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Welcome to today's episode of the Mind Set Mentor podcast, I, your host, Rob Dylon, if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe buttons that you never miss another episode. And if you want to get onto my motivational text message group where I send motivational text messages and videos directly to your cell phone, go ahead and text me right now at five one two five eight zero nine three zero five one seven five one two five eight zero nine three zero five.
Today, we're going to talk about what your life could be.
And I want to start it off with that. She one question and I want you to think about it for a second. If you're driving, I want you to be serious for a second. If you're on a run, I want you to stop for a second. I want you to go ahead and sit down on the side of the road and just think about this question. As I asked you this. If you're, you know, sitting there with pen and paper, I want you to write it down and start to think about this question.
And the question is this where could your life be 365 days from today, one year from today if you put 100 percent intention into every action that you do, if you are 100 percent intentional with every action that you take, if before you went to bed, you plan the next morning of how you were going to have the best morning routine that you possibly could, what could your life look like if you start blaming other people for how your life has been in your current circumstances?
And you just woke up and said everything is my fault and I'm going to make my life a success because ultimately, here's the thing.
I want you to realize your life can change in a moment.
That's it. Most people think, oh, you know, it's taken me 35 years to become the person that I am. You know, it's going to take me at least another three to four years to unprogrammed. This person that I am, it'll take some time to unprogrammed.
But to have a completely different life, you can start right now.
I don't mean tomorrow. I mean literally the second that you're listening to my voice, you can make a change.
One of my favorite quotes in the entire world is Alan Watts, and he says, you are under no obligation to be who you were five minutes ago. Think about that for a second. You don't have to be who you were when you woke up this morning.
You can wake up and say, you know what, I'm going to be a better version of myself. I'm going to be a more committed version of myself. I'm going to be a healthier version of myself. I'm going to be a fitter version myself. I'm going to be a stronger version of myself. I'm going to be a a stronger mindset version of myself.
I'm going to be the best self that I could possibly be starting right now.
Imagine where your life could be if you had that mentality and every single day you went through it all day long with intention, thinking that way where you could be in 365 days.
And most people think, oh, well, once again, it took me 35 years to get to where I am.
It's going to take me years to unprogrammed.
All these things, these habits, these traits, these qualities, these things, my program, my parents program to me, no, it's not going to take much time to reprogram yourself. You just have to wake up and be who you want to be. One of my favorite phrases and people like to crap on it.
I don't know why is act as if think about the person that you want to be and just be that person today. Think about the perfect version of yourself and be that person today. If you start to sleep in or the alarm clock goes off and you want to hit that snooze button, ask yourself the question with the perfect version of me.
Hit the snooze button right now or the perfect version of me. Wake up and get it going. Because ultimately, your life is in your hands, and if you've been on my podcast for a long time, you may have heard this story before.
But the moment my life changed was when I had a coach I hired a coach was 19 years old. He was my I guess you call life coach, sales coach. He helped me with everything.
And I was a professional excuse maker.
I was like the best excuse maker that I knew I could sell you on, why I wasn't performing, why I wasn't good enough, why I was late, whatever it was. And he called me up one morning and we were we were together for two years.
And I honestly, even though is all great, I don't remember anything else he said to me in two years.
But one thing he said to me is he said, Rob, you're not acting like the CEO of your life. If a business fails, it's the CEO's fault. If a business succeeds, it's the CEO's fault. If you get to the end of your life and you regret that you didn't take action and create the life that you wanted to, it is your fault. It's no one else's fault.
But if you get to the end of your life and you realize that you have created the life that you wanted and you made this incredibly beautiful life, that's also your fault.
There is nobody else to blame. All too often, we like to play the victim. Oh, yeah, I am this way because my parents made me this way. I am this way because society made me this way. I am this way because of my gender. I am this way because of my race. I am this way because everybody that I've ever been able to hang out with is this way. And we blame and blame and blame and blame and blame.
But we never actually turn the mirror on ourselves and say, it's your fault, dude, it's your fault. It's nobody else's fault. Not your parents fault. It's not society's fault. Not the president's fault. It's not your racist fault. It's not your fault. Sucher You know, sexual preference is fault.
It's your fault. It's your fault. It always has been your fault. And so if your life sucks right now, it's your fault.
Let that sink in. But if we fast forward 365 days in your life is incredible. That's also your fault. What you need to do is be able to take full acceptance for every single thing in your life, full acceptance for every single person.
Full acceptance for the fact that you, every single person, and how they treat you is because you've trained them to treat you that way.
If somebody talks down to you, it's because they've learned that it's OK to talk down to you. You train people how to talk to you. So if you've known someone for a long time, they don't talk to you.
Whether you want them to talk to you, you can train them of how you want them to talk to you.
You're not the victim here. You never have been the victim. There's a difference between being a victim, which is, you know, a lot of people choose that route.
I was that route for a long time.
And being the champion, having the champion's mindset, having the victim's mindset, the difference is the people who have the champion's mindset go, you know what? It is my fault. It is my fault that my parents talk to me that way. It is my fault that I went down that career path that I didn't want to. It's my parents fault for telling me that I should become a doctor. It's my fault for going, you know what? I became a doctor, and that's not what I truly wanted to do.
