I said, that's interesting. It's always amazed me that we've lived in Washington, D.C. for as long as we have and we've been here for 30 years. And I and my husband, I will go to a party and it'll be like still just us.

Just us, you know, but it allows people to accept black people one by one because it's you. I like you, but that doesn't change my view. Generally, I still feel how I feel about them, them, you know, with all of those people and them. And somehow you have allowed me to be an honorary white person, you know, because you get to be in the group. But you are not like the rest.

It's like the talented tenth. You know, you can't take the whole group. It's just like you've got some exceptions.

And unless you're, you know, walking around with your title on your sleeve, they really don't distinguish you from them.

But this is also why my girlfriend group, while it is diverse, it has been so important for me to have black women in my crew throughout my life professionally, because there's just a certain relief that comes when you don't have to walk into your friend group and explain yourself.

My group of female friends aren't calling me to say what can I do? You guys are calling me to say, How you doing, girl?

You know, let's talk let's roll back a bit and talk about how I met each of you, because each of you represents a different phase in my particular development.

But, Kelly, we we met in city government, my government, our friendship developed because we were pregnant at the same time, at the same time with Malia.

And Kelly has twin girls born almost a month apart.

So July 4th and July 22nd, so the same month. So as a working mother, the first thing was like, how do you balance, you know, your work life and motherhood? But the main thing was with the model of a mother. So part of it was getting the girls together for playdates because we knew moms did that.

Our kids were six months, four years old, sitting on the floor back to back and oblivious of each other.

But we had each other and it gave us a chance to, you know, have brunch, have a bottle of champagne, you know, and talk about what was going on our lives in the adjustments you were making, you know, to our home life, you know, the responsibilities between husband and wife, around the kids, you know, and we and we progressed through, you know, soccer games and getting Mesia birthday birthday parties, you know, whether we had summer babies.

So we had the first birthdays were crucial because, you know, they they survived all year.

Right. It's a big deal. Big deal. And we were at you were still in the condo on Everetts.

You get the barbecue, obviously, for again, that's when you learn, you know, when you have the the first week because we all went through this, oh, we can organize this birthday.

It's just a birthday party in the house. And I remember Barack going, we don't need to rent a facility. You know, it's like, why would we spend that money? Why don't we just do it ourselves? Right.

And then you're exhausted, exhausted food and you got all these people and folding.

Oh, my God, is that right? And we do at a playground for the girls first.

And I still have pictures for everyone. I must have been one hundred degrees and people just melted. That was the first and last at home.

It was a birthday. That was it. You realize when you have a kid's birthday party. Oh my God, you've got the parents. Right. So you got to entertain the children.

Yeah. And the moms and dads.

And it's like, wow, that wasn't quite what. But but for God's sake, don't leave them.

Right, right. Please watch your own, you know, do this a double edged sword.

But that's where those little birthday parties see the Chucky Cheese, the little those.

You know, I would pay any amount of money to go to be able to go somewhere, pay somebody to out my my gym. You know, Jim, that stuff organized. Yeah. And all you had to do was bring some pizza.

You would leave, wouldn't have to clean up. But we went through a relative pizza and a goody bag. That was really good. That's all you needed.

I always feel for these mothers, parents who try to do this stuff by themselves, because let me tell you, our girlfriend group, when when our kids were infants are all the way up through teenagers. There was a group of mothers in Chicago and we did everything together when Barack was on the road.

It was really your husband was traveling for a long time. He was on the road, Springfield, before he ran for you.

Yes, but all of us were in some state of professional need and having a group of women that we could call on each other and just, you know, it wasn't like we were leaving our kids, but just having another adult in the room for the day that you could go.

Is this working for you or just and also with the girls, I mean, they still feel a comfort level with each other as a family, as a cousin. You know, our girls see themselves more as cousins than they do. Well, I think all of our you know, Danielle, we you were one of my White House moms.

I was a newbie. I was a newbie. I had no prior history. And just sort of you know, we came together really over the girls and just by chance, being in the same school and then being assigned to the same basketball team. And I think the first time I really reached out to you was, you know, the most important thing of basketball game is snacks. And we were assigned randomly to be snack parents together.

