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Welcome to today's episode of the Mind Set Mentor podcast, I'm your host, Rob Dial, and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe on since you never miss another podcast episode today.

What we're going to be talking about is one of the most important things to hit your New Year's resolutions. We're going to talk about the New Year's resolutions that you have. Some of the things that I see with people that they make massive mistakes.

And one of the things that I think is the most important for actually hitting your goals, and it's probably one of the most overlooked pieces of success that might be also also the most important piece of success. And it's funny because people talk about it sometimes, but they don't talk about it, I think, as much as they should. And if I could give you a massive, massive tip for making 2021 better. Right, 2020, it's going to be in the past in just a few days, it's about to be gone.

Right.

So when it is gone, let's leave it in the past, whether this year was amazing for you, whether this year was just a big old pile of stinky crap, whatever it was, don't bring it into 2021, 2020.

What I'm going to tell you is this a massive, massive tip that I can give you is to be consistent, right?

I can't tell you how many people send me messages and the message is something like this, Rob, I'm really good at starting, but I'm really terrible at finishing. Do you have some tips on how to, you know, stay consistent in my goals to make sure that I hit them?

Almost everybody, just so you guys know, like if you have a fear out there and you're like, I have trouble staying consistent, I'm really good at starting stuff. I'm really bad at finishing things. If you're in that boat, almost every single person listen to my voice right now is in that boat. Most people are really good at starting and they're terrible at finishing. And the reason why is because finishing is what I like to continue to keep doing.

Something that that's outside of your comfort zone pulls you out of that comfort zone in the comfort zone itself is the scary thing to get out of. And so everyone gets excited for New Year's Eve and they're so excited for the New Year and oh my God, it's a new year. I'm so excited about my New Year's resolutions. I have a list of 74 things I'm going to manifest over the 20 21. Right. Like everybody has this a shitload of list of things that they want to accomplish.

And, you know, they're so excited about it and they do really well on day one and then day two, they're all excited. They do really well. And they too. And they four, five, six, seven. But they ten they've they've stopped doing the majority of things are on that list. And that's the problem is that most people have too many goals.

You have to think of this in the long run. Right. So I'll give you an example for me. I'm thirty four years old. I've been setting goals for you know, I first started when I was 19. So it's been about fifteen years now, right.

For me. I know that the years that I've done the best, my list has been extremely short. I've been excited. I've made a list of 100 things I want to create over the next year. Literally, I have before a hundred things I want to create over the next year. And that's great. And you could definitely create the list. But then after you create the list, boil it down to one thing. If you do nothing else over the next year and you just do one thing, what would that one thing be?

Just think about that, because most people have paralysis by analysis, like, OK, I'm going to have a morning routine and this is my morning routine. It's going to consist of 74 different things that I'm going to do within a 48 minute period. And then what I'm going to do is I'm going to do this and then do this and do this.

And it's just too much in what you have to realize is what I always say to myself and I say to people that I've coached is how can I make this easier on myself? Right.

So if I have a list of 482 things that I want to accomplish over next year and I try to accomplish every single one of them and take one step towards each one of them every single day, I'm probably going to catch neither of them. None of them. Right. And it's it's kind of like the the the Chinese parable, the Chinese quote that says, you know, if you try to catch two rabbits with at the same time, you'll catch neither one.

Like if you try to catch to rabbit the same time you catch the one you have to focus on one of the rabbits and go for just that rabbit.

So one of my biggest goals or one of my biggest tips I can give you for twenty twenty one is this just focus on being extremely disciplined and extremely consistent with one thing.

If you think let's let's fast forward to 2000, end of 2021, it's December 31st, 2021, and you're looking at what you've created, if there was one thing that could change your life, if you are consistent with it every single day for 365 days, what would it be?

What would it be, just think about that, think about your most important goal that you want to stay consistent with every single day, if you just accomplished that one thing, if it's the most important out of everything, you will make massive strides in your life. And what it will do is it will tend to affect other areas of your life.

So let's just say working out, what would your 2021 look like at the end of 2021? What would your body look like if you just worked out every single day? Nothing else? I don't care about anything else because everything else will work itself out. That's what's interesting about it.

