Welcome to this special masterclass. We've brought some of the top experts in the world to help you unlock the power of your life through this specific theme today. It's going to be powerful, so let's go ahead and dive in. Why do people create fears that hold them back from attracting or manifesting more?

So many people are held back by... I'll take a step back. When I look at fears, I categorize them in two different types of fears. There's primal fears, and a primal fear is there is physical pain or death that's attached to it. We should have primal fears, so what kept our species alive. Species alive. But there's actually on two fears that people are born with, it's the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. Are the two one that are built into the human circuitry. Everything else is learned. Out of all the other ones that are learned, you have primal fears, which is actually physical pain or death attached to it, which we need to survive. The other ones are intellectual fears. An intellectual fear would be, like I ran a A webinar last night with a few thousand people. We were talking about the book, and I said, What's your number one fear? Everyone put in the chat. The thing that's holding me back the most, 90% of them is a fear of failure. It's like the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, the fear of not being loved, the fear of running out of money.

All of those are intellectual fears because they're not actually existing in reality in this moment. There's a quote that's in the book that I really loved, which is fear, an intellectual fear like we have, and we're talking about, is a perception of a imagined future event. The key part is imagined future event.

It may never happen.

It's not happening right now. What's happening is we have these, we think and we feel like intellectual fears feel like primal fears in our body, which is there's danger. I shouldn't go and do this. It's like, I have this fear of failure. There's danger. I shouldn't go and try to create the life that I want. I shouldn't try to manifest the life that I want. We have these fears. Then so people say, Okay, Lewis, I've got this fear of failure. Tell me how to overcome it. And then here's the craziest part is when you look at a fear that is an intellectual fear and you say, Okay, now that I've identified it, how to overcome it? The key to it is you can't overcome something that doesn't exist.

So how do you go of it then?

Right. So that's the key, right? So first off, people need to really get into their heads first off, is you cannot overcome something that doesn't exist. You are creating in your mind the bogeyman, and all day you are fighting the bogeyman. But the bogeyman doesn't exist in the first place. And that's your fear of failure, the fear of rejection, the fear of not being good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough to have the success that you want, the imposter syndrome. All of those are just figments of our imagination, and we're fighting them all day long, and they don't actually truly exist. And so what it comes down to is, okay, I can't overcome it, but it still lives inside of me from my childhood, right? And so what I've been teaching people is it's not about overcoming the parts of you that exist. It's about integrating the parts of you that exist. And so it's like, you can have the fear of I'm afraid of failing all the time, and I screw up all of the time, right? And that's just the way that it goes. But it drives me to create better content.

It drives me to create better stuff. And so the way I like to look at the fears that you do have that are intellectual fears is they are tools for your tool belt, where it's like, okay, I have this fear of failure. I feel it inside of my body, which is usually where you feel at first. You don't notice the fear in your brain. It's usually like, I feel anxious right now. And so you notice the fear inside of your body, and it's like, What am I afraid of right now? I'm afraid of right now. I'm afraid of failing. Okay. I notice it. I'm not trying to get rid of it because you can't get rid of parts of you. If you look at internal family systems, it's a version of therapy. It's the different parts of you. And so I can say, Okay, this part of me is afraid of failing. I can listen to that part of me, or I could say, How can I use this fear to actually help me create better content or help me write a better book? If I'm afraid of putting this book on and just completely flopping, could do that, right?

Or I could say, I remember when I was writing it, I was like, I really want this to be good. It made me do more rounds of edits, which in turn, hopefully made it a better book.

Yeah, and get more feedback from people and make sure you're more prepared and things like that. And there can be a, How can we make sure that we pursue the things we want and not get paralyzed by needing to be perfect due to our fear of failure. Yeah.

That actually goes perfectly, which is the third part of chapter one, which is what holds people back. There's identity, or part one, which is identity, which is fears, and then the purpose that people have. There comes a point in your life where you have to realize that failure and in success are not different. They're two sides of the same coin. When you look at the creator of Honda said, Success is 99% of failure. You and I, we've put out over a thousand podcast episodes. I think I'm in like 1,300, 1,400.1,500.I think you're-1500. You're fed 1500, right? It was keep track. We've had some flops. We've done some things which are not the best. We've put out content that is not done really well. But what it's really about is you stop looking at the numbers and you say, What's my purpose actually behind this thing? One of my very first mentors used to always say to me, You've got to get off yourself and you've got to get on purpose. Off yourself is thinking about all of your intellectual fears. If we're talking about creating podcast episode, because we're both podcasters, if I don't want to start a podcast because I'm afraid of my...

I work at a job and I'm afraid of Nancy and HR making fun of me for it, it's a fear of failure, it's a fear of judgment. It's a fear of not being accepted, kicked out of the tribe, whatever it might be. We can look at it that way and say, Well, I'm not going to start because I'm afraid of people judging me. That's being on self. I'm thinking about myself. But if my purpose is, for me, my purpose is I remember what it feels like. I was nine years old. My dad was an alcoholic. I remember him passing away when I was 15 from being an alcoholic. I remember the trauma that came from it. I remember what it felt like to be an absolute suffering in my mind. It was I would never want to go back there. You couldn't pay me enough to go back to that moment. But through years of working on myself and trying to become better and coaching myself and reading books and going to courses and doing therapy and doing all of that, I've gotten myself to a place where I can overcome things that become hard.

I feel obligated to teach that to other people. That is my purpose. My purpose is to have people not be in suffering that I was in at one point in time because because I know what it feels like, and I hate that other people are in there. I don't care what anyone else thinks about me because my purpose is so strong that it doesn't matter if somebody says, This podcast sucks. If it doesn't matter when I get a one-star review that people are like, I love this content, but I hate that he cusses. I'm like, But that's authentically me. It sounds like when people get in alignment with their purpose, it doesn't matter what fears they might have, or it doesn't matter what they're afraid of people saying them because when you're truly on purpose, you're willing to risk making a fool of yourself, being judged for failing because you care more about the purpose than that fear. For sure. 100%. I care more about what What's interesting about is the fear that we have of, Oh, I'm going to be judged if I put this out there, if I do this thing. There's such a small amount of people that judge you or that will be...

There's such a small amount of haters in the world, and there's such a huge amount of people who will actually say, This is amazing. This is great. We think there's going to be way more haters than there actually are. There's such a small amount of haters, and there's a large amount of lovers that are out there in the world. A lot of people just don't start the thing that they really, truly want to because they're afraid of just that one person that could possibly say something to it. That's true.

Something I think about a lot, and this has helped me overcome any insecurity about putting something out or launching something or the fear of failure, is really thinking about my future self and saying, Would my future self be proud that I didn't take this shot or more proud that I actually did take this shot? I failed. I learned something from it, and it led to something even better after that failure or that loss. I don't think our future selves will ever think, I'm proud of you for not taking a chance. No. I'm proud of you for having a dream and not going for it. I'm proud of you for-For playing small. For playing small and for shying away because you were afraid of what a few people might think or say about you. I'm proud of you. Way to go. I don't think, Well, our future self would ever say that. I don't think our mentors would ever say, You know what? It was a good thing that you didn't go for it. You didn't give it a try. It doesn't matter if we succeed or win in everything we do, but it's the effort of doing it, I think, is where we gain pride in ourselves.

So I think that's really cool.

I think that's also where confidence comes from. A lot of people will ask, How do I get confident? How do I build confidence in myself? And they think, I have to go do I have to succeed. That's not necessarily the truth. Sometimes I think a lot of our confidence comes from feeling fear, doing it anyways, maybe not having the results that we actually wanted to, but in turn, looked at it and said, I'm really proud that I showed up for myself. That It builds confidence in you. Huge time.

