Welcome to the Mind Set Mentor podcast, I'm your host, Rob Dial, and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe buttons that you never miss. Another podcast episode today we're going to be talking about my number one tip for you for twenty, twenty one. And I want you to do this every single day. But before we dive into that, I want to give you one very exciting announcement. My newest iron challenge opens today starting on January 1st.

I'm going to be going live every single day for 30 days straight inside of a private Facebook group teaching lessons to help you start 20 21 off. Right. And help you make it the best year of your life. Twenty was crazy for a lot of people. And we want to make twenty, twenty one amazing. And if we do, we need to work on our minds more than anything else. That's why it's called the Iron Mind Challenge, because I want to help you with six pillars to create the best mind that you possibly can.

No. One, you have to take a cold shower every single day. Yes, it's the one that everybody dreads, but it's the most important. And the reason why is because we get to conquer that little voice inside of our heads. No, to work out every single day. We had people that lost 10, 20, 30, 50, even 70 pounds last year as they were going through these challenges. And people gained a ton of muscle as well.

And some people are still going even almost an entire year later.

No. Three, stick to the diet of your choice. No. Four, no alcohol for thirty days. No. Five, journal every single day, which I will teach you. And number six, meditate and visualize every single day, which I will also teach you.

The first two hundred people who join get fifty dollars off to go to iron mine.

Thirty right now and join. And let's make 2021 the best year of your life. Once again the first two hundred spots will fill up fast. So go to iron mine. Thirty dotcom right now. Today, as I said, we're going to talk about the number one thing that I recommend that you do to make this year the absolute best year of your life.

Do you want to know what it is? Develop your frickin willpower, make your mind, your body, your resilience, your motivation in your drive, the strongest thing in your life. So many people look up to other people and say, oh, man, I wish I was motivated, this person. I wish I was driven as this person. Do you want to know where that comes from? It's developed. It's like a muscle. Willpower is like a muscle to be able to go.

You know what? I don't feel like doing this, but I know what I want my life to be, so I'm going to do it anyways. I don't care what I feel like. I'm going to do it anyways.

That is what willpower is, to have a goal of what you want to work for, to figure out what that is and to work at it. No matter the circumstances of each day, no matter how you feel each day, it's to do it even when you don't want to do it.

And if you miss my podcast for a while, you know, I'm very big proponent on doing what you don't want to do. Why? Because if we're being honest, we're all pretty frickin soft.

Let's be honest. Like we're soft. If we think about our ancestors and all the stuff that our ancestors had to go through compared to us, we're frickin soft.

We live in air conditioned buildings, heated buildings. We have our food that we just walk into stores and get. If we don't have to hunt and gather and forage, we don't have any battles that we're really going to war with every single day. We have to worry most of us about somebody walking into our house and trying to take our land from us every single day.

We are soft and we can admit that, can't we? But it doesn't mean that we can't build up the resilience.

What it means is that we've built up our softness.

And so we need to develop this mine, this iron mine, this mindset of I'm going to do it anyways because I know what I'm going to do. And a soft mind and a soft body does not change the world. A soft mine and soft body does not change their own life. And a soft mind and a soft body does not change their family's life, their communities life and their loved ones lives at all.

And so it's up to us. The responsibility is up to us to make a change.

Know, I saw a meme the other day and I've seen it many times. I used to actually show it in presentations.

And it's this guy and it's a cartoon. He looks like he's a politician and he says, who wants change?

And you could see the little bubble coming out of his mouth, who wants change? And everybody in the crowd raises their hand and it's like, yeah, everybody wants change. And then he says, who wants to change? In the very next picture, the cartoon right after he says, who wants to change? Everybody's hands are down because everybody wants something done for them, but they don't want to get off their ass and actually do it. If you're listening to this podcast, if my little bit hardcore say it as it is appeals to you, then you're probably a type of person like I'm going to go and get it.

I don't care. I'm going to conquer myself. Right. I'm going to develop the mind that I need to to get what I want in life and to impact the world. And ultimately, what it comes down to is a comfort zone. The last thing that I want to be stuck in going into 2021 is twenty twenties comfort zone. I don't want any of twenty twenty to come into twenty twenty one with me. I don't know about you. Twenty twenty is actually a pretty.

Good year for me. I enjoyed a lot of it for a lot of people, it wasn't very good and that's OK. But it doesn't mean that 2020 needs to carry on. It means that we need to cut ties with it. We need to break free from it and we need to go. What do I want? You know, this year was great for me. This year wasn't great for me. This year was OK for me. But next year is my frickin year and I am going to figure out a way to get it done, to succeed, to get what I want, no matter the circumstances.

I'm going to get it once again. What is that?

It's the willpower to do what you don't want to do to get out of your comfort zone.

In the way I would like to explain a comfort of that makes sense to a lot of people is this if you think of a rubber band, if I had a rubber band in my hand and I'm pulling the rubber band apart, that's you stretching yourself, stretching yourself outside of your comfort zone. And I can't tell you how many people reach out to me in the number one thing I hear from people to reach out to me is, hey, Rob, I'm really good at starting stuff on my challenges and my goals and trying to go through, but I'm really bad at finishing.