But if you were to take the most important thing, what would it be? What would your body look like if you worked out every single day for 20, 21? Maybe that's.

Maybe it's not. Let's say diet is yours. If you just stuck to a specific diet for 365 days, what would your body look like at the end of this year and probably look incredible?

Write it look way better.

Maybe you'd lose the fat. You want to maybe gain the muscle that you want to. OK, let's try something else. What if you were to say, you know what, this year has been stressful as hell?

I've been anxious way too much of the stress of an anxious of and sad.

My emotions have been all over the place. My number one thing is to work on my emotions over the next year. So I'm going to meditate for whatever ten minutes every single day, for 20 minutes, every single morning. That's the only thing I need to do.

I don't need to worry about the rest of my life. I just need to meditate for 20 minutes every single day and the rest of my life will work itself out. What would your emotions look like? What would your entire inner dialogue and the way that you think in the way that you feel, in the way that you process the world and how much joy and how much peace you have, what would it look like if literally all you did was make sure that you meditated every single day for 365 days?

Where would you be at the end of this year?

Think about that. Maybe it's read 10 pages every single day.

What do you feel like you'd feel like if you went through, you know, what would that be if it's about about average book is around 300, 350 pages?

What if you went through a book a month? Where do you think you'd be mentally and intellectually at the end of this year if you read 12 books?

What do you think you'd be what do you think you'd feel about? Would you be motivated towards working towards your goal? Maybe it's that you want to become really better, a lot better business and you're going to read 12 business books. What do you think your business would be?

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Think about that.

Maybe it's something that has nothing to do with your own personal growth. Maybe it's you want to spend one hour every single day of undivided attention with your kids. You're going to put your phone in the other room. You're going to take the TV, you're going to turn it off. You're going to take a computer, you're going to put it away, and you're going to spend one hour every single day.

What would your relationship with your children look like if you spent 365 really incredible undivided attention hours with your children over the next year?

Just think about that, everybody. And so when you think about your New Year's resolutions, I'm not saying don't have a lot of goals. What I'm saying is if you have a lot of goals in things you're working towards, I want you to stay consistent and really focus on one of them. Consistency is key. Consistency is key.

Like people ask me how I've had a successful podcast. I say, well, I've never missed an episode in five and a half years. We're almost at 900 episodes. I've never missed an episode.

That's the only way that I've done it. I've just not stopped. So many people start a podcast and then they like, oh, yeah, well, I'll just go ahead and skip for this week, I'll get for this month, I'll just make a season and then I'll just come back to another time. Right. Like, what would it look like if you just decided to stay consistent with one thing? What if you decided to stay consistent with just working on your relationship for 30 minutes every single day with your spouse, with your significant other?

What would your what would your what would your world look like if you had an incredible relationship, the best relationship you've ever had?

How much happier would you be each day if that part of your life was just taking care of? What would it look like? Just one thing. Have you ever been hard core focused into one thing?

Here's the key, consistency is key, and what I always say is success is not like this big massive event, like one massive event happened in someone's life.

Success is literally consistency. It is doing the things every single day. And success is usually not sexy.

That isn't success is doing the boring things that need to be done every single day, making sure they get done, making sure you check them off your list. And if you do that every day, every day, every day, every day for a year, two years, three years, five years, it compounds on top of itself. And within three years, four years, five years, you are light years ahead of everybody else.

That's just the way that success works.

You look at people who are like Will Smith, for instance, you're like, oh my God, he was an incredible rapper. And then he turned into an incredible you know, he won Grammys and he was, you know, won a bunch of awards, is a rapper. And then he won a bunch of awards as an actor and he made tons of money and was successful both him. How did he do it? He just focused on one thing at a time.

He went hardcore and just becoming a great rapper. And then from rapper, he went into, you know what? I'm just going to be an actor. And then he got so hardcore into acting. I remember watching a video where they said that there was a problem in the first year of when he was in Fresh Prince. The problem was he didn't just memorize his own lines. He memorized everybody's lines because he wanted to make sure he was on point with how everything was supposed to go and he didn't miss a beat.

And part of the problem is if you watch season one, you can actually see him limping and actually like lip synching some of the people's words of what they're saying at that time because he has it memorized and he doesn't want to mess up. He was just like, this is my thing and I'm going to be hard core focused on it.

