Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create amazing relationships. I'm George Camel, and I'm joined by the one, the only, my smart money happy hour co host, Rachel Cruz.

Good to be here. This is George. Always is.

We usually don't host a whole bunch together, but when we get to, it's a real treat.

It's a special time. You all are here for it.

So we haven't got to hang out in a while. Rachel. We're taking calls from people all over the world now. We've gone international officially. So if you want to join us, call triple 8825-5225 we'll answer your questions. We'll give you our best advice. Sometimes we've been known to hurt feelings. We've been known to tell people to sell the horse. This is the kind of stuff that happens on this show. You're in there, a part of it. You're an accomplice, Rachel.

I will give you advice in a kind, nice way, George.

You never know. You never know. Well, congrats, Rachel, on your new kids book. It's been fun. I'm glad for what I have. I read it to Mia the other day, my little. She doesn't know because she's five months old, but she enjoyed it.

It's good. Hey. Reading even to the young ones.

I've heard that, George. Yeah, I saw. My wife sent me the instagram reel. Thank you. Jonathan is up first in Raleigh, North Carolina. Jonathan, welcome to the show.

Hey, thanks for having me, guys.

Absolutely. How can we help?

So, I am long time familiar with Dave Ramsey. Just kind of started getting into it more recently the last year, but I've done the baby steps and been debt free and then got married and other things. So recently I've done the attempt to get my wife to budget with me. So I got her to watch the financial piece that was gifted to me because I'm a veteran. And I got her to watch the first episode. And as soon as I brought up the budget, she shut it down. She was mad.

Yeah.

So I'm not sure if it's something more deep seated going on, but we're not really financially hurting, but we are losing a lot of money just to waste.

Sure. Okay. So, Jonathan, why was she mad? What was she saying in her anger?

That she didn't want to have any constraints. She didn't want me to control her spending. I think she didn't really want me to know what she was spending on okay.

Do you guys share an account together?

We do. And that was a point of contention about 13 years ago when we got married. But we did join the accounts and I eliminated her. She had college debt and other car loans and credit cards and all that. And so we've purged all that since and joined accounts.

Was she on board with that? With getting out of debt?

Yes.

Okay, so it's the budgeting piece for her. And is she the spender out of both of.

Mean?

We're probably both equally, you know, do.

You, Jonathan, if you were to be honest with us, have you had any history of maybe a snide remark or two with what she has spent on, have you been sarcastic with it or do you bring it up in a way that she doesn't like? I'm just curious, that dynamic.

Well, when we got together, she was a lot fancier than me, so she would like finer things, Louis Vuitton and stuff like that. So I'm sure I possibly have thrown out a wow, that's a lot of money for Tom.

Well, I think one of the biggest breakdowns that I'm hearing is in a perfect world, you both would agree on. Yeah. Here's what we're going to know. Here's electricity, here's our cable, here's our utilities, the basic stuff of life. And then us both say, okay, here's an amount of money per month that we agree on together, that Jonathan gets, that your wife gets, and together you both say it doesn't even have to be an equal amount of money. Right. I mean, she could say no, I actually on average spend x amount. And if you guys can afford that, and it's not constraining other parts of the budget to be able to say, yes, she can, but I think it's the idea that you guys are agreeing on where she's spending, or, I'm sorry, on how much she is spending. Because to me, the amount, I think it's the first step and then the wear would be the second step. But I don't think the wear matters as much. Like Winston probably thinks I'm crazy how much I get my nails done. You know what his, like, the wear is like, okay, but I think it's the amount that you guys agree and you're on the same team to say, okay, here's what overall money looks like, and within know you're not her dad, that's going to be ruling over her to tell her where she can spend her money.

But we both agree, like this is a reasonable amount for us to spend on personal things or even out to.

I and Jonathan have you kind of seek to understand when you go, hey, what's behind this? I feel like there was some high emotion here when you shut down there. I just want to know, does this come from somewhere? Was there anything in your past or why do you feel like this budget is going to control us? All I'm asking is that we predecide how we spend our paychecks and we can decide that you have a lot of money for fun. I think she sees, like, we're going to have a life of sacrifice and rice and beans and couponing for the rest of your days. Is that how she's feeling?

I don't know that. It's that because like I said, when I brought the budget to her, she wouldn't even look at it. So it's not that.

What kind of budget did you make? Was this excel?

I made a zero balance or zero dollar budget, whatever it is, at the end. I'm trying to do the thing that you all did.

Did you use it like every dollar of the app, or was it an excel spreadsheet?

Okay.

Every dollar. Good. Sometimes if someone shows me an excel spreadsheet, I wouldn't look at. Okay.

She wouldn't look at the numbers at all.

Nothing.

Did you ask why?

Well, our communication is sometimes strained and limited.

I.

Whenever it's something that's uncomfortable or not easy, just glazed over the top, something more in depth, it's kind of like.

She doesn't go there. Yeah, it feels vulnerable. It feels scary for whatever reason. So, Jonathan, I think that's the issue.

Right.

And we usually say money issues within marriage are rarely the actual money issue, to your point. It's not like she was like, no, I need $300 a month, not 250. It's the communication. Something in her does not feel okay to go there for whatever reason. And George is right, it comes from somewhere. It stems from somewhere. And for you guys to get on the same page, because if you can understand and you guys communicate more effectively in general, that's going to help you. Help you effectively communicate with the money. That's going to help you obviously communicate better in general. But to me, that's where you bring in a third party.

Yeah. Have you guys ever been to marriage counseling? No.

And I suggested, I'm usually the instigator. I'm usually trying. And because I've taken care of everything since the beginning, I maybe have a little bit of anxiety and things to bring up topics to her, because every time I try to bring it up to her. It's just shut down. And so there may be some animosity and all that.

That's what we need to get to the bottom of before we start talking about money goals. We need to learn what's behind all this. How do we communicate well? And I'm going to send you some tools to help. Number one is a copy of my book, breaking free from broke. I want you guys to read chapter ten. It's called budgeting is Freedom. I think it'll show her a different way. And I'm going to send you a copy of Rachel's book, know yourself, know your money. It's going to really help her understand why she thinks the way she thinks around money and maybe unlock some really cool things and conversations. So we're wishing you the best. Jonathan, hang on the line and Skylar will get you those books. This is the Ramsey show. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Hey, it's Dr. John Deloney. And I talk about this all the time. I love, love New Year's resolutions. I love the idea of everyone taking a moment to reflect. Consider some ways your life is going well, and consider some things you'd like to be different. And then, most importantly, setting in place actual steps you can take to heal and improve your life.

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Hi. Thank you so much for taking my call.

Sure.

So I am 24, and I have over a half a million dollars in debt.

Wow. Is that consumer debt or does that include a mortgage?

So that's with my mortgage and my car loan.

Okay. That makes me at least breathe a little easier. So let's walk through the consumer debt. How much consumer debt do you have? What are the amounts?

None.

None.

Oh, so it's just your mortgage?

Yeah, my mortgage is $490,000.

What's the rest?

And then my car. I owe 54,000 left on it.

Oh, okay. So we would label anything non mortgage as consumer debt, if that helps.

Okay.

Yeah.

You have 54,000 on the car. Anything else?

No.

And then 490 on the mortgage.

How much do you make a year?

I'm self employed, so it kind of varies some years. My last taxes, it was $250,000.

Awesome. At 24, that's amazing. What do you do?

I'm a reseller.

All right, and what's your question today?

So my question is, I have some money in the bank. I have some in savings. I have a retirement account. But my biggest question is the car payment kind of is weighing heavy on me, and I wanted to get your opinion on where my money should be going. Kind of. So I have, in a high yield savings account about 46,000. So I was wondering, I kind of wanted to get rid of my car. Like, after listening to you guys, I wish I would have listened sooner, but I don't think I need this luxury car. And it was kind of an impulse decision just to buy it. So I was wondering if I should take some of this money and get rid of my car.

As in sell it and downgrade to a different car with cash.

Well, I'm engaged. So we have two cars right now, and we would just be sharing the one car.

Is that a reasonable lifestyle switch for you, Kira, to just go down to one car?

Yes.

Okay. How much could you sell it for?

So that's the thing that is unfortunate, because the car, I got different quotes and stuff, so I owe 54 left, and my offer was 37,000.

Where was this offer from?

Well, that was Carmax. I've tried to sell it personally online, and I'm going into a dealership on Saturday to do some kind of, like, auction thing to see if they can get maybe even a little bit more.

My guess is private party is going to be your best bet to sell this for top dollar versus going to a dealership. Of course they're going to lowball you because they're going to sell it for that higher amount.

Yeah. What kind of car is it?

It's a BMW X five.

Okay.

What year is it?

2019.

Okay.

If you're honest about yourself and your day to day life and how that looks that you really don't feel like you need a car. Like, if that really is true, because you make plenty of money, p. S. You can afford to get another car, maybe a different car, and you can do something different, but don't feel like not having a car is your only option. I just want to give you that window that you have great money saved. If you needed to get a car, you could. Okay.

And if you wanted to pay off this car, you could.

Yes, that's right.

And just keep it.

Yeah. But if you don't want it, and you're like, it's just too nice, I don't need it. You are upside down. So what I would try to do, almost, is just say, hey, I want to try to get 40 for it. A little bit more than what was quoted in a private selling situation is probably the way you're going to do that, and then you're going to have to say, okay, I got 14,000 of my own money that I'm going to have to just finish off the loan.

And we can take that out of your high yield savings account.

Yeah, we just call that stupid tax when we do things that we're like, dang it. And just take it out of your high yield and then start from there. And if you want a different car or something down the road, I would use that money saved that you have to get a great used car. Yeah. That you want. So when are you guys going to get married?

Hopefully next year.

Okay, so not a date. Are you guys going to live in this house that you have a mortgage on right now? Yes, you are. Okay. Is he coming into the marriage with any real estate?

Wait, what do you mean by that question?

Does he own a home, too? Like, will he be selling?

No, this is our home. We bought it together last year.

Okay.

The only reason why this car is weighing so heavy on me is because I know this is, like, my only debt. But I don't mean to put his business out there, but he has a lot of debt, and we are trying to clear his debt. Right, so you're not trying to pay off his debt.

Right.

