This is the JoCo De-brief podcast, episode three with Dave Burke and me, JoCo Willink. Dave, let's debrief. What do you got?

I've got a a really small tech company. That's actually doing pretty well, even despite what's going on, small company, but they're growing a bunch, they work in the software space and they're actually doing just fine, which is actually cool because not every company is doing so well right now.

Working with the CEOs of the number two, there's a small enough company that everybody kind of there's a lot of overlap in their jobs. There's only like 15 or so folks here. So they all have a lot of overlap. But he's head of operations.

He's really designed to make sure this thing is working. He has someone working with him, the CTO, the chief technology officer that is really critical to the operation, kind of the driver behind the software that they're building.

But he's really hard to deal with. And actually, what what the problem is having is that this CTO who's really sharp is overstepped his bounds, is kind of getting in his business. He's his ego is kind of running out of control and he's getting a whole bunch of friction across the organization. And there's a little bit of a fear that if he he's kind of irreplaceable, that nobody has the corporate knowledge he has. Nobody really understands what he does and his position himself that they're they're having or they feel like they have to tolerate the way he is because of what he knows and what he can do.

And the chief operating officer is struggling with how to handle that situation.

Well, clearly, there's an issue if you've got people on your team that are irreplaceable. Right.

We don't want to let that happen. We don't want to let it happen for defensive reasons.

Meaning? Meaning, you know, we don't we don't want to be put ourselves in a situation where we lose somebody for whatever reason and for offensive reasons. If someone's out of line, we need to be able to. Handle that problem, right? We need to be able to get rid of somebody, no one should have that leverage over the company, right. That just just doesn't make sense. So, I mean, that had to be the first thing.

The first thing was. Listen, you can't have anybody on your team that if that person goes away for any reason unforeseen, he leaves whatever it is that when that person departs, the team fails, the team is going to fall apart because somebody on your team holds so much knowledge, so much ability that the team can't succeed without them. That's actually true for the person in charge as well. So we kind of just talk about the fundamentals of even for the person in charge of the company, the company cannot be relying on you that if you went away, the company fails.

That's not the type of leadership situation you want to set up. The the other component of the issue is that there's a lot of potential in the CTO. He's a really capable, smart and for a while, especially when they initially brought him on board, he was a really positive contributor. And what's happened is the. As he has succeeded. And contributed, the egoists has been growing and really once we got past the initial conversation and the CEO didn't object, he understood, like I cannot have somebody on my team, that's a single source of failure.

The other question is, how do you cultivate the relationship? How do you continue to develop this with him so that he continues to contribute in the positive ways and we manage the things that he's doing that's negatively and try to find out what it is that's causing that and what his role is. What I didn't want him to do was write this person off like, hey, this person is a problem. I got to get somebody who can replace him so I can get rid of this person, actually.

Hey, what's the real problem here? How do we solve that?

And what can we do to make this person continue to be a really viable, constructive, contributing member of the team?

Yeah, we want to we want to we want to attack this problem from two different directions. One is make sure that they're not irreplaceable. And two is how do we get this person reeled in? How do we reel in their ego? And I think that boils down to an escalation of counseling. I mean, on the one hand, obviously, this boils down for the one attack is an escalation of counseling.

Hey, you know, this is what we're are you OK? Is there something bothering you? Is there is there someone on the team that that you feel like you need to flex on?

Because, man, that last meeting was a little bit hostile, right? I mean, this is just a conversation. Hey, Dave, did did you have some friction with with wife about that? Because that last meeting was you you were going at him pretty hard. Is is there something I'm not seeing?

Right. So that's not a that's not an attack. That's a that's a legitimate question of concern. Hey, I want to make sure everything's OK. So I think this is an escalation of counseling situation to try and figure out what's going on.

And if, you know, if Dave says, you know what life really made me, he he put a bunch of stuff on my plate and I was mad about it. I let it get to my head. I'm sorry. It's my fault. OK, cool. And maybe it's not a problem. And as we know, maybe fix it and it's OK. You handle it. Maybe it's maybe maybe it continues and you get hostile with him or you get hostile someone else.

