As someone who would be more rude, particularly in the customer service side, rude customer service people, yeah, yeah, I will drop kick you so far back into 2015 to go say sorry to all those people. You ready? Yep, let's go. Hey, guys, welcome back to the first try and first run of the opening of the show. My name is Boyfriend and I am featuring Lord DIY today on the number one show in Latvia, while til nine.

No Internet and no air horns, but OK, yeah, but I think about it, it's like air horns that go directly like air horns. Do do do anything new. Also, I want to just get out of the way now, I am two days old toilet filler, so although I am not bruised and I am very thankful for no bruising, I am I'm a little puffy, I'm a little swollen, I'm a little puffy. I have a whole vlog that is going out and so.

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All of my ads. Right, clicking on all the links and the lip filler blog. We'll be waiting for you. Oh, yeah. So I'm I'm a little I'm a little weird up in here, feeling a little lumpy. But we're having it. We're we're good. We're good. We're chillin. We're chillin.

Lumpy was number 13 of the dwarfs. Oh, yeah. Sleepy, sleepy, happy, sleepy, horny hump. Hungry, lumpy. OK, yeah. Yeah. No they're doing. That's so nice. Yeah. That's so nice. OK, I like to remind everybody that the future is female.

Jeremy loves to walk around the house with that mug and just be like he'll point to me like Babe the future, it's female. Well, you know, you won't have the dumbest thing I've ever done. I can't wait to hear what they say. This is a true story. I could make this up. Right. So I don't know, maybe five, six, seven, eight years ago at some point in time between when I dropped out of college and now, OK, just to kind of show you how stupid guys are, but also the education system failed me.

OK, sure. There's a tweet. A real tweet.

It's not Photoshop. There's a tweet. It's gone. It's been deleted. So I kind of feel like, oh, yeah, yeah. Where I lump like racists, something else is somebody else ists with feminists all in the same sentences of like tying them all to go, you know, to go to hell. He's a feminist was a bad thing. I mean it's a bad thing because I just thought that at the end of it. Yeah, I thought it was like I think in my mind everyone who hates women or something.

Yeah, well, it was like women who hate it. It's women. Right. But it's like women that hate everyone. That isn't a very specific type. I don't know what I thought of man anyway. And so it a real treat that like I love like, you know, racist, misogynist feminists can all go off to hell. Yeah.

Yeah, I, I'll tweet, I would, I just feel as if I have been heavily bullied or I'm like remover or Segou for my improper use to broadcast to of Ferrey.

Yep. And I told feminist's to go to hell at one point in time. I did by accident with good intention. Right. But I want to say I sat there wasn't like anyone, it wasn't a spellcheck error. Right. I was as you can all go off. Right. OK, the internet corrected me very quickly. Oh we also we're back with a really happy and back to our regular disappointment. But last week was like sob town for me at least.

Yeah, it was. Yeah. But this big bacteriologist appointment back to our bullshit. Yeah.

Yeah. So anyway, that was one time the Internet corrected, corrected the stuff and saved me.

Yeah. But I got to point out that like, you know, I'm not the smartest in middle of the world, but I'm also not the dumbest. And if I can get through, I don't know how many years of higher education and not be aware of the fact that feminist wasn't a small cult hate group. Yeah.

Yeah, yeah. That's tough. Yeah.

The education system failed you also. I was I was listening but I was half listening, so I just realized that my lips actually look better from this side because I have a small little debate that I still need to get filled on this side, that I was aware of going into the appointment, but we didn't want to overdo it. And I'm realizing now that, like, this is not the good side. So, like now I think I just need to do the rest of the podcast like this because I'm I'm thinking about it now.

Right now I'm looking at your screen and it's just a big ol mike right in the middle of it. So if you want to. Oh, that's so nice about this.

About this. This is good. It's good. Oh. Why have we done a laying down podcast before. Oh, this is noise high audio listeners. This is noise.

And if we could go back into this podcast not being a sob story. Yeah. Sit up.

Oh, this is so cool. So we don't shoot in forty for just to see your chin.

I don't understand. All right, Lauren. Would you like to give a recap of the week you had brought into it? Oh, I mean, what do we do this week? I mean, lip filler was really I going into lip filler. I prepared myself to be like out for the count for like three to five days with bruising, just the way that my friends who have gotten the filler prepped me.

And which in Los Angeles is most people which friends you could have just had friends, which is so many people get like like multiple sources slash friends advised me, like, get ready with your arnica, gel your ice pack and four days of solid bruising and up chillin. I'm good. Good to hear. I'm good. Right. So that was that was. That was my Friday. And there we are Saturday or Sunday.

We got to because we played tennis today. Yep. I was terrible of so bad.

Lauren's attitude was worse than her playing. You know what though? I'm just like not like when I start. I'm someone who like loves to succeed so much when I feel myself and this is I'm poisoning myself. Like, I fully understand that. Like, I am poisoning the well here is that like when I start to do poorly at something and it just goes down and down and down, I just, I just I'm more sad and such frustrated the entire time that I end up like shooting myself in the foot and doing even worse.

Yeah. Halfway through that that are like and such. And I was like, you know what, I should just feed him bowls and then you can, you can get good and just practice.

What a good attitude. I mean, what are solve both problems, you want to hit more balls in than I could be Soki just hitting balls, you know, or to go where you like. Look at that situation like a grown adult. Yeah, a grown adult almost forcing you to be there. You could left. I mean, we paid for it, though. Yes, I paid for it, uh, for you. How about ATD anyways?

Jeremy gets to go to a solo tennis lesson tomorrow because it's the night baby, and we got two weeks left. And so you are solo for tennis the next two weeks because I need to watch The Bachelor live Monday nights.

Go. I got to say right now, the moment I get done with the future is the future. Female coffee here. Yeah, we're going straight to the ice cream sundae for me. So I'd give you about 20 minutes before tipsy Jeremy to take it over. So if you have anything that requires my mental capacity, let's hop on to it.

I mean, do we ever talk about anything intellectual on this podcast? Last time we broke down a theorem and we did we did in the same podcast that I solved having my depression moment, we also talked about a theory.

I'm coming off a week where a lot of people watch the podcast. They are. That was tough, babe. It's we've got depth got levels.

We're like an onion, like an onion. It cries like Shrek said, like an onion. You want to tell people what I did the other time?

You have a sad sack all day. I'll give you a hint, you're having a second day in Shrek. Oh, it was a sad day. That was a fucking too high because my meds were, like, not the right dosage. I was too highly medicated. The dosage was too high on a prescription antianxiety medication that my psychiatrist gave me. He started me too high. I took it and I died. I sort of died. I was on another planet.

So Jeremy brought me up in a little burrito, stuck me on the couch in some crackers, some ginger ale, some some water and Pottruck on me.

And then I just waited it out for all boyfriends sort of listening this. So, hey, guys, all four of, you know, seven, eight, nine eleven. Nine eleven. No. So I love you guys. At any point in time. The girlfriend's not quite feeling right. Rapper Navarino put her down, give her something to drink. Give us a bite to eat. Shrek.

Shrek. Everyone loves Shrek. Yeah. The classic I know you're going to feel like could be interchangeable with Finding Nemo.

Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Because Dory. Your story. Funny, funny, Nemos, like the classic, like bonding, talking like 10 years after Finding Nemo, I feel like I like to find Dory. That was really good. I too, loved Finding Dory. I took a thought, I believe, to the Dory premiere. You've told me that three times. Yeah, I haven't told them that. OK, that's so nice. What are the thought of is now.

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OK, so inspired by a movie that we watched about 45 percent of the other day, we went to a Disney Drive-In situation and they they were playing 10 things I hate about you.