Okay, so one thing you have to realize, Kira, is. Yes, I understand that you guys are. You're. I believe we'll get married next year. But you guys, legally, you're not married. You're roommates. I mean, from a legal standpoint, you realize that, right? I know relationally, in love and future plans, all the things. So with your money, the wisest thing you can do, which sounds harsh, I know, in your situation, because you guys have already bought a house together, you keep things separate financially. We have talked to so many people, Kira, who have used their money to pay off someone's debts, and they start working together, and suddenly the wedding next year doesn't happen, and you are out all this money. And so protecting yourself in that sense is necessary during this time, because you have no legal contract. There's nothing legally binding you guys together. If you were married, that's a different story. But from this standpoint, I would not be paying on his debt. So you need to be focused on you. He needs to be focused on him. And then you have to say, yeah, when we get married, we do become one, all of this.

Then we can work as a team. But I would not be doing that until then. Until you say I do and you sign that marriage license and there's a ring on the finger. I would not work together as one when it comes to money. Now, you guys can be encouraging and all of that, but I would have very separate financial lives at this point.

Okay, that makes sense. And I should have mentioned the car would be his that we would be using, so we'd be paying on his loan.

So there's a loan on his car.

Yeah, the one that you would be splitting the payment. I actually just asked him. He didn't answer, but I think it's around, like, 40,000.

I wouldn't do anything.

I wouldn't do that.

Just go get your own car with cash. Don't pay on a car that you don't even own.

Yeah. That's not even in your name.

The point to get rid of this car is to get rid of the payment. And you're just going to take on another payment, but less with one car, right?

Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Honestly, if I were you, I would get rid of this car because I think it's a good exercise for you. You're 24. You're like, I made a crazy purchase. I shouldn't have bought it. And if I were you, I would go get a $10,000, whatever, go drive that. He needs to work on his stuff. I mean, his debt, his income, all of that needs to be his. This does not need to be your responsibility, because what concerns me a little bit, and I could be reading into it, is that you're so responsible. You're obviously extremely bright. You're making $250,000 as a 24 year old. I mean, you're a go getter. Okay? And I'm not saying he isn't, but in some cases, what we find is that he gets the benefit and reaps the benefit of all the greatness that you have. But then you get no benefit from him from a legal standpoint, because you're not married. So I would be very cautious in all of that. Sharing and buying a house together, too. This is for the listener out there. Do not put both of your names on a deed of a house if you are not legally married.

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All right, this one is from Jenny in South Carolina. My husband and I are on baby step two. We have an suv that is paid off, and my husband wants to finance a second vehicle. It's kind of the opposite of baby step two there, but he has $12,000 to put towards the purchase. I thought he was looking in the range of 35 to 45,000, but he now wants one that cost $90,000. He only wants to use the truck for eight months and then take advantage of the buyback program from the dealership and get a cheaper vehicle. Then we can't afford an $800 car payment for the next eight months. And I don't trust the buyback program. How do I make him see that the numbers just don't work to finance a vehicle right now? I have asked him to find a vehicle that we can afford with the $12,000, or he can use RSUV and I will drive an older vehicle. This argument has been going on for six months, and I don't know how much more our marriage can take. The stress has gotten the worse, and I'm currently between jobs and my income is very low right now.

Oh, goodness.

Sounds like a lot, Jenny.

It sounds like he is coping with a marriage on the rocks. She's unemployed, they're between incomes. And he's like, I'm going to go get a giant truck to make me feel better.

Some kind of comfort in my life right now, because everything else seems to be chaotic. Yeah.

This man is reverting to a child. He's like Benjamin buttoning Rachel real time.

With his finances right in front of our eyes.

She's right. If you need some confirmation. Yeah, you have $12,000 to purchase a car.

But, Jenny, I think you're asking the wrong question. She says, how do I make them see that the numbers just don't work? It's not the numbers. It's the fact that you guys are obviously not on the same page. You're trying to do a program and get out of debt while he's adding on debt. Like you're literally counteracting each other. It doesn't make sense. And so what ends up happening is exactly what is happening, sadly, is it causes a lot of stress, it causes a lot of fights because you're both not walking the same path, you're running into each other. And so that's going to cause tension. And so for you guys, I would just pan way back and say, okay, as our family, what do we want money to look like? What does this look like for us? And if you guys can't get on the same page with that value system, then, yeah, I think we said it in an earlier call, but it's true. I'm like, that means you're probably not on the same page on a lot of things in life. And so working and finding that unity, and even if that's bringing in a marriage counselor or a therapist to get you guys back on that same page and always know with marriage, you guys, that there's always going to be opposites, okay?

So there's always going to be one person that always kind of wants the bougier thing. Probably the one that's like, we're fine here, or one's more of a spender, one's more of a saver. You're always going to have these different money personalities in a marriage. So we're not saying you have to be uniformed and just identical robots together, but the overall big picture is that you want to be walking the same path. And that usually comes down to value system. A value system conversation that obviously you guys are on separate pages. So I think that looking at that as the issue is where I would start.

Yeah, this is so tough because this marriage is only going to go grow further apart if he makes this decision. And it's going to be a harder decision to undo. And it's going to cause so much resentment on Jenny's side of, like, she does not going to feel like she has a vote in this marriage if he goes and does this behind her back, in front of her back, no matter how he does it, it's going to screw things up even more. So she needs to have the come to Jesus meeting with him and go, listen, I don't feel safe. I'm trying to do this plan. This marriage is not going well. We need to get on the same page. You need to act like an adult and have some delayed gratification.

Yeah.

And that means one day you can have that truck when we can pay for it in cash, when we're not in debt. But right now is not the time to go make more terrible decisions.

Yeah, because again, take the money piece out of this, you guys. It's just the fact of. It's just disrespect.

Right?

Like, if one spouse is pleading with another on something, you would listen to that.

What would you do if Winston went out and financed a $90,000 truck while you guys were in debt, actively trying to get out?

Well, that's the thing is, I'm like, yeah, we can talk about the money piece, about how that pulls you backwards and all that, but it's a complete respect thing. I'm like, there is a level that you're obviously not being heard in your money, probably not in other parts of your marriage. And, Jenny, it sounds like such a desperate situation, which is so sad, and it's so difficult, and there's a lot of couples that are walking this road right now. But it's so much more than just the money decision. It's the fact that he's not hearing her, respecting her. It's one thing if he's like, no, Jenny, I think you're wrong. But you know what? I'll come down. At least go to 35,000.

There's zero compromise.

It's just a complete middle finger, is what it feels like. I'm going to go do whatever I want. And that's not a marriage. That's not a healthy marriage.

I'm not here to rag on the truck Bros, Rachel, because I get a lot of flak for that.

But there's something about opinion on trucks.

There's something I'm not going to even call men in trucks. I'm going to send boys and trucks, because men and trucks I have no problem with. Winston Cruz has an awesome truck. I got to ride in it. That thing is awesome. Boys and trucks. And by boys, I mean grown men who are financing $90,000 trucks to cope. That's not okay. And I will fight against that every single day.

Fight the good fight, George.

That's what I'm doing in Winston's tundra.

The Lord's calling on your life, Rachel.

I had to crawl into Winston's tundra. It was so high up. I was like, is there a ladder you can throw down from?

It's not a raised truck. It's a regular truck, George.

Truck. All right, Jillian is up next in Salt Lake City. Jillian, welcome to the Ramsey show.

Hi.

What's going on?

So we've gotten ourselves into a situation, and we're wondering the best way to get out of it. So we are looking to see, does it make sense to pull four hundred and one k to pay off a heloc?

How old are you?

I just turned 40 on Saturday.

Happy birthday.

Happy big birthday. That's a big milestone.

And also, please never do this.

I know.

Happy birthday. Don't do it.

I understand you've got this big heloc, and you're looking for some kind of shortcut to go, how do we get out of this HeloC? But what you're doing is robbing your future self with penalties and fees on.

Top of that, I would just treat it as a baby step six situation. Jillian, how much do you owe on your house, mortgage wise?

So mortgage wise, we're like 450, which it's only two and a half percent. But the heloc is, like eight and a half percent. The payment is killing us.

Yeah. How much do you guys make a year?

Which sounds like a lot. It is a lot. Around 350,000.

Okay.

Yes, it is a lot, but when you're drowning in payments all over the place, it doesn't feel.

Yeah, we're cutting back as much as we can, and obviously we need to make changes.

What was the heloc for?

A house remodel in a pool.

As one does. It's the american way. Okay. Any other debt?

We have a credit card. I have a business that I just started, so I have, like, $18,000 in a credit card.

Okay.

Other than that, where we have our cars are paid off. We were debt free until this pool. My husband makes large commission checks, and we made about $170,000 more than we're making now until we knew that we would get these commissions and be able.

To pay this off.

And the market turned in where he works and bonuses are not coming. And then the heloC, this is like, clark.

You guys lived out the Christmas vacation.

Did you learn nothing from that movie?

Right?

You thought, this is a fictional movie. It doesn't happen.

And, Jillian, this is a really good lesson for people. This is not to continue to pick on your situation by any means, but this happens all the time, and I can do this mentally and emotionally. You spend the money before you get the money. Right? You're like, oh, my gosh, we're going to make what? Oh, this is going so well this year. We're for sure going to make. And you already spend it. Right.

Whether in your emotion concept is spending money you don't have and then hoping you have it later.

Yeah, but it's different when you feel like, no, I'm supposed to have $170,000 bonus, and then you don't have it. I think it's a pain point, Jillian.

For you guys.

I would pay off your is it. The car, the 18,000 credit card.

Credit card.

I'm sorry for the business. Yes. I would focus, you guys to pay that off, get that out, okay. Because that's going to just free up some mental space because I would then move forward. Do you guys have savings at all?

No.

Okay. So I would save up three to six months of expenses after you pay off this card. And then I would be funding retirements. Look at the kids college stuff. But I would attack this Heloc first and then your mortgage. But I would go ahead and start the baby step. But I would use this heloc as kind of a baby step. Six a, and then your mortgage is six b, but I would put it.

There and making 350. Jillian, you guys are going to get out of this faster than you think, but it's going to take some deep sacrifice. You all been living la vida loca, and now you're Broca. So you're going to get out of it. We have hope in you and faith. So call us back when you're debt free. We'll celebrate with you. And happy belated birthday. This is the Ramsey show. Hey, guys.

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That's right. All right. Gabriella is up next in McAllen, Texas. Gabriella, what's going on?

Hi, guys. Thank you for taking my call. So my question is, my ex boyfriend left me with an rv payment, and I do not want to pay it.

Oh, my gosh. So what happened?

So he took it to go work and could no longer afford the payment on it and left it to me last weekend and was like, here you go. Here's the rv with the payment.

What do you mean, left it to you? Whose name is on the loan?

It is under my name. We were together for ten years. I got it for him. He had to go work in the oil field, and we split up about a year ago, and he can't afford it anymore. So he brought it back to me, and I'm left with it.