And I said, now, how do you serve snacks with the president?

And the first lady of the United States has the first lady make a Costco run?

And I literally sent, you know, because again, in the early years, getting to you was through intermediaries. And I sent an email and said, you know, hi, I'm a parent at the school. We've been assigned to Snack Day. And, you know, as I would with any parent, let's divvy it up and figure out what we're going to do. And the person who worked for you at the time say, oh, my gosh, thank goodness.

Thanks for reminding us. It would have been really embarrassing to show up to show the president the first lady.

And I know they want to talk to mom. I know they sure would have.

You saved me. So I. I thought I was doing something.

And what did you bring then? I thought I was doing something. I was atrocious. It was it was nutritious. I went to Trader Joe's and got those killer clementines and I was very proud of myself.

What did we bring?

Well, you guys showed up with coolers marked, you know, West Wing president of United States, brought in by armed men and wheeled up, wheeled everything out.

And you had a very diverse group of beverages. Water's Gatorade. It's all high.

And everything is just your choice. Just your choice, your choice. We'll see. Back in the day, it wasn't like you said, I wasn't doing the Costco right. I will, you know, go approach the White House chef or and then they wouldn't know how to, like, just chill out. You know, if I brought cookies, they were freshly baked White House cookies individually wrapped with those packages.

And you're kind of going, oh, you know, these this is kind of overboard. And even Sasha and Malia would be like, why can't you just bring regular snacks? Why couldn't you just get some Chips Ahoy cookies and just bring them up? And it's like, I can't shower.

Well, and see, I was always the mom.

Forget Snack Day, so I'd be at the soccer game and I'm like, OK, Eric, you know, here I've got to run to the store and come back like you. Yeah, I just got these. Yeah.

I would so forget the snack and you know, and when you have three kids and it's like so many different directions, people are going and you know, and I, I just remember being a mom and feeling and having to work. And I used to just have moments of just feeling just woefully inadequate, you know, because there would be the mom who come in with home, the decorating cupcakes and whatever. And I'm like, is it that day?

Is Christmas?

Was I supposed to bring them? It's like, did are you still playing soccer? It's still soccer. Oh.

More on the Michelle Obama podcast after the break. Here and you talk about what it's like, what it was like that first time when I invited Olivia over for a playdate, you had to pick her up.

So you have an appointed time to show up. It's not like, hey, I'll just get there and drop off whenever. I can't do that.

You have to have, you know, license, I.D., etc. So they have all of your information down to your Social Security number.

You pull into the gate and then somebody has got to ask for that. I mean, that's the other thing you're going. So there are three or four exchanges of getting all of this information just to drop your child off for a playdate.

So we get there. I drop Olivia off again. You don't get out of the car. You just let your child out of the car.

Well, you said you go in and got your car washed. Oh, absolutely. I was going to roll up to the White House in a dirty car. So I got my car washed.

I think I had my hair done, my nails that I was not going up there looking raggedy.

And I made sure that Olivia had herself together.

So we go in, I drop her off, I'm told, please be back at 1:00 again. At that time, we lived outside of the city. So I'm killing time in D.C. trying to, you know, just wait.

And at about twelve thirty I get the call restricted number.

Hello. Yes. Is this Danielle Pemberton heard? Yes. This is the White House calling and I'm thinking hard drive. What did she break?

What did she do? What happened? I'll be right over and. No, no, no, no.

The first family would like for her to stay a couple of more hours.

They're going to watch a movie like, oh, OK. So again, I'm driving around D.C. just went to CBS like three different times the different parts of the city. I'm like killing time. And so then finally I get at the appointed time I go back to pick Olivia up and suddenly I see security moving around and I'm getting nervous. I'm like, oh, I'm I'm I'm supposed to be here. I'm kind of standing back. And then this one comes popping outside and she comes out and she's like, hi.

I'm like, oh, hi, hi. And that was really like the first time that we talked one on one just quickly.

But now thinking back and knowing you, it was like you were clamoring to get out of that house. You were just like and there's no excuse for me just to go stand in the driveway. I will do.