And I mean, I've seen that movie a handful of times and so many ways we went to the of ever actually seen it, like all the way through nineteen forty five percent of it.

I think I'm good. Yeah. Yeah. It's always I thought that I was inspired by the title of that movie for today's podcast, 10 Things I Hate About You.

And I want to be very specific that it's not about you like you Jeremey boyfriend. Jeremy got you. Yeah. Some of these things, you know, if you happen to identify with them, maybe maybe they're a little bit about you, but these are not targeted towards you.

You know, I actually wasn't in fear of them being targeted towards me until you listed out, just that they weren't talking about, like, look at me now. I feel a little bit more like you're fine.

You're fine. Actually, when there's no, like, sort category, there's it's it's it's a suck category. Yeah. I mean, that is really hard to relate to anybody. That would just be me category.

Yes. I and I ask the good people of Instagram like what their least favorite characteristic like within dating is, and that could be like the flirting stage, the texting stage, the dating stage, the long term relationship stage, the married stage like, like it does, it's not specific. We don't discriminate. We don't discriminate on stage. Yeah. And your statement. OK, and holy shit, the people of Instagram went in. I was like, do y'all should we do group therapy because y'all got a lot to say.

And so I'm glad that I was able to be a safe space for people to vent their their their issues, their struggles, their frustrations, because they were very pointed towards whoever I think that they might have been dating.

These were situational. You're saying these may have been situational. They're very much fucking situational.

Yeah. Yeah. So anyway, so I kind of rounded up, rounded, rounded up the best answers and the good Instagram photos on Instagram, the world's online account. That was because there was so much Segou was Lordi I. July 22, 2009. Yeah, I mean, it takes three seconds to follow is free, baby. That's true.

Although I will say that there's I have been off I am in the middle of being offered brand deals right now for my Instagram.

Jeremy got offered a brand deal for a dollar amount that is absurd, obscene, obscene, obscene. It's one might call it a bad investment on their part. And I will say that like and I don't mean to make a tangent, but I don't make a tangent. I'm just not someone who's interested in, like, renting out my Instagram space for any old thing. You also post three times a year. Right. So it's like quite a piece of real estate.

Right. And for me, it was just like, I am not interested, don't need the money. I don't like it. I must I would have to love the product and they'd have to pay me out the ass. And by God, if you see a Brando coming out soon, that they check both those boxes.

Right. All right. There's a there's a price tag on almost everything. Oh, no, I'm for sale. Yeah, I'm I am, in fact, for sale.

If anyone's ever had any inclination as to the otherwise incorrect, I am for sale, OK?

I could be purchased. I'm glad that we said that's right. Yeah.

OK, that's what the whole podcast was about. OK, so I'm going to I'm going to list these out. OK, go. We'll go one by one, one through 10 ten. And you can react, you can share thoughts, you can play devil's advocate. And these aren't necessarily like me being in a heterosexual relationship. These are not just like towards guys, these are just significant others in general.

Some of them might be towards guys. Some of them might be towards guys. Yeah. The way that people were writing these in my Instagram DM's, they were using a lot of key.

I will say that we there was a certain point in time where our male listeners were going up. It was like going from three to four to five to six. I've noticed that shrink gone back down. Now we're back to about three and a half, four percent.

So, guys, I know what you don't know how many boyfriends watch on their girlfriends account with the girlfriend. You're wrong. You're underestimating. Listen, the guys and I have a Facebook group. We say hi to each other. Yeah.

Yeah. You know what? Our graphic designer who made that's what her her boyfriend wants to buy gets together. I don't know, Don yukky. OK, I tell me I get it. So the first one, ten things I hate about you. Number one, just the tip. OK, I'm just kidding. That's always the first one. But but someone did comment that and I was like, that's hilarious that. Yeah, they were like, why do you guys try to coax you into just the tip?

So here's the deal, I have been coaxed into that situation, right? No one wanted to just put the tip in you. Let's walk this back. Just the tip. Just the tip. Have you been coaxed into just a tip before?

I have not been coaxed into just the tip, but once in trying to know that, I just didn't I don't know what the story is going.

This is fun.

So the person that I dated before I dated the. OK, wait, hang on. The person I lost my virginity to, the person the person I dated before that person. So boyfriend number one. Mm hmm. We like attempted once and we were like, let's just put the tip in.

Let's just see what happens. Let's see what instead of what happened was the tip did not go in, OK? And that was kind of the end of that. But I do have a friend in high school who did she she might have literally lost her virginity this way. I'm quite on. Oh, it's a new trending picture on the bull terrier thread on Reddit. It's so exciting. I can't wait to look at Athena, so I'm not entirely sure she lost her virginity this way, but it may have been.

And she'll listen to this and text me after if I'm right or wrong. But he was just like, let's just honor was not virginity, was not virginity, can confirm was not virginity. He was like, let's just let's just put the tip in. Let's just put the tip in, hoping that once the tip is in, the rest can go in. What's funny is I've had the reverse of the scenario, OK?

I have been told to just put the tip in, OK, when I wasn't planning on having sex, I see I see how they go for both of you. We had sex. Yeah, I. I would love. I would love. Please let us know in the comments if if anyone has ever had just the tip in and only the tip on it. Well it's not like you basically had that uh not really like it just didn't go in.

I hadn't lost my virginity yet so I was like, oh, this hurts. No, thank you. And the tip, like the tip, made contact with the outside of me. And then when there was no the tip did not did not enter. Yeah.

It's a radio listeners. Lauren's making this like tea time out. So this is me. No, no, no. But this she's a long time, right. So this is a wall and the tip coming at the wall and it did not penetrate the wall. Mm hmm. Yeah. Got away. OK, so that's not a real one. I just wanted to say just the tip, because I think it's I think it's something that a lot of people have experienced.

And you know what? Now that I break it down, I feel like just the tip is a little creepier than I remember it being. Yeah. Because, like, I feel like guys want to get the green light on just the tip, hoping that'll get them a little closer to a green light all the way in. Yeah. No, I see that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. They're trying to turn a yellow light into a green one.

Right, right, right, right, right, right. Well they're at a red light.

They're looking for a yellow light bright yellow to turn into a green to turn into a green. Yeah. Yeah. We all know it's right to green goes to yellow them into red. It doesn't go from red to yellow to green. Yeah. No, no, no, no.

That's fucked up. Yeah that's fucked up. Yeah. OK, so let's, let's kick it off for real.

So listen, I've been in, I didn't take my ADHD medicine today so I am in. Unfortunately I'm usually the one that wrangles I think this thing and I'm not the one that's going to be Ranglin your Tenjin kid today.

Oh, my God. Yeah. As I said, Adderall not in me of it. We're going to go the long path today. Bucklin, get some popcorn. Let's go number one, when your significant other doesn't ask questions about your life, your day or your new anything. And so I have experienced this and I have questions and I would love to get your perspective on them, OK? Is it because they just don't care? Is it because they just genuinely don't think to ask?

Or is it because they just like don't they're just unaware answer. What is all the above. What do you mean, what does all the bells? Well, that's how that works either stupid Jeremy. So I don't think that it's any what it could be any of those, but it's probably all of those. At the same time. I don't think anybody goes into a scenario is like, oh, I know it's going to piss her off today, not asking her what her neighbors say.

They're not going to ask it like.

So I think it's and I think it's kind of like, oh, my God, I guess it does make sense. But also, I think people when they're like when they haven't been asked a thousand times what their day is like. Yeah. And there's a conversation like, I feel like you never ask me about my day. Right. Then it adds pressure after that conversation. Then it's the guy who really just has forgotten again, because he's tired or too the one thing I'm not going to do, not going to ask you about your day, because I've been there.