Oh, no. Shoot. Well, Gabrielle, you'll never do that again, will you?

I've learned my.

No. You know, we talked to somebody earlier in the hour, and her boyfriend, well, fiance, they don't really have a date, I don't think a wedding date. We asked, but, yeah, both their names are on the deed of the house. And I just thought, oh, no, you're.

A great, I guess, poster child of what can happen when you sign on to debt and buy things with people you're not married to. And I'm so sorry. I mean, on top of the hurt from this long term relationship, and it.

Was a year ago, though, so now you're like, well, crap.

What's left on the rv loan and what is it worth?

The balance left is around 48,000. And looking it up, it's worth around 30,000.

So you're $18,000 underwater.

Basically, for some reason, they took, like, the prices in rvs were just expensive when I bought it and have dropped.

Well, that's been the theme on the show for the last week or month, is everyone is underwater on vehicles and things with wheels because it was really expensive and they had good intentions, and then the market turned, and now everyone's underwater. So there's only two ways to go about this. Number one is you need to come up with the $18,000 in cash in order to sell it and pay off the loan. Or number two, you go get a personal loan for the difference of that $18,000 to get out from under this. Do you have any money?

Yeah, I have around 10,000 in savings.

Good. And any other debt?

Well, yes, I have a mortgage. I pay my vehicle, but my vehicle is actually a lease, and I hadn't learned my lesson at the time, but I have a bedroom set under my name that somebody else owes about $3,000 of that. Really? No credit card debt.

Somebody else owes.

Yes, it's under my name, so technically I owe it.

Are they paying on it?

Yes and no.

Oh, gosh. Is this family? Is that a friend that you.

It's. It's family. It's a family member.

Oh, gosh. I think you need to stop being generous with money you don't have, Gabriella. That's what's been happening. It's a theme in your life. You sound like such a sweet, wonderful person now.

How much do you make a year?

So this year, I'm actually a nurse. And with COVID I made really good money, 2022. Kind of gone down some. So this year I made 133, but it will probably drop again this year because there's no more Covid crisis. So that's just how it works.

Not if I can help it. You're going to be out there busting your tail over time, doing uber eats and doordash and Instacart. Whatever it takes. You're climbing out of this thing. And I think you're not scared of work, which is great. And we got to start with the smallest debt here, which it sounds like. Is this bedroom set?

Yes.

I think you just pay it off, and if they ever pay you any more for it, great. You can apply that. Don't expect it, but don't wait around.

Yeah. Be done with it.

Okay. Even if it's zero interest. I should pay that one off, especially.

If it's zero interest. All of it.

Okay.

We're done with payments. We're done with debt. You make too much, you're too successful, and you're too smart to ever do this stuff again, regardless of the interest rate. Does that track? Gabriella, are you with us on this? Yes, we are team Gabriella. And so we want you to win, and that's going to mean if you count up all your debt and if you want to get out of the lease, you can look at the early buyout amount and see if that's going to be worth it for you to do now. Otherwise, you turn the car in, and then you need to go get another car. But don't just get another lease, okay? It's the most expensive way to get a vehicle, and dealerships love it. Because they make the most money off of these leases.

Okay, so no more leasing.

No more leasing. Buy your next car with cash, which is going to be.

When is the lease up?

In about two more years.

Okay. Yeah. I would look at the early buyout. I would just kind of do some research in that. But then in the meantime, between now and two years, be saving some cash, knowing that you're going to have to replace this car. But I would take. Yeah, this ten grand, Gabriella. I would pay off the bedroom set and then be looking at the 18 that you'll probably have to take a loan out for. For the remainder of that RV after you sell it.

Okay. So I shouldn't give it back to the bank and then let them sell it and then me pay the difference.

You're saying to have the rv repossessed?

Yes.

I wouldn't do that.

No, I wouldn't do that because I would go on your credit. Yeah. I would just find a private sale, list it, sell it yourself, get as much as you can for it, obviously, and then you'll have to have a loan for the difference, and then you'll be working your way out of that.

Okay.

Yeah.

I wish we had better news. The good news is you make great money. You make six figures. We've seen bigger, scarier numbers than this, but it's the hurt and shame and guilt and baggage and, oh, my gosh, I'm so stupid. You got to just pick yourself up and go, listen, that doesn't define me. I'm going to make different decisions.

Gabriella, is it just you? Are you single? Kids?

Yes, it's just me and my two girls.

Okay, so you do have two girls. Okay. How old are they?

I have a nine year old and a three year old.

Okay. So sweet. That's so great. Okay, so what you're probably going to be doing where you can work extra, and even if it's at night online or something, like, if there's something that you can do to find that extra money, but with this 133, I would tighten everything up and give yourself a goal to say, I'm going to act like I make 70,000 a year, or whatever it is, and then find that difference, to have an endpoint to say, okay, I could be completely debt free, be done with all of this, and start fresh, not owing anyone anything, and start this whole process. I'm like, you could do this in 18 months, Gabriella. I mean, if you really focused and did this, the car lease kind of hangs in the balance of what you decide. There but being able to have no payments and this income going to you and your girls and you guys keeping all of it, that's the goal we want for you. Have you been through financial peace university?

No.

Okay, so if you hold on the line, scholar is going to pick up, and we're going to gift that to you, as well as every dollar premium, which is our budgeting app. And so what I want you to do, Gabrielle, is watch these lessons, even binge them. There's going to be seven lessons. And I want you to go through and watch all of this and really get a game plan to say, okay, here is how I take control of my money. And what that's going to teach you is everything from budgeting to getting out of debt, to saving up for an emergency fund to investing to your kids college. I mean, it kind of runs the gamut of everything, and it's all packaged in there. And so to be able to walk through that and apply this stuff, Gabrielle, because what you've already witnessed and experienced is that money, it's personal finance. It's 80% behavior. It's only 20% head knowledge. You're going to watch these videos and be like, I knew that. I knew I shouldn't probably co signed some furniture for a family member. I know that I probably, okay, now, okay, you're going to get all that.

But actually changing the behavior and doing it is going to be the key to you winning. And I believe in you. I know you can do this. Gabriella, we're cheering you on, so hold on the line. Skylar will pick up.

That's the theme of this hour. Don't spend money you don't have, especially with people you're not married to. That puts this hour of the Ramsey show in the books. My thanks to my co host, Rachel Cruz, all the folks in the booth, and you, America, thank you so much for listening. We'll be back before you know it. Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create amazing relationships. I'm George Camel, joined by best selling author and all around great person, Rachel Cruz. And we are here for you, America, answering your questions about money and life and all of the predicaments and challenges and maybe some wins that you're facing. Triple 8825-5225 is the number to call to join the conversation. Olivia kicks us off in Buffalo, New York. Olivia, welcome to the Ramsay show.

Hi. Thank you so much for taking my call. I'm a huge fan of the Ramsay show, especially Dave. He's awesome.

We agree.

Yeah.

Love him. So my question for you all today is my sister took advantage of our sick mom, skipped town, and stole my inheritance. What should I do?

Oh, my gosh, Olivia, what do you.

Mean, took advantage of your sick mom?

Took advantage? Well, okay. She took over the family business even though it wasn't left to her. She convinced my mom to become the power of attorney and healthcare proxy and transferred all money to her own account.

Oh, wow.

She also sold my mom's house and moved my mom into the family business.

Into the business? Into the office.

Yes.

Okay. What kind of sickness does your mom have?

She had cancer. She died three months ago.

Oh, my gosh. I'm so sorry. Olivia, do you have any other siblings?

No, I'm the eldest. I'm 40 years old. My sister is approximately 37 years old. She lived with both of my parents who passed from cancer, and she has skipped town and has not buried my mom.

Where is your mom?

Sorry. My sister has her ashes.

Okay. She's cremated.

Oh, my gosh.

Did you and your sister have a relationship before all of this?

We did. I thought it was a lovely relationship. And then things started getting weird when my father passed away five years ago. And then my mom got cancer. And I believe she felt entitled as the power of attorney to all money, all estates, all inheritance. And she's gone. She changed her number. She left town.

So from a legal standpoint, did your mom have and your dad any documentation, legally, like in a will, of what your inheritance is, and then she went and changed it as power of attorney, or is there a will out there that you are owed, essentially, your inheritance?

There is a will that my mom wrote. I have never seen it. My sister attempted to change the will one month prior to death, but they never got it signed. So there is a handwritten will. I'm not sure if it was done with a lawyer, but I've never seen the will.

Okay.

And you have no point of contacts for anyone that might have information on this?

I've tried to reach out to the lawyers, and they said, catherine, I'm sorry, Olivia. It was never signed. Therefore, it's not valid.

The will? Yeah.

And they have no version. That is.

Olivia.

The question would be, do I keep my own peace and sanity and money and move forward with my life, or do I try to.

Fight it?

Essentially, yeah. The only issue with all of that, because I don't mind the fighting injustice. We're not scared of that. But I don't know if you have any legal documents that will uphold in court to fight your side. I don't know if there's any legal documentation to show your side, because from a legal perspective, you could be lying as much as she is. Right? I'm not saying you are, Olivia, but there's no proof otherwise.

We need some kind of paper trail.

There needs to be some level of documentation in order to. When you hire lawyers for them to fight this in the court system. And I just don't know if you have that.

Have you contacted a lawyer?

Yes.

What did they say?

That was a lawyer. He said that it may not be worth it because, number one, there may not be any money left over.

That's true.

Yeah. Right. So it may cost $5,000 for a lawyer, and I may not get anything after all.

Yeah. How much was the estate worth? Like, how much did your parents have? Do you have any idea?

Well, the house was sold for 344,000. There were many liens against the house, and my sister has all of that money.

Okay, so there were some liens.

Was that all of your inheritance, or was there other money that was supposed to be given to you?

That was probably all of my inheritance.

Okay, so it wasn't retirement accounts, other assets, cash, things like that?

No, there was the family business, but that's another topic. I believe just the money from the house would be part of my inheritance.

Yeah. I mean, that would be 120 for you if you just 50 50.

And then we don't know, all these liens.

I was going to say the liens against it, too, would be diminished, too.

I don't know that there would be much here for you based on how complicated this whole thing is and was.

I agree.

Oh, Olivia. Well, what's so hard is I'm like, you've lost your an. There's a feeling of no closure. Your parents lost your sister in this. There's no mean. The whole way it went down for you, Olivia, it's just terrible. And I wish I had better guidance or direction for you to get some justice in this, but do you have.

