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Welcome to today's episode of the Mind Set Mentor podcast, I'm your host, Rob Dylon. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And if you want to get motivational text messages for me and join in on my motivational text message group, send me a text right now to one five one two five eight zero nine three zero five. Once again, one five one two five eight zero nine three zero five.
We have thousands and thousands of people that are already on the list. So I'd love to send out some messages to you as well. Today, we're going to be talking about how to maximize the one life that you get to live in this episode. And I have a question for and I want you to think about this for a second.
Have you been living your life as if you get another shot? I want you to think about that for a second.
If you look back on everything that you've done the past twenty years, past 30 years, 40 years, 50 years, whatever it is for you, have you been living your life as if this is the only life that you have and there are no other shots?
Or have you been living it kind of in the back seat as if, hey, maybe there is another one. Maybe this is just a practice set back. Maybe I'm just I'm just on deck. Before I get into the real life, I want you to really, honestly think about that for a second, because I think too many people live their lives as if they happened to get another shot. They sit in the background. They worry too much.
They fear too much. They don't take the action that they need to. They see this perfect life that they want to have somewhere in the future. But they act like maybe one day I'll just get it. Instead of actually waking up every single day and taking the steps needed to get them to where they're going to go. And it's almost as if it's almost as if everybody lives, as if they're just guaranteed tomorrow, as if they are going to 100 percent wake up tomorrow, as if they're even going to go to bed tonight.
Because here's the thing. One hundred and fifty thousand people will not wake up tomorrow. That's just statistics. We're going to be one of them one day. Hopefully it's long. It takes a lot longer to get there than sooner. But you never know. And there was a great conversation I saw between Neil deGrasse Tyson when he was talking to Larry King. And Larry King said, if you can live forever, would you? And Larry King was like, I would I would love to live forever, is what he said.
And, you know, Larry King looks like as if he was kind of like he's been alive forever. But Neil deGrasse Tyson says he wouldn't live forever if he could. And the reason why is because he'd think that death brings urgency to his life. Because if you never died, if he was just, you know, completely immortal, there would always be tomorrow. So why would you get up and actually do something with your life if you're guaranteed tomorrow either way?
And so think about that. The fact that you're going to die should bring more urgency to your life.
And I say it, I probably think about death five, 10 times a day, you know, and people are like, that's kind of weird to think about that.
Much like I don't think that it is because I think about it knowing that eventually I'm going to get there and I want to make sure by the time I'm there, I'm like, yeah, I did everything that I possibly could. And so if you think back up your up your entire life up until this very moment, ask yourself that question. Have you been living your life as if you get another shot, as if this is just some practice at bat because you might not wake up tomorrow and not try and trying to be, you know, morbid any sort of way?
I'm just trying to be honest and make you realize we should be thinking about this because it should bring more urgency. It should make us want to live more of a fulfilled life.
The worst thing they always say, the only thing worse than the pain of hard work is the pain of regret. The only thing that I'm truly afraid of is getting to my death bed and being like, I could have done more.
I could have done more for myself, for people around me, for the world to could have made more impact. But I was too worried about what people would think about me. I was too lazy. Most of the days I was too busy scrolling through Instagram, is too busy scrolling through Facebook and and thinking about all the things that I could have done but never did because I was too caught up doing other things or thinking about other things. And I want you to think about this.
If you knew that today, today, if I told you right now, today was your last day, what would you have missed out on if today was your last day, if you literally had that message and you knew that today was your absolute last day, what would you have missed out on?
What chances didn't you take? What places didn't you travel to? What people's lives didn't you impact? Who did you not donate to or volunteer to that you always wanted to? What were you not able to give your loved one that you've always wanted to give them? Think about that for a second. If you found out that today was your very last day, what would you have missed out on in your life? What would you regret that you could have done but you didn't do?
And here's the thing, think about it this way if you were to rate on a scale of one to 10, 10 being like absolutely terrible, the worst ever, 10 being the best that's ever lived, the best life that anyone's ever lived on a scale of one to 10, what would you rate your life and how much you've gotten out of your life and all of the things that you've done for yourself, for other people? What would you rate yourself?