I've been there like had it confirmed at the end of a relationship. So that feels real good. Look, what doesn't feel good does not look it up.

Yeah. Yeah, no. I just think if you haven't had a conversation about it. Yeah. There's more than likely that the guy just doesn't know that you're interested in being asked about your day.

So like how do you have that conversation without adding a shit ton of pressure to it that makes both parties like on not defense, but like in that scenario, like I wanted to be like, why don't you like I was in my head, I was like, you don't care enough to, like, want to know or to think, to ask. And then it added, like, too much pressure. The scenario.

Well, my question would be this. Are you more interested in him knowing what it is that you did in a day or knowing that he is interested in knowing more about something that happened in his day that he doesn't already know about it?

A little of both, I think all the above. So you did you were completely satisfied if he was given a prompt before he walked in as to what you did in the day without having to be asked. So then one more time, you'd be perfectly satisfied if, like when he walked in the door, he was given a Wikipedia article of what happened in your day. So he didn't have to ask, but then he'd know. Are you satisfied?

I don't know.

I said a little bit of both. I said, like, it's the notion of, like, caring enough to, like want to be curious. I think another perspective was like, I care. Right. I'm curious. Why aren't you curious? Right. But here's your lesson. I'm not I'm not defending the guy as someone who asks questions and is interested in hearing the answer, like, I think he should ask, too. But I think you should know why you're getting upset by him, not asking whether you actually want him to know.

Like, if you are if something happened throughout the day that you want him to know about, that he'd need to ask for you to find out about like, oh, that's fair. 100 is one thing. Right? Why wouldn't you ask about this? People aren't mind readers.

And that was a pretty common thing, is that like my significant other expects me to be the mind reader. And I think that's where both parties get really upset and resentful. And I feel like I was and am pretty good at not being like I expect you to know.

Yeah. I mean, I guess the thought would be if you really want him to find out about a thing that happened in your day and you want to know whether he cares about that thing or not is you could allude to something that happened in your day, be like if you had been there, you would. Whoa, wait. What do you mean?

What we could you can agree, create a little curiosity. Yeah. You know, the foam. OK, well, the foam like you missed out like, oh my God, I walked into the grocery store and this guy was there. Oh my God. You had been so mad.

And if he does this, that's good. If he does this.

Yeah. He's not listening, right, OK? He's not listen. I guess he would care. He would care. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Or should we get right to the games? What I am saying is, as opposed to like you never fucking ask what happened to my day. You don't care. It's just like, oh my God, I is the mall today.

And let me tell you, if you had been there and start to walk off and if he just goes, yeah, well then he doesn't care. I didn't care. Yeah. You know what, that was another really frequent one. Was that like not my significant other does not listen. So I almost I almost feel like leaning into that scenario, someone might say that in hopes that it would pique their curiosity and they're just like playing fucking call of duty.

And then you end up walk away being like this motherfucker's playing college duty, not listening and doesn't care. Three strikes. You're out, bitch. Yeah, OK, so, I mean, that was some enlightenment and some solid approaches, I think, for anyone else experiencing that.

Yeah, yeah. No, too bad texters, so I guess this like under the umbrella, could also include, like ghosting or not wanting to text first. Oh, here comes the whiskey then anything.

And we haven't eaten dinner yet. Also, I know we got as long as as long as you were just like fully coherent enough to focus our steaks tonight and go at it.

And I don't want to sound like too much of a fracas right now, but I could grill steaks fucking flamed.

OK, well, like to use the word flame. That is good. That's a nice grill. Yeah. Yeah. And also our grill just incessantly sets all things on fire at all times, no matter what you're cooking. And it's not even a it's not even a cooking. Like it's not the chef's error. It really is just our grill sets things on fire like crazy.

Yeah. Cheers to you. Love you. OK, our Faizon Love, you are very, very excited about that joke that I continue to keep on the what are we are the. No, we don't love you. I don't understand why everyone always jokes about the Latvia thing. One I did have to look up were Latvia. Was that the the comment the first time was just a joke.

You know, it's almost slipped out. No, that was that was just the tip of Latvia of joke anyway. And I looked it up and I looked on like Google images.

Yeah. The beautiful place. Oh, great. Beautiful place. First place will travel to do our college shows lumpia and. Well, let's let's just hold back on the commitments to heading to Latvia. OK, OK, it didn't look like a necessarily a convenient flight. Oh, and by flight, I mean three of them. Right, OK. And when you live it by LAX and you have to take three flights to get a little off like.

Yeah. That's a lofty commitment. Alex was everywhere. And I will say that I did do my family tree DNA today just to see if by chance I had any Lotfy and. Yeah, yeah, no. But I am two percent Ashkenazi Jew, so.

Mazel. Seriously. Yeah, I'm so excited about that. I love that for you.

I mean just being really really European and a little bit. I'm not getting your ancestry DNA, said White. Well I didn't say I am white. It said it said Scottish. I'm Swedish. I'm 77. German. No, no. Now you're lying. Now I'm gonna look it up. Hold on, please. Scotland was the third one in your line. Scotland. Scotland was literally the third one that said get ready. Yep.

OK, so I'm seventy seven percent Western European, which is England, Wales and Scotland.

Oh I got, I got Wales and Germany makes up. Yeah. Scotland was the third one.

Wales in Germany two. Very different. I know. I'm sorry. I know I'm fourteen percent from Greece and Balkans.

OK, Balkans.

Not exactly sure with that. I've never heard of that six percent Italian peninsula. OK, two percent Ashkenazi Jewish. Yeah, what my my ancestry DNA was scary, accurate, it was 50 percent Japanese, like it was like forty nine point nine or something. It was so like spot on and then twenty five percent finishes almost and twenty five percent Ukraine like it was so like our heritage, our family tree that's been passed on, just like verbal confirmation has been confirmed, like no one lied in my family.

Yehiel, verbal confirmation, your verbal confirmation and like one oral history, verbal confirmation, but you just call it oral history, a tutorial, a you want oral history, oral history, a tutorial. Yes. The history of sucking dick you.

Oh, my God, Lauren a you are a L or a oh yeah.

I love to learn new words on this. All right. So oral history, it sounds like you're saying oral. Why am I just fucking maybe I'm fucking listen up. I've never heard this, and that doesn't mean much, but like, this is not something I've ever heard of. I would love to start evening the tally here of such a word, so please let this not be a word you know? Well, a R-AL is a word. It feels like something like a celestial sky tradition.

Fok I have no idea what you're talking about.

Well, fortunately, such a random will hopefully cut it or. No. Oh no. We live in the same baby. We live in this in the. So anyway, well, I cut and pasted my family tree in like grade three when I had to ask my parents where everyone was from, that family tree could still stand today. And such DNA has confirmed that.

So I was adopted. So that doesn't exist for me.

But I'll tell you where your family tree is. Right. But there's no there's no oral history. OK, now you're just throwing all around without us knowing what it is.

Well, I got to be honest, I like looked things up and there's just so many people, if Google thinks so incorrectly, that I'm not even really sure.

OK, yeah, sure. OK, so back to number two. So bad. TechStars includes ghosting, not wanting to text first like it's a game and like that she in a relationship is just like it's just no one has time for that if you're already dating. Well, yeah. And also finding the balance of not texting enough and texting too much, I feel like everyone's textiles are so different that it just needs to be a conversation. So I saw in the good people of Instagram and the Dems like it was back and forth between being like, we don't need to text at every moment of the day.

We'll talk when I see you. And then on the flip side, people being like, why is it a dry text or why isn't he asking about my day?

Why aren't we talking? So he. Going after the good people of Instagram, hmm, yeah, this is more of a. Hmm hmm hmm hmm. Because you kind of started this sentence here. You know, what I will say is that even even within, like friendships, I've got friends who I could text all day, every day, and I've got friends that will not respond to me. I know that it takes four to five business days to get a reply if I even get a reply.