When you show up for you, that's big. But a lot of people don't know what their purpose is, or they feel like they have too many ideas, too many passions, and they don't know which direction to go. What have you discovered about how to discover or find your purpose at this stage of life? And is there a formula you teach people? Yeah.

So there's a couple of different things. The thing that I hear more than anything else is that most people don't know what their passions are, and they don't know what their purpose is. More than I hear that I have too many of them. I heard a couple of that last night when I was live, and some people said that they did have too many things that they could do. But the majority of people were like, I don't know what my passion is. I don't know what my purpose is. And then I asked them, I'm like, Well, how often do you do something new? And they're like, Not very often. And I was like, So here's the key to it is, it's okay right now, if someone's listening, not to know what their purpose is. It's okay to not know what their passion is. But it is not okay to not wake up every single day and not be in constant pursuit to find what that passion is if you don't know what it is.

And so if it's-That takes trying new things.

Of course. You have to try a ton of new things. For instance, my wife- And rolling out things you don't like. Yeah, exactly. And try things and be like, That didn't work. I don't like that at all. And the other thing that's important to know about passion and purpose is that your passion doesn't have to be your paycheck. You can look at people and see, I'm lucky enough, you're lucky enough that we're so passionate about this, and we happen to be paid from it. That's amazing. That's, by the grace of God, the That's the worst thing that's ever happened to me, right? But there's other things where it's like, some people are like, I really enjoy riding horses. And how do I make money off of horses? How do I make them my passion? I was like, You don't necessarily have to make money off of it, but maybe you start going, Well, you know what I like to do? I like to take my horses, and I like to teach people that are in the inner city how to ride horses, or I like to teach people who have maybe psychological symptoms, and they have anxiety or bipolar, and I've learned that horses end up calming them down in some way, and you decide that you want to help them.

It doesn't mean you have to make money off of it. But I always say, if you found something that you love so much, why don't you try to spend as much of your time doing it? If it is this horses thing, and maybe you make five grand a year of horses, or maybe it costs you more money, can you have a job that you at you somewhat enjoy, not hate, but you somewhat enjoy, but it gives you enough free time to do the thing that actually makes you feel alive. People always say, Well, how do I find those things? I think my personal belief is I think that God, the universe, speaks to you through energy, of the energy that we feel doing something. When I get done with this podcast, I am going to 100% have more energy than when we first start the podcast because this is what actually makes me feel alive. I feel the most alive doing this. I think a lot of people need to think, Where's the most energy for me? Where do I have the most curiosity to try to learn something? What would I do even if it didn't make me any money?

I would still... I mean, for years, I didn't make money off of the podcast or anything that I did. You kept doing it because you loved it. Hundreds of podcast episodes before I made a dollar off of it. Just because I love learning about people. I'm obsessed with neurology. I'm obsessed with learning about sitting down with someone and be like, Why is Louis Wayne the he is? I want to know about his mom. I want to know about his dad. I want to make connections and put this puzzle piece together of this person. It gives me energy to meet people and find out what's going on and where they come from and how they became that.

I was interviewing someone yesterday, her name was Jenna Zoe, and she had a curiosity and a love for this thing called human design, which is about understanding not personality type, but your energy type.

Based off of when you were bored and-Exactly.

She had another business where she was working in the food industry, creating something around food, and it wasn't really succeeding, but she loved doing this other thing on the side for years, like reading people's charts and really helping them identify their energy type and making sure, are you in alignment with what you should be doing? And just supporting them in that creation of life. And she did that for years. And she didn't make any money for a long time. Then she made a little bit of money, but she enjoyed it so much that eventually she was like, Why don't I just try doing more of this and see if I can make money? After five, six, seven years, and eventually started making money, then said, You know what? Okay, now I'm going to go all in on It doesn't have to be all in right away, or you don't have to monetize something you enjoy right away. Maybe the timing will come later, like it did with you in some ways as well. Maybe if you lean into the curiosity and just keep doing that on the side or on the weekends with your horses.

Eventually, you could make money. Maybe you can, maybe you can. But finding the time to dive into things that you love more, I think is always going to help you.

You know what I found that goes with that, too, that's important, is that people want to start something and they think they should be making a bunch of money in three months. I found that for the majority of people who I met that have become something big and they've been able to do something very successful, it takes at least five years. Five to seven is pretty average before it really starts to take off. I don't know if it's the universe testing us to be like, Do you actually want this? Because you better keep on this path. But I think the path of mastery is something that I really love. My first tattoo is a Roman numeral for 10,000 because I love the 10,000-hour rule. It's on my wrist right here, so I see it every single day. And I just love the idea of mastering something. And I think that if we find something that we're interested in, that seems interesting, that seems fun, and we start putting energy into it, we start getting better at it. It's like Tony Robbins always says, Progress equals happiness. When you feel like you're progressing towards something, not making money, but just progressing towards something, it makes you feel good and you want to keep doing it.

And you fast forward five years or seven years, and you've become one of the masters of that thing. That's usually when people can write a book about something, they can start a podcast, they can grow a following on it, and that's usually where they can start to monetize.

Yeah, you got to have some type of skillset or some type of mastery. Maybe you're not the master, but you've mastered a part of it. You'll start to attract more financial opportunities that way. But one of the things I feel holds people back from discovering their purpose, tapping into their purpose, taking action on their purpose, is the old character they've been playing for so long. You talk about this in your identity chapter. They've been holding on to an identity that has been developed for that isn't in their highest best way. It's been the way society wants, parents, kids, whatever it might be. How can we get the courage to eventually kill off the parts of ourselves that are no longer serving us for our highest sense of purpose. Yeah.

Have you ever seen the documentary Jim and Andy on Jim Carrey? Yes. It's incredible. It is incredible, right? Everyone should watch it. Jim Carrey is amazing. He did the movie The Man on the Moon in 1999. And Andy Kaufman, right? He was playing Andy Kaufman, right? So he was playing Andy Kaufman, and he's a method actor, which means that he had to literally become him, and he had to play him all day long for three or four months straight, to the point where even his driver said when he would pick him up in Hollywood and drive him home, he would still be Andy Kaufman in the car. On the way home, he'd be Andy Kaufman on the way home or on the way to go and shoot every single day. The crazy part about that, though, is that Andy Kaufman also played other characters. So Andy Kaufman was also Tony Clifton, which is a whole other character. And so if they stopped shooting and he Tony Clifton, he would go home and be Tony Clifton. He was Andy Kaufman some days, he was Tony Clifton some days, he was never Jim Carrey in those three or four months.

It's really interesting when you watch it because the people who were in taxi with him and they were on the show were like, he was almost indistinguishable. He was the closest thing to Andy Kaufman that I've seen since Andy Kaufman, to the point where even his daughter, Andy Kaufman's daughter, went and did sessions, almost like mini therapy sessions, sitting down with Jim Carrey as Andy Kaufman, as being her dad. That's crazy. Crazy, right? What's crazy about it, though, is that when it ended, he said he forgot who Jim Carrey was. He literally forgot. There's a point where there was that song, I think it was R. E. M. Did the song Man on the Moon. They're like, Can you be We're going to shoot the video, the music video for it. Can you be Andy Koffing? And he's like, I don't think I can. He's like, Because I lost myself so much in that role that when it ended, I forgot what I liked, I forgot what I didn't like, I forgot my belief systems, I forgot everything about who Jim Carrey was. The quote that he says, and it's actually in the book, is, I realized if I could lose Jim Carrey so easily, then who is Jim Carrey?