Any money right now?

Yes.

How much?

Oh, myself?

Yeah.

Yes.

I work.

I make 70,000 a year. I'm a surgical nurse. I'm married. I have a dog. We're doing just fine. This situation is a strange one. It's very sad. And you're, in fact, right. I lost mom, dad, and a sister.

And even the closure with your mom and her ash. You know what I mean? That would probably be the step I would take of trying to get contact with your sister.

But you have no way to even know where she is, how to get in touch with her. She is off the planet at this point, correct?

Yes. She had three cell phones. She changed the last number and has not responded via email. We did have a lovely funeral for my mom in church. She attended that funeral, but since then, she has taken off with the ashes and all of the money.

I don't even understand that part. That just feels so strange.

Well, I mean, Olivia, honestly, if I were in your position, and as much as you can find the closure in, I'm so sad to say, you close a chapter in a book from your family, but she sounds crazy. The way you presented it to us.

She sounds crazy dangerous. If you did pursue.

That's right. I'm like, she stole. It's immoral, the things she has done. And so if I were you, not that you have to even draw boundaries because there's no relationship there, but, I mean, I would, in my heart, just. There's a level. You got to just say, all right, that I can't, I'm not going to keep fighting in this wheel. Because even that, with the inheritance and all of that, it just muddles the piece of what's happened with your parents at that point. And so for you, Olivia, I think it's in the healthiest retrospect for you to move on.

Hang on the line.

So sorry.

I'm going to send you a copy of Dr. John Deloney's book. Own your past, change your future, to help you grieve all this.

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Welcome back to the Ramsay show. I'm George Camel, joined by Rachel Cruz. If you want to call us and talk about your life and your money, you can do so at. Lisa is up next in Indianapolis. Lisa, welcome to the show.

Hi, guys. Thanks for taking our call.

Sure.

How can we help? I'm a newer listener to your show, and my husband and I are wondering if it would be beneficial to pay off our mortgage early.

Well, the question is, why wouldn't you want to pay it off early?

Because we don't have too many years left to pay on it. We can pay it off if we want to. Like I said, I'm a newer listener, so I'm just intrigued about the debt free process and wanting to know if it's a good decision or not.

Yeah. How old are you guys?

We're 57.

Okay. And how much do you have left on the mortgage?

$85,000.

Okay. And how much is the house worth?

Anywhere between seven to 800, depending on what site you look at.

Yeah. Good for you guys. And you have money saved?

We do.

Non retirement.

Correct. He had a buyout from a job severance.

Okay. How much do you guys have saved?

143.

Okay, that's awesome. And how much do you guys make a year?

He makes 230.

Okay. That's great. Any other debt? Credit cards, car loans?

No, the only thing, we have a long term care insurance plan that we have payments on for eight more.

Okay. Okay. Good for. You mean. Yeah. Lisa, I think there is something to be said about having absolutely no payments. And when you free up a mortgage payment per know what you guys can do, whether it is spend it, invest it, put it for retirement, give it. There's such freedom financially when you don't owe anyone anything. And then the flip side of it, too, Lisa, that not many people talk about, it's the freedom. Just emotionally, I'm like, when you have no payments and a pandemic hits and everyone is panicked about their jobs, you don't have any bills, there's no one that you owe at that point. So it's amazing how much risk that debt is associated with that we get used to as Americans, that we just carry around and just assume it's normal. And when it's finally done and that house is completely yours, there's no payments, there's no bank associated with your life. There is something so powerful in that. And that's on just the emotional side, obviously. Not even just the financial side, because I guess you guys have a good interest rate, I'm assuming. Correct. Yeah, because some people make the argument, well, just keep the money invested.

You'll make more on a rate of return with it invested versus paying it off because it's at two and a half percent or. Yeah, people go down the math route, which we understand. We can do math. We get it. But again, it's this other piece, Lisa, that people just don't put into the formula. And that other piece is a level of risk that debt will always have associated with it.

Yeah. The reality of having no payment is so much better than the potential assumption of the spread you could get if you left the money invested. And Rachel and I both don't have mortgage payments, and I have zero regrets. I'd never look back and go, well, if I just invested them, I could have. We're going to be fine. So are you guys.

Because the other side of that coin, know, if you had a paid off house, would you go borrow on your house?

No.

Okay. So then that answers your question.

Some people say yes, and they go build pools and remodel their home. So I'm proud of you guys. What's in your nest egg? How much do you have in retirement?

A lot. I mean, like 1.85 right now in retirement. But then we've got a couple of roths and other investments as well.

That's. So you're worth millions of dollars.

Because here's the deal. If we, if we're all just being honest, have, you could keep paying the mortgage payment and you're going to be fine. Right. Like you are. But what we try to do on this show is to get you the fastest right way to this idea of building wealth and leaving a legacy and all of it. And part of that plan is paying off the mortgage. So you have the money.

Okay.

I would do it. I would do it.

Okay.

And if you regret it, Lisa, you can borrow on the house.

Bank is happy to give you more monopoly money. But listen, you pay it off, you still have 58,000 left over just from what you told us.

Yeah.

And making great money. And all of.

What's your mortgage payment?

We pay 2400 a month.

And that includes property taxes and insurance, I believe.

No, because we pay our own taxes.

Oh, great.

Our own property tax ourselves.

Well, I want to do some fun math with you. That's $2,400 a month, you said? Correct. So I'm twelve months in a year. That's almost 29 grand that you could then invest, let's say, right, in the next ten years, that money could turn into $462,000. If you just take your mortgage payment and invest it for ten years.

Okay.

You could have an extra half million, and you could also give more. You could spend more. You could retire earlier. And so it just gives you more flexibility, more freedom, more options and margin. And so that's why we recommend it. And you guys have done so well without Lisa. So that's just two people's opinion.

Yep.

All right. Well, wonderful. That's kind of what I was leaning towards. But my husband's like, well, let's ask him. So I said, ok, I love it.

Your husband's a great man.

Glad to call in.

Hope you guys do it. All right, Angie's up next in Chicago. Angie, welcome to the show.

Thank you.

How can we help?

So we have an opportunity to move overseas for about three to five years. Three years for sure. And we would take about a 65% pay cut to do this. And I'm wondering what your thoughts are and whether or not you think the experience would be worth it.

What's the situation? Is it a work thing?

Yeah, it is a work thing. For my husband, he would take a 30% pay cut and I would not be able to work.

Okay.

So we would go from making about 300,000 a year to just over 100. And we have four kids. We have one in college whose college is paid for already. Then we have a 15 year old, twelve year old, and a five year old. Oh, wow.

Would they come too?

They would come, yeah.

George. Three years.

You never know. What if these kids are prodigy? They're in boarding school. That's big. Well, what if the whole family want to do. Are they all excited about that?

Yeah. What's the family feeling?

Well, the oldest one would not come because he's in college and he has one year left, and he'll go do his thing. He may come for visits and travel, but the middle two are not super excited about it. But I think that once they get there, they will love it.

Where is it?

It's in eastern Europe. And.

Um. Well, yeah, I don't think George and I are going to be able to answer the question, is it worth, um, the pay cuts? I think that's a complete.

You can't look at a budget and look at cost of living. And can you financially afford to go down to 100,000 in Poland for those many years? That's a different situation, but I'm more concerned about the relational aspect, the emotional aspect.

Do you want to do it, Angie?

I do.

You do? Does your husband?

He does.

Okay.

I think it would be really good for the kids. We do move a lot, so they are used to moving. I think it would be good for them to just see how people live differently, and we'd have the opportunity to travel all over Europe for them to see different cultures and whatnot. And I don't think I'm too worried about, financially, us affording it, because we don't have any bills other than a mortgage. And I think it would be wiser if we just sold our home. So we didn't have to worry about paying that. And the company pays our housing while we're over there.

Okay. What kind of job does he have?

He works on computers.

Okay, that's awesome. Yeah, I mean, I think it's one of those things I'm just trying to know with my kids. I have younger ones than you, though. They're eight, six. And, I mean, I think at the end of the day, you guys are the parents, Angie. And if you both, you and your husband are like, hey, this is a lifestyle choice we want to make as our family. You ultimately get that say, right? A twelve year old doesn't get to tell the family what to do. But as George said, I would very much. As much as you can get their buy in. But it will be sad if I was a freshman in high school, leaving all my friends for the rest of high, that's a big shift, right, for them. So I would want to give the proper weight and understanding of that. But I think at the end of the day, Angie, if you and your husband both, both want to do this, I mean, yes, one of my best friends, literally, you're living her dream right now. This is all she wants.

Moving to Europe.

She does. She's like, I just want to get out of here and do something different.

And I guess if you hate it, you can come back to the States and it sounds like he can make some good money going back to what he was doing.

Yeah, absolutely. Hope that answers your question, Angie.

Thanks for the call. This is the Ramsay show. Welcome back to the Ramsay show. I'm George Camel, joined by Rachel Cruz. This is your show. Give us a call at AA 825-5225 well, Rachel, we took a call about paying off the mortgage early. And it's a fun conversation to see what that money can turn into.

Oh, yeah. Invested versus just sending a regular old mortgage payment to the bank.

Yeah. And there's so many mortgage types out there, and most of them are truly just crap. And they're meant to give more money to the banks and lenders and less money in your pocket. And so I want to take a look at an example of the 15 year mortgage, which is the one we recommend, versus the 30 year mortgage, to show people exactly what the numbers look like. And we're not going to get super nerdy. I'm not going to talk amortization schedules, Rachel. But I did want to look at this graph from our blog article on the 15 verse 30. So we're going to look at a $300,000 house, which I understand? You're all like, where can you find those? This is back in the day, kids. Let's say you did 20% down on this $300,000 house. That's $60,000. Tracking that means you'd get a mortgage for $240,000. So let's look at that same mortgage on a 15 year and a 30 year. And the blue, if you're watching on YouTube, is the mortgage loan. The orange is the amount of interest you pay. So here's the shocking part. On a 15 year fixed rate loan with an interest rate of three and a half percent, the monthly payment is one $700.

And the total interest you'd pay is $69,000. If you just paid every single payment perfectly for 15 years.

Right?

On the 30 year, you're going to have a higher interest rate at 4%. Now, the payment is lower, which is why most people do it. It's 1146 instead of 1716. But the total interest you pay on that 30 year, over 30 years of payments is $172,000 that you just gave away to the lender.

Yes.

That is shocking.

Almost $100,000 more. And that's. Again, I get the interest rate. People are probably like, it's at 6%.

Sure. Well, the numbers change now, but it's even worse with a 30 year at 8%.