What should I do about finishing?

That's one of the main things that I hear from people, is I'm really good at starting. I get really excited that I never finish anything, so I never get my goals set. I don't make the money. I want another life that I want because I don't finish anything that I actually start. The reason why is because if you think of a rubber band, if you're pulling it, people will pull themselves and pull themselves and pull themselves and stretch their comfort zone and stretch it for three days, four days, five days, six days, 10 days.

And then what happens? They start shrinking back.

They start doing the things that got them in the covers in the first place. They start sleeping in. They stop going to the gym, they stop reading the books, they stop meditating, they stop eating healthy. They go back to drinking, whatever it is. And slowly but surely, that rubber band goes back to the same size because we start to fall back into our old habits. What do you need to do?

You need to break it. That's what you need to do. You need to break your comfort zone, need to break the rubber band.

So if you pull the rubber band long enough, left far enough and you keep pulling and pulling and pulling and pulling and pulling.

Eventually it's going to snap. That's what we're trying to do. We're trying to pull ourselves for so long outside of our comfort zone and pull and pull and pull every single day and be consistent and pull, pull, pull, pull, pull until.

We've broken out of our comfort zone and we've created a new version of ourselves. That's what we're trying to work towards, that's what we're trying to build. We're trying to consistently push ourself every single day. That's the value into it. We're trying to bring a brand new comfort zone into 2021 that doesn't look any like anything like any other comfort zone we've ever had, because it's so much bigger and so much more expansive. And we as a person are so much better than we have ever been.

And the thing that I think that most people need to think about is a phrase to do what you don't want to do.

I love it to wake up and to eat the frog. What does that mean?

If you've never heard the phrase eat the frog?

What it is, is there's one thing, at least one thing, but there's always one thing every single day that you have to do that you don't want to frickin do that you're dreading doing and you definitely don't want to do it. And what do they say? Eat that frog first thing in the morning, eat the frog, because who would want to eat a frog? Nobody wants to eat a frog. So if you think of it that way of like I'm going to eat this frog, this thing that is staring at me, I'm going to just say, you know what, pop it in my mouth.

I'm going for baby. I'm going to eat that frog. This is the benefit of doing the things that you don't want to do.

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A little bit more. A little bit more. A little bit more. A little bit more. Over and over and over and over and over again. And that's the reason why you're going to be outside of your comfort zone and to do what you don't want to do. The perfect example for me is I hate cold showers. If you follow me on Instagram, if you don't, you need to follow me on Instagram. Rob, Dial, Jarobi, ALJ are you've seen my Instagram stories lately?

I've been outside of my 40 degree pool. When it's 35 degrees outside, it's cold as hell.

And I've been sitting there for 15, 16, 17 minutes inside of that pool. It's not because I'm weird and sadistic and I'm like, I'm going to fucking torture myself today. No, it's because I don't want to do it. And I know that the voice that saying, Hey, man, don't go in the pool today is the same voice that says, hey, man, sleep in today. Hey, man, don't go to the gym.

Hey, have that extra slice of pizza. Hey, don't eat this out. Hey, you know, that's that little voice that pops up everywhere in my job every single day is to literally conquer that inner voice. The funny thing about the whole Iron Man challenge that I was telling you about the beginning here is that the number one thing that people are most afraid of is the cold showers. What the hell?

It's literally just getting your your naked body into a cold shower, just cold water on your skin. Will you die? No, but that's the funny thing about the little voice inside your head is it builds it up as if it's this big, monstrous thing that's going to kill you. And in reality, it's literally you versus you your entire life. Everything that you do is a battle of you versus you. You the person that wants to build a life that you want and you on the other side that's trying to hold yourself in your comfort zone because you've been there for so long.

It's you versus you. It's not you versus the government or you versus the president or you versus, you know, what your parents said when you were younger or what your teacher said or what you were raised with. No, it's never anybody else outside of you. It's you versus you. It will be for the rest of your life. And it always has been your entire life. So if you're not in the position that you want to be in your life right now, it's because the view that's holding you back has been holding you back and you've been listening too much to that, to it too much if you are where you want to be.

It's because you've been conquering that little voice, conquering that little bitch inside of you. That's the thing.

It's so funny how many people are like, oh, yeah, I would join the Ironman challenge, but I just want to take the cold showers. Well, that's because we've come too soft, right? It's literally just a cold shower.

There's obviously a lot of physical benefits for it. You can Google it of how good it is for your cardiovascular system, for your skin, for so many different things. There's a lot of benefits to that. But on the other side, the reason why I really like it besides all of those things is because the battle of my life is me versus me.

It's always been me versus me. It will always be me versus me. And so I'm going to wake up every single day and either take a cold shower or jump in my freezing cold pool. And the reason why is because I'm trying to conquer that little voice inside of my head and I don't want to do it. That's why I do it. That's the crazy part. It makes sense, but at the same time, like this is fucking crazy.

The reason why you do it is because you don't want to do it.

That's why it's really not hard. It's not scientific in this big, huge thing where you got to break it down. No, it's so simple. There's two sides of you that are always at battle.