So everyone's accents are just so different.

To be fair, I'm really going to take you back. I'm not going to texting everybody back through. And also, I don't ever partake in group threads.

I, I we were just with another couple who had purposely been adding Jeremy back into the group chat that I kept kicking him out of and they were doing with like such nice intentions, thinking that like, oh, German is like he's not in this one. Let's like restart the thread. And I would kick him out of the group chat because I know the communication should just come through me because we're sending dog photos. We're sending Meems, we're just interested and Jeremy is just not interested.

I just at any point in time, there's more than one person on a thread. Yeah. I just assumed somebody else can handle this.

I'm not getting even with his mom. I keep that chat alive. Right. I keep that channel. If you wanna talk to me, you know my number. If you want to talk to a group of people, well, then talk to that group. You know, I was thinking about the other day, like, when you live with someone, the text read of someone that you live with is so funny. Let me just let me just read some of our texts.

There's so they're just so random and they have no flow. You're never actually having a conversation.

OK, today, free p.m.. Can I snap up here. Yeah. Jaquet not here. I fell asleep for 10 min in the tub and ruined it. Oh well what I thought of our next podcast though you ruined everything and then before that a cat a cat video for that.

A husky singing video.

I was going oh yesterday an article about NFTE explains On the Verge Ay ay Jeremy go shower.

Friends are coming at six and then a video of Moose yesterday. Also, do you need milk or just eggs and yogurt? No response. Oh, you called me. That's why there's no response. Ah, I called you.

God forbid I call some bull terrier Meems Appletree Meems. Yeah. Here's a moose and then the text. But all that material to me. That's you to me. Oh I'm talking about moose. Yeah. Yeah. Great photos Friday. This be the last one. Do you want anything from McDonald's. Like we are never having an actual conversation because we're just like a floor away from each other. Yeah. As it should be.

Good. OK, but what do you how do you want to weigh in on just I'm sorry, I went to forty five different tangents like a telephone number two.

I didn't take my Adderall today so it's on you. So maybe this is the six things I hate about you. But no bad Texas is also something that I've experienced in past relationships.

And I think what they speak from personal experience. No, I know. I know. People are just so different.

It's the same thing with your love. Language is different if you're texting. Language is also different. Yeah. Like you can if you're sixteen. Language is different.

That's true. I am a wildly uncomfortable sex. I don't, I don't, I don't like to partake.

Yeah. No I, I'm not someone who's interested in sexting and I, I learned that that's not always the case. Oh yeah. Yeah, yeah I know.

And although guys are racked with reckless with those porn pics. Oh. Hmm.

Ranna vagina's no good. That's no good. I want to see that no context vaginalis is not my favorite type.

It's, it's the same, it's in the same category as unsystematic big. No one wants an unsolicited.

Lauren, that the alliteration, alliteration, we need to leave that out. Why, no, no, Hannah, you can put a little cat sound over top of that.

That's funny. Go on. But no, it's it's it's the same thing as love languages. OK, fine, you don't think, OK, here's the deal, I, um, I definitely subscribe to the the rule of if I want to text you back, I will text you back. Right. And if I don't want to text you back, I probably won't take you back right now. If I don't text you back, it might not be that I don't want to text you back.

It's just that I don't want to text you back at that second, which I think is is fine.

Just saying is fine.

Is it just like it's one of those conversations that you need to have to be like if if the sender is expecting a crazy rapid response or something you guys have talked about before, like it just needs to be communicated that like if I don't talk to you back immediately, it's not because I don't love you, but like I'm at work.

Right. Also, if someone takes you from work on a non-work hour, sometimes you have to set that space. That's true. Yeah, I do that for. Yeah. I don't care for my boss or anything else. Like if I don't feel like it's appropriate for me to be doing working hours a sundown three. Yeah. And it's not an emergency. Oh. Oh yeah.

Hundred percent. Hundred percent. Hundred percent. Especially like in our industry where it's like, like your company very much. I almost feel like your company's events that you guys like. The response is not the right word service are hardcore on weekends. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. I mean something like I've posted videos on Sundays almost my entire YouTube career and like that is a day where I don't want to respond to like work text, but like sometimes you got to, got to, but then sometimes just you just push that shit on Monday.

Yeah. On Tuesday or Tuesday you and I hit you. What about like ghosting TechStars?

I'm sure you've done that. Which time. Right. Yeah. OK, so I maintenace I guess here's the thing. If someone's ghosting you and this is kind of goes back to the salesman approach, you need to make sure that your responses or the things that you're trying to get response from don't become increasingly emotional. OK, so like firing off, like, you know, because, like, you don't get response back and you just assume he at fucking end quote.

Right. Right. Now, maybe he is now let's let's take the lens, though, let's say he is outfoxing, is the response so important that you're willing to blow up a phone and leave this like transcript of how upset and angry and how much control you're going to give him of your life? Because he's out not giving a shit.

Know, what you need to do is set the terms. Seems like you're busy. I haven't heard back from you for a while. No worries. If if this is something you're not interested in continuing, just let me know.

I saw the funniest fucking tech talk of this girl being like, if someone text you with something that you like, are not are not happy with it, it's like very open ended. And you think you might get ghosted your spine. Yeah, I'm I'm less interested in this now. Oh yeah.

That's Firepit a guy with that mind.

You send him in fucking like into sport mode. Well, you're going to get two types of responses from that one that you is going to set the tone straight. Yeah. Or one that's going to prove exactly what you already know, right.

Yeah. That's a that's a great way to make them choose. Yep. Hundred percent. I love that blunt force of choice.

Don't just add fuel to the fire that's already not working.

Hmm. Hmm hmm. Hmm. Force is the wrong word. Influence of choice.

Influence of choice. Offer no offer.

Offers only the right word because that that's too much like sitting on a platter.

Create the opportunity. There are a binary answer. That's a salesman, one or one right there. That is some salesman brought to you by Jerry Lewis. That one's very one on one. OK, number three, after you start officially dating the dates stop.

And I think I think this one's tough to to kind of like walk around because of covid and everyone's doing 95 percent less than what they did three covid. But I do think that, like, finding time to be romantic or have dates is almost even more important now that we're just home. So much so whether that be like we're having a hot tub tonight, we're having a hard time, we're hot tubbing tonight, we're making a bath and like doing the whole bath situation, making a cue or we're doing a movie night, whatever it might be, we're going for a walk around the neighborhood, you know, I mean, whatever it might be like.

I really think that, like, even in these times now, it is almost more important to set them aside.

Yeah, I think the important thing is why you're setting the time aside. It's not just like, OK, got it. We used to do everything on Thursdays. We're not on Thursdays anymore. Now practice with the boys. It's like, hmm, what is it that you enjoy doing that I enjoy doing that we can both do together that we both enjoy doing. And if you can't seem to come to that now, that's an issue. But if it's like the thing we did before, dating isn't happening anymore, like to a degree you get comfortable dating.

And that's the point. You want to be comfortable with someone. But finding like things that you enjoy doing together and voicing that you still want to do those things together is the important piece. Right?

I feel like I've seen this situation just sprout new insecurity in people when they're like, again, they don't care enough to do this anymore. And and I think it's just like when you get comfortable, you start using your energy in different ways. And so it's less about picking up at six thirty, going for dinner, like opening the door for you and then dropping you off at home and kissing you good night like it's less about that. And like doing the things that not the days don't matter.

But I think that your your energy just goes into different things.

Taking out the recycling bin, the trash is out. Nothing is sexier. Yeah. Nothing is sexy. It makes me so happy when you just look down that.