And then I got to escalate that county. Hey, Dave, you went off on Mike today. What's going on? Did did Mike do something that bothered you? Because in the meeting. From what I saw in the meeting, look, man, that seemed unprovoked. What's going on?

And so now we're starting to escalate. And by the way, last week, you you kind of went off on life and now you're going off on Mike.

You know, who's next. And if if you're only attacking people, guess what that tells me that you're not really listening to what other people are saying. So if you're not, listen to what our people are saying, then we're not moving ideas forward. So. So what's going on? And there and then it goes from there.

Right.

So I think on the on the getting the ego in check, there is a there's an escalation in counseling that needs to happen on the front of how do we get other people to to to make sure that this person isn't irreplaceable.

Well, I talk to you and I say, hey, Dave, you know, look, I know you've been spearheading this project from the beginning. What we actually need is some backup crew on your team is who on your team like really understands this. And of course, if you're a big ego guy, what do you say?

No. One. I'm the only one that gets this done. You know what, Dave? I know that you're smart. And of course, I suspected that maybe you're the only person that really understood this. And although that sounds cool, guess what? It ain't cool, because if you're the only one that knows how to do this and you get hit by a bus, we got problems. So what can we do to get this other person trained up?

You know what I actually want you to do?

I want you to take a two week vacation.

And when you get back, I don't want you in these meetings for another two weeks or I want to go a month with no Dave, because I want to make sure, look, you got a month to get this ready, but after a month, I want Bill to run this thing.

And so that's how I approach these two to process from two different directions, yeah, really similar. And that that multiple two things at once, you know, a parallel efforts that you have to manage.

The first one, I think, is spot on that that as an organizational leader, you actually had to be looking at risk all the time. You have to be looking around up and out while your people are down making things happen.

You have to look and see where you're exposed. Where is there potential for risk from the outside competition environment and and also from the inside. And the assessment of risk in that case is an internal problem, which is JoCo goes away because the only one that can do this, the company fails. That's risk that you cannot accept any different than if your competition is manoeuvring on you and they're going to outmaneuver you and then they're going to beat you in this in the same fashion.

So that's and that should be happening all the time. The other piece when you were talking about that second effort in parallel, what was happening with the CEO, this kind of boss, but somewhat parallel, but a little bit kind of senior was the rest of the organization. Remember, this is a small team. They all kind of very close know each other, loosely defined roles. A lot of people are going direct to the CEO kind of bullying him into that escalation of you described.

They kind of wanted to get to step four, which is this guy is awful. He's toxic. We've got to get rid of him. And what he was struggling with is. Hey, I haven't done any counseling at all, I'm getting a ton of pressure, I got to get rid of this guy. He's he's causing a lot of problems. Well, I've got some of this risk, but also recognizing that you actually can't go to step four.

And and there's two different reasons that I thought of as to why that is. One is, look, there actually is a fairly straightforward H.R. process, like when we have to move people out of organizations, there is a deliberate process to do that. You don't get to just skip steps because your mind tells you this is the best way to do it.

But the real question that he needed to ask is, how did this guy go from a key contributor who joined the startup from the beginning, who believed in what this was invested all his time and energy and all the risk with startups because startups are high risk, there's no guarantee they're going to work. How do we go from that guy to this toxic person who's undermining the organization? And what is it that you don't know about what's going on in this person's life?

Then all of a sudden everybody else is telling you, get rid of them and you don't know how you got to that point, which is another reason why you have to start with step one, which you described as JoCo man. Hey, you seem really out of character in that meeting. What's going on? That's that first step in the escalation of counseling, no matter what it is, whether they showed up late or people will tell you to fire them on the spot, you sort of need to start with what is going on in your life.

Yeah, that's cool. And one thing that's good to note about the escalation of counseling, like you said, if you're skipping steps, you're skipping steps because you you made errors. There was hard conversations that you should have had that you didn't have. So if you're skipping steps, you put yourself in that position and it's going to be ugly. One thing that's nice about the escalation of counseling is the it's a compressible timeline. So you could have you know, you could go through the entire escalation of counseling.