And he would lose Jim Carrey. He realized it was just another character that he was playing in his life. He was waking up and unconsciously every morning deciding to be Jim Carrey. He was being that person. If you've seen the spiritual awakening he's gone on in the past 20 years, that was the beginning of it. It was because he lost his identity. He forgot who he was. It shows you that it's like, our identity is just something we're choosing to be every single day. We can look at parts of ourselves and we say, Do I like this aspect of myself? Do I not like this aspect of myself? There's aspects of myself that I like. There's aspects of myself that I don't like, and I've changed over years. One of the things that was the hardest for me was with my father not being around, my mom working a lot, is I don't feel like I really felt a safe space of love when I was a kid. I didn't feel like it was just there and omnipresent. My wife, her Mom and Dad are still together. She's got her two sisters. They're all really close.

We were never really close, so I never I really had that. We've been together now for 10 years. In the first couple of years, she was way more loving, and I couldn't open up to the love. It was hard for me because I felt uncomfortable. My nervous system was like, What's going on? This person's too close to me.

It almost didn't feel safe for you because it was unfamiliar.

A hundred %. Even though it should be the safest feeling in the world, right?

But you're also afraid of it.

You want it, but you don't want it. It was me noticing different aspects of myself. I'm not as loving as I think I probably truly am or what I could be. That was a part of me I didn't like. I was like, How do I open myself up to be a little bit more loving? Which is hard because opening yourself up to be vulnerable allows you to be vulnerable, especially when you love somebody, allows you to be really hurt, especially when you've gone through heartbreak and you've been heartbroken, cheated on, divorces, all these things that people could have. I think it really comes down to how are we trying to have the courage to do it is that... It's funny because I literally have two tattoos, and I'm referencing both of the tattoos. The only other tattoo that I have is a tattoo on my arm. When I was first starting the podcast, I was really nervous. When I left my job where I was making a quarter million dollars a year, and I was like, I'm going to do this thing. I don't know why. It just feels right. The feelings felt right. I was really fearful, and I was like, I might go back to work for someone else.

My sister comes out. I went home, and I was back for Thanksgiving in 2015, the year I started the podcast. She goes, Hey, have you ever seen these this box from dad of dad's stuff. I was like, No. My dad had passed away 14 years ago at that point. It was a T-shirt of his, it was his glasses, and there was these letters. My dad was in jail for a little while, and he wrote letters to us. He wrote I lettered my sister on her 20th birthday, which was a year before he passed away. In the very end of the letter, it says, I hope you live your life with courage, love, and laughter. I read it and I was like, This is actually speaking to me because I'm in so much fear right now that I'm going to go back to work for someone else and literally throw my passion away. I took my dad's handwriting, exact handwriting. It's on the inside of my arm right here. Yeah, it's on the inside of my arm. That's cool. You want to see it? Yeah, I do. I'll share it. Anybody that's on YouTube. It says, Live your life with courage, love, and laughter.

It's the exact handwriting.

At the end of that letter.

It says, Courage, love, and laughter. Which if you think about it, I was in so much fear. I was in so much fear that I was about to give up my entire passion and everything that I felt like I was born to do because I just wanted to go back to what was safe. I think everybody feels it. It's like when you feel fear, we're always like, What's the hack? The only hack is you're going to have to get yourself to a point and be like, I have to do this, or else, I'm not going to be able to create the life that I really, truly want. And my biggest fear, I have fears, of course. I'm just a normal person. But my biggest fear, I remember, Louis, I remember sitting. The first person who I ever knew that had passed away was my dad. Nobody I'd ever known that had passed away before. I remember flying up. We had flown up to go see him, and he was still in the hospital at the time. He was unconscious. We were flying to go see him. And by the time we got to the airport, we got the news that he had already passed away.

I went up there to go see somebody, ended up going there for a funeral. And so we were in this tiny little room, and we were viewing it, the casket, and he was in the casket. We were on this sofa that was right there. It was myself, my grandmother, which was his mom, my mom, my sister, the four of us just sitting there. I was looking at him, and my dad was a dream dreamer, and he was an amazing person, but he had a lot of demons that he had in his life. His father killed himself, and he walked in the room and saw it right after it happened. So he had demons that he just didn't overcome. And he was a dreamer. He was an amazing person. But I remember looking at him at 15 and being like, This guy had so much potential, and he didn't follow his potential. I know that he didn't create the life that he probably would have wanted to. And I was like, That will not become my life. It will never become my life in any way. And so can I feel fear? Of course, I can feel fear.

But at some point, you've got to decide, Am I going to live a life that's full of fear, or am I going to start being more courageous and live a life that's courageous? Because we all have a choice, and we could go one way or we could go the other. But really what it comes down to is, I know I'll be ridiculed for putting stuff out there. I know that people are going to bash different things that I put out there. But it's more for me of what feels right in my heart is what I'm going to follow. I think that's what people should think of. It's like, where do I have energy? Some people are like, I'm I'm 45 years old. I've been in this job. I went to college for this. I'm like, You could live to 90 years old. You're halfway through your life, and you're going to live the rest of the 45 years doing something that you don't want simply because you went down the wrong path for a little while. I think You just got to get to a point where you realize there's going to be fear that's omnipresent.

It's always going to be there. It's just the way that we are as humans. You've just got to be courageous at some point in time.

When did you realize that When you actually were worthy of love, of being rich, of having nice things or buying a house with the money you've earned? When did you realize you were worthy?

I was in Barcelona, and I was just recognizing my own life. I was working with this woman, Stephanie, and I was outside. There's an architecture in Barcelona. I remember being outside journaling on this iPad, feeling like, Wow, what a cool life I created. Actually, finally recognizing in my own life.

Reflecting back in the last 20 years and all the different things, ups and downs.

The sadness of what I've done to the ex-fiance, how I've created this company that I finally actually live my dream, and just being able to reflect on all of that. It helped me accept it and just enjoy it. Hey, money is great. I know people say money can't buy happy. It's definitely made me happy now, finally being able to embrace it.

Once you love and accept yourself and believe you're worthy, then money can buy you additional happiness.

Yes.

But it cannot buy you happiness if you feel unlovable. You don't accept yourself, and you don't face the challenges and the pain and the sadness that's within you. Then it's just more sadness because I make this money, but I'm still shameful about who I am.

Yeah, it's still chasing. It's still this external side. With Stephanie, it's the simplest thing. It's just day by day. Do something for yourself. Do something that you're proud of for yourself. Back in the day, we had this thing called Gabby. It was me and my buddy Adam from my body tutor. Basically, gratitude, exercise, breakfast, I miss you. If anything, it's just like, how do you do one thing for yourself each day? Or you feel good about yourself? Maybe it's in a relationship. For me, it was like, All right, I'm dating these women. I did have a goal. I was like, I'd like to have kids, and I'd like to have a real partner that I'm getting what I want.

When did you When you realized you wanted to have kids and a partner where it was a harmonious relationship, when did that come about?

It took years. It took years. After breaking up the fiancé, it was back and forth with her. Then work with Stephanie, I was like, I really did have to close the door in the past. There was a visualization of I couldn't swing to my next branch, holding on to my previous one. Oh, my goodness. You know what I'm saying?

Wow.

I was holding on because I was like, I like partying.

Your previous identity, the lifestyle.

Yeah.wow. It was feeling more harmonious just daily. It was honestly like a daily practice. I really enjoyed being in Barcelona. I felt like, Wow, I get to work on this business. I get to meet interesting people. Then it was directionally. I didn't know. The faith where you were talking about with your stuff. I had faith there's going to be someone out there that I'd eventually now start meeting. But I was being intentional about it. I told the ex, I sent her a message like, I can't reply to you anymore. Then that was hard. I was really...

You closed the chapter. Yeah.

I'm sure she was mad and all these things. I was like, I want you to find someone that is good for you.

It was still lingering energy. It was like, Okay, we're not together, but hey, how are you? And checking in and every once in a while.

Waiting for a text.

Interminently. You made the decision like, Hey, I cannot not communicate with you anymore. You sent that message. Did your coach or therapist guide you in that, or was that something with them?