Right. So the math is just magnified.

You're paying $350,000 on that 8% loan.

That's why we want your mortgage paid off ASAP, because this interest you guys, I mean, it does. It racks up and you see it.

So you're paying over $100,000 more in interest to have the 30 year over the 15. I know people have great intentions. They say, well, George, I'll pay it off like a 15. And I'm like the people that really want to build wealth, and they don't want to wait till they're 65. What they're doing is they pay off their 15 year mortgage in seven or ten years.

Right?

That's the average we found with people who follow the baby steps, our millionaire study. Ten years is what it takes for them to pay it off. Yes, baby steppers. Seven years on average to pay off their mortgage. And so that's very encouraging to see how much money you can save. And I actually shared this in my book, Rachel. I wanted to see the numbers for myself and my wife when we paid off our home. So you ready for this? We paid off our mortgage back in 2021, and I did the math on it. We would have shelled out. We paid ours off aggressively in, like, 26 months because we're weird. But it was on a 15 year fixed rate. If we just made payments for 15 years, we would have paid almost 50 grand in interest. Had we opted for the 30 year loan, we would have paid over $100,000 in interest. So instead, because we paid it off even earlier, we paid just nine grand in interest by being crazy.

And you chose well in your home. And that's our big point, you guys. I mean, some people are like, oh.

My God, affordable home.

Yes, we know the housing. We're not completely oblivious to what is going on in the world. We understand rates are up, housing prices.

Are up, and depending on your area, yes, a starter home could be $800,000 in some areas.

Right? So this is a reality. But the hard thing is, George, is money doesn't have emotion. Math doesn't care. It is what it is. And so you can't justify, okay, I'm going to go and buy a house. That's my payment is half of my income. Just so I can say I have a house, because you're going to feel screwed every month. It's going to feel like, oh, my gosh, we have no money because you have too much house. And so expectations on when you buy a home, what kind of home you buy have shifted in the last three years. And people, even some drastic things, they're moving states even, because they're like, we just can't afford long term what we want our life to look like because of this. Because, again, you guys, it's the math. And that's what we have to always go back to, regardless of how much it sucks. That's the reality. And so we want you to build wealth, get there the fastest, right way. And what we found is when you do a 15 year, it forces you into a formula that makes you pay it off faster, even though you're probably going to pay it off even faster if you're doing the baby steps, which is great, but it's a hard conversation, George.

And what's even difficult about, and I'd be curious, just your prediction on this with just the housing market, because in my head, when rates go down, you guys, the demand is suddenly going to open up. Everyone's going to freaking rush to buy a house because rates have gone down, and then that's going to drive the prices up again. So if you are in a position where you can put 5% down, 10% down, 20% down, and again, we use the 15 year here at Ramsay because we want you in a formula that's getting you out of debt.

We don't like any kind of debt. We just won't yell at you if you do a 15 year fixed rate mortgage.

Yeah. And it's 25% of your take home pay. That's the formula we use. And you're ready to do it. Do it because people thought the bottom of the market was going to crash. What? Last year. That's what everyone kept saying. And it's like, it's going to crash. And we kept saying it's not. It's supply and demand when it comes to this stuff, you guys. And so if you are in a position to buy, having a home is a great investment. We want you to do it the right way, though.

Absolutely. And I understand for those that want to buy a home, it's painful right now. Let's call it.

It does, but it's harder than it.

Was for your parents.

Yes. And the harder thing is, it's not going to get easier.

So make a plan. Get out of debt, get the emergency fund. Start saving up that down payment. Adjust your expectations. This doesn't have to be your dream home. Just get in the game. And that might be a condo or a townhome, and it might be in an area further out from the city, and it might not have all of the accouterments and the fancy kitchen island that you dreamed of, but at least you're a homeowner, and that's a great thing. Be proud of that.

And it's always interesting, George, especially houses, cars, these big parts of our lifestyle. When you look back in the, on average, the square foot of a house was 1400. Now it's up to like 2600 on average, right. The average single family home. And so our expectations on life in general, in general have changed.

If we don't have the quartz countertop, we're throwing a tissue fit what we've.

Just categorized as this normal way of living. When you look back, I look back on childhood pictures of our home growing up, and I'm like, it's brown carpet. It's just not esthetically pleasing, but it's okay. And now it's like you can't even imagine having x, Y and z. You know what I mean? Because social media, reality tv, I mean, all this stuff we've been painted and this picture of what life should look like has been in front of us for so long, for so long that it's normal. And God forbid kids share the bathroom. All of that. Again, it doesn't make it easier, but I think we do have to have some level of grounding to say, gosh, what we expect in life. Like it or not, the lifestyle creep thing, it is real from a generational standpoint too. You used to have to wheel down windows, George, in our cars. That was my first car wheel down a window. And everyone was okay with that. But, like, oh, my gosh, could you imagine?

You know what's really embarrassing, though? I'll say. This was the worst part about having manual windows. Whenever someone I knew pulled up next to me and I couldn't reach over far enough to get to the passenger side window to talk to them, so I would just, like, wave at them awkwardly. I know, because I wasn't trying to pull a hamster.

Think about our cricket. That was it.

Simpler times.

It was no Internet. You didn't have email snake on the Nokia brick. So used to having all the information, everything we want, right there in our hands, right? So I'm like, it's to the little things of our expectations. And I'm part of it too. I'm guilty of.

So you're part of the problem.

I may be part of the problem. Not pointing fingers, but that's good. That's a good kind of level us.

Level us out.

Yes.

But also don't make a terrible decision out of fear or like, this FOMo, or I'll never get a house. So I just need to jump in now. Right, because you'll be the next caller calling the Ramsay show saying, rachel, I think I need to sell the house because we're so broke and so stressed and we go, the home should be a blessing, not a burden. And what happens when you do it before you're ready is it becomes a burden. So, Rachel, you talked about forecasting the 24 housing market. That's literally the YouTube video I uploaded to my channel today.

Stop it, George. We are like twin. You know, twins. They have the twin thing. They say that you could, like, feel.

Like that's us et energy happening on the show today.

It's like brother sister energy.

So if you want that, I can't believe it. In eight minutes, you can go to my YouTube channel and watch the forecast of the 2024 housing market.

I even did another mother.

I did the weatherman thing. We got a green screen. I got the weatherman on the channel. How happy were you talking about? Like, northeasterly winds and cumulus clouds. It brought me so much joy. It's always been a dream of mine. Rachel, if this whole thing falls apart, I'm going to go be a meteorologist.

I'll be traffic guys, you can be weather.

This is not good. And then Ken can be politics commentary. Okay, maybe not. Yeah, this has been fun. Thanks for being the dream killer, Rachel. This is the Ramsey show.

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I'm good, thank you. Thanks for taking my call.

Sure. What's going on?

I'm just checking in. Well, last week, my husband's bank account was garnished, and we found you guys in the Ramsey show after trying to figure out what to do. And we're just wondering if bankruptcy is our only option or how to proceed.

Oh, gosh. Becca, what's the situation? What's going on?

Well, it was about eight years ago that he had a car repossessed, and that was before we were together. And he didn't realize that there was further action that needed to be taken at that time. So then last week, we just were married a year ago, and we finally merged our bank accounts and everything over. So thankfully, the account that is garnished didn't have anything in it because we combined everything on my side.

So they try to drain an empty bank account.

Correct. So we can still pay our bills because they didn't garnish our shared account through a different bank but we don't have enough in savings to pay for the amount that we believe is owed.

Okay, how much is owed?

9000, $9,000.

Okay. How much do you guys make a year?

About $89,000.

Okay. Why do you feel like you would be bankrupt? I'm just curious why that was part of your question.

Well, he reached out to, I think, four different lawyers, and they all said that that was our best option and really didn't give us any other option. Neither of us even knew what garnishment was. So we're trying to soak up as much information, and that's why we found you guys. We're like, let's just listen to as many shows as we can to see if we can find the answer. But we don't really know what our other option would be. The lawyers seem to think that since we were already garnished, that there's no way to make, like, a payment plan or anything like that.

Have you contacted this creditor who's garnishing the bank account?

Yes, he did.

Okay. What did they say?

It sounds like they just wanted the full amount due. Sadly, I wasn't on the phone call, but my husband can't be here today.

So it sounds like there's a way out. You pay the 9000, you get it in writing that this is paid in full and this debt is cleared.

Right. If we only have $6,000 right now, would we need to pay it all at once?

That's a question for them. If they're willing to settle for six.

And say, hey, this was a refund.

All the money we have, that happened.

A decade ago, correct?

Yes.

Okay.

They're happy to get any money at this point.

Yeah, for sure. Becca? Yeah. Bankruptcy. You don't even need to say that anymore. You guys are far.

I'm shocked that these lawyers told you to bankrupt over three grand.

This is so stupid. No, I'm like, you could sell four tvs and a couch and get that money if you needed it. Right? I'm like, no, you're not going to be bankrupt over three grand.

Is there something else going on that we don't know about? Like, are there other debts and things that you haven't mentioned?

I mean, we have the regular stuff, a mortgage and, like, 1800 in credit card debt and my husband's current car that he owns. He has payments left on that.

What's left on the car loan?

On the car loan? It's the same amount in the 9000. And then we just bought a small condo right after we got married, so we have the whole mortgage basically left on that.

And how much is that for?

207.

Okay. Yeah. Well, if I were you guys, I would contact the creditor that has this. And again, it's a ten year old credit, meaning it's been passed by creditor after creditor, and it's been sold, and it's here and there. I mean, it's been on a journey for ten years. So if I were you, I would call and say, I have six grand, I'll send you today, and if not, I can get you the other three in the next 30 days or whatever it is. But I would not give them any more access to any accounts that is, like, number one, because they will. They'll come in and garnish. They'll do exactly what they did. But thankfully, that was from an old account.

Right. Is there a way to prevent that? That's what we were. I think we were worried about communicating with them more because you just don't.

Give it to them. No, they don't need any access to any of your personal. Would not. I just wouldn't give it to them, and they don't need it. So, Becca, this type of situation, just so you can picture it, and this isn't. Not to downplay these people, but this is some guy in a cubicle who's been on the job for 90 days.

There'S so much turnover on the Internet.

And gets a sheet of paper with credits that, again, these old debts that have been sold from one company to the other to the not. They sound like scary people. They're not scary. Can you can do. Okay, so just don't give over and be like, oh, my gosh, if we're talking about the IRS or something, that's a different story.

Right.