Wow. New trash bags recycle. Yeah. You wouldn't cut out the cut the cardboard up. Oh. Assembled it right into the recycling bins for foreplay right there. I know that, I know what I'm about to do tonight.

Change them sheets and change them sheets. I do towels. Jeremy says bed sheets.

And it is, it is a lorinda's all the things that are harder to mess up.

I'm not going to laundry and I'm OK with that. And it is just a fact that I have accepted. Yeah. All right. Moving on, a number four. Oh, this is one that fucking drives me at the wall. OK, showing up late, which would also include just your time management organization and being flaky. Listen, punctuality ruins a day for me, I, I fully agree, I fully agree, and we're not talking about the one minute er and how about the two minute er we're talking about the I'm going, it's going to go ahead and assume that your ass is going to be a little bit late or a little bit late to everything we do, because the moment that that sets the standard you're out, you're out.

I fully agree. I also think that what that says to me personally as someone who values being punctual, is that you don't care enough to make this a priority, to show up on time. Right. Like this engagement is not important enough to you for you to not waste my time, especially. It's like I think if there's an understood, like, similarity between, like, you guys are both always late and you fucking show up when you show up, like, I feel like there's mutual respect for the lifestyles there.

But if you set a time and someone is usually pretty punctual, I feel like it's just showing so much disrespect to that person's time.

Oh, I mean, I have a few friends that are just in my like if I'm going to invite them over, they're going to come on their own time. But the friendship embodies that and I'm OK with it. But I but I also would never set off with their ten fifteen. And if we're not there to pretend everything's ruined, like I'm going to show up there by myself at ten, 15, assuming they're going to be fucking late, early and they'll get there when they get there totally.

But for my significant other.

Well that should drive up the wall about all this. Always, always, always, always late and would ruin it because it's just like I got to the point, like I don't wanna make reservations under my name anymore because you are going to be late and then I'm going to be the one that has to use a fucking pseudonym next time I go to this place. Because how many times you have made me right now, there are some people out there that don't give a shit.

The Times relative just they'll get there when they get there. I know people who have shown up to their own shit.

Six out. Oh, yeah. Six hour hours.

And I think to like, it's OK. So when we invite, we have like one friend, Jeremy's best friend. If we invite him over for dinner, we don't wait for him. We just we just eat dinner and I'll save him a plate and he'll show up and he shows up. And that's fine because we're already at home. But if there's a flight, if there's a time that you have to leave to be somewhere on time, that will then affect other events of the day.

Oh, bitch, bitch. You know what, though? The individual I'm thinking of will for sure be like to dinner and everything else. The only reason that I allow him to continue to be like the things that I said in my life is because I've been with him when or at least I've heard of when he needs to make it to an international flight or be on time to be picked up for the things that require him to be on time. Otherwise, he has to pay through the ass to rebook or redo or whatever.

And he constantly by himself misses those as well.

So it's not personal. It's not it's not like that's how you operate. Like, I like this dude almost like missed his flight to Singapore. And I'm like, this is your vacation. I'm already here.

Like, I've been here a week. You're meeting me here and you're about to be two or three days late. I'm like, that's just you, right? That's just you. It's like I bought him the ticket. It's like, well, also, too, like his lateness then wouldn't have affected your travel, right? Yes. OK, I'm already there. Yeah, you're already there. Right.

But it's like if you were supposed to fly together on a trip that was scheduled out for just you two, a little bromance trip. Yeah, that that would be nice.

I mean, so nice. I would love that for you guys.

I would love to take a vacation with another guy. With you, I mean, whatever you wanted to come in happened on that trip as well. The bromance with my girlfriend.

Oh yeah, he can. Third wheel. Oh, OK. So some constructive advice from someone who is probably more rational than I am. So I just get the fuck off. Is that when someone bails or flakes or goes you on text. And so what is what does that mean, what does that mean from the other side. Like do you do you have any insight there?

I mean, it can be as serious as like them being vindictive, which is probably not the case. It's more along the lines of just like they didn't realize how much they didn't realize the importance of doing the thing that you thought was the bare minimum. Right. Therefore, although you can take it personally, it's probably more a reflection on them than it is you.

Right, right. Right. Well, like, you still have every right to be upset. Don't be wrong, especially if it's a pattern. Right. But sometimes you've allowed them to be so comfortable with the relationship that they think that's OK, which is not. But sometimes it's just reset the relationship in general before that's ever could get better.

Great advice, but great advice. Oh, OK. Prioritizing friends versus the relationship, the balance and how someone can make their significant other feel sometimes like the last priority. I feel like you always hear I mean, not to be so stereotypical in general, but like like what is it for the boys?

Which one of the boys. Saturdays, Sundays. If the boys Saturdays camp for the boys. Sundays if the boys.

What days for the boys. I get Saturdays.

I think it's Saturdays. I'm picturing that, that barstool flag Saturdays are for the boys I think it says.

And so the most stereotypical situation, situational situational search. You want to say, Lauren, is that I've had so many girlfriends just be like my boyfriend is obsessed with hanging with his guy. Friends like to the point where she thinks that he has famo and when he's not hanging out with the boys, he's playing video games, talking to the boys and she's just like last priority, OK.

That's so far from my life, I don't know. I know Jim was a gamer. Thanks for looking there. I've actually never dated anyone who's like a crazy gamer. And I don't know. I don't I don't know if I don't know if I could do it. I don't know.

Yeah. The thought of playing video games all day does not exactly excite me. Yeah. In fact, it's repulsive in a lot of ways. Not that I don't think that you should be able to play video games. It's not interesting for me. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, here's the deal. At any point in time, if I can get a priority, figure out what priority you want to be, you know, figure out why you want to feel the way that you want to feel.

Right. Don't you feel like he should prioritizing because he should now he's prioritize you because you wanna be prioritized. Yeah, right. Like you should spend time with you because you want him to spend time with you. You should not want him to spend time with you because you think he's spending too much time with the boys. You should want to spend time with you because you deserve to be filled by that emotion that you feel like you should be feeling right.

Yeah, I totally agree. It's not that like you need to force him to stay home on the weekend. The competition. Yeah, yeah. You're so right. I feel like when there's a division there, it definitely gets put into the light of competition for sure.

Then also every time he hangs out with the boys or the games, this or that, it's it's a loaded equation. Yes. You're not looking at it in the sense of like this thing makes him happy. He's doing this because he enjoys it. I fulfill a very different role in his life. But sometimes there's a bit of grey area between those two. It's your job to figure out how to, you know, at least create the opportunity for him to fill that gap back.

And if he doesn't. OK, got it. That's that's a conversation.

So how do you do that, though? Like, how do you have the conversation without making it a weird dynamic? Well, it depends if you want.

So so I'm thinking back to a friend who very much was like the and this was like earlier days, like most college days when, like, partying was like third Wednesday night through Sunday, you know what I mean? And it's like it had to be with the boys, with the boys at the boys, and she'd maybe get thrown like a Tuesday night, OK? And so it's like, I understand I would be fucking bitter as well. Like, if they're making it very clear that they have more fun, enjoy value and prioritize, like the boys.

How do you have that conversation to be like? I wish that I was more of a priority. I wish that you would spend more time with me. I wish you wanted to spend more time with me. I don't want to force you to spend time with me, but I want you to want. Let's dissect that. OK, so it sounds like it comes therapy. Therapist Jeremy. It just. It sounds like. He, in a situation, is having more fun or thinks his will he will have more fun with his friends, 100 percent with his girls not around.

Yes, that is the issue. Not that he's not spending time with her. Mm hmm. Because without it, we can have the most fun with his girlfriend going partying.

Yeah, that's what he would do. Right. Just bring the girls right. So what about her presence?