Like I said, there's a you that wants this amazing life and a lot of money and a lot of happiness and success in traveling and giving your kids everything that you've ever had and all of this joy and peace and love that you want in your life. There's that side of you that wants to bring out your full potential to the world. And there's the other side of you that you can't get to shut up.

And what do we need to do? We need to wake up every single day and do what we don't want to do to make that little voice that's holding us back diminished a little bit every single day, a little bit every single day, a little bit every single day.

And when you wake up in the morning and you have something like that, it's a win. And when you can start your day off with a win, it builds so much momentum and everything else. You know, if there's something that I don't want to do in my business or I don't want to do, you know, anywhere, if I've woken up and I've jumped inside of a Cold War, I've jumped out of a cold shower and I've conquered that, the rest of the day is easy.

I've got momentum on my side. That's the beautiful thing about it. And so that's what I want you to realize. There's always two sides of you. There's a side of you that's like that wants greatness and there's a side of you that's comfortable. There's the side of you that that wants to get out of bed and have a beautiful morning routine. And there's a side of you. It's like, damn, this bed is so comfortable. Maybe I should sleep in a little bed and start tomorrow.

There's the side of you that wants to go to the gym and there's a side of you. It's like, damn pizza. Sounds good. There's a side of you that wants to go out and create the success that you want to this, that you can support your family at a higher level. And then there's a side of you. It's like, well, maybe I should stay on Instagram. So the whole fucking day. Right. So there's two sides of you constantly a battle.

Which one are you going to let win? Because ultimately, whichever one wins is going to dictate what your life is going to be. And if you've been listening to the show long enough, you know that my number one fears to get to into my life, be on my deathbed and wish that I would have done more, that I would have helped more people, that I would have pulled out more potential, that I would have had more happiness, more joy, more peace.

You know, that's what my biggest fear is. And so I'm working to bring out the greatness inside of me every single day. Do I win every single day, not every single day, but the majority of days, I win and I chalk that up as a win. And so that's the reason why you've got to work towards consistency of doing the things that you don't do every single day to make that little voice that's inside of your head diminished.

You've got to listen. You've got to listen. You've got to listen. Your life is dictated by the actions that you take in the the way you do. One thing is the way you do everything. So if you're afraid of jumping into a cold shower, you're probably afraid of other little tiny things inside of your life. If you're coming up short on your workouts, you're probably coming up short in your relationships. If you're coming up short in the workouts, you're also probably coming up short in your business, in your finances and everything else.

And so for me, what I try to do is just try to build the resilience up of I'm going to create the life that I want. And in order to do that, I've got to develop discipline. I've got to have a willpower that will just run through a frickin wall no matter what.

And believe me, I wasn't born with it. I'm still working at it. I'm way better than I ever have been. And I'm getting better every single day at it. But I want you to start thinking about yourself, start thinking about the way you do. One thing is the way you do everything. Where are you coming up short? Where are you staying in your comfort zone? Where are you not showing up fully? Where are you giving up too early?

Because if you're doing that, you're also in one place in your life. You're doing it everywhere in your life, and that's going to make everything in your life not as good as it could be. So it's something to think about, something to dive into it, something to really be serious about and say, where do I need to develop the willpower in my life and start identifying little pieces of your life, little places where you could show up better?

Maybe you listen, me talk and you're like. Yeah, this cold shower thing sounds like it sucks, but it does kind of make some sense. Believe me, it makes sense. The funny thing about these Ironman challenges is at the end of it, at the beginning of it, everyone freaking hates it. They resent it. They're pissed off. It's the hardest thing for them is to do a freaking cold shower for a minute or two. By the end of it, they're like, that was one of the most life changing things I've ever done because every day I was working at conquering my mind.

And so every time that little voice came in and said, Hey, man, don't jump in the shower, no one's going to know. I had to click off my willpower brain and say, no, thank you. I'm going anyways. And that's what we're trying to do, because that's the same voice that pops up and says, hey, sleep. And you're like, no, screw you. I'm getting up the one that says, hey, don't go make the extra cold calls.

You're like, screw you. I'm going to go do it anyway is the one that says, hey, don't go knock on those doors and do some some sales. It's snowing outside and like, screw you, I'm going to put on my boots. I'm going to go out and do it anyways. That's what life is. It's the internal battle of you versus you. Willpower and discipline versus comfort zone. The question is, which one are you going to listen to?

Because it will ultimately dictate where your life is going to be.

And I hope I hope I hope that you don't get to end your life and wish that you would have done more because then you can look back and go, yeah, I see where I should have been a little bit more disciplined.

I see why I should have had more willpower, see how my family's life would have been better if I would have stepped up.

So that's what I got for you for today's episode, if you love it, please show some of that, you know, love. If you are ready to join the iron mind challenge, go to iron mined 30 dotcom right now. Once again, the first 200 people get 50 dollars off. That will sell out really frickin quick for the first 200 people. So go as soon as possible to iron mine, 30 dotcom. And I'm going to leave you the same way.

I leave you every single episode, make it your mission, make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.