But in this be. I would not be concerned, Becca, because you guys work hard, you make good money, you can get this cleaned up really quickly. And if they would settle for six grand, that's the only option they have. That's what I would tell them. The only thing I can give you right now is six grand. That's all I have. I can do a payment plan over the next 60 days to get you the other three grand, but I don't have any more money. This is all I have. Will you settle? And if they say yes, just like George said, get it in writing, have them email you, get the name of the person you're talking to, get the number, get the extension, get all.

Record the calls, do everything.

Do everything you can to have proof that it has been settled, if they will, and if they won't, then just set up a plan for the next 60 days. And then, Becca, if I were you and your husband in general, regardless of this, I would work extra. I would do a budget. I'd cut everything. I'd get this credit card paid off, get your car loan paid off, and you guys will be in a really great position. I mean, you have a great condo. It's worth 200 grand, which is very reasonable for what you guys make. And you guys could be on your way to something great, but you got to just change the way you have been looking at money. And that's one of the biggest hurdles with this. So if you stay on the line, Skylar will pick up. And I want to give you guys financial peace, university, and every dollar premium, which is our budgeting app, just to get you guys some of this basic knowledge, since you're new to the show, because we've found over three decades, Becca, the best way to go through life with your money. And this will be the plan.

It's called the baby steps. So I'm excited for you guys to engage this, but, yeah, do not at all feel like you are bankrupt, that you are hopeless. This is one of the easiest solutions today, George.

I feel very hopeful.

Absolutely.

Thank you for calling back up and.

Have your husband watch this call to give him some hope. I think what happens, Rachel, is people, they get spooked. There's these collectors calling them, and they're telling them, and then the lawyers are saying, well, you guys got to go bankrupt. When you look at the facts on paper, you're like, we make $90,000 a year. We're bringing home $6,000 a month. Can we come up with $3,000 if we've really tried, yes.

They're an extra call. Side hustle. 1500 to two grand in just a side hustle. If you had to pick up Uber at night or selling crap around the.

House, you can make $1,000 in a month.

Right, exactly.

So there's a lot of hope here, but a lot of people call the show, and their first is, well, I got to file bankruptcy. And it's those people. Usually, I'm like, oh, you're fine. And so that's what we do here. We want to give you guys hope, but also the reality that you can get out of this. But it's like going to the dentist. You're like, my tooth hurts. Of course he's going to want to fill the cavity and make a little bit of money. And that's what happens when you go to some of these lawyers that are. There's some great apples out there, but there's some bad ones who go, absolutely. I'll help you file bankruptcy. Which also, by the way, cost thousands of dollars out of your pocket to.

File bankruptcy to do it. Yeah.

It's not free. Lawyers want to get paid.

Yeah. And the garnishing. And that would spook you, too, right? If you realize, oh, my gosh. This creditor has access to a bank account, which, thank God, it didn't have any money in it. But, yeah. That's so violent. You know what I mean? That makes you feel like they are. And that's a scary thing. Yeah.

Personal privacy.

It is. It's weird.

Oh, gosh.

Well, I'm glad you called, Becca. I hope that gave you some peace and a plan that you guys. Yeah. You're going to be able to do this. We're excited for you.

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Hey, George and Rachel. Good to talk to you. I'm liking the show. It's a great show. Wonderful show.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Yeah. And so I'm kind of a first time, I would say not first time listener, but just started kind of following the Ramsey way here and just caught bits and pieces of some of your shows. And I really wish I would have found these resources years and years ago, but I've always been pretty good with money. But now we're kind of in a predicament. My wife and I. We're expecting our 6th child actually coming.

Chad, you can give George some.

I'm exhausted by the one. Man, you guys are troopers. You get like a Nobel peace prize, I think, at that point.

Yeah, exactly. We do our best. It's a crazy house, but we really enjoy it.

That's awesome.

And we're blessed. The bigger family, the better. They say it's fun.

Great.

What's your predicament here?

So my wife is an in home daycare provider and with the baby coming, she's going to be out of work or taking a step back from work, which is fine. We have funds in place to kind of prepare for that. But we are going to be tapping into our emergency funds and our bank account. Even before this fluctuated a lot. Sometimes $2,000 down a month, sometimes up $1,000. So I think a big issue that I'm finding out is we really need to be on a budget, obviously, and figure out where this money is going. We try to budget a few times and we've always fallen off the horse. We get triggered by it. It's hard to track every dollar and be nit picky with each other and it just triggers our stress and that affects marital relationship. If you're always on each other's case, I'm the one in charge of the money mainly. So it's kind of hard that way.

You end up being the bad guy in a sense, looking at all the details and saying, yes, we can't spend x, Y and Z. You become the no spouse almost.

Right.

Wow.

But she's been good lately and she's on track now. On board now, I should say.

Yeah.

She's a wonderful woman. I'm glad to have her.

Yeah. How much do you guys make a year?

Pretty much solely on my income, 80 plus she makes $1,500 a month. So I could just tell you my net take home per month.

Yeah.

That's great because that'll be your new income once she's not working. Correct. Okay. Yeah.

And that's 3800 a month net.

Okay, what are your expenses?

Our expenses are around 2300 a month. That's not counting groceries and miscellaneous.

Okay.

Bills, bills, expenses.

Does that include debt? That 2300. Are there payments within that?

We have no debt. No debt other than a house loan?

Yes.

Okay, so that includes your mortgage, that 2300 and utilities and all of that. Correct?

Correct.

And then you have 1500 left. But that doesn't include food and miscellaneous.

Stuff like you were trying to imagine with six kids plus you guys. That's a lot of food.

Yeah.

That's probably the hardest part of your whole budget is trying to nail that down.

Exactly. Yeah. I budgeted like 685 for it and we're right around there.

Totally.

That sounds very reasonable.

Yeah. I mean, I think it's one of those things, Chad, I think you all will be in a season, especially with her not working. Yeah. That you're going to probably feel a level of a pinch. But what a weird thing with a budget and the way we always try to frame it and as you kind of start to live on and it becomes part of your rhythm is that it actually gives you more peace because you actually have control over it. So even if it's $600 left over after food for miscellaneous, to be able to really say, okay, for this month, where can the 600 go? And you guys both together, like you were saying, agree on it, know where it's going. And then the next month, right. Like, maybe there's no clothes. We don't buy clothes for this coming month, but next month. Yeah, let's put 150 towards some close. And we're not going to do something else that we did in February, but we'll do in March.

Right.

So you kind of just month to month gage that. And then obviously there's no debt, which is awesome. And you guys have an emergency fund. So if something does come up with the baby or something, that you need the money, it's there, because how much is in that?

We have the $1,000 emergency fund, plus we had about four to five months worth of step three of the expenses.

That's great. So, yeah, I would do everything in my power, which is really hard with six kids. So I know this is much easier said than done on the side of the call, just to try not to tap into that emergency fund. If you need it, it's there. Right. That's to help relieve if something does come up and you need cash instead of going into debt for it, you obviously have that cash to use. But if you can start to practice, both of you guys together, to run this household, and it is a tight budget. That is what it is. But there is something about having the power and saying, okay, this is where we know it's going. And not feeling like, gosh, I feel like we're just running and we're not getting anywhere. At least you have numbers on paper that show you, yeah, you are getting somewhere and you're doing a great job. You really are.

How have you been budgeting currently, Chad?

We have not been.

Okay, so this is just kind of napkin math. You know your income and you know roughly what your bills add up.

Yep. And. Exactly. And I look at bank accounts added up, track it monthly, see where we're going. Up, down, up, down.

Yeah. That's a lot of brain calories and stress. So here's what I'll do. I'll gift you every dollar premium, and that's going to help your wife. She can log in on her phone, you can be logged on your phone to the same account. You guys both have accountability and transparency and bring her into it, not in a negative way, but, hey, help me adjust this. Let's include a little bit of fun money for her so she doesn't see this budget as this negative thing, holding her back, adding stress to her life. Instead, it's, oh, look, we have this much left to spend on food for the week. Let's meal plan together, and let's figure out how we're going to do this. And so you not just being in charge of the finances, but bringing her into it and her getting a vote, and both of you having that.

I mean, Chad, in a perfect. Know what's great about every dollar premium is it attaches to your bank account, so your transactions, when you swipe your debit card, come in. So if you guys shop at Costco, a Costco transaction will hit every dollar budget and you drag it up to the groceries or the Costco line item. However, you guys do, you know a good rhythm to keep the money? I don't know. I feel like some couples, it's a very formal way of dealing with money, and they sit down every month. Winston and I, we. It's probably every other day about something going on of like, oh, hey, there was this transaction. What venmo is this? What's going on here? Okay, there's. Have we had less in this category? Should we. We're going to move it down. It's kind of this ongoing conversation, because money is a reflection of our life, right? And so you're going to see that it just becomes a rhythm for you guys. And it's a good goal to hit. It's one of those things that you map out for the month and you say, okay, this is our goal to hit.

And it may take on some new habits, and it may take a little while to get some of those habits in place, but you guys sound so grounded and just, I don't know. I have a lot of faith in you guys, Chad, so hold on the line. Skylar will pick up for our baby gift to you and your wife, every dollar. And I'll throw in my new kids book. I'm glad for what I have for the baby. That's really cute for all the kids, too.

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Welcome back to the Ramsey show. I'm George Camel, joined by Rachel Cruz this hour. The number to call is triple 8825-5225 Rachel, I wanted to spring this on you. I've got an article here from Yahoo. Here's the headline, prepare your heart. My family of four can no longer live comfortably on $230,000 a year. Here's how much the american dream really costs. I wanted to get your take on this. You ready for it, man?

Yes.

Former Goldman Sachs analyst says his family of four need to earn more than two hundred and thirty k per year in order to live comfortably in the Bay area.

Okay, well, Bay area, we'll asterisk. That's one of the most expensive places to live in America.

Okay, here we go. Sam Dojan, now 46, he hit headlines in 2012. He retired at 34. The fire movement, all of that. He had a $3 million net worth.

Oh, wow. Okay.

Well, since that time, he's a father of two. He's been living off of passive income from stocks, bonds and real estate. Okay, sounds good, right? The financial guru now says his investments will generate just 230,000 before tax, while his annual expenses are projected to top 288,000 in 2024.

Oh, my gosh.

So he says to net that sum of money, he needs to earn $420,000 before taxes in order to make his life work. So he says he's declaring, he's not asking for sympathy or empathy. He's admitting they have an upper middle class lifestyle with his wife and two kids.

Yeah, I would think so.

And he says there's areas to cut, but overall it's a realistic and comfortable lifestyle. The annual budget includes Rachel, over $80,000 for private school tuition.