Well. Well, that's your fault, not your parents fault. It's your fault.
But if it's your fault, that means you can also change it in a moment's notice. You can wake up and be a different person. The question I have for you is, who do you want to be, though? Do you even know who you want to be? Have you ever tried to plan out your life like you're planning out a business plan? Like if you and I were to start a business and I called you up and I said, hey, we're going to start a business around X, Y, Z.
What are we going to do? We're going to sit down with a pen and paper, we're going to brainstorm, we're going to come up with a business plan, what we want it to look like playing out the next three months, six months, a year, so that we can know what we're working towards.
Have you ever done that with your life? That's not taught to us. That's not taught to us in school.
No. We take all of these school classes and math classes and trigonometry and calculus and things that you'll never use, but nobody teaches you how to plan out your life.
But what if you were to sit down with a pen and paper and say, OK, what do I want 10 years from today? What do I want one year from today? OK, now I know that I want what I want now that I know what I want.
One year from today. What do I need to do to get there? Let me make a plan, let me look at that plan every single morning and remind myself of no one what I'm working towards, make sure I'm on the right path. Number two, what I need to do every day to get there.
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You just come up with a plan, I say this all time, success is not hard, it's just not sexy either. That's the other thing.
Success is just a bunch of mundane things done over and over and over again, day in, day out and in five, 10 years down the road, you look and you're like, oh, my God, I've made it to where I thought I never get to, but I always wanted to get to.
It's not any big, massive, super sexy thing where I'm like, oh my God, yeah. I get to do this and this and this. Most of the time it's not that sexy.
Like people have told me I should start a vlog, have somebody follow me around. I'm like, it's not exciting. Nobody would watch my vlog. I don't do anything that fun throughout the day. Now, don't get me wrong. I love what I do.
I'm obsessed with it. But nobody wants to watch me read about neurology. Nobody wants to see me plan out a podcast episode. Nobody wants to see me record a podcast episode because that's already recorded. If you go to my YouTube, you can see it. Nobody wants to see those things. It's not exciting, but success comes from doing the exciting things over and over and over again, having a plan.
Well, first off, getting very clear of where you want to go, coming up with a plan of how you're going to get there and then sticking with it and doing every single day. And then that little voice inside of your head comes in and says, no, no, no. Now you're not good enough. What do you think you're doing? People are going to follow you. People are going to buy from you. That's a stupid idea.
Your product sucks and that little voice sneaks in because it eventually will. It always does for everybody. You go, you know what? Not going to listen to you when you feel that fear come up inside the pit of your stomach. It's like, oh, my gosh, the fear of rejection, the fear of failure, the fear of success, the fear of not being good enough, not being loved. All of those fears bubble up when you feel them.
You take action anyways.
You feel the fear and you do it anyways. One of the things that I think is one of the biggest misconceptions about successful people is that they're just completely fearless now.
They're scared shitless. But the difference is, even though they're scared shitless, they take action. Unsuccessful people are scared shitless and they don't take action.
Successful people are still scared shitless, but they do it anyways because they realize that confidence is something that you're born with. Confidence comes from results. And so you've got to go and screw up and screw up and screw up and then get some success and screw up and screw up and screw up and screw up. This group is screw up, screw up and they get a little bit of success. And then two years down the road you're like, oh my gosh, I have so much confidence in what I do because I've seen all of the failures that I've made, all the ways that I've fallen and I've gotten past them.
And that's where your confidence comes from. So where do you want to be? Do you even know where you want to be?
The biggest recommendation thing I want you to get from this podcast episode is this sit down with a pen and paper. Take five minutes right now as soon as we get done with this and ask yourself, where do I want to be in ten years?
Where do I want to be in one year? OK, now I know where I want to be in ten years. I know I want to be in one year. Let's come up with a plan.
Let's come up with a roadmap as if it's we're taking a road trip from Florida all the way to California. We have to figure out how we're going to do it, what roads we're going to take. Right. Let's come up with a road map of start to finish what I need to do and let's come up with a daily plan.
And I'm going to remind myself this plan every single day. And you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to switch my mindset from the victim mindset to the champions mindset. Everything is my fault.
Every failure, every success, every person that's in my life, every person, the way they treat me, the way they talk to me, all of it is my fault.
And if I can take full ownership for everything that I'm taking full ownership for every single aspect of my life and and when I take full ownership for every aspect of my life, I can finally start to change every aspect of my life because I'm not a victim.
Everything that's happening to me is not happening to me. It's happening for me.
That failure that I had, that was a lesson I need to learn to get to success. The world is not happening to you. It's happening for you. So where do you want to be? Because you don't have to be who you were at the beginning of this podcast episode.
This podcast episode can end and you can say, I'm going to be a new person starting not tomorrow, starting this very second.
And I'm going to come up with a plan of how to create my life into life that I want to something to be proud of, something my family can be proud of sending my kids can be proud of.
I'm going to change generations behind me life right now with one decision that I make today, and that's to take full, complete ownership of my life and start working towards what it is that I want. So what do you want? What is the plan to get there and how are you going to remind yourself of it every single day? So that's what I got for you for today's episode.
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