Yeah. She was like, You need to send this message. I was like, I'm not doing it. This is a weird, I would say, hack for others. If you do have coaches or you meet with other people, I'd record my conversations with their permission.

It's not secret.

Listen back to it or-I listen to myself. I noticed, I'm like, Are you proud of what you did with these dates? Are you proud of how your work is? Just an interesting moment of reflection When you do content, when you do anything, you get a chance to actually learn. Through that, I was listening to it. Then when I was ready. It takes time for all of it. How many times has someone given you advice, and then you read the book or you listen to something, and finally, the 18th time, you finally accept it. I kid you not, it was probably about four weeks later when I finally sent it, and then four weeks later, I met Mafe.

Isn't that fascinating?

I know. I hate that story, but the key part... I don't hate the story. I love that story. But one thing that I've changed my perspective on based on what I Music was asking, I believe I'm more optimistic. And not optimistic because, yes, things are good, all this stuff. But how do you be optimistic when things aren't good? And there's a book, Learned Optimism. Phenomenal book. And that optimism is a choice. And so, okay, business isn't working out. We still have problems. I told you, the YouTube team, most of them quit. Appsumo, we still have partners complaining or different things happening. How do you stay optimistic? Do you think the future is going to be better than today or not?

Yeah, I think it's going to be bright. Yeah, but that's hard. Even when things are going down and there's challenges and there's stress, I'm like, This is all happening in my favor for a brighter future.

That's tough, though, when it doesn't feel good, man. It didn't feel good.

For many months this year, I was going through a lot of challenges. It's just like, Man, there's a challenge here in the business, and this person, and this is challenging, and revenue is going down, and all these different things. I was like, after a period of being frustrated internally, I was like, Okay, how can I look at this in a way? Because being frustrated and stressed is not going to cause me to feel better, and it's probably not going to get me into flow and creativity. I'm probably stressing my girlfriend, now fiancé out or whatever, people around me with that tense energy. It's not like I was explosive or anything, but it was more like I just wasn't my happy self all the time. I started to shift that energy internally and say, This is all happening in my favor. Maybe this continues for six months or a year. Knowing that I'm going to make sure I put my attention on it. I'm going to rely on the right people towards it. We're going to be figuring it out, and eventually, we'll figure it out. Hopefully, it figures out today. But if it not, it's going to be figuring itself out and just take care of my health, my mindset, my attitude.

I think that's really the only thing we can control is who we are and how we show up. I'm curious about this. Where do you think you'd be if you didn't emotionally and physically send that text of like, Hey, I need to close this chapter with this relationship. Where do you think you'd be right now if you kept that door open, whether it's with that or any type of door from a previous thing that was holding on to? Where do you think you'd be? Do you think you'd be in a peaceful, loving, beautiful relationship with a child on the way, or do you think something else would be happening?

How many times has something bad happened that turned out to be great?

For me, every time.

When people seem to do the work, I'm always like, What's the work? You're like, Do the work. I'm like, Can you tell me what it is so I could do it. I think the work is just really trying to understand ourselves, understanding what's going on. Do I want to live the way I've been living? It's like, No, this is not what I want. I'm excited to have a family one day. Okay, what is necessary for me to feel worthy to then lead to that?

What was that thing that was necessary for you to feel worthy of a different life, financially, emotionally, spiritually, family, relationship. What was that thing?

There's not one thing. There's not one day that I magically woke up because I meditated or something especially happened. I think it was literally like, each day, can I just be a little kinder to myself. Just a little bit more generous to myself and then to others. Let's just take it piece by piece. I have noticed that when my relationship is going well, guess what else is going well? Everything else. When one thing is going bad, it's like, Maybe these other things are going bad, so let's start working on these different pieces of it.

But I feel like you've always been a very generous person to others. Since I've known you, you've always been generous, giving, willing to jump on a call and say, Let me help with anything, strategy, or you need an introduction, you're like that with everyone. You're very generous outwardly to other people. Were you not generous to yourself?

Yeah, generous with the money.

Really?

Yeah. I didn't really enjoy the money. I told you, I lived in an 800-square-foot house that's falling down. Literally, cracks in the floor, cracks in the walls. That's what I thought of myself. This was actually It was an interesting experience. I do want to answer your question, but I'm trying to think more through it. Go back to your old life. Go back to three years ago. I went to my old house about three months ago. I was like, Wow, this is what I thought of myself.Your.

Environment.yeah..

It was a representation of what I thought I deserved. It's interesting for all of us what we think we deserve. Do we deserve great families? Do we deserve great money? Do we deserve where we're living? Then you start realizing, Okay, what's really holding me back from that? Every time it's yourself. Going through therapy, talking with a therapist, talking with Stephanie, I wouldn't say it wasn't some overnight thing.

It was just- It usually isn't overnight. It's usually a series of events, a series of conversations, reflections, integrations, closing of chapters, practices, and then over time, it comes together. It's usually not like, Oh, the first conversation I had, I learned to love and accept myself. It's unwinding and unpacking things that caused us to believe we're unworthy. Learning to finally integrate that emotionally and physically with the present day of doing things over and over that show you that you believe you're worthy. It's not like, Oh, I'm going to think about it and I'm worthy. It's like you got to act on it continuously. Usually when someone's like, Okay, I'm going to let go of this old apartment or whatever that is really serving my vision of what I want to be stepping into. Let me transition from this to the next thing. Let me leave a job that It really isn't the vision I have. I leave that, and I don't know where I'm going to go next, but then magically something unfolds. It's when we leave a relationship, we finally say, I love you, I appreciate you, but this is not good for either of us.

It's time for me to close this chapter. 100%. How hard that is emotionally, especially if you've been with someone for years and you've already talked about the future, and unwinding that is extremely hard. But then, boom, something unfolds magically, it seems like.

Isn't that funny how that happened?

Isn't it crazy?

I was thinking how it's also experimenting.

Yes.

Okay, what would a great relationship... Can I go on a date and just see what a great relationship would be like, maybe? Could I try? I told you, Try nice houses. See what that's like? Can I try first class? I'd be like, This is pretty good. Then you start feeling like, Okay, what do I need to do so that I can feel more comfortable doing these all the time? Besides just the money part. I think with the worthy, it was just day by day, just doing things that I felt proud for myself. Is my behavior making me proud? There's a lot of Sometimes where if I'm meant to have a drink, I'm like, Do you think you'll feel proud of your sofa making this decision? That's what I think a lot. Sometimes it's like, Yeah, have a drink. Great. Other times it's like, No, let's not. I'm like, Good. Keep saying these kind things to yourself. That's something that I always think the word generous. Generous, I think people think of money to others, but I think of generous as words to yourself. You can also be generous with words to other people, too, with your partner or with people you admire.

Generous to yourself. Be like, Hey, man, you're doing well. Even if it's not great or you're getting the success immediately, you can just keep doing it. Yes. There's no one stopping it. It's unlimited. I know.

How do you think someone can become more valuable in the marketplace, become more worthy of financial abundance, of making and earning more? What are some things they can do internally and externally to appreciate and value?

To get a better salary or to start their own business?Either one.Yeah. I think the thing that I've always found the most fascinating-What a great relationship relationship or all these things.

It's just appreciating in value.

Yeah. The thing that I've always come back to is, how can you just go help one person? A lot of times on my YouTube channel or at AppSumo or with this book, I don't just go help one person. When people want a business, they think about a million and they don't get the dollar. When you actually help another person, you really realize, Oh, I have a lot more ability and capabilities, really, than I even realized. Yes. In the workplace, I think one Everyone should be an entrepreneur so that you have some control over your destiny. You can keep your data. We have a lot of entrepreneurs at AppSum. We have Amy, she has a flower shop. Nick has a teeth whitening business. Ulman's wife has a facial business. That's great. You can have that option. Within the company, I think this has been really fascinating. Who gets paid more and why? How come an engineer makes 200 and someone who customers more support makes 35? It's within everyone's ability to recognize what things are getting paid more for. There's no limit that they can go do those other things. We have a lot of people in our company, like Matt and Bean went from launch operations to now he's a product manager.