Is making it so that he's choosing or at least he's not thinking about the fact that he's not like he's not purposefully inviting her along to Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.

Right. That even even if she came like Thursday and Saturday night. Right. That's still that's still helps balance. Because to me, Wednesday night, go out with the boys. Fine. Whatever. Thursday night. Where you guys headed? I got some shit I got to do here. First, I'll meet you guys out. And if he says, no, no, no, we're good. What is that? No, right. That's sketchy that it's either as innocent in the sense of, oh, we're doing this thing that no girl is that.

And it's like there's no we are not doing it. Like we're playing games and we're being guys. It's not it would be weird for your energy to be there. Yeah. Which like, I'm sorry, girls, sometimes that happens right now.

I just felt so sensitive towards that comment on behalf of all the girls who have heard that before. I get it right.

So that emoji with the little of the big eyes and it's got a little sad glimmering it. Yeah. That one. Yeah. That's how I get it. Right.

So but to me it's less about the him choosing the guy's over, over her. It's about why is it that he's continuing to think that he will have more fun without her there. Right.

That's the conversation you need to have. Huh.

And it's not to say that she can fix that or change that. It's that she either understands that he has this thing that he wants to do that is is sadly not with her and that's OK. Or figure out a solution where they can both coexist in that scenario without having one feel like they're not being included.

Right. Right. You heard it here. First ladies who got boyfriends who spend all their their days with for the boys, the boys with and for the boys, that was like that was that was like dripping in hetero sexuality.

And I apologize for that. Yeah. That was honestly more on your end.

Yeah, for sure. I just had a friend who lived that situation and I was like the bystander so clear. And I was like, bitch, I don't know, I don't know what to tell you.

Well as everyone pointed out last part, I'm just one of the girls, so.

Oh my God. No, no. DuPont's ago that she was so funny when they're like Jeremy just here that t his his brunch mimosa, he is ready to hang with the girls.

Well, I think you've got to able to do both ways. I agree. When the boys want to go out. Have a good time. Yeah. I got to be there when the girls want to talk about what happened last weekend. Yeah. Hey let's talk about it. Yeah. Listen, if you can't do both, you know I agree.

I agree. Yeah.

I'm being just generally rude, especially in customer service scenarios, which was like a repeated comment from so many people.

As someone who used to be more rude, you know, as I said, more. Yeah. As someone who would be more rude, particularly in the customer service side, I think it's it's this weird, kind of rude customer service people. Yeah. Yeah.

I will drop kick you so far back into two dozen fifteen to go say sorry to all those people. Of course.

Now why was I rude. That's the question we have to ask. So why. Because I didn't understand that to get my way end quote, it would be easier to find the bridge as opposed to if I can figure out how to bulldoze.

Huh? I thought in my own little head.

Right. Stupid, stupid, stupid. That my small brain, if I can tell them why I'm correct, that is going to somehow get me where I want to go, huh.

And as someone who served for like four years, I gave the best service to the people who were the nicest to me, of course. And not that I had a bridge. I mean, I was one hundred percent in a restaurant where sketchy shit went down, where it's like it's almost an absolute asshole. And the kitchen crew found out they would do some sketchy shit to the food, going to be going to be fully honest. And I turned a blind eye and I was like, you you talk to maybe a few too many times, but where you worked to, I don't think so either.

Place on the. I've never named. So don't say that, because I don't know if I a lot of us, but like as a service, like I was the direct link from the customer to the kitchen and a lot of times the shit that went wrong in the kitchen was not my fault. If I put an order in correctly and it comes out incorrectly and it's just not my fault, like a lot of times, like I would be the messenger, like, don't you shoot the messenger, right?

And I would be the nicest. The people would be like, hi, I'm so sorry. Like this has this in it. And I asked for not I was like, oh my God, I'm so sorry. Let me get it replaced and I'll check with my manager. I'm sure we can have it calmed and have it taken off your belt.

And like those are the people you give the best shining gold star service to and the people who just want to budget you. I'm just like, you're you're go, go away. Go. Why do you leave your house? To stay home. If you're going to dig, just go home. Yeah, I agree, I agree. I know what it is to like the older that I've gotten, I feel like how people interact with like the customer service industry is such a clear depiction of.

So the way that the the way that they navigate so many other ways in their life, the way that you do anything is the way you do everything but it on your tombstone.

Babe, wait it that's the shit that you always say.

Not dead yet. But I mean, I really do think that, like, I thought that being a smartass and having the correct answer, even if it was and quote, correct. With the was the clear and concise way to handle it, and once I approach yeah, and once once I left, that scenario wouldn't matter anymore where I don't and I don't know what day it clicked, but it was like, why don't you figure out how to come at it from their perspective while still saying what you want to say?

You'll get there a lot faster.

I used to go for dinner with someone who is not even an ex or anything, but just someone who.

And this was so I don't know why it made me feel so weird. So like growing up, I always learned, like when I would order something, I'd be like, would I be able to get the dish it out or can I get this or I'd like it done it at it. Can I get this? And I went for dinner with this person all the time and they'd be like, I want this. And for some reason the word want versus can I get or could I have for some reason was just so abrasive to me.

And I don't know what I think is just the way that I grew up. And it was like not a choice word that I was taught to use. OK, I don't know. I don't know was so weird, it was on your own, I'll say that what I'll say is this as someone who is nine and 10 times. Yeah, there's one ingredient, at least on every dish that I don't want. I'm two ingredients on every day.

So I don't want as opposed to me saying, like giving them the order and then expecting that thing to be wrong and then me to, you know, complain about it being wrong later. Now, accusation or at its finest, taken the order. I'm so sorry. I I'm about to be so incredibly like a pain in the ass.

Tell me if this is possible and if you say what it is that one correction after saying that and they go, I can do that, there's a one hundred percent less likely chance that it's going to get fucked up. If you made such a nice but, you know, deal about it. It be like. And then an audience. Yeah, that's that's the shit they're like, yeah, when you're, you know, grabbing 12 orders gets all you did say, no one has got it, whereas you go, I sorry, I'm going to make your life hard.

That's I'm so sorry.

We'll just get a bigger conversation. Well, just the nice way. Right.

So we want to say I shit man that's not that I don't think that I could be with someone. I think that because I mean you you encounter that pretty early in a relationship.

I feel like when you start going to dates like anyone, movies, dinner, literally anything. I think if I saw that a few times in a row, I would do it for me.

I probably ask a few questions first, but yeah, it's a no for me dialogue.

OK, what they all now W.G. their way. Yueyue Ayodeji.

Yeah, I allowed no seven games so during the flirting or even relationship portion, a significant other will play games. And this is interesting. I saw this in a few different perspectives. So it games is like the overarching theme here, but one of them was like in a competitive way within the relationship. So if I were to say, oh, I guess so shitty last night, like I only got six hours of sleep, the significant other would say, yeah, well, I only got three hours sleep.

How do you think I feel you to really go like you did that? Oh, I have it so much worse. I feel bad for me. Competition or in another perspective I the good people of Instagram gave me. I'm annoyed at them.

So I'm not texting first kind of game both obviously very healthy signs of very strong, good, healthy relationships. Yeah, well, the games general.

It's the games in general. It's I feel like games just equals power hungry, like the power control dynamic.

I mean, it goes back to the whole control thing, like you're more interested in exerting and feeling in control than you are helping your partner be the individual you want them to be so that you can feel comfortable. Yeah, because control does not equal comfort for any person. The control does equal comfort. They are not ready to be comfortable enough with themselves to have the other person be in control of their life and be comfortable. Did you want to smash into them?

I'm sorry.

I just smashed my particular glass bottle and I even had a six six inch extension to give us more room here.