Well, I also thought I am still a black mother, you know, so I figured this child had just been at our house. I know her mother would want to see me.

You know, it's like I can't act like I can just have people's kids over and not know them. So I thought, OK, Olivia's been in our house all day. I haven't even met her mother. I need to go down like a normal person and say, hey, she's safe. We aren't crazy. You've seen us on TV, but you need to see us in the flesh. And I also need to see you. And so we started talking and I thought, I like this woman.

They are going to be friends. It's like me building up my posse here in D.C. It's like I need to have some other mothers who can help me in Sidwell who I think we share the same values. You know, I just got a sense of Danielle that she wasn't playing around. Danielle was my first, like, real friend in D.C..

Sharon, while our families are very close, I did meet you in parenthood.

We met each other in the realm of this political beast that would become our lives. And we talk a lot about the first time we kind of connected across the table where I was like, your reaction to the situation was the same as mine. This, again, was before the presidency. But yeah, Barack was a U.S. senator.

And, you know, it was one of these, you know, interminable DC dinners.

And, you know, it's like and people are up and glad handing and, you know, and D.C. is a big who are you and why do I need to know you kind of town, you know? So we're there.

I remember there was and I we won't call you names, but they're just people and just looking at how people react and you know, how you look across the table and not a word was said, you know, you look at someone's on, you're like, OK, you know, I got it. And it was like this instant understanding of the situation.

I was like, oh, Sharon was is done with this then if I was to put it, she's being kind.

But I saw this a look of doneness that, you know, where everybody else seems so excited to be there.

And I was like, who is that woman that feels like me? I can see it in her face. I just want to know who she is.

But when we put the first time we had really had a chance to have a real conversation was when you were here, you were first lady, you had you you had moved here and you were staying at the Hay Adams.

And I get this call and someone says, I'm whatever and I'm from Mrs. Obama staff.

And I was like, what would you like to have lunch? And I was like. I think I can make that work and we had lunch and we had a lunch, which, you know, 12 to one, what time do we finish? Like at 3:00.

That's when, you know, that was when we were in the midst of the transition. And I would have these lunches because I said I just need to meet people. I need to understand Washington. And so my staff would block out these, like, OK, you have an hour meeting with this person, an hour meeting with that person. So initially it was an hour meeting that they would usually I usually be like, OK, this is over.

But when Sharon and I sat down, it was just like, this is another me. And because Sharon's husband was in my husband's administration, Eric Holder, let's just not beat around the bush. That's who your husband is. So you had been in this world for so much longer than I had been. And you were a professional in your own right. And that was something that I saw. I was like, OK, this is a woman who still has a career, who is raising kids, whose husband is a big deal, but she's an even bigger deal in her own right.

That's what really drew me to you, is just your your attitude about this. But you were you were unimpressed. But you you cared deeply. It was that you were straddling the fence that I so often straddle as the wife of a politician in a world where women are just sort of accessories.

You were not an accessory. There's a lot about this life and particularly being connected to people that are very visible because you take it all on.

You have your stuff that you're dealing with, with your family and your kids, and then you have to come home and try to figure out how to reconcile who your husband is with who this person you've just seen on TV or who you've had these articles. And people have said these really horrible and terrible things.

And it's it's crushing. Both of our husbands had a different temperament for this.

I mean, both of them, why they were good at what they did is that they didn't take a lot of that stuff on personally, whereas you and I were left with all this emotional energy that you wouldn't want to put back on them because it wasn't facing them.

But we would just being able to say out loud how hard it was, how hard hard this was to continue to try to find a space for yourself in this world when each of us was feeling wounded in a way that we couldn't talk about because we had to be strong.

It's not just the fact that our husbands are in the public eye, but I find that in all of us, just to all of us have been sounding boards to each other, just dealing with marriage in general. Sometimes it just you know, when you think you were just done with your husband, you know, sometimes a good old conversation over pizza night or a glass of champagne brings you to a place of kind of, OK, this isn't so bad.