One to 10. Up until this very moment of your life, what would it be? Usually when I ask this question, when I'm giving speeches, most people say six six point five, seven. And I say, what I want to do is I want you to think about your life as if it was a grade. So, you know, here, if you rate yourself a seven, that's 70 percent, seven out of 10, 70 percent, you basically rated yourself a C.
If you gave a grade to your life, it was a C if you said six point five, that's 65 percent out of 100, that's a D. If you raise yourself 60 or below 59 or below, that's an F.
Let that sink in for a second, if you were to grade your life, was it A, was it A B, was it A C, was it a D or is it an F? Now, once again, I don't say suppress you. I say this to wake you up, to realize it's not over yet.
You can make a change at any moment of your time in your life whenever you want to. You know, when you look back, what, what risks haven't you take taken what what things haven't you've done that you've always wanted to do? What places haven't you traveled to? What have you been holding back because you're in fear of of failure or fear of success, fear of people judging you, fear of what your parents might say, what your family might say, what people on Facebook that you haven't seen in seventeen years might say.
And then what can you go? You know what I need to release. I need to do it.
I really, truly want to do. Have you been too worried about other people? Think of you. Have you been too worried about what could possibly happen to you for you to step out into the unknown? You know, I always think about this way. It doesn't matter whether you believe in heaven or hell, God and no God, whatever it is, just go along with me on this journey.
I always like to think of it like this. I always like to think that God has a checklist for every single person in that checklist is like the absolute best that that person could do, like the best life. And as you're going through, he's either checking them off as he's watched your life. He's checking them, checking him up. You missed that one. No, that one's not there. You missed that one. Oh, no big deal.
I right that when you've got a checklist, you have a checklist of everything. Like if you were to check off every single box, that is the life most fully lived, like the most fully lived life that you personally could possibly have.
And everybody has a different checklist. It's all based on, OK, you were born into this. This is a life that you're going to have is the parents that you're going to have. These are struggles that you're going to have. And this is the life that you're going to have. And you have individual checklists.
And my job is that if this whole thing called heaven exists and I go to it one day, that I'm sitting there with God and he's looking at the checklist and he goes, damn, I wasn't expecting that.
You pretty much checked off everything you've got, flips it over on the back and goes, man, you've even got some stuff checked off that even think you were going to check off like that is my goal. And that's the thing that I'm trying to work for. Because in this mind, in my mind, I have like this perfect vision of what I could possibly be right. Like this person is this best version of me. And I want you to think of that as well.
Like, what is the best version of you look like?
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The best version of your life, of everything, like if you were not afraid of anything, if you were fully going into it, if you are not held back mentally, physically, emotionally, any of those things, if there was the perfect version of you and yet a perfect version of you went through and lived your life, what could that life possibly look like?
Right in the whole thing is I like to think of that perfect version of me. And when we die, we get to see that version of ourselves and what we could have been, the things that we could have done, all of the the chances we could have taken the place, we could have traveled to lives. We could have impact the businesses. We could have built the money, we could have made it fun. We could have had the laughs we could have had.
And all of that's the perfect version. When you die, you get to look at this person, you get to see what you could have been. My goal is that when I do die and I get to see that version of me, I'm staring at my twin. We're the same person. We've done everything we possibly could. We've maximized the life that we possibly could. Once again, the only thing worse than pain of hard work is the pain of regret.
It would be terrible to die to meet our version of you and go, oh my God, I could have been that.
But I was just this. I could have been that.
I could have done that. I could have seen that. I could have experienced that. I could have seen with my eyes and felt with my hands and tasted it. And that could have been my life. But instead I sat back and I didn't do it because I was too worried and I was too crippled by worry. I was too crippled by fear.
I was too busy thinking about other people's opinions and what other people would think of me. I was too busy worried about what would happen if I went and did this and what that person would think of me and would my spouse break up with me and would my children resent me or would my parents get pissed off if I broke off and did this and went this way? We'll get caught up in these mind games that don't even truly matter because you're supposed to be the best version of yourself.