And in a week, you know, I always use the example of construction sites.

When you're on a big construction project where there's a timeline and if you don't make the timeline, you pay the owner money, you pay them fifty eighty thousand dollars a day in some cases when you miss a timeline.

So. Sometimes those timelines are really compressed, if I got a foreman that's not doing their job, guess what I'm going to tell you today? You're not doing your job. The next day I'm going to write you up. The third day you're getting fired. I'm bringing someone else in there with, let's say, commission based sales people.

Hey, I'm not paying you anything, Dave. So that escalation accounting could be six months, right? In this particular case, if you're getting pressure, cool. You should be getting pressure because you're not doing your job. If you hadn't said anything yet, that's that's absolutely. You failed as a leader. So you do have to start. I recommend you start with step one, a nice, friendly, positive conversation to let that person know, hey, you're out of line.

I see it. The team sees it. What's going on? Let's move forward. Yeah, you you made the connection when you were talking about it to what's going with this person, this person's ego is getting out of control. One of the main issues with this guy was he thought he was smarter than everybody else.

And what he was sort of coming to discover, at least the way that it looked, was he had been there long enough to think that he should kind of be in charge a little bit and he knew more than other people. So you can also same thing. You could also go one of two directions. You can sort of jump to the conclusion that he's this toxic guy that needs to go away or you can actually kind of dig in and find out what's really going on.

When we roleplayed the discussion to have when he when he in this, we had a couple of different iterations of this went on for a couple of weeks, kind of working through this problem to get where we are now when the sequel kind of came to realize that the frustration that this guy was having was that he wanted to have more influence.

He wanted to be able to part of why he was overstepping with his peers is that he thought he should have more influence over his peers. The amazing connection that you talked about is what he had to show him as, hey, listen, if you want to have more influence in this organization, if you feel that you're the type of person that can level up and start to influence the organization, one of the most important things you can do is actually train people to do the job that you're doing.

So we can free up to that, which is exactly what you just described.

He wasn't making the connection of I'm not going to I'm going to elevate you to some other role in the organization. If you're the only person that can do this, you're going to be doing this. And we don't want to train his replacement as a hedge of getting rid of them. The ideal situation, even though we're doing this in parallel, is we train his replacement so we actually can contribute more if indeed he has something valuable to contribute and. The frustration with this person's ego is, like you said last time, like you say, every single time, was his own ego saying, who does this guy think he is?

And the ego, the ego solution is, was that the CEO, CEO of the CEO's ego, is clashing with the CEO's ego a little bit. Who does this guy think he is that he can roll into these meetings and all of a sudden it's hostilities? Yes. And that was the hey, he's getting pressure to kind of go right to step four and kind of get to the door out of here. And some of it was. Yeah, and it was like, hang on, why are we at this level?

It's like you said, what did we not do? What do we skip to get to this? And all the things we skipped had nothing to do with this person. It had to do with the CEO, not not even not just having hard conversations, but just saying the first time when he noticed three or four months ago going, Giacaman, man, hey, what's going on?

These guys were all close. They're all friends. And all of a sudden Jack was acting out of character. I don't want to wait four months to start asking Jocke what's going on in his life when in the back of my mind, I'm thinking, well, the best thing is to get rid of JoCo. So he skipped steps. And there's a whole bunch of reasons why skipping those steps. But the barrier there was when you come to the conclusion that this other person is the problem, you lose the potential of not just salvaging this person for the company, but actually helping them become what they want to become as well, which is the ideal outcome.

Now, you don't pretend that that's the only way it's going to work. You absolutely protect your organization. You build backups, you manage that risk. But in your mind, what you're really trying to figure out is how can you help this person get past these problems that are frustrating them white and understand why his ego is getting out of control?

It's always interesting when.