With everybody here, it was a matter of us deciding, OK, I'm going to I'm going to call you up. Exactly. Danielle, I'm going to I'm I'm going to invite Olivia over. We're going to sign up for something. Sharon, I'm going to ask you to go to lunch. We're going to plan, Kelly, the time to take our kids to go see Disney on Ice it you have to put as much time and energy into cultivating those friendships.

But that's something that women oftentimes aren't taught.

You know, you all of the people that I can go to for for just a gut check, too, because that's also the beauty of the diversity of my particular girlfriends, because you all are uniquely yourselves.

And I see myself differently in contrast to who you guys are.

One thing that I appreciate is that you guys were always good sports about following me on my various health journey.

They don't don't look like you.

I mean, I can't say that's, you know, what I call like a spa weekend.

It's a spa. Well, yeah, that because the first one, the nice little binder that we got from your staff did call it a spa weekend.

And it started with, of course, meeting at the White House and then being driven up to Camp David and where we first noticed that the traditional Eminem's and snacks that were in the cabins were no longer there.

Well, after the first one I had to put wine back on, that was OK.

OK, thank you. Yes. Thank you, Sharon. When I because I missed the first one and I remember when Mel sent me thing, I said, oh what?

No, I think we're going to have to add some wine back.

And they're like, OK, I know for me I was always thinking about, OK, how do I get outside? So finding something that would get me out. And so skiing wasn't something I knew. I grew up with Danielewski way more than I did. I grew up.

Yeah, but I thought, well, when it gets cold outside and we can't go for walks or go on the Potomac, it's like, well, what are we going to do? So one year we went up to Camp David in Liberty Mountain was really just a short drive from Camp David. And so we started there on that on the Hill. The kids started learning there.

I remember my agents, none of them could really ski, not none that were on my detail. So everybody was taking these crash skiing courses before we went skiing. But then we put it on our radar screen for every every winter. And we went to Vietnam, we started in Aspen, and that's when we learned what a mountain was, or at least I learned what a mountain was. You could see the the the joy that you had when we were out on the mountain, because once you put on the ski helmet and the goggles, she's pretty anonymous.

Right. So there's the ability to sort of be out there and do your thing and be free and you're outside and we spend hours on the mountain.

You started out early before we go up an hour early, she starts out on Liberty Hill. And, you know, one year we go to Vail, the next year we're at Aspen Mountain. And next thing I know, she's, you know, progressing through the hurdles, you know, lock step with what we affectionately call her ski husband because he's the ski instructor.

That sort of instructing her as opposed to us, though, we're in the group and you just see that she's getting better and better. Secret Service, frankly, could not keep up. And there's this one time where we're taking this long run. She doesn't even know what's happening. Right, because she's at the front of the pack with the ski instructor. We've got all of these Secret Service agents skiing behind her, sort of flanking her and zigzagging, crossing themselves as we come down the mountain.

And I sort of ski a bit behind her to give her room. Well, on this particular run, it was icy.

She was flying down the mountain one by one agent started wiping out one who will remain nameless because he got so much smack from the Secret Service for wiping out because he was like her detail lead other people falling.

You know, I'm looking at bulletproof vests and snow going up back. You know, everyone's wiping out.

And at one point I look at all of her agents are down and I'm still standing and I yell to them, I got her guys.

I got her thinking to myself, Now, if anyone need to do anything, we are sorry. But that's my girl. I'm on a trailer. I'll take I'll do my best if I have to take my ski off, slap someone upside the head, we're going to do.

For me, one measure of like finding my crew is not just sort of how do I relate to them, but are they open enough and are they kind enough and are they secure enough to be friends with my friends?

And slowly, over the course of many, many years, you guys have come to know each other right as as well, if not better, and connect even better than you connect with me.

All right. And you know, it is the sorority of you know, it's that circle of trust, I should say, that we had because, you know, we had this really tight group of people who knew you could say what you wanted to say. You could do what you want to.

And it was going nowhere to this day, you know, no nothing has ever leaked out from this group about what was going on because we understood how important it was to guard your privacy.

But that's the way it is with, you know, with your girlfriends that you trust, whether their first lady or anybody.