Pretty difficult. There's all these people within our company and elsewhere. It's like, Well, if you want more money, there's no limit to what you can create. And so figuring out what is more valuable in a business, and then how do you move up that chain.

What do you think are the three most important skills for people to earn more money that they can develop?

Number one is follow up. No one follows up.

Just being consistent with following up.

Bro, no one follows up. It's unbelievable. I like deleting people emails just to see what happens.

I'm like, you-I'll see if they reply in a week.

Dms, emails, text, just see what happens. No one follows up. If you really want something, you follow up, you persist. I'd say that that's one of the best things. Number two, I mean, coming back on it, I would say, how are they learning? What is their learning approach? I've seen different people that are like, Yeah, I'm good. This is where I want to be. I'm like, Well, you'll stay where you are. I've seen other people, let's take Sean, for instance. He's the head of revenue at AppSumo. He was, six years ago, our junior salesperson. Now, he's responsible for 80 million. That's because Sean kept learning.

Wow.

He has different coaches. He's taking different courses. I'm like, There's something there with that. You're following up, you're learning. All these skills are available for everyone. There's nothing exclusive. I'd say the last one is attitude.

Gosh, man.

I know. It's something that's obvious shit, but it's been interesting to see the attitude of people, especially we've had hundreds of people work at AppSumo, YouTube team, all these people. I've seen a lot of different friends of company that's like, who's attitude? I like people that have a solution attitude. Like, Oh, this didn't work. What else can we do?

That's huge.

That's not exclusive. Everyone can work on their attitude, no matter what. If you're starting your business, if you're as an employee at a company or whatever it is, in a relationship, whatever that is.

Half my team is virtual and half my team is here. Alexander and Sandy here are in the office here. Every day I walk in and they just have a good attitude. For me, you have no idea how far that goes, especially as someone who's got challenges. If you're the business owner, you've got challenges, fires you're putting out all day, and just different people you're dealing with throughout the day, right? Decisions to make. So when someone is just consistently following up with a good attitude, even when they got challenges, they don't have to be perfect every day, but just like a consistency of a positive attitude, a solution-oriented attitude, You have no idea how valuable that is, how much people appreciate that. There has been so many times that I played sports on teams where there was some incredibly freakish athlete, just so talented, just way better than everyone else, but had the worst negative attitude, and it ruined the entire dynamics of the team. But you're like, Oh, but they're so good. But they're just bringing everyone down with their attitude. The The moment you remove that person or they remove themselves, it's like, wow, there's this flow, and there's this connection, and there's this collaboration, and there's just this progress that's more effortless when you remove one person with a negative attitude or they remove themselves for whatever reason.

It's incredible. I'd rather have a team of people who would just have a solution-oriented attitude than the superstar talented technical engineer or graphic or a video editor with a negative attitude. All day long, you can do so much more with positive attitude. I always talk about the three things we look for are our attitude, energy, and effort. It's like, if you can be consistent with those three things, you got a place here. Those are all things in your control.

100%.

They're all in your control. If you have a learning mindset as well, and you keep growing, then the earning potential just keeps going up more and more, so faster. Man, I love this, man. This is powerful stuff.

I don't know if this is what you were thinking about. No, this is the opposite of literally what I was thinking we're going to talk about, which is good. I like getting outside of our auto narrative. Yes. But I don't think it's unique in the sense that we're all going through our own different challenge. You have your own personal life going on. Everyone watching has their own like, I've got a family and I'm struggling, and maybe I'd like to be an entrepreneur, or I've got a day job and it sucks, or I want to get a job. We're all going through it. Exactly. Frankly, the real answer is that we're all figuring it out. We are, man. It's been a journey that I'm happy to share I've been fortunate to be able to figure it out at 40 where I'm at, then figure it out at 60 or 70.

Figuring it out. We're still figuring it out. Once you have your kid, the relationship dynamic is going to be like, I don't do anything. What do I do now?

But I think one of the things that's cool is there's so many other people that have figured these things out or at least have gone through what we're going through. It's been super cool having the baby that I call up friends. I'm like, What outfit should I buy? For my baby mom, I was like, What's cool clothing for her? This week, I was buying cool clothes I'm talking to my business partner, and he has a baby, and I'm like, What apps do you use? He's like, Oh, Wonder Weeks. You got to check out Wonder Weeks in the Bump. I have these apps now.

I got to check these out in the future.

Yeah, let's get you there, dude. Now I'm like, Team Baby, let's go, everyone.

Once I'm ready, I'm going to be hitting you up. Dude, please. You'll have a year of experience by that time.

If people have kids out there, they've babysat kids, and they have comments or feedback, I love suggestions.

Give your parenting tips below.

Yeah, man. But there's people out there that have gone through it. Same as Absumo, who's these coaches that have already gone through it? There's been a lot of people that we've asked for help.

I've got a few more questions I want to ask you, but I want people to get the book Million Dollar Weekend. I don't know if anything we talk about here is related to the book, but get the book Million Dollar Weekend, the surprisingly simple way to launch. A seven-figure business in 48 hours, packed with battle-tested entrepreneurial strategies. I think it's interesting because probably when you wrote this book, you We're thinking about, Okay, what are all the tactical things that I did and other people have done that they can actually launch with strategy and game planning, goal setting and team and delegation and optimization and all these different strategies which are time-tested and backed. But a lot of these entrepreneurs, they are successful in that, but then they forget how to love themselves, love other people, have healthy relationship with self, feel worthy and deserving of the success they're having, manage the success without overwhelming stress. Stress. There's all these other emotional things that we need to learn once we create that, if we don't learn them before. I'm glad you're talking a lot about those things right now. Speaking of having kids and billionaires, you've interviewed a lot of mega millionaires, billionaires who do have kids.

I'm assuming some of them have regrets around not being there for their kids as much as they like to or not being as emotionally available, focusing more on the business than them. Then there's others that maybe did it really great, and they showed up for their kids in a beautiful way, and they built their business in a big way. How do, without being a parent yourself yet, but interviewing a lot of parents with a lot of money, what have you learned from rich people with kids on how to not ruin their kids with access to a private jet, with access to unlimited money, with access to the best private teachers and everything? Just Without spoiling their kids? How do you raise conscious, loving, generous, healthy, kind humans when you are mega rich?

Yeah, I'll find out. I'll tell you.

What did you learned from people you've interviewed?

Yeah, I mean, I'd say the number one thing is, how are you leading by example in all aspects. How are you showing up yourself? I heard a story where these rich people hired a nanny, and then the kids never even saw the parents. Wow. Are you doing the dirty work? Are you doing the dishes? Are you How are you showing up for it? Are you just outsourcing everything and not showing up for your responsibility? And how are the parents treating money? Because I think if you earn money, which I think everyone should have a chance to do it, which they do, and you have access to be able to have help, to get groceries, to buy whatever things you want, you shouldn't do that. You should definitely do it. It makes your life easier. But I think it's figuring out what are the parts you really want to impact on your kids and how are you teaching them that by doing it yourself. And so that's something that with Mafe, it's talking about, do we want to have a bunch of staff? And I'm like, no, both of us have agreed, let's do the hard work in the beginning, and then we figure out, okay, where is it we don't need to always do these things, and we can hire help around that stuff.