When Dave is mad because Dave thinks he should have my job and if I'm if I if I have a big ego that makes me mad, if I can keep my ego in check, you know what I say to that? That's awesome. I'm glad Dave wants my job. I hope he can come and take it when I go on to the next job instead of using that to drive you crazy. I look at that as an awesome situation. I'm not threatened by Dave.

I'm happy that Dave wants my job and I hope he works hard enough to get it from me. And if I have that question a long time ago, I forget what it was. I think it was just on the podcast. But know what do I do in this guy's vying for my job and I'm like, hey, if someone's vying for my job, that's awesome. That's awesome.

I'm going to work even harder. And guess what? If they beat me? They beat me, they do a better job than me if they're more suitable for this job and I fail. Good on them. You know, I should do better. You know, now, do you think someone's going to outwork me, good luck, bring it, but what does that do?

All that does is help the team because now we're working hard. Yeah, but, yeah, don't be threatened by those things. All right, next one. What do you got? Company we've been working with, again, I keep saying this, but these companies have been working for for a long time, and that's one of the most fun things we get to do, is we get to stay with them for a long time, see how things evolve and improve and get better and get more connected to what they're doing and makes it easier to help when we understand this is a company we've been working with for a long time.

And another thing that's important to note when you say that is this we work with companies for a long time and oftentimes when we show up there, they're already deep into extreme ownership.

They got everyone to listen to the podcast.

They got the they got the the laws of combat printed on their walls. I've been in places where they have murals of the laws of combat.

It's awesome. Yeah, it's awesome. And they're totally on board.

They're totally engaged. And yet. We still have to talk about the issue that they're having, because it it is hard, it is it is simple, not easy.

Go look, that's what all these senators we've been talking about and we'll continue to talk about is the constant reminder of because most of the companies we work with are exactly how you described and they still struggle with this because this stuff is all heart. And one of the best things that we do is that we come in from a detached position and it's much easier for us to see what's going on and help and make the connection between the principles and mindsets that they can apply to help solve those problems.

Because we are detached, which is actually what was going on in the situation.

We had this key. They had a leadership team that was kind of made up of four or five small group of people, a key leadership team that was influencing a much larger company. And one of the key leaders in this organization had developed himself a reputation of being the hammer. And it kind of reminded me when back in the military is probably similar with you is, you know, you have someone in charge of the unit called the squadron commander or the battalion commander, and they always had a number two.

The number two is typically called the XO, the executive officer. The number two in the number two kind of had the reputation of being the hammer. Well, this person at. Become the hammer, which means they had any kind of issue that required some sort of counseling or discipline, this person was the one to do it. And the simple question this person asked me because he's been. In the game on extreme ownership and reading, he's burned through leadership strategy tactics repeatedly and looking at things he was talking about that book, talking about how you should lead in these particular situations.

And he said, I'm worried that I'm being pigeonholed as the hammer. Should I be concerned about that was the simple question. And of course, my answer was yes. You absolutely do not want to be positioned or have the reputation of being the hammer.

And it was the question was, hey, talk to me about why that is and why that is.

Is that his you mean why it is that he got this reputation? That was the thing I'm thinking is the reputation that you have is the reputation that you earned. Exactly. And very, very seldom is someone running around with a reputation that they didn't earn and deserve. That's exactly right. OK, and that was hey, why do you have this reputation?

Well, I don't like to wait. I don't see the reason to just sit on things. I am default aggressive. I like to get in there and solve problems.

And really what that translated to was that when issues that he was involved in, he would get a little fired up, get a little emotional. And he had a reputation of diving in there and he had built a reputation as someone who is aggressive. The problem with that approach of being aggressive is it was kind of out of balance. He had the same approach to every single problem. And the being pigeonholed was they were starting to use him only in places where the other leadership thought it made sense.

So areas where they thought, hey, we need to take a slow approach to this, maybe a longer, more strategic view. He was kind of being a little excluded, a little isolated, because they could sort of predetermine his approach, which was going to be over the top, make things happen. It's like. Absolutely. And and the connection they were making was that concept of being detached. And the thing that was great about this was that the question he asked and he made the comment goes, I feel like I need to be more detached before I make decisions like, look, man, you're actually kind of making this very easy on me because that's exactly what you need to do and the reputation you want.