Sure.

And 24,000 for health care costs. He also estimates food expenses will top $26,000 this year. And his housing expenses, 6000. Yeah. And then housing expenses, which includes property taxes, maintenance, insurances, are estimated at a whopping $68,000. So because he says, my wife and I don't have normal day jobs, we have to pay for unsubsidized health care, which cost $2,300 a month in premium.

Which would be fair, right? Like, if you have to do, you.

Don'T have it through your employer. It's not subsidized.

It's expensive.

It's crazy expensive. So he just goes on to say, the budget breakdown is sure to alarm Americans who are struggling to cope with soaring costs of utilities, rent, groceries. It's a struggle to raise a family in an expensive city, safer retirement. Figure out how to spend a lot of time with your kids before they leave for college and enjoy life in general. That was kind of his last quote there. So do you feel for this guy? I had a feeling that you would be our someone with some empathy and sympathy for this situation. While most Americans would be like, wow, you live in the Bay Area making 200 plus.

I'm like, a family making 90 right now is pissed at him.

Exactly.

They're just like, are you kidding me? Are you kidding me? So here's the deal. What they've considered normal is this lifestyle, right. That it is normal to, I mean, they're almost 2100 a month on food, which means you are out to eat at great restaurants.

Oh, they're eating good.

They're eating good.

Have you been to Airwan?

No.

It makes whole foods look cheap. It's in California.

Okay.

So, yeah, it's frightening.

Yeah. So I'm like, the problem with that is everything is just, I was going to say inflated inflation. Inflated in what the norm is for them. Right. It's just here. It's here. And if that's the life they want to live, we're not mad at that. But don't say that the average family has to live that, because there's people that are living a sacrificial lifestyle right now to better their families that are significantly. Their norm is down here. So the complaining at somebody that's living up here is what bugs me.

Yeah. Well, in this idea that you have to, well, I want to live in the Bay area. I should get to live wherever I want to live. Well, that comes at a cost.

Yeah.

And we're seeing some of the costs here. And by the way, you chose, I know you want to put your kids in private school, but it's a choice to put your kids in private school. That choice comes with a cost. In his example, $80,000 for two kids. For two kids.

So it's a $40,000 school, which, again, private schools, even here in Nashville, can get up.

And then I don't want to work a traditional nine to five working for the man. He works for himself. Great. That also comes with a cost. You have to pay for unsubsidized health care, which we could get in a whole tangent about how that whole system is messed up.

Sure.

But I want to feel, because choices.

That you're making, that's it. That you can make different choices and have a different outcome. And that can be choices from where you shop for your groceries to your job. Right. Or to where you're mean. Those are choices you're making. And this is the outcome that you're getting. So to get a different outcome, you have to make different choices.

And if I'm going to live in a super, these are ultra high cost of living areas.

Yes.

And so, yeah, you need to make.

In Miami, you got to make half.

A million dollars a year in order.

To become New York, Manhattan. That is one thing with the fire movement that we always kind of push back against.

He thought this 3 million would float him fine. He's realizing it's not enough to cover.

My expenses, and that's the fear. And this idea of, like, I'm going to live on nothing and invest everything, which in a sense, you're like, okay, there's some great principles in that idea.

Of living, of living on less than you make.

Yeah. We're not going to give in to instant gratification. We're going to delay everything, live on nothing, and we're going to be okay so that I can not work and live off these investments. But the prediction of what you're actually going to want to, how you're going to want to live is going to probably up. That's what I've always said to myself. I'm like, 65 year old Rachel is going to be way bougier than 35 year old Rachel. So I'm like, it is you're going to upgrade your life as life goes on. And so that's the fire movement. Caution.

And there's some lifestyle creep here, too, as well. We can admit. He said we're living an upper middle class life. We live comfortably. We do all the things that we want to do. There's not a lot of sacrifice happening with this. And he did well. He's still young and multimillionaire, so can't complain too much compared to the average american. But I'm not going to vote for sympathy on this one. Rachel, you can go mid.

Oh, no, I can't either.

Okay. Thank you for that.

I can't.

All right, back to reality. Michelle is in Sandpoint, Idaho. Michelle, what's going on?

Hey, George and Rachel, my family got turned on to the Ramsey program about three months ago. And so that meant we're all working through the debt snowball right now and we don't have very many forms.

Hey, Michelle, speak directly in your phone for me. You're breaking up.

Okay. Is that any clear?

George, it's still a little rocky. We may get you on hold to get your phone clear if we can't clean it up. But all I heard was you're trying to pay off debt in baby step two.

Yes, we're in baby step two.

Okay.

And we don't have anything except car insurance right now in our monthly budget.

Okay.

And so I've been looking over getting quotes for the different ones and I'm just not sure. Basically we have where in our monthly budget, 42% of is the ratio of our income, our 9000 a month household between the four of us. And that's going to paying our debts in baby step two.

Okay. And so your question is what other.

Insurance you need, which one to budget for first? Because I know that if we took all our extra that's on the snowball right now and used it for insurance that until we get our shovel bigger in the next couple of months, we wouldn't be making any traction. And I currently don't think I can sell that pitch.

Well, insurance is not a base. These are non negotiable.

It's almost under your utilities kind of what you could.

And the problem right now is if you forego insurance, it could derail you financially in the biggest way. It could cause bankruptcy. If you don't have health insurance and you get some medical bills, it can be game over. If you don't have homeowners insurance and renters insurance and something happens, it's game over.

Yeah. Insurance is above your debt in that sense. It's a necessary expense that you will pay. So anything after insurance and utilities and mortgage or rent, food, all of that, whatever is left there, then take that amount for your debt. Snowball.

And we just got access. Thankfully, one of our family works for Costco to Smartdollar. And so I know that the financial peace university lessons are in there. Is that right?

Yes. Go watch the insurance lesson. For sure. But here's the ones you definitely need auto, you have that. You need health insurance, you need term life insurance and you need homeowners or renters insurance. That's the bare bones. And we'll walk you through the rest of those in financial peace university. Thanks so much for the call. This is the Ramsey show.

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This is the Ramsay show. I'm George Camel, joined by Rachel Cruz. Open phones at triple 8825-5225 Evan is in Toledo. Up next. Evan, how are you doing?

Doing well, George. How about yourself?

We're doing great. How can we help today?

Yeah. First wanted to say, glad to finally talk to you. You've been all over my TikTok. Love your messaging.

The algorithm knows what Evan needs. Thank you for calling instead of dming being like, hey, bro, I need financial advice. My call the show, guys. Thank you.

Right?

Yeah, of course. So my question is, I'm putting way too much money into my beater car. Should I use my emergency fund to purchase a new one?

Walk us through what way too much money is. So how much is the car worth, and how much are you putting into it?

Yeah, so the car is worth. The Kelly blue book is between four and six. It's a 2010 Honda Accord. I purchased it 20 months ago for $9,700. And I have unfortunately put, over the course of those 20 months, $12,624.67. But who's counting?

Good grace, what did it need? Were there major issues that you didn't catch in the inspection or what?

So that's part of the problem too. I rushed myself into purchasing this vehicle. Did not do proper due diligence. I did the carfax, sent it to a few people that know things about cars, but went up there, drove 2 hours, went with my brother, who him and I combined know zero about vehicles, and I drove it. I knew there was going to be some work, but I figured it's a Honda. It's only got 106,000 miles on it. Sure. When I was purchasing it, I'll be able to do a little bit of work and then ride this thing until the wheels fall off. And right off the rip the tune up with a bunch of stuff. The radiator went out. The first expense I had was $2,500. I forget what all went into that. I don't have the best spreadsheet in front of me in terms of what work was done, but it felt like it got to a certain point where I was putting enough in. I'm like, okay, I can just ride this thing out. But it seems like every two or three months, something happens. I mean, last February was the starter. I just had my crank sensor go out during the cold last week.

And my fear is, with all my side hustles require me to drive.

Yeah, you need more of a reliable vehicle, and I think you've driven it, Evan, to the. Like, the idea that you drive it to the wheels fall off. I mean, it's gotten to that point, basically.

Well, the wheel literally did fall off. I had my ball joint fail. Luckily, I was in an Aldi parking lot and not going at a high speed on the highway. I guess for other people to learn and even myself, I just don't want anyone else to feel the way I have emotionally. Driving a $22,000 2010 Honda Accord isn't. I own it. I don't owe anybody money on it. It feels great being able to say that, but at some point, I feel like I've got to cut things loose.

Right. How much money do you have?

Right now I have in liquid cash, $22,000.

Great for you.

Any debt?

No debt.

Way to go, man.

Yes, I would for sure get a new car.

So, let's say, can you sell at private party for six to get top dollar?

The guy that has been working on it for me, I'm sure we could maybe find somebody. I try to be a little more conservative. I could probably get four. Cash for it, easy.

Well, is everything fixed on it now, or does it still need more work?

The check engine light is on, but that's the story of a lot of people, I'm sure. And I think it's just the aftermarket oxygen sensor, the catalytic converter. That's the only thing, the reason that's flashing. So it's got brand new tires. A lot of stuff, basically.

Well, maybe if you can sell it for five, you take ten from your savings, and you go buy a $15,000 car. What's your income?

Yeah, I think with everything, when you take into account my side hustles and everything, I probably net $70,000 a year.

Great.

Yeah, that's awesome.

So that's a reasonable purchase, and you can drive that $15,000 car for a while. Do you have any other future goals, like a home down payment? Are you investing right now?

Yeah, I'm investing a lot. So, over the course of the last three years, I put a bunch of money into a non retirement, tied like investment account and just been riding dividends in that space. I mean, that account, I think, is $55,000, and I'd rather leave it where it's at. I mean, I'm putting enough into my 401K. I'm maxing out my roth good and actively investing that. I mean, I feel like I'm in a good.

Yeah, you are in a great spot. Yes.

Just replenish the emergency fund. Once you buy the car, make sure you're at three to six months of expenses in there. But other than that, dude, you're doing all the right things.

Yeah. It's like. And I know the concept was great, right. Buy used, reliable. And just a little bit of the due diligence was.

Yes. That's all, I think, for people out there, because I think you're right. There's so many lessons always to learn on this journey. And one of them, yes, is to always do the inspection. And to your point, we laughed at another caller, or not at another caller, with another call a few weeks ago because I was having trouble keeping up with all the car lingo and whoever I was co hosting with, they're like, you just need a car person in your life, whether it's the uncle or the friend. But there's always that person in your life that just knows cars and just take advantage of their knowledge. Right. Because you are going to be buying a crappier car, especially when you're getting out of debt and you're doing this plan, and you sell the nice new car that has a $900 car payment every month to it. And we say, go get a beater. It's this kind of thing. But you want to be wise with that. To your point. And those beaters are not there to last you three, four years down the road. Maybe get you through nine to twelve months, and then maybe you upgrade a little bit there.