And we think sometimes that if we become the best version of ourselves, we're just going to have to, like everyone in our life is going to hate us. They're going to resent us. They're going to leave us behind and be like, oh, they outgrew me. But in reality, that's not what happens. The better that you become, the better than everybody in your sphere of influence becomes. That's why it's called sphere of influence, because you literally influence everyone in your sphere.
So as you get better, everybody else around you gets better. When you're inside of the harbor, when the tide rises, all of the boats rise with it. You're like the tide. The more that you become, the better you become. You raise everybody else around you as well. So don't just think about how you're not impacting just yourself and in the life that you want. But now you can start think about all of the people around you, who you love and how if they're not getting the best version of you, then they're not going to become the best version of themselves.
Because ultimately, you get one shot for the best that we know. What are you going to do from now on to change it? Because you might be sad at this moment thinking, oh, my gosh, so many things that I could have done. Well, you're not dead yet. That's the best thing. 365 days from today, you could be in a completely different position than you are right now. If you really buckle down and focus on creating the life that you want, if you focus on impacting others, you focus on building the best, focus on helping other people.
If you focus on whatever it is, creating the mind, body, spirit, soul, emotions that you've always wanted to, you can be in a completely different place in your mind, in your body, in your bank account and your business.
All of those things can be in a completely different place. Your family can be in a completely different place. All of those can be different. But it takes you making the decision to go, you know what? I'm going to do it. I'm going to stop making excuses. I'm going to stop living my life in fear.
I'm gonna stop worrying about all of the crap that actually truly doesn't even matter, because the only thing that matters is me making me the best version of myself so I can go out and bring you the best version of everybody else out of themselves because you can be in a different place financially, spiritually, emotionally, physically and your family. Everything can be a complete different place 365 days from today. But you have to make the decision that today's going to be different than any other day ever has been.
And, you know, here's a bit of thing you don't have to worry about the rest of your life at all. You don't have to worry about the next 365 days. All you've got to worry about is today the perfect version of today. What can you do to maximize to data? So by the time you go to bed and you lay your head down, you're like, yep, I did everything that I could. And then you do the exact same thing tomorrow.
And the next day. And the next day and the next day. And you wake up one day, 365 days from today, two years from today, five years from today. And you're like, holy crap, look at what I've actually built.
Will Smith used to say when he was younger, his dad made him build a wall.
Him and his brother, they made him build a wall and it took them something like a year, two years, whatever it was to build this wall because they take bricks and lay down every single brick. And when they first started it, they first started to build this wall. Him and his brother like this is impossible. There's no way we're going be able to build this wall. They're like ten, eleven, twelve years old. And his dad says, don't worry about the entire wall.
Just worry about laying each brick as perfect as you could possibly lay a brick and then go to the next brick inlay, each brick, the perfect, like the most perfect lay that you could possibly have of this brick and do it with the next one.
And the next one and the next one. And eventually you have this big, beautiful wall that you've built. It might take some time, but you've built it. But you can only you can only actually build a wall one brick at a time. Your life is the exact same thing. You can't build the entire wall the entire life right now. The only thing you could do is lay each brick the most perfect that you possibly can each day. So you put down the brick you laid as perfectly you possibly can.
That's today. You go to tomorrow, you lay that brick the perfect way that you possibly can. That's tomorrow. And then you look back and if you lay each brick, a.k.a. each day is perfect, possibly. Can you maximize every single day? Every single day. You look back a year or two years, three years, five years, and you're like, wow, I just built the most perfect version of that wall, a.k.a. my life that I possibly could because I didn't worry about the next three or six days.
I don't worry about the rest of my life. I didn't worry about what people said about me. I didn't worry about people's opinions of me. I didn't worry about what they think. I didn't worry about success and worry about failure.
All I worried about was taking each day each brick and getting the most out of it, laying it perfectly as I possibly could, because if you do that one day you'll wake up and you'll realize that you've built the perfect version of your life that you've always wanted to. So that's what I got for you for today's episode, if you love this episode, so please show someone that you know and love. Please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in your Instagram stories.
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