Is it the hammer? The reputation that you want is the reputation of someone that is detached even on things that directly affect you. And so that the decisions you make and the contribution you make is what's in the best interest of the organization. And you don't pigeon hole yourself is to someone who goes off every single time. Something wrong?

Yeah, that's if you think about any half way. Marginally decent organization should not have scenarios unfolding on a regular basis that require a, quote, hamburger.

This is not an optimal situation. I mean, look, do you occasionally get a rogue element of people that have gone off the reservation and are now doing things that they shouldn't be doing? And you've got toxic scenarios happening? That does happen. And sometimes you got to go in there like, look, when I go into that situation, I'm going to straighten things out and I'm going to do it with a hammer that is so rare that if that's your reputation, you should hardly ever get utilized.

And what's scary about that is that's what your goal is. No. One, it's scary to think that you're in an organization where the hammer needs to get used all the time. Number two, it's scary to think that you're in an organization if the hammer doesn't get used all the time, but your leadership thinks that the hammer is the best, the best tool for the job.

That's a little bit scary. So what I what I would do in this situation is you obviously got to detach, obviously got to get control of his temper. But also I would look at these scenarios and say, OK, when I go into this, I'm going to actually detach. I'm going to handle these in a with with with the minimum force required, the minimum leadership required know. I've been using that term a lot lately. When it comes to leadership, using the minimum force required is almost always the optimal way to do it.

And what's interesting is I was I've been lately sort of preemptively answering the question, you know, hey, if look, I get things done, I'm default degressive.

If Dave's got an issue, the most efficient thing for me to do is to go in there, you know, sit down in front of Dave and say, here's the things that you're screwing up.

You need to get on board with the program. That's the most efficient way. And on the surface, yeah.

Yeah, that is that seems very efficient. What does it actually create? What it creates is resentment from Dave. It creates resentment from Dave's team. It creates a lack of effort. It creates a lack of initiative. It creates a lack of ingenuity. It creates a lack of initiative, all those things.

That's what it does. And it won't matter on this particular tactical situation.

It's OK because I got what I wanted from Dave, but I haven't developed Dave. I haven't developed Dave's team.

I've I've squashed his ability to think at that moment. I've squashed his future ability to think because he's afraid of getting, quote, hammered by me. So there's even though for the moment, something in the short term immediately might seem like it's more efficient in the long term.

Well, what I have to do is just constantly hammer people, and once you use the hammer, guess what? You've got to use it again and you've got to use it again because people don't learn when they get hammered, they just they just end up like a beaten dog. What is a beaten dog? Like a beaten dog is like two things. Number one, they don't show any initiative. They're scared. And then guess what they do? They lash out beaten dogs, the ones that bite people because they get abused.

So if I abuse you, you're going to bite at some point. Whether that's leave the company, whether that's blow up, whether that's cause a mutiny or whatever it is. I'm not developing my relationship.

And by the way, if you don't like me, if you don't like me, what kind of performance are you giving me? You know, are you giving me your best performance? If all I do is slap you every time I work with you, every time I give you direction, it comes with a slap to the face. Every time you need correction, it comes with a punch to the gut. Do you like me? The answer is no.

Do you respect me? The answer is no. Do we have a good relationship? The answer is no. Do we trust each other? The answer is no. So what kind of team is that? It's a freaking crappy one. So does the hammer need to be used on occasion? Yes. Does it need to be the primary? Should you have in your toolbox? Sure. Do I have a hammer in my toolbox? Sure. Due to big one.

How often do I take it out? Almost never. Think through that where you got one more, yeah, we got one more. We had a manager that we've been working with, emailed me and said, hey, I'd like to jump on a call.