Sure. That, to me, is how we're looking at it. I think most of the other people probably have been so focused on this money. I remember with Mafe, I brought her to my house. It's a $2 million house. It's gone down because the market's going down. Maybe it's one and a half by the time you watch it. I remember her brought her to my house, and she goes in the door, and I'm like, when I brought over dates in the past, it was a very long time ago. I'm Look at this house. I'm the man. Look at this house. Look at this. I have a photo of me once you walk in right there. She didn't give two to me. I was like, What the fuck?

I did all this work.

You're supposed to be impressed. I remember, and I asked her about it a few months ago. I was like, You came out of my house. You didn't care about it all. She's like, I just care about who you are. Wow. I was like, What? I was like, I got to do all this work. It was a beautiful moment for all of us. That's beautiful. Who are we without any of these extra things? Who are you as a parent? Who are you as an individual? How are you showing up as a partner in your business, in your relationship, at work, whatever that is? That was a great moment. I'm very lucky to be with someone like her. That in parenting, I have a great partner in that. Then how am I showing up that Just as a dad, and I asked a friend of mine, I was like, How do you be a good parent? I feel there's people who had great parents, they go to therapy. There's people who had bad parents go to therapy and all these things. The friend was like, It's hard to say how that's going to happen. You just have to give a fuck, and that's it.

That's it. Just show up, leave by saying, I'm going to give a fuck on these kids. You can't really control all the other outcomes of this stuff. But if you're doing that, you're doing your best around it. That's beautiful, man.

When we enter a relationship from survival or stress or lack of worthiness or neediness. I need someone to make me feel more loved because I don't have it myself. What do we usually attract and create when we're acting from neediness, survival, and a lack of wholeness.

Yeah, I think all of that lack, all of that separation, is separation from love. The problem is that we've just been conditioned into thinking that it comes from out there. It comes from that person, that drug, that circumstance, that thing, that object, that app, whatever it is. You're relying on your outer world to change your inner world. When things are good, you feel good. When things feel bad, you feel bad. So you're out of fact. You're not a cause in any way. So what if, though, you had a way to find that independent of your outer world? The data we have suggests it's absolutely possible. Now you're free. You're free. You don't need anybody or anything. You'll be a lot cooler to hang around with. Everybody will be like, Well, that's just... That would allow them... I know this. You're presence would allow them to move out of survival. They would open their heart a little bit more. They trust you a little bit more. They'd be more kind, they'd be more soft-spoken, less egocentric. Your presence would do that. And may not be the first time, but They would start figuring out like, Wow, this guy is really different.

Something's different about him. And that's just because you're present and you're giving them your attention without judgment. You see how hard it is to change. You've actually made that change because you've made that change and you see that you've made that change, but you see that in them, you're no longer judging them. You have compassion for them like, Dude, that's a tough one. It took me a long time to get over that, but you're not judging them. What's wrong with you? You're like, Oh, my God, I totally know what that's like. You've crossed that river. So of course, you would never offer them advice unless they asked you. You would probably give them a one-liner. People who heal in our work, so many times people in a state of desperation will say, What meditation did you do? And they laugh at them like, There's nothing to do with the meditation. It was just I changed. It was an arduous process. But they're telling a different story. They're telling the story of their future. They're not telling the story of their past, their ex or their betrayer or whoever that person is. They have no regrets about that.

Because why?They.

Wish them well.They.

Hope they're happy. It's not like they're even trying to forgive to be spiritual. People who try to I'm really going to try to forgive that.Working hard to forgive.Yeah, that's just not how that works. You are in love. You don't have to try to forgive. You just don't want to lose this feeling. You take your attention off that person. You're good. There's a lot of freedom in that. That's how people heal. They're building their own field. They're giving their body their energy back again. They're taking their power back in so many ways. Then there is community, a collective consciousness. I I like great conversation. I like spirit and conversation. I like to be taught. Scientists are people in my life that I love. I like to engage in just what the limit is and everybody take us on a journey to see how far we can go. I don't like to talk about things where there's pain or suffering or where there's ego. I don't really like that. That's a consciousness, and everybody's done it. But if you're truly on the path to evolution, you outgrow it. You outgrow complaining. You don't want to make yourself unhappy anymore.

You outgrow talking about yourself like you're better than anybody because if you do, you got to face off with that person tomorrow and overcome them tomorrow. After a while, you're like, Dude, just stop that so you don't have to deal with you like that anymore. You start outgrowing things that are just a side effect of your evolution. It's not like you have to try to do it. It's just the side effect of a change in consciousness, a change in energy, a change in awareness, a change in emotional state. In the heart, it is the selfless place. It's a selfless place. We give up from the heart. We care from the heart. We're kind in our heart. We're compassionate in our heart. We're inspired in our heart. We fall in love with our heart. We're grateful in our heart. I think people feel with every other part of their body but their heart. They just don't feel with it. Practice feeling with your heart. God, we have such great great data. We put these monitors on people for 24 hours. I used to think primarily it was women that had these moments. Now we're seeing that men have them, too.

In fact, the men whose spouses take them or partners take them to an event and they really don't want to come, these guys are going to be fine. They have really big moments. So we see them in their meditation where you can these little blocks of five minutes and you see the heart just drop in the coherence. And it's just beautiful. It's beautiful. You can It's very easy to see. You see this person sustaining it for 45 minutes during their meditation. So you're like, All right, this person nailed it. They go to the next meditation, another 45 minutes again. Done it once, done it twice. It looks like this person is getting a scale. All of a sudden, they do it a third time, another 45 minutes, and then, lo and behold, those three meditations in one day, then they're in their room, they're unpacking and getting ready for bed. They're still wearing the heart rate monitor. And while they're not in a meditation for one hour, while they're just unpacking and getting ready, there's an enormous amount of hard coherence that's taking place for a whole hour. Why? Because just like a person who has a panic attack, who's embracing the worst case scenario in their mind every day and emotionally feeling the anxiety and the fear of that event actually occurred, that image of that emotion, that stimulus and response, that thought and feeling, has conditioned the body to become the mind of anxiety.

The body has a panic attack with you or without you. Try as you may to control it with your conscious mind. You can't control. You program subconsciously, right? So is it possible to have a spontaneous love attack? That's what she had. She had one hour or her body went into ecstasy. And you could see it. I said, what did it-A love attack. A love attack. I said to her, What did you do? She said, and I saw it, she got in bed and she laid down and rolled over and went to sleep. So you see her about an hour and 10 minutes, perfect heart coherence, and just see it drop off into sleep. Thirteen, 1400 different chemicals are released to restore and repair the body. The love that you feel is the glue that creates connection on a cellular level, on a molecular level, on an atomic level. Peel the atom all the way back right to the center of the nucleus, and you have nothing but energy. That energy is what's called low entropy. And low entropy is high order. And high order is high energy. And it's a lot of power. So as you move closer to that source of everything physical and material, we have such great data to show that people actually run into it.

When they do, they're The autonomic nervous system goes into these elevated states of high, high, high gamma brainwave patterns. Now, gamma is super consciousness. Gamma is very conscious, very aware. So the person's whole The whole entire autonomic nervous system is processing hundreds of standard deviations of gamma outside of normal. That's not a little gamma. It's so coherent. Now, the autonomic nervous system touches every single cell in the body, controls and coordinates all those systems. So now imagine stress is autonomic dysregulation, incoherence. This is autonomic regulation, but this is not a little regulation. This is enormous amount of energy that's taking place in the brain. And the autonomic nervous system is on fire, and every single cell in the body is getting touched by that frequency. And that frequency is carrying information, and energy is informing matter, and that connection creates that feeling of pure love, of ecstasy, of bliss. And now the person takes a piece of it with them. They become more of it, and it becomes them. And so we measure their blood, and there's a lot of oxytocin. We measure their blood, and there's information in that blood. It wasn't there before that heals cancer.