So what's your thing? Is it your fitness, is it your body, is it your mind? Is it your business? Is it your relationships? Is it your health? What?

I don't know what it is. What is it for you? And I want you to write down with a pen and paper right now. This is the thing that I'm going to stay consistent with and do every single day. It's the boring things done every single day that make your life incredible years down the road. That's one of the things that I hate about Instagram. Like, I was on I was scrolling through Instagram yesterday. I saw some do those, you know, put it up pictures of his penthouse and all the parties that he was throwing and all of the money he had and the cars and all that stuff.

And I'm like, what you need to show.

You need to show the things that you did to get you there. That's what's more inspiring to me, not having the things I want to see what you had to do every single day to get there. I want to see the the tough days. I don't want to see the highlight reel. I want to see the days where you are sitting in your bathroom crying because it wasn't working out.

I want you to talk about that because you many people are in that situation. Yeah. A lot more people than people that are, you know, sitting in the penthouse, throwing money around and showing off their cars and everything.

So it's being consistent. Can you get to the penthouse? Absolutely. But you've got to go one floor at a time to get to the penthouse. Some people think they can go from the ground floor to the fucking penthouse and they have to skip every single floor. No, you have to literally work your way up. That's the way that it works. But working your way up means doing boring things and staying consistent on a day in, day out basis.

So where would you be?

Let's dream about it. Where would you be in 365 days if you just stay consistent with one thing? Where would your body be? Where would your mind be? What would your relationships be? Where would your children be?

Where would your bank account be if you just decided to stop giving yourself the best excuses? One of the things that I love about our mind is this. Your mind does not stop you from taking action.

And you might be like, well, no, no, no, no, no, Rob, you have to realize that my mind sassing from taking our short time. No, you conceding to your mind is what stops you from taking action. Your mind doesn't hold you back from anything.

What hold you back is your listening to your mind, you can you can have the negative thoughts, you can not believe in yourself, you can hate yourself and still say, I don't care, I'm going to do it anyways. I don't care if I look like this. I don't care if I'm 75 pounds overweight and I hate my body. I'm still going to show up at the gym every single day. You don't have to believe in yourself in order to take action.

Your mind is not what's holding you back. You are holding you back. You are holding you back from everything that you want. That's what it is. That's the thing. That's the thing that I love about consistency.

It's the reason why I do the Ironman 30 every single year with people is because people just won't do something every single day for thirty days.

And just allowing yourself or forcing yourself and not listening to yourself and going, I'm going to do this even though I don't feel like it every single day for thirty days.

And having a group of people that are holding you accountable to that will push you to do better. That's the reason why I love is because some people have never done anything for 30 days in a row towards their own success, towards their own happiness, towards their mindset, towards their own body.

Some people have never done anything for thirty days in a row. Imagine what could happen and how your life could change if you did something for thirty days in a row. And then after it starts to become more of a habit, you do it every single day. Success is not hard, everybody. It's really frickin simple. You just do what you need to do. Will your mind come up and start talking trash to you? Absolutely.

Every single day, every single hour, maybe every single minute as well. But just because your mind pops in and says stop doing this doesn't mean that you have to listen to your mind. It doesn't and that's what's amazing about it, some people are like, well, my mind holds me back. No, you hold you back, you're conceding to your mind the difference between a successful person, successful person is not what's going on in their mind.

The difference for an unsuccessful person, a successful person, is that a successful person takes action regardless of what their mind says to them. So if you're out there and you're like, I haven't been taking the action that I need to, it's not your mind holding you back. It's you holding you back. Stop conceding to your mind. Stop doing the things that are holding you back. All I want you to do is focus on one thing this year, one thing.

How can you make your life as easy as possible? Figure out what your one thing is for the year and only focus on doing that every single day. And then look back December 31st, 20, 21.

And I, Daryn, frickin tell you your life, your bank account, your happiness, your body, your mind, your relationships, every aspect of your life will shift from focusing on one thing.

That's the secret. Stay consistent with one thing, let everything else work itself out because it will and it will work itself out for the better. But if you focus on this one thing and this one thing only, you will have the success that you want.

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