I have a subordinate who feels like they are not giving being given a fair opportunity to get promoted. So the way this company is designed is that there's a pretty quick opportunity to elevate. So managers have a bunch of subordinates of the subordinate do well. The company is broad enough that you can elevate pretty quickly and get a leadership role and have some folks working for you. And upward mobility is not a huge problem. So there's an opportunity to that.

And had someone that felt like they were being passed over repeatedly to people who were less qualified than him. So not just that they wasn't wasn't getting opportunities to get promoted, but the people that were getting those opportunities, he felt like they weren't as good as them. And the real question that came out when this subordinate went to the boss and said, hey, boss, I feel like I'm getting overlooked here and I feel like other people are getting promoted ahead of me, was that he said, I don't think I understand the process that what I'm supposed to do to be able to get considered for this promotion.

And that boss asked me is like, hey, what do I do with someone who feels like they don't understand the process when clearly I've got people on my team that are getting promoted up and out on a regular basis.

And you told him I told him it was his fault. I mean, it was one of those that I think part of the issue was it was his fault that what that that person didn't understand the process.

So when this person.

So as simple as this one sounds, so the barrier that this person was having was, hey, it's kind of crazy for someone to come to me and say they don't understand what to do because on a regular basis, I prepare the people on my team and I've got an awesome track record of people on my team who are going to leave my team. I'm not trying to keep people down on my team. Every opportunity people on my team get, I prepped them.

I put them in front of what is essentially a promotion board opportunity. Most of my people do well. They go up, they leave and go somewhere else. And I get a new crop of young people or new people and I do the same thing. So for someone to say to me, hey, I don't understand the process, I don't know how else I can explain it, because I'm confident that people on my team know the process. And I've got a lot of evidence and proof to show you that I'm doing it.

I don't understand what the problem is here.

And so you said, hey, look, you need to do a better job of explaining the process that's on you. Yes, I mean, simply and and I think what it was, is that this person's arsenal, the the tools that this person had to share with their subordinates, the approach was effective, but it was really limited.

Hey, this is the one word. And what was happening is they would get brought in in front of like a panel of two or three people that would interview them. And this person that kept on getting passed over actually knew what to say. They understood what to say, but they didn't say it very well and was constantly getting passed over by people who were looking to go, I'm out performing this person. But I think I mean, I might be missing something.

And what they are struggling with this this boss was struggling with is they know exactly what to do. Exactly. They can't they cannot look me in the eye and say they don't understand the process. The issue was, again, hate. So talk me through. When you interact with this person, what does that conversation look? And when they role play with you, what they're going to go say in that board, what do they say?

Said Well. I don't roleplay with them, I just tell them the best way to answer these questions in the best, would it be prepared for that? So what was the disconnect? Was the first thing this this manager did with a subordinate is they went back. There was two elements to this. The first is the obvious one. He went like, hey, listen. Djogo First of all, if you don't feel like you understand the process, that is completely my responsibility.

It's absolutely my responsibility to make sure you know what that process is. I'm going to do it again and I want to break it down step by step. So you understand it. That actually wasn't what was wrong. What was wrong is that when they roleplayed the conversation that you would have of that promotion board, you weren't very good at having the conversation. You didn't know how to say what you wanted to say. And so it wasn't really the process that was the problem.

The problem was this person wasn't comfortable and didn't like communicating to this board. So they did a role play scenario a couple of times and and started with the ownership piece and it was the role play piece, not the process piece. That was the actual the issue here.

Yeah. Yeah, when you when when you were talking through this, initially, you were saying, oh, the guy the the subordinate didn't understand the process, that's my fault because my subordinate didn't understand the process. So I need to explain it to him better. But there's more to it than that which you were just starting to get to, which is it's not that you didn't understand the process. It's that you're you are not doing a good job.

And what this boils down to, this is a hard conversation, and so now we're going to talk and I think this is a very important thing to understand because I talk all the time about the general superiority of indirect. Coaching and mentoring the general superior, it's not always it's like grappling and striking, grappling has some inherent advantages over striking. It's just the way it is. There's things in the world I'm sure you could name me aircraft that there's this aircraft has a inherent advantage over this other aircraft.