That reverses Alzheimer's. That causes the viruses to not enter the cell. I mean, that causes the microbiome that changes in a matter of days. So that interaction with that unifying field of energy that exists beyond our senses, whose signature is oneness, whose signature is wholeness, whose signature is pure love, means then that it lives within you and all around you. Then you'd be remembering who you are and where you came from, which is pure love, and it is the most familiar unfamiliar feeling you ever have. It's not chemical. It's electric. When you have that moment, many times there's an upgrade that takes place in the body. There's a disease, now it's gone. There's the eczema, it's gone. There's a myasthenia gravus, now it's gone. There's the Parkinson's, now it's gone. There's the blindness, now it's gone. There's energies in forming matter, and that enormous amount of regulation, high amounts of regulation, is raising the body in frequency. It's raising the body in light, and all disease is lowering in frequency. So the person is connecting to something way bigger than their senses, way something beyond their senses, and it's coming from within them. You only need one of those, and you're okay.

From that point forward in the way you see life. Some fail, some illusion, some conditioning, some hypnosis is removed, and you're now way more relaxed in your heart and way more awake in your brain instead of unconscious, stressed out in a program.

When I think you're more awake in your heart and your brain, you start to attract more great opportunities, and you start to see, is this person in alignment with my type of-Resonating,resonating in that consciousness.

Exactly. You'll be able to find your tribe. It'll be as obvious as anything. Exactly.

Whether you're looking for a partner or friends or a community or a place to work. A business partner that you can trust.

Exactly. You resonate and you feel that. The heart is a strong element in the creative process. So if you have a coherent brain, then you're sending the signal out into the quantum field. That's the potential in the quantum field that you're selecting that already exists. And you got to have an intention and more the more coherent the brain, the more the electrical signal takes place in the field. But if you want to create the experience, the synchronicity, the opportunity, you got to need a coherent heart. And the heart is the magnetic field. And the magnetic field draws things to us. So now we don't have to go get it any longer because that's what we do in three-dimensional reality. All of a sudden, you start noticing, I really didn't do anything. Well, I got the email, I got the phone call, I got the opportunities. I met this person, led to this, and all of a sudden, I have this life. If you're going to believe in that future that you're imagining with all of your heart, it's got to be open and activated. Train people to get in that place. When they're in that place, they have wonderful relationships with everything and everybody because they're okay with themselves.

Yes.

Can you explain? I love this explanation. At your retreat, you talk about this over and over, sending an attention with a signal from your thought out into the field. Then with your heart, drawing this intention from the physical world to you physically. Can you explain? Every time you say this, I love it. It just reminds me about the power of intention and having a coherent heart and brain connection. Those are the tools. Being so clear on your thought and thinking of why you want this thing, not wanting it from a place of lack, but already feeling grateful, all these different things that you teach in the retreat. But can you explain what this does when you have a signal from the brain and you have a magnet from the heart? How does that work in the physical world? And how can we apply this to... If someone's been single for a long time and they're like, You know what? I'm ready for love. I'm ready for a greater connection, and I've let go of my past. I've forgiven. I feel like I'm in a space that's allowing me to feel loved myself, and I'm allowing to bring a partner to me.

How does this connect to that as well?

Okay. Well, let's talk about how we typically create. We basically create in lack of separation. You're walking down the street and you see someone with a nice car and you're like, I love that car, and you don't have it. You want that car because you don't have it. You're going to go out and work or do whatever you can to get that car. In order for you to get that car, we're going to in the plane of demonstration, you got to do things. There's the thought of having the car, and then there's the experience of having it. The distance between the thought of the car and the experience of getting it is called time. That's separation. Then in three-dimensional reality, everything that we do to bring those two points of consciousness together takes time and energy. We got to do things. We got to get up and go try things and try things out and do things and work. Then you buy the car, finally, and then you may have to make payments, so you got to keep working to pay it off. It takes a lot of time and energy. In three-dimensional reality, the plane of demonstration, there's a separation between the thought of what you want and the experience of having it.

You got to do things to get it, and that's called time. Then the cause and the effect, one point of consciousness, another point of consciousness, the separation is called time. Okay, well, you can get really good at that. You can get trained, you can go to school, you can make a lot of the right choices, you can meet the right people, you can figure out ways to accumulate more things and get all the things you want that you think that makes you happy, right? But after a while, you're like, some people never actually create the thing they want. They spend their entire life in the lack because they're waiting for that event to happen to take away the lack of not having it. Their senses are fooling them into the illusion of separation. They're creating matter to matter. Matter to matter takes time and energy. You get really good at doing it. There's this invisible field of unifying energy that exists beyond the senses that's unifying everything physical and material. The forces of nature, the quantum physicists have been trying to unify gravity and strong and weak nuclear forces and electromagneticism. There's some intelligence that's keeping all of this in order after an explosion.

After an explosion, there's normally a disorder, but we got a lot of order here. Unifying all those principles is really what quantum physics is about, and finding mathematics to do it. But undeniably, in this realm, in the quantum realm, there's no separation. There's nothing physical. There's nothing material. There's no matter. That's all taking place in three-dimensional reality. It's all energy. It's all frequency. It's all vibration. It's all information. It's all consciousness. It's all thought. That is that invisible field of energy. So okay, that invisible field of energy, Einstein said, The field is the sole governing agency of the particle. He didn't say the particle controls the particle. He said, The field controls the particle. So if I can change information in the field, I should be able to affect the particle matter. So it turns out the atom is 99.9999% energy, information. There's nothing physical or material there, 0.0001 material. The probability of us seeing the truth of reality is zero. We are only seeing a small spectrum of frequency, the rainbow, visible light, bouncing off the most stable form of energy called matter, giving us this hologram, this illusion of separation. If there was a way to create from the field instead of from matter and move closer to source and create from a place of wholeness and less from separation, I'd have to be able to get to the field.

Yes. Then if where you place your attention is where you place your energy, and you could develop the ability to take all of your attention off your body, all your attention off all the people in your life, all the objects and things you self your phone, your car, your house, whatever. All the relationships with all the people, all the places you need to go, the place you're sitting, the place you grew up, the place you sleep, the place you work. And nothing about the predictable future of the familiar past and settle into the present moment. You would go from a somebody to a nobody, from a someone to a no one, from something to nothing, from somewhere to nowhere, from some time to no time. That is the moment your pure consciousness. You would be disinvesting all of your attention, all of your energy out of this three-dimensional reality, out of the known, and placing it on the unknown. Now, let's demystify the process. Take away everything physical and material in the universe. Take away the Earth, take away the moon, take away all the planets, all the moons from the planets, take away the sun, the light from the sun, the stars, all the light from the stars, the galaxy.

Take everything away. Wipe everything When you're filling out physical material, what are you left with? Nothing. It turns out that that nothing is filled with a lot of frequency and energy. That's true. I don't know how to explain nothing to a materialist. But when you can linger in that place without a name, without a face, without a body without a diet, without a disease, without a profession, without an identity in any way, without a past, and you can linger as pure consciousness, something really profound happens to the brain. Different compartments of the brain that have been modulated or compartmentalized They're subdivided because of the stress hormones. You shift your attention from one person to another person to another problem to another thing. That habituation fragments the brain. The brain becomes a house divided against itself, and you narrow your focus, you over focus, you become obsessive about something. That's what we do in stress. It turns out if you open your awareness to nothing, the brain starts getting highly organized. Different compartments of the brain that were modulated start unifying. The brain starts firing this more holistic state, and the whole entire brain is resonating at the same frequency.