Yeah, well, didn't wasn't enough obviously. Yeah.

I mean, and I saw so many comments too about jealousy and we've done a ten podcast on jealousy, but it falls into the same categories, just like being so desperate for control. Need to know where someone is at every minute of the day when they're coming home, who they're with and like I love a little find my friends as well in the iPhone. But that's that's more of just like I was honest Man of the Year.

What was the understatement of the year? I mean, love.

No, over the last year, everyone just at home. Well, yeah, it was just like a fun game to see who was actually near the near other people.

I love that. It's like it's like a second social media, like I have learned that my GPS location since date number two, I only turned it off. He gave it to me. I don't. I know. I know.

But I've checked it probably three times in the last two years. You know, that's not true.

You literally checked it a couple of weeks ago. And I was like, he does use find my friends.

I forget what it was for because you were not responding.

And I'm like, oh, no, no, no, no. It was around Valentine's Day. Yeah. You're trying to create your job.

I do. Termin off and about to go Christmas shopping. Yeah, me too. Every time. Every time. Yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah. And so the good people of Instagram all were like pretty insightful and had already perceived as like an insecurity in their pride or go. I've never dated anyone that's had a hard core problem with with authority. I used to. And so where do you think that stems from? Um.

I had a real issue with individuals who I thought had had unmerited authority, right, so just because someone is older that they have authority, I do not believe that age equals wisdom.

It can it it does, but it does not have to mean it. Right. And the more and more I think back specifically on. High school and college education and like the teachers or the you know, even the the beat cop, the security, whatever, that just like you could tell, was so dead set on making sure that at any point in time an argument was giving even close to a stalemate. Right. Because I'm the this because I'm the best.

Because I'm the this and here's. It's not to say that I and here's here's a difference between Jeremy 10 years ago and today, Jeremy today would go, I know that's going to be what they what they rest their laurels on. Right. So I'm going to beat them to it. And I would say, listen, you're in you're in charge here.

And I absolutely I absolutely hear that here's where I'm coming from as opposed to being like, let me tell you.

I'm right. Right. Because I don't want to get that. That gets you nowhere, even if you are completely correct. If the teacher is on the other side and 30 other pairs of eyeballs are looking at you, they're not going to say, you know what, little Jimmy, you're so correct. I didn't think of it from that perspective. That never happens. That will not happen. You could not assume that will happen. But unless and unless you present your argument in a way that can be met with some level of discourse, I'm sorry, some level of objective reasoning, you're not going to get it.

I distinctly remember the day that I woke up and realized that you don't just turn a certain age and become a really smart adult, I the day that my eyeballs became open to that perspective, I was my my mind was just looking blown.

I just you can just tell Lauren grew up in a much different household than mine.

Yeah, but was it. Well, I just thought that adults just knew what was right and wrong. I just that was in my brain. It was so clear that being over the age of whatever it was equaled knowing right and wrong. And then I sort of growing up and I was like. This is just as dumb as this 14 year old bitch, I was like, and you're you're twenty five years older. I was like, what is going on?

It's like, why don't you cross that bridge into adulthood that, like, made you smart. And then I realize that there is no bridge.

I mean, I think the difference also is like the goes back to customer service. It goes back to authority.

It goes back to all things where you are not in control of the way that somebody else greets you and meets you on whatever it is you're trying to find some common ground on. If you cannot think to yourself they got a job, their job is X, my want is Y, right. Well, let me think about why X and their job has to do whatever it is that they're doing before I present my argument and try to get to Y, and if you can't put yourself in their eyes, you're only going to see what's wrong with their argument.

And if the argument and winning the argument is the most important thing, fine, then go die on that hill. But if getting your way or at least getting halfway to your way is more important than think about it from their perspective, it's the same thing from authority to customer service to anything from that perspective as to open up your eyes.

Not everyone trying to get the worst thing out of it. They're trying to live their life, help them do that a little bit easier.

Oh, and I'm a nine. Overall, poor communication communication was was was a heavy hitter down in the dumps today. Communication is key to everything.

Yeah, it's the it is the literal pillar of every foundation, as Maya Angelou would say. When you know better, you do better. But until you know how to communicate better. Who said that? Maya Angelou. You know, Maya Angelou with Maya Angelou. Everyone needs to look at Maya Angelou, genius, writer, poet, just like someone who just like that. Was she the things that came out of her mouth just wise beyond any any wisdom I could ever amount to be.

I mean I mean, what you said sounded why I say it again. When you know better, you do better. But the you know, the understood you there being like if you don't know better, you can't do better. And going back to like, why doesn't he do this, why doesn't he do that. Why doesn't she do this right. If they don't know better. Right. They can't do better. So what is your job. If you want them to do better, help them learn.

Yeah. I mean I think it's just so hard sometimes when someone is incapable of communicating their emotions.

I think what you mean to say is that they're incapable of communicating their emotions. Someone has not exhibited the ability to do it thus far. Someone has no say that again, someone has not. Show nationalism that I think there's the missing word there, someone has not shown them that it is possible, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. But it's that they're not capable. They just haven't done it yet. Right. I understand. I agree. I agree.

I think it's just so hard when in a relationship you become that person that has to begin showing them that.

I just, I just I sometimes I just feel like I don't want to say lost cause it feels like really intense.

But it is a little it can be unfair to if you're at the end of that novel of learning how to communicate and you're dating someone who hasn't even turned the first page. And it's your job to then show them how to flip the pages and progress through the novel. I think that adds a massive strain on the relationship.

Yeah, but like the word unfair, I'm not even going to entertain because things aren't fair. Yeah, yeah. And also no one at the end of the novel. No.

And I totally agree, just using that as a reference to be like. I know. But that was, that was, that was you weighted that one and I could see you were speaking from personal experience.

I was I was watching the project and I was I was like literally watching that movie with you. I'm like, I like what she's talking about. I get it. I get it. But at the end of the day, you weren't at the end of the novel. I'm not at the end of the novel currently. Right. We're on whatever page we're at today. Yeah, but when someone has an open the book, well, then show them where the book is, you know, and then you just leave them in the past and someone else can help them handle them.

What was number nine, the overall poor communication and the inability to communicate their emotions? I just feel like so many go to grow up in families where they are so unemotional and don't learn how to communicate their feelings even within their own family. And so when they grow up and go into relationships like it can be difficult to begin that process of opening up more.

They don't want to get hurt.

Yeah, and I've definitely I think the difference in the way that I approach my mother when I know that we're going to disagree about something today in comparison to where I would the way I would have done it 10 years ago. Two very, very different approaches for sure. And not that either one is like right or wrong, this one's definitely a little bit more. Calculated. The problem is, yeah, this one's the one I currently have more calculated, but it usually yields better results.

Totally, yeah, 100 percent. Yeah. And it's tough to have to be calculated with friends and family sometimes, but sometimes keeping the peace requires a little bit of calculated.

I agree. I don't hate that. Number 10, we touched on this briefly unsolicited dick pics.

And once again, we're not saying the second one. What about dick pics? Ziggy pic with some duck pics? Duck pics. Yeah, no, I want to fix my pics. Duck pics in platypus pics. That's pretty good. You're welcome. That is pretty good. Duck pics in platypus pics. Yeah. I love there's a title. That's a title. We already have a title but that would be a good runner up for this title.

I wonder what about them and their unsolicited.

Unsolicited and we've done we've done a whole a whole podcast literally called Unsolicited Documents to deal with unsolicited winwin picks.

OK, so I have a question.

You do when a guy wins, why do I have to speak for all men who have or who have or about to send depicts?

That's unfair because I just feel as if you have between the two of us, you have more knowledge and insight into the male brain.