It's not necessarily that this that the inferior aircraft is always worse. Sometimes you want that supposedly inferior aircraft it we get it.

So I constantly sort of elevate an indirect approach. And I denigrate the direct approach why, because the direct approach is something that offends people when delivered the wrong way. On top of that, if Dave works for me and Dave is not doing what he's supposed to be doing. I have to I am responsible as a leader to explain to him what he's doing wrong so that he can do the right thing. Does that start off with an indirect conversation? Yes, it absolutely does.

It absolutely starts off with me saying, hey, Dave, when when when you do your task over there, hey, do you know what the standard is? And you go, yeah, I'm pretty sure. Tell me what it is we say, I got to do this many pieces in, you know, every hour. Actually, you know what? That's not the standard. The standard is actually this many pieces of, wow, I didn't even know that I was over here kind of slacking off.

We definitely don't want you slacking. Yeah, no problem. I'll stop. So it starts off with a nice little indirect conversation. And then as we've talked about already, then as if I fail, if the indirect approach fails, well, then I have to escalate it more. If the indirect approach fails again, I have to escalate again. So where I'm going with this.

Is that when it comes time for promotion, you should have already. Escalated through the escalation of counseling, you should have already explained to people what they're doing wrong, you should have already gotten there. And if you haven't.

And Dave doesn't get promoted, guess what just happened, what just happened is Dave got in, got a direct slap in the face. I went from zero to slap in the face, direct slap in the face, direct assault on your ego, direct assault on your being because you didn't get promoted. So now the direct approach has already been taken. And I can't now go back and there's no there's no point in me having an indirect conversation with you.

What I owe to you now is actually, look, I failed 14 times when I didn't have the first hard conversation, that was a level one and the second hard conversation that was a level two.

Now I have to go and have a level 10 hard conversation with you that says, Dave, I think I let you down because the look on your face when you didn't get promoted, you looked pretty shocked, which means you didn't understand some shortfalls that you have. And I want to make sure that you understand those crystal clear.

Look, I already messed up.

I already allowed allowed events to occur that caused a direct assault. I can't retract those, what I have to do is I have to go in and follow up with the truth.

And explain to the person what happened and why they didn't get promoted. Look, are you going to this is an authorization to be a jerk about it. It's authorization to say, hey, listen, I know it's a slap in the face that you didn't get promoted. I can see by the look on your face, you have no idea why that's on me. And I got a list of 14 items right now that I want to talk to you about, because next time I want you to know exactly what you need to do so that you can get promoted.

It turned out that the scenario you just described when this manager had the conversation in front of the larger executive team meeting to do that same problem persisted across the entire organization. And they had a whole bunch of other managers heads towards going through the same thing. So the application of that, that's not an isolated thing either. That's when your folks are struggling and you're talking about those type of conversations to have to help them. He wasn't the only one going through that, having that problem.

And there's people across the organization struggling with the exact same thing and.

The ability to take ownership of that when you have already made a mistake or like you said, have already screwed up to allow this to happen. That's again, that's a barrier on your it's a challenge to your ego to be able to say, hey, listen, and then to go to that whatever that next level is, like you said. Indeed, yeah, a good here's a good ego, Savir. Hey, I'm not I'm not responsible for getting these guys promoted.

That's on them. Yeah, right. That's on them. OK, let's see what that does to your team. They should know. They should know. Hey, I'm not I'm not going to do there. I'm not gonna hold your hands to get them promoted. So now you've got people out there that don't understand why they're not getting promoted. What does that do for morale? What does that do to the team? What does that do? By the way, never mind tomorrow, never mind the team, check this out.

If Dave Burke doesn't know what he's supposed to do to win.

How in God's name is he supposed to do it? If I don't give you the standard and I don't tell you what you're supposed to be doing and those things that you are supposed to be doing doing aren't aligned with how you get promoted. Well, then I'm an idiot. What does that say about you as a leader?

What does it say about your team? So for some for some strange reason, once again, it's on you.

Good place to stop.

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