Now, you get that brain going for that period of time like that, waves that are coherent start interfering with each other. When they do, they create bigger amplitudes. The higher amplitude, the higher the energy in the brain. Now you have resonance in the and the brain starts getting very mathematical and very organized. That brain that's coherent, the entire brain is functioning as one neurological network. The two hemispheres are coming together, and there's this psychic union called wholeness. Now, That state of coherence in moving out of the beta brainwave states into a slower brainwave state produces electrical signals. That electrical signal is the intention. The more clear your intention is, the more coherent The coherent, the brain is, the stronger the signal. If you decided to create from the field instead of from matter, and you were just pure consciousness, and I asked you to send the signal out from a coherent brain, and whatever that thing is that you wanted, we trained you how to do that, then you would be shimmering the entire vacuum, that entire void. You are that. You're not you any longer. You're the source. If you're the source and you're sending the signal out, then you're touching the consciousness of everybody, of everyone, of everything, of everywhere, every time.

The entire field is becoming electric because of your intention. Now, if you're source, why would you go anywhere to get anything? And so consciousness is coherent brain. And then the energy of the heart is love. And pure love is source. So if I asked you to fall in love with that future and I ask you to draw the future to you with the magnetic field of the heart. The heart produces a magnetic field up to three meters wide. That's studied. So now, love is the blue that holds the atom together. If I got a coherent heart, the more coherent my heart is, the more energy in my heart, the more I can draw my future to me. So you send the signal out, you draw the experience to you, and now you don't go anywhere to get anything. When there's a vibrational match between your energy and some potential in the quantum field, that when there's a match, you start seeing those synchronicities. You've synchronized your energy to that possibility. And so you start seeing the coincidences and the synchronicities and the opportunities. I'm not talking about a parking space. When we're talking about real-life events.

This is a critical moment for people because I think people don't realize how powerful they really are. When that event happens in their life, they will look back at every single betrayer, everything that in their past, and they won't care any longer. That's the moment their past no longer exists because they're proving to themselves what they innately already know that they may have forgotten, which is what? That is the creator of their life. When you have that synchronicity, you are humbled by the truth, and you feel this sense of greatness, like real greatness. I am honored to be human. I'm honored to be alive. I'm honored that I actually created. It's not the wealth. You're going to ask anybody in our community. It's not the health, it's who you became. People think they want this or they want that, but I'm telling you what they want is wholeness. When you have wholeness that you no longer want. How would you want when you're whole? Game change is really amazing. The closer we get to source and lets our work, how deep can you go? We teach people how to go as deep as they can.

There's a brainwave state that takes place that I can predict. When we see it, I know the person is going to have a big moment. In fact, we can predict it, We can replicate it, and we can induce it. The person goes into these really slow theta brainwave states, and that's when they're in a hypnotic state. They're very suggestible to information. They're in coherent theta, and when they move outside of normal, we know the next moment is they're going to hook up, and the brain is going to go into Gamma and they're going to feel a whole lot of love, not a little love, like a lot of love. It's going to be an arousal, and it's going to be ecstasy. It's going to be bliss. To them, they're They're seeing the unknown self, the 99.99% of reality that we're unaware of. And don't exclude yourself from that. And so the person has a moment in the unknown and a profound mystical moment or an understanding or a download or a connection to the source or a healing or something that takes place. It took a bite of wholeness. It took a bite of it.

They became more whole. And when you're more whole, you don't need as much. That's right. When you don't need as much, you're really cool to be around. It's really easy be around you. In fact, if you're so whole that you feel so abundant that the only thing you want to do is give, we have people in this work that have created millions of dollars and they're giving it away. And the more they give it away, the more money they keep getting. That's the experiment for them. That's their experiment. They're trying that out as an experiment. Why? Because an abundant person would never hold on to anything. They have more than they need. So the side effect of creating from the field instead of from matter shortens distance between the thought of what we want and the experience of having it. That means there's less time. In the greater frequency, the closer we are to source, the less separation is two points of consciousness. It means there's less time. It should happen in a shorter amount of time in three-dimensional reality. In that event, it's none of your business when it's going to happen or how it's going to happen.

That's the key. Because the moment you try to predict it, you're back to the Newtonian model of reality.

You're wanting and needing again.

You're laying a known over the unknown. The consciousness that lives within us, that source says, I honor free will, go for it, do it your way. We have to lay down the very thing we used our whole life to get what we want for something greater to occur. That's not an easy thing. Oh, man. Because there's such a propensity to jump in there and do. I know. Control it or force it. We control, we force, we predict, we fight for it, we manipulate, we cheat, we lie, we steal. We do everything when we're mad or trying to change matter to take away that lack or separation. But if there's an alternative way to do that, to shorten the distance between one point of consciousness and another point between cause and effect, and you start believing that you're the creator of your reality, you stop trying so hard. People in this work, I think the excitement for me, and what I'm proud of in terms of our community, is that they do the work. Not because they have to or they want to please God or do the right thing. It's not that. They don't the magic to end in their life.

They don't want it to end. It's not like, Oh, jeez, I got to go create my life. It's like... Someone sent me a text just yesterday, a very, very, very wealthy, very successful person, and he said to me, I need to take a break from creating. I'm going to take a break. Is that okay? Is it okay? His whole life has just gotten super beautiful, and he's so alive again. All these wonderful things happen. He said, I almost don't I don't feel worthy. I almost don't feel worthy in so many great things. You know how many times you showed up for yourself? You aren't worthy. That's why it's happening. You aren't worthy. You showed up, man. If you don't show up, you don't believe you're a creator. You show up, it means you do believe. And so many people, as I said, they may say, Well, I think this stuff works, but I don't know if it works for me. This is a big moment because if you don't show up, then you don't believe it's possible. But if you show up, you still believe it's possible. So showing up for yourself every day, investing in yourself, is investing in your future.

People say to me, Well, I did it for two weeks and nothing happened. I always say to them, You're not that good. I don't know what else to tell you. It's not like it doesn't work for you. It's just like, learn a little bit more knowledge. Understand what you're doing. Your health condition isn't changing. Okay. You're in a relationship, you're in a relationship, and you're in a relationship and you want a relationship in love and you're living the three quarters of your day in fear. You think you're going to attract love? You got to be able to feel that feeling instead of fear. When it's the hardest, it matters the most. Then you're worthy. You're worthy of love. When you get to that point where you're worthy of love, it's not like entitlement. I'm worthy of love. That's not how that works. You are worthy of it. You're so worthy of it, you're okay without anybody. That's when it gets really good. That's powerful.

When you don't need it.

Because you don't need anything.

Because you feel whole.

Exactly. Now, I call that the natural state of being. That's why we practice so much, relaxed in the heart and awake in the brain, because there are so many biological changes, neurological genetic changes that take place in that present moment. So many wonderful There's a lot of wonderful changes. So the person who wants the wealth, the person who wants the relationship, they can't be saying, or the health, they can't be saying, Well, how come I'm not healed? The person who's in the process of healing would never say that. That's That's the old self that says, How come I don't have a new relationship? Well, we'll figure it out. Two weeks went by and were you spending the rest of your day in fear and in lack? Were you hating yourself and hating your life? Who do you think? You think you're worthy of love at this point? You're not going to be happy. No one's going to make you happy until you make you happy. That's true. That changes everything. You find that person and they're happy for no reason. And not just happy like always happy, but a sensibility that they can manage themselves and manage their emotions and manage their attention in such a way that's admirable.

You're inspired by that person. Your relationship, the person that you're with is an inspiration to you. Like, wow, I'm inspired by this person. I'm moved by this person. I want to show up for this person. I want to give as much as they give in this relationship. I want to care as much as they care. I want to be as kind as they are. I want to see when everybody somebody else reacts, this person doesn't react. Something is cool about that person. That gives the person or the people that we're in relationship permission to show up differently. And that's when it becomes infectious. That's when it becomes Wonderful.

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