Right? So it is a continual change. It's not something that will be forever. So I think you're at the point for sure, Evan, that, yeah, you can definitely step in your next car.

You will definitely do a pre purchase inspection.

I guarantee it. Yes, you would. And I would really challenge you to try to get closer to that six, because you've put money into it. It's not just a crappy 2010 card like it has new tire. You put value into it. And I want you to be able to get that out of it. So don't just settle.

And if you look at what these cars are actually going for in the open market. Even over 100,000 miles, even a 2010 accord, you could get over $10,000. If you can get this thing in good shape, it's a wild time.

You may have gotten a lemon, too. It's kind of what it sounds like.

Yeah, I did, and it was tough because I went across state lines, and I didn't read all of the paperwork, and I'm sure I signed away my lemon law rights. They're different in Michigan than they are in Ohio. And it took 25 days for me to get it into the shop anyway, originally, so it kind of was a worst case scenario.

Totally. Yeah.

And you have a good, reputable, honest mechanic that you're working with?

Yeah, he's a great. And it's. He's a retired, you know, mechanic. Just does work out of his garage. I have no reason not to trust him.

Yeah. And for you, Evan, I feel like there's so much good stuff for listeners out there with the story. And that's another thing, is car maintenance, as Evan has felt over the last two years, it just gets expensive. Right. And so I do think, though, for people listening, get a second opinion, because sometimes that one person's not saying, your guy, Evan, is this. But there are some people that. They're like, oh, my gosh. It's kind of like, I don't know, you go somewhere and they're like, oh, well, this, this, and this. And if it's me again that doesn't know cars, I'm like, okay, fix it all.

It happens at the dentist. Like, you need $3,000 worth of work. The other dentist is like, no, you're fine. We'll fill that one tooth. You're good for a while.

Yeah.

All right, cool.

So second opinion on big maintenance things, for those of you listening to.

Yeah.

And, well, to give you a little insight to my driving habits, I mean, in that 20 months, with all that work I've done, I still put 30,000 miles on the vehicle.

Yeah.

So, to me, that's a lot of driving.

That's a lot of driving, for sure.

In my opinion, looking in that 2019, probably 2020 civic range, I know those might be a little bit more expensive. I know the body style got bigger. But in my mind, that's something that is going to be reliable even if I get it pre owned, certified.

Sure.

And that's something where just kind of eat the cash and then spend the next few months rebuilding that emergency fund.

Yep. For. Yep. Just be paying cash for the car. Don't let it be a crazy percentage, but it's not. You're doing great, Evan. Just overall, your overall financial picture is.

The right headspace around this. Don't let this hinder you from buying another used car, and don't let that hinder you. America. Don't just go out buying a new car because you heard Evan's story. Okay. Make the right choice. Get the pre purchase inspection. It's, like, $150. You'll have a lot of peace of mind. Worth it. This is the Ramsay show, our scripture of the day. Matthew 515. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand where it gives light to everyone in the house. Mary Kay Ash said, those who are blessed with the most talent don't necessarily outperform everyone else. It's the people with follow through that excel. That's a good quote. And, Rachel, that's not Mary Kate and Ashley. It's Mary Kate Ash. A different historical figure. No, I didn't want to confuse you.

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Man, I used to love those books. Manhattan Adventures of Mary Kate and Ashley. How the west was fun. Anyone?

All of it.

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Take Rachel to your Mary Kate and Ashley trivia night. She will crush it. Well, back to what we're here to do, Rachel, is answer America's questions and help them solve their life's problems. And hopefully we can do that with Jeremy in Palm Springs. Jeremy, what's going on? Hi, George. How are you doing? Doing great. How can we help? I got $75,000 in debt and baby on the way.

Congratulations.

One bad thing. One good thing.

What number of child is this for you, Jeremy?

It's our first.

Oh, congratulations. When are y'all due?

In about a month and a half ish.

Okay. Five, six weeks out.

Yeah. That's exciting. Coming up quick. So you paired those two things together. It tells me that you're a little bit stressed about this debt. You want to try to get out of as much of it as possible before baby's here or what? Yes. Well, that's the instinct. Me and my wife decided to go ahead and just put everything in savings because we don't know really how to raise a kid yet. That's wise. So how much it's going to cost and all that. Yeah, you're doing the right thing. Look for some guidance. So I don't know how long you've been listening to the show, but you guys are in baby step two where you're paying off all consumer debt using the debt snowball method.

Yes.

And because you're having a baby, we call this stork mode, which means we are pausing the baby steps. We're pausing debt payoff and we're stacking up cash and savings until mom and baby are home safe.

Yeah. Staying current on your bills?

Yes.

Good. So, okay, so how much will you have Jeremy stashed away here in the next month or two? And what you guys have been saving so far?

Well, so far it's kind of complicated, but right now we have about $33,000 in emergency fund.

Okay, that's great.

And that will go up in the next couple of months, hopefully.

So what do you think that'll be?

If I were to guess, maybe it all depends on job and all that. So maybe about 35,000 in the next few months. So let's say you have 35k babies here, mom and baby are home safe. Then we can take most of that and throw it at this 75 in debt, knocking it almost in half, right?

Yes.

I guess my question is there's about 55 of that in school loans and they range from like 3% to 7%. And it's like one loan, but it's got ten loans. Yeah. They're broken out into separate little loans. Yeah. So should I attack that as one loan as like the 7%? Or should I attack the car loan at 3%? What's the car loan? What's left on that? The car loan is at 22,000 right now. Okay. And is that all of the debt? The. Yes, minus the house debt? Yeah, sure. Okay. So with the debt snowball, what's beautiful about it is you don't have to worry about the interest. You are trying to focus on momentum and progress. So you're going to lay out those debts from smallest to largest. So let's say one student loan is 1000, the next one is 3000, the next one is 5000. Then you would just knock those out one by one from smallest to largest while making minimum payments on the rest. And what that does is you free up a payment sooner. You apply that payment plus all the margin you were throwing at the next debt, and the same thing happens.

And you can see how the snowball picks up snow. And most people following this plan, they get rid of their debt in 18 to 24 months using this method. Okay. How much do you make a year? Okay, well, that's in transition right now. I just got out of the military, so hopefully going back to making about 70, 80,000 a year. Great. What's the car worth?

The car?

Honestly, haven't looked it up. It's 2019. It's a pretty new car for us, anyway. Okay. I'm just wondering if you got to the point where you're like, man, I have 77,000 in debt. I'm going to make 70 this year. This is going to take four years. At this rate. It's a possibility that you end up selling the car and downsizing with cash. Yeah. So that's something to think about just.

To speed up this process for you.

Guys, because you got a solid income, but you also have some pretty serious debt here. Yeah. So if your income is not going to go up significantly over the next year, you may want to look at just selling that car while you can. While you can still get some good money for it and then using some of that cash and savings to get a beater car to get you by for a year. Got you.

Okay.

Yeah, that's an option, man. Thank you so much for the call, and congrats on the baby. That's exciting. With the new addition, I'm five months ahead of him here with a five month old. And it's a wild ride. Jeremy, no one can prepare you, not even Rachel Cruz. And she tried, emotionally, tried to give.

You all the baselines.

George, what can I say?

You and Whitney are great. Y'all are killing.

She's the best. You know, we were at dinner the other night, and we were just trying to have a moment of connection. And I said, what are three things you're learning? This is what we do on date nights. You and Winston do that, too, right?

Good question.

And she said, I'm learning that I'm a good mom. And I was like, yes, a thousand percent, yes.

That is so good.

And I feel for moms out there. The mom guilt is real. It's just like constant chaos and emotions and lack of sleep and should I work? Should I stay? I feel for new parents out there.

You see moms, like, take care of yourself. And you're like, yes, I will. Don't worry about the laundry.

But you're like, okay, you know the worst advice, Rachel? I'm going to say this. This is the worst advice I got when it came to parenting, and I heard it from so many people.

Oh, no. Did I give this to you?

Nap when the baby.

Oh, no, I hate that. Yeah, don't do that. What?

When am I going to shower? When am I going to eat?

That's a silly one. That's really now at night, obviously.

Sure.

Ideal.

That's fair.

Let's get the baby sleeping, then we can all sleep. But. Yeah, no, that's a.

Well, Rachel, meet Rachel. She's up next to finish off this hour in Scottsdale. Rachel, get right to it. We're up against the clock.

Hi, I'm Rachel. I live in Scottsdale. I'm currently working as a nurse and I was wondering if I should take out some student loans for my bachelor's in nursing.

How much is it going to cost?

Yeah, well, I was looking at some programs. The cheapest program I could look at was 40 grand. And that's kind of a lot for me. I don't really have any debt right now. And the big thing is I work as a nurse currently with my associates. And there's really no difference between a bachelor's and associates at the moment just because as far as your salary shortage. Yeah, exactly.

The ROI. You're not going to be making 40 grand more.

Exactly.

Yeah. Why do you want to do it.

Then and why now?

Well, what everyone does.

Well, that, and at the moment I'm really able to get most jobs I want, but I don't know if that's going to last long term. Only because a lot of nurses were scared off because of COVID And I think eventually the nurses coming in, it will be caught back up and everything will be okay. And I fear that I won't be able to get the jobs I want later down the line. That's my fear.

Yeah. And I think that's a valid fear, but I don't think that's a valid reason to take on debts to prevent something that hasn't even happened yet. So when the time comes and you start to see that shift start to happen, then I would say, okay, let's think about, hey, what would it look like to go back to school, pay cash for it, though, because we'll never, at least on this show, advise you to go into debt.

How quickly could you save that up, that 40 grand?

Well, I'm married. Me and my husband together make about 90 grand a year. But cost of living in Scottsdale is pretty high. Like, we're in a one bedroom and it's 2100. It would take a while.

Totally.

It would take a while.

Yeah. I mean, I think it could be a good goal for you, Rachel, here in the next four or five years and just put some money aside in a sinking fund and just say, hey, that's kind of my school fund. And then you may look up in four years and the thing you fear has not come to fruition. And then you make a different decision and maybe you guys have a baby and life looks different. I mean, who knows what's going to happen? But I would not rush into a degree and go into debt for it on something that's not reality yet.

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