Right. Is that a true as an individual with a Y chromosome? Yes. Yes. And a penis. OK, so I mean, a duck. Duck. So I have a peanut going anyway. When. The male specimen wants to send a duck pic in this nice every holding together, holding toys, love rondos. It's nice and I go nice.

This is so gross. Do they does does the duck owner think that his duck is so nice that it's going to make you want to drop everything you're doing and go pet their duck like in there, in there, in the little pea brain that are sending the duck. Like what is the what is the goal there. Like my duck is so nice that it's going to make you just, just it's going to make you bring your platypus over or your duck.

Um, I don't know, is it just because a lot of duck owners think with their duck? I love that we've made this duck and platypus.

I listen, it's not that I don't think some men think that they have the nicest looking duck on planet Earth. Right? I'm sure there are. Yeah. But I also think that it's almost like it's the ultimate litmus test, OK, because if you send a picture of your duck and it's literally anything but silence. Yeah, it's. Let's continue. So unless you get no response whatsoever, and if you really wanna send a message to send someone to the duck pick, don't respond, just don't respond, that would be the ultimate response.

You're so right. You going to be like you. What the fuck is it? You.

What the fuck? It's like, yo, fuck you.

You just hit him with the nose and then and then the duck will feel probably a little insecure, be like, oh, she don't like my dog. Yeah. My duck. Yeah. Yeah. So any point in time you're here with a duck pic before you wanted a duck pic if you didn't ask for duck does not say that there isn't some a real use case for setting a duck pic or duck pic.

If you, if everyone is of age and there's mutual consent on receiving duck pics and platypus will even throw some interest out there.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's one thing. But if you get a duck because it's a duck back and you get no response, that is the ultimate, that's a slap in.

The individual has to question any and every decision they make from that point forward. That is a slap in the duck. Yeah. Yeah.

I assume if I were trying to duck back right now to you and we live together and you didn't respond, I assume that's on the New York Times bureau that it has to be the front page.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're taking a full page ad of the front page. I don't even know they do that.

But yeah, I think if you sent me a duck picture right now, I wouldn't do the dirtiest, ugliest, like disgusted face photo, just like just just like double changes mean like an.

Because it's unsolicited. I love your duck, but I do not want a picture of it sent to me unsolicited when we're two rooms away. My duck feels self-conscious. You know, I wasn't even thinking about sending a picture to you. He wasn't even thinking. But you know what? Now that Ducks Ducks Unlimited over here has been told the business hours are closed. Yeah, well, one market, not one, but two. Self-conscious, see, I needed someone and you're telling me right now, could you stop playing footsie with me?

No, no, no, no. You don't want my duck. Fine. I just don't want your duck send me an unsolicited photo. Well, I didn't ask for one after knowing your cybersecurity, it would not be safe, it would not be safe. So I would not send you my duck. OK, problem solved. Yeah. Tell your doctor not be so insecure. So moving forward, for those of you who have joined us thus far and understand what a duck and platypuses when we reference this in podcast moving forward and people have questions, please enlighten them in the comments.

If leave them in the dry, say you should watch other episodes, fuckers. Yeah, you're right. Go back to Episode 32. Yeah. The Duck and Platypus explanation. Yeah. So anyway, I don't know, I'd say, but like I don't know what they want. They're looking for a continuation of what they thought was already in the mix. I don't like anyone's like studying and going like oh my God, I hope she doesn't like. I don't get one sense, one with the thought of like, oh, this is about to, like, put me on the sex offender list, maybe.

Yeah, like no one no one rules that. No one, I think in in good mental health rolls that dies.

I, I have a friend who received a few duck pictures unsolicited. Yeah. And he would he would be like, do you miss me. And then would send a picture of his duck. And suddenly, whose I don't miss, you know, real quick, me as the human, the brain that everything is going on or me is in the duck could be either.

But you know you know what? They hadn't they hadn't slept together. They hadn't even met and even met. So it was like, do you do you miss the idea of a duck you have yet to pet? Yes. Yes. That's dumb. Yeah, that's so. And then she didn't respond. And this one gets fucking bold. Did not respond. He follows up again and just be like, do you not want to talk anymore, duck.

That's bold, that is bold. Wow. Yeah, she she didn't respond to either duck, and then he stopped sending them eventually, you know, I probably would have looked up the name of his mother and said.

How is Sharon I know his whole family's whole family's Instagram accounts. Yeah, yeah. And they started talking. I did. I did the best friend deep dive.

Right. As one does as one does. Any responsible friend. As any responsible friend. I get it. And I, I could I could call to share. I do have access Sharon to deliver these duck photos.

I won't you know, duck photos. What you have to duck photos. I could get the photos. Wow. You said to Sharon I could send to Sharon. Yeah. OK, yeah.

Yeah I know that that might be revenge porn. I'd say it's kind of a grey area.

I'm saying that I would not do that. Right. I see that I have the information and the access that it could be possible. OK, it's not a completely implausible solution. Scenario scenario, solution scenario.

He he got the hint and not a duck photo to be seen since no longer duck season, no longer ducks.

Ducks not in season, ducks not in season.

Is there a season that's more likely to have ducks exchanged, I wonder?

Oh. Oh yes. Coving season for sure. I bet it's cutting in one hundred percent. I disagree. You think. I think may.

Oh, summer pre summer. Pre summer ducks. Yes, yes, yes, yes. This is beginning and end of summer. I think the middle is a lull. Minerals a lull. Yeah. But it's like the last few weekends, the summer and the first few weekends.

Yes. It's it's open season. It's duck season. Yeah. Well on that note. Comet like Subtribe also stopped, after all, and reached the pod. We have had as many ratings lately and it's because we stopped telling people to stop, drop, roll and report.

Yeah, you're right. You're so right handed over to Apple because Spotify doesn't have any ratings or pod being. Would be Stitcher I, heart radio, yeah, Mr. Wolf, one zero, Wolf, one wolf, one oh oh. OK, maybe not the wolf. No. It was to give stature, stature, it doesn't have a wolf. I don't know who you're going braker now like Twitter about that.

Hard to say. Anyway, it's top job. All right.

The participants from Latvia also, for those of you who are still here, marketing alert, marketing alert, plug alerts, don't you no longer know what to do it? This is super exciting. Plug alert. This is super exciting. One we currently are in the process of potentially. And I'm not going to give any more details after I announce it. And we're going to we're going to sign off right after it. We are on the precipice of launching our own Grace Wetpaint win race.

I can we not know. We'd include it.

We thought the modeling photos, it could be me in gray sweatpants. I think we just hire a shit ton of guys. What do you mean we? What do you mean we so you want me to go through resumes of just dudes in sweatpants and hire them?

I think I think we stick a bunch of a whole bunch people in graceful pants. People, girls and guys. Yeah, OK.

Because the first thing that came out of your mouth was more gay oriented, right? I think it was like I think we should hire a bunch of Sabiha.

I'm just trying to give the people the ducks that they want the grace of being ducks.

I'm trying to do what they want and I feel like you're not allowing us to live our creative ideas down the model.

Yeah. Yeah. I don't know how I feel about that, though. Putting your duck on the Internet for everyone to look at that feels that feels weird to me. It feels weird.

So I think we hire strangers and then there's a free duck right here. I don't know if I want to use that duck. Why sacred duck? Why sacred duck? Why don't you wanna share? It's my duck. It's marketing. It's my job. It's just marketing.

Yeah, but I don't it's like that's like a like a threesome. But with the whole internet I don't mind.

When you show the booty pic on Instagram you have different. Walk me to the. Aboudi, if you post a booty naked, you're fine, if you post a duck naked, you're not fine. I'm not posting of naked duck. You you basically OK, this is I said we're going to announce that we're going to sign off and we did not do that. What's coming.

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