You know, I have girlfriends that, you know, honestly, that I would say if I kill somebody, see what they would say, girl, let me get a shovel.

OK, let's just let's just go, you know, and, you know, I mean, because that you know, and to be able to have that kind of relationship with somebody where, you know, I could say something really terrible.

And you know, I don't mean it about the person like my husband, but you know what I'm saying? I feel that way today. Right, right.

But you know that you're not going to sit there and look at him and say, you know, you just know that that's how it is. That's the psychology of how you feeling. And to let someone vent. And it's a it's an amazing pressure release because I can say it to you so I don't have to see the person, because really, I think you're I think you're right because you're still trying to protect him.

Right.

And all of this in terms of managing your emotions, how you were feeling to.

So you're I'm burdening him with you know, we had the weight of the world literally, you know, on his shoulders.

And so I think I think you developed a plan. I mean, I think he took it as you know, this is my job to figure out and an unhealthy way.

And it's an emotional you it it's a terrible place to be as a spouse when whatever it is that's bothering you always seems. Petty, I know we're compared to say, oh, I've just got to go solve Mideast peace today and it's like, what did you pick those you needed on a kitchen counter?

I mean, it's like it all these, you know, so you're like, well, yeah, that's where your girlfriend group and again, taken this away from the White House and from me in particular. I mean, the truth is, is that we've all been that way with each other and with the women and women friends in our lives where, you know, having a crew that you can go to and say whatever is on your mind and not be judged for it, give yourself a space to blow off some steam.

This is why when I look at some of these reality TV, I have a love hate relationship with it. But I, I never like the way they portray women friendships because they're always so catty and bickering and argumentative in ways that I have never experienced among my women friends ever.

And that is meant so much to me to have women who are secure enough to have friendships like that that aren't possessive, but are you know, they're broad and they're open and they're, you know, they're inviting. You know, if I ever get to a point of friendship where I can't say tell the truth and know that the trust that we built up can sustain whatever that truth or whatever, that maybe it isn't even maybe it's my truth and it's not your truth.

But, you know, if the friendship can't sustain that, then something else is wrong. And at some point in time, it's going to come out. It's going to show itself. But you can't do that if you don't have trust. You know, you can't do that.

If you don't know that, you can come back from it and that there's genuine love. You know, I know for me the people that can get me riled up or people who I care deeply about, I have such wonderful friends in my life that it's you know, I want as much for them as I want for me. But I feel like you all feel the same way. You know, I get that back. That's why these relationships that sustain themselves over so many years, because I feel like you guys have literally ridden and died with me.

That's what we do. What you got going on now?

I just had a moment. I just had a lot of movement. And, you know, I have moments. I know.

And yeah, I know. What's the moment? We love you.

I love you. I was thinking that you're your girlfriend because of, like, the study and even of your personal relationships are kind of going up.

And, you know, you guys have been my rock. Yeah. Yeah. For the last couple of years.

But isn't it amazing how quickly, though, the time has gone by?

Thanks, you know, because, you know, I have always thought of myself as the new friend like you relative to and I'm like, no, wait a minute.

That was 13 years ago, you know, new relative to you know, we have sort of moved into a different category.

And I tell you and it is I mean, I can't tell you how many happy memories I have of all the things collectively, individually.

Yes.

You know, that we have had over these past, you know, 11 years, a group of of of good girlfriends provides a lifeline that is is unlike any other. When we can lean on each other, when we can learn from each other and show up for one another, no matter what we're going through, that is how we grow. It's an evolution that happens not just day by day, but moment by moment, interaction by interaction, all of these little sparks of connection that build on one another.

And together they composed the magic of a life doesn't have to be anything flashy. It doesn't need to involve flash bulbs and red carpets.

But those sparks we have with the people in our lives keep pushing us forward, keep helping us evolve, and keep helping us become even more of who we are.

So I want to thank Kelly, Danielle and Sharon for their time. But most of all, I want to thank all of you for for being here, for listening. These conversations couldn't be more important. Thanks again, everybody. I will talk to you again soon.

And you got us another bottle of that tequila you